Do You Love the Life You Live

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Simply put, do you love the life you live? Or do you wait for something to change in your life to make you happy before you start loving the life you are living.

You might think that you would love your life if you had a better job, a better home, or if you are in a better financial position.

Some of you might think that you would love the life you live if you have a different life partner or a better family with children who listen to you.

Or do you wait for something magical to happen to start loving the life you are living?

Some might even hate life and say what’s there to love in it. But isn’t the fact that you are alive itself a beautiful feeling?

So, as long as you are living, you can find ways to be happy and appreciate the life you are living. Remember, where there is a will there is always a way.

“Love the life you live. Live the life you love.” ~ Bob Marley

However, there are some people who just hate life and find reasons to remain unhappy. This happens due to various reasons.

Why You Don’t Love The Life You Live

If you are a person who doesn’t love the life you are leading, can you relate to any of these reasons?

Is it because you–

  • Have no money or less of it.
  • Think parents ruined your life or you feel they don’t pay attention to you.
  • Feel kids don’t listen to you or remain out of control.
  • Are having problems in your relationship with your spouse, family, or friends.
  • Aren’t happy in your marriage.
  • Feel your job isn’t the one you desire or like.
  • Have no one to share your life with or lack companionship.
  • Experience a lack of time for doing things.
  • Are always negative, and find faults with things or people.
  • Tend to get bored and remain unhappy.
  • Can’t achieve what you set out to do.
  • Have health problems and issues not in your control.
  • Let people make use of you and feel helpless.
  • Cannot take control of your life.
  • Feel you have failed or are a failure. Or that you haven’t done anything constructive with your life.

There can be so many more reasons for not loving the life you lead. Do let me know more in the comments below.

However, there are ways that you can make your life better and start loving it.

“Where there is love there is life.” ~ Mohandas K. Gandhi.

a handwritten note with text love the life you live as its all you got

10 Ways to Love The Life You Live

Though there are no rules to start loving the life you really want to live, but here are a few ways to get started.

1- Keep things simple

Oftentimes you might tend to complicate your life, whereas you can have simpler and better options. It’s better sometimes to relax and take things easy.

Breathe deep and learn to let go of things that aren’t in your control. You will soon realize how easy it was once you do it.

2- Have achievable goals

You can love the life you live with ease once you learn how to set goals that you can easily accomplish. Don’t aim too high, instead, choose smaller goals and try to achieve them one by one.

Once you accomplish them you will feel as if you have got an aim in life. Learn to give yourself a pat on the back even for these small achievements.

You will get a feeling of achievement and your purpose in life would thus bring you more happiness.

3- Value relationships

Whether it is friendship or a relationship with a family member or a loved one – learn to treasure them. You need to spend time with your family, friends, and loved ones.

Misunderstandings take place in each relationship, but you need to deal with them in a proper way.

These very relationships that you nurture would be some things that you can look back in pride and feel were a worthwhile investment.

Remember, there can be nothing valuable than keeping your relationships with people you care for.

4- Remain grateful

Never forget to be grateful, even for the smallest of things.

It could be things like the food you have on your table, the faces of your children you see each morning, or the simple fact that you are alive today!

You will love the life you live once you begin by being grateful for everything that comes your way. The good, and even the bad always teaches you something in return – so be grateful always.

5- Accept life and change

There are two types of changes and people react in different ways to them. While some people love change and are ready to adapt themselves to it, there are others who don’t like change.

But if you learn to accept and adapt to life by embracing change, whether it’s big or even something small, you will begin to love the life you live.

Speaking of myself, I wasn’t a person who liked changes. But with time, I have adjusted to my surrounding and changed myself by beginning to live in the moment.

6- Balance things out

Like me, I’m sure some of you might be finding it tough to strike a balance between your work and family, or other things that also need your attention.

You need to live in the present – the NOW, and learn to balance things out. Once you do this, you learn to love the life you live without having any kind of regrets.

I try to keep things systematic so that when I work, I do nothing else but work. But when I am with my kids and family, or when I am cooking and doing other chores, I don’t touch work.

7- Live every moment

Just as I say so often, live life to the fullest by living every moment. Don’t waste a single second in doing things that you might regret later.

There’s no time to be bored, lonely, and sad. Life is so short and we never know about tomorrow, so rejoice and remain happy. Love the life you live by making it a memorable one.

8- Plan ahead

You will be happier if you are able to plan things ahead so that you can achieve your goals. Keep aside money for a rainy day or save a little, which will give you a secure and happier feeling.

Take care of yourself and remain healthy.

9- Be yourself

Be yourself to love the life you live, because you live only once, so love the life you live by doing things YOU want. Do what you want to do and be who you want to be. This will make you peaceful within.

Yes, this is easier said than done because we have our family, kids, spouses, and so many other things on our mind. And we tend to think about them before thinking about ourselves.

However, even with everyone around and your never ending tasks, you need to take out time for yourself and learn to love who you are.

10- Enjoy the little things

You need to think ways to make yourself happy in this stressful life we all lead. Life IS complicated because we make it so.

