If you’re looking for true love in life, you’ll definitely find it in your true friend. True friends love you truly – they love you for what you’re and will never ditch you.
It is correct that true love is found in a soulmate. But, it is not necessary for soulmates to be lovers or partners.
Finding a soulmate might be easier than you think. True friends are also said to be soulmates – one soul in two or more bodies.
You might’ve heard amazing stories about true friends and wondered if you too could’ve true and loving friends in your life.
Believe me; it is not difficult to have a true friend in life.
Remember the saying – what you do to others, others do to you? It holds true in most cases. I’ve seen and experienced that if you are good, most people are also good to you.
Similarly, if you are true and loving to your friends, they’ll reciprocate in the same way.
Who is A True Friend
I wrote about “Who is a Friend” in my earlier post about making friends. The qualities of a friend mentioned there is what really defines a true friend. So, I won’t repeat them here.
You may be attracted to and become best friends with some who are rich, famous, and beautiful because you like their company.
They may not be your true friends but just a bit more than acquaintances. We tend to call any acquaintance as a friend. It is essential to know and understand who friends are.
However, even those people who are not always in your company can be your true friends. They are always true, pure, honest, unselfish, giving, helping, and loving at heart.
Your true friend might not be like you, nor have your interests, or even your mindset. Yet he or she will truly care for you and will do anything to help out.
Difference Between True Friends and True Lovers
True friends and true lovers have so many similarities, yet they differ.
A true friend will love you unconditionally. But he or she is your loving friend in a platonic relationship that is free from physical attractions, lust, or sexual desires.
True friends are not lovers in a physical relationship, but true lovers in a physical relationship should be true friends.
Moreover, true friendship can turn into true love, but true love is always true friendship.
At times you may only want to remain as true friends. But you misunderstand or misjudge your relationship as that of soulmate lovers because of similarities between each other.
Though some people succeed as lovers after being true friends, not everyone is successful in this transformation of relationship.
So you need to clearly understand the feelings, signs, and signals that help you differentiate between a true lover and a true friend.
You should know what you are looking for in the person to make you spend the life with, and to surrender your entire being – mind, body, heart, and soul.
True friendship is a sacred relationship that involves true and ideal love. Such friends are rare and precious. To not lose them, you need to know the limits that you should not cross being true friends.
If you ask how you can have such a loving and true friend in life? I’d say it is by loving, being true, and being good to all your friends.
Among them, you’ll find a few true friends who’ll love and care for you.
Ways to Be a Loving and True Friend
Here are some ways to have loving friends who remain true and dear to you all the time. They will remain your friends, despite the distance.
Nothing comes easy, so to get friends like diamonds you need to have a heart of gold. You need to make lots of efforts to follow these simple guidelines.
1. Be friends with yourself
It’s like loving yourself. You should be at peace with who and how you are, and feel good about yourself. You should know and understand yourself.
If you like yourself and are comfortable being your own friend, others would like your confidence and want to be your friend.
2. Help others
An old saying goes that you should even love your enemies. However, if not your enemies, at least you can help the ones you know or have a chance to meet.
You’ll create a good impression in the minds of your friends, whom you go out-of-the-way to help. The trust your friends develop in you will take your relationship to the next level.
3. Love your friends
Don’t wait for somebody to love you – take initiation and love your friend. Don’t be selfish and look for something in return. Sincerely care for your friend.
The love you share will make your friend care for you always. The caring and sharing will make your love unconditional and special. Such a bond will make you miss the company of your friend when away.
4. Complete each other
Being true friends, you’d want the best for the other, irrespective of whether you get the best or not. Think and do things that help your friend progress and be successful in life.
As a true friend, you’ll stop the other from doing wrong and going on a path that you know will not be good for him or her. Be concerned about your friend, wherever you are.
5. Always be there
A true friend never dumps or leaves the other when in any problem or adversity. As a true friend, always stand by and beside, and even fight with or for your friend.
In true friendship, people know they can count on each other and be committed. The arguments, disagreements, or fights have no impact on the nature, purity, and strength of their relationship.
6. Be like family
Your love develops into dedication, understanding reinforces into a strong bond, and trust converts into faith. You feel almost like a family.
As your family is important to you, so is your true friend. Whether your friend is of the same or opposite sex, it doesn’t matter because a man and woman can be true friends if they remain within limits.
Spread the Love
You can read my earlier post on developing trust in friendship to know how trust develops in friendship.
Distance among true friends doesn’t matter. You can still express your love on phone, through emails, in chats, and sending messages on the social networking sites.
As a true friend, you don’t need to hide under any mask, nor hide your flaws.
Just be yourself. Be kind, always lend an ear to listen to your friend, and cheer up when he or she is down.
Share their sorrows and celebrate their joys. Remain truthful, be forgiving, and always stay honest and loyal.
Like a true lover, a true friend is your mirror, it’ll always show who you are. You also need to do the same.
There can be a lot said about true friends, which I would love to hear from you.
You’re all my true friends, and I feel good when you open up your heart and mind and share your feelings and thoughts with me.
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Not to mention that February is also a friendship month, so I had to come up with this post, especially for my dear and loving friends.
Happy Friendship Month everyone!
Over to you –
Do you have true friends in your life? How do you define true friends and lovers, and draw a line to avoid falling in love with them? What do you think one should do to have loving and true friends in life?
Posted on: February 6th, 2013
Last Updated on: February 2nd, 2015