However, you need to love the life you are living by enjoying the smallest of things. It could be things like the chirping of birds, watching your kid’s the first thing in the morning, embracing nature, or just about anything.

If for whatever reasons you find that you aren’t happy with the way things are – then change them. If you can’t change things or people, try to change yourself and adapt to the situation.

“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist or accept the responsibility for changing them.” ~ Denis Waitley.

Remember, living the life you love isn’t about doing things perfectly. It’s about enjoying the journey, about trusting yourself, and tapping your potential.

Once you love the life you live, you will feel like a different person from within. Such a person is more positive, optimistic, and enthusiastic about life.

So, why not start loving the life you are living, and do that from today itself!

Over to you

Do you love the life you live, or do you want to change it? If you don’t love the life you are living presently, what measures would you take to make it better? Share your views below.

 

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About Harleena Singh

Harleena Singh is a positive thinker and a freelance writer. She loves to write inspiring and thought provoking posts on self-improvement, family, relationships, health, and other aspects of life. She's not another personal development guru, but just an average person with great life experiences. She's also a blogger, who loves to share her blogging knowledge and experiences. Network with her on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+..

66 Comments

  1. Ruchira

    October 26, 2012 at 1:06 pm

    We confuse fulfillment of our desires with happiness and if we don’t get what we want we become unhappy ! Happiness comes from enjoying the small small everyday things in life !
    Funny I just did a similar post a few days ago :P

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 26, 2012 at 1:43 pm

      Absolutely Ruchira!

      Unfulfilled desires or even expectations will always lead to frustrations, and they will make you unhappy. Just as I always keep saying happiness is a state of mind, and just as you rightly mentioned, it’s something to be appreciated even in the smallest of things. Oh yes…I remember your post about happiness too. :)

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  2. Lisa
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    October 26, 2012 at 3:15 pm

    I think there is always room for improvement in our lives. I guess if I thought if I wanted to trade with someone’s else life the answer would be no. That can be an eye opener. I think #5 and #6 are the most important in your list. I do struggle with #2 and #6. I make the goals too big and #6 goes out of whack. Thanks for sharing these reminders Harleena and how would you answer the question?
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 26, 2012 at 6:26 pm

      Absolutely Lisa!

      Even though we might love the life we lead, we should keep trying to make it better. I agree, I wouldn’t either – I think I am pretty content and happy with the life I am leading too and wouldn’t want to trade with someone else’s. :)

      No.6 isn’t easy too, but you need to get it done someway or the other- I have a problem with that too. I guess with kid, family, and work, balancing everything out does take a lot of planning.

      I would say I am love the life I live, but yes, not completely. I want to change myself and get better at a few things and am working on those. But in general, I love it and remain ever so grateful for the treasured moments I have with my loved ones and for every single day :)

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  3. Shelley Lundquist

    October 26, 2012 at 5:44 pm

    I absolutely love the life I live because I live in gratitude, I love myself, I give my best and I follow my dreams wherever they lead me. There are days I falter, but when I do, I simply cease. I search within myself. I center myself. I forgive myself for faltering, and I embrace the nest moment with love, hope and gratitude.

    Life is beautiful! So are you dear, Harleena!

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 26, 2012 at 6:31 pm

      That’s beautiful and so much like you Shelley!

      I wish more of us were as content and happy as you are. Living in gratitude makes you realize that life is indeed so short, so while you are here, make your life a good one by living in the moment – isn’t it?

      Loving yourself is beautiful, though few are really able to do that, including me. I guess one gets so tied down with other chores and stuff that there’s hardly any time to reflect and go within, unless you make an effort to spend some time for yourself daily. I try doing that, but not for long and that part needs working on as yet for me. But I am getting there. :)

      Thanks so much for stopping by and those kind words too. :)

  4. B k chowla
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    October 26, 2012 at 5:46 pm

    As far as I am concerned,I am of the firm belief that one must live life every moment. Of course,I would like more money,better position,better health and what have you.But that would never stop me from living my life to the fullest …..and why not? Each one of us has one life,live it.

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 26, 2012 at 6:34 pm

      I agree BK!

      Each one of us wants to be happy, though all our ways of achieving happiness might vary. Just as you mentioned and the post too, some might want more money, a better home etc – but those are part and parcel of being happy too. However, these don’t stop us from loving the life we are living – isn’t it?

      Yes indeed, we have just one life – so live it well. :)

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  5. judy belmont

    October 26, 2012 at 8:22 pm

    Love this Harleena!

    Great job and you made very good, succinct points! Thanks!

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 26, 2012 at 8:29 pm

      Welcome to the blog Judy – nice to have you over!

      Glad you liked the post and the points mentioned too. :)

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  6. Brenda
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    October 26, 2012 at 9:53 pm

    Fabulous post Harleena!

    I love my life. Mind you, it’s far from perfect and has its ups and downs moments, however, its the simple things that keep me in love with it. Waking up every morning is what I’m always grateful for. I love my family (Titan and my hubs). They keep me grounded and striving to be a better person every day, just for them. Nature brings me much love and happiness. When I start to be unhappy or not quite so in love with my life, I take a few moments to meditate and bring me back to that loving and grateful place.

    Very inspiring post!

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 26, 2012 at 10:21 pm

      Glad you liked the post Brenda!

      Nice to know that you too love the life you live, and well, no one has it all perfect – yet there are so many who tend to keep complaining instead of trying to change it – isn’t it?

      I’ve seen those lovely pictures on your blog with your hubby and Titan too, and yes, living life along with the ups and downs and enjoying those moments is what makes the journey worthwhile.

      Mediation, just as you mentioned is a great way to go within and seek the peace for the times when you are a little down or unhappy. I do that myself and it surely does help. I guess if we learn to be appreciate every little thing that life puts forth us, we would be happy.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post. :)

  7. Debbie
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    October 26, 2012 at 10:14 pm

    1 and 4. Keeping life simple and being grateful are the ones for me.

    These are great points Harleena and I totally agree with them. If a person is not happy and does not feel like life is wonderful, they need to look at your list and make the changes needed. You have it all right there for them.

    I would sum up that list they are playing the victims roll. Anyone that wants to put themselves in the victim state is not going to love life.

    Also if you are not loving life, maybe that person needs to learn more about loving. When you love and spread love it is impossible not to love life.

    Thank you for more wonderful tips andf spreading your knowledge to help others.
    Blessings to you ,
    Debbie

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 26, 2012 at 10:34 pm

      Glad you liked the post Debbie!

      You are so right about keeping life simple, which very few of us are really able to do. I guess we make our lives such that it all gets complicated and we are the ones who suffer thereafter. Similarly, if we could only learn to be grateful for the small things life puts forth us, instead of seeing what we don’t have in life, we would love the life we live.

      Absolutely! If you feel you are a victim in some way, then you have the choice to either accept that state and remain unhappy, or get up and change it. The choice is always in our hands, it’s just that we don’t exert or want to change things for the better.

      Love your last line…if you don’t know how to love you can’t really love your life, which is so true. Those who appreciate life and remain positive, will love life, no matter in what situation they are put. It is all in the mind as I keep saying so often.

      Thanks for stopping my and adding more value to the post. :)

  8. Jodi Heal Now and Forever
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    October 27, 2012 at 12:16 am

    I love my life and do all ten things! I found myself shaking my head with each suggestion. Right on sister!

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 27, 2012 at 10:59 am

      Nice to hear that Jodi!

      You surely love the live you live, which is wonderful indeed. Happy to know that. :)

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  9. Adrienne
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    October 27, 2012 at 1:17 am

    Ah Harleena, another wonderful post and fabulous subject!

    Now I think you already know what I’m going to say. I love my life. I didn’t always but I came to appreciate the things that I had.

    I did regret at one point in my life not having children but you know, there wasn’t anything I could do about it. Apparently God had other plans for me so I had to accept those choices and learn to live my life the way it is. I’ve always been very grateful and I had to understand that what I had was perfectly okay.

    I do love my life just the way it is. I’m sure there can always be room for improvement but at the moment I can’t think of one darn thing that would make it better. I own my home, I own my car, I have little to no debt, my Mom lives next door to me now, I have fabulous friends and family, I have Kayla and I love what I do. See! What more is there… :-)

    ~Adrienne
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 27, 2012 at 11:27 am

      Glad you liked the post Adrienne!

      Absolutely – I just knew your answer to this one, even before you replied. :)

      Most of us don’t when we are younger because we have many expectations, which when aren’t fulfilled – leave us unhappy in our lives. But as we mature with age, I think we begin to realize and value the precious moments that we have, instead of crying about things we don’t. And just this simple thought brings us so much of happiness – isn’t it?

      You did the right thing of accepting His decision, for He had other plans for you because of which you are who you are today. If we think back, had you got kids, you might not have really achieved so much in this much of time. I guess when He doesn’t give us something or we lack somethings in our lives, He ensures to give us abundance of other things, which we need to appreciate and value.

      That’s wonderful indeed to see you happy and content with the life you are leading. Yes, there is always room for making things better if we aren’t happy with certain things in our life, but I think if we appreciate the positives in our lives, there is no place for the negatives then.

      Oh yes – you have everything – and all beside you too, what more could you ask for. :)

      Thanks for stopping by, and may you always be happy and love the life you live. :)

  10. Ilka Flood
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    October 27, 2012 at 3:31 am

    Hi Harleena,

    I don’t think any of us are really living the ‘perfect’ life or the ‘life of our dreams.’ But we’ve got to make the best of it. As far as myself, I have my wishes and my dreams. I would change some things but I can’t, so like I already said, I’m making the best of it.

    Being grateful for what we do have makes a big difference whether we are happy or not. I look around and see that considering to most of the rest of the world I do have a great life. It’s all relative!

    Decide to be happy!

    Thanks for sharing this, Harleena!

    Ilka

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 27, 2012 at 11:52 am

      Absolutely Ilka!

      Life sure is not perfect for most of us, but just as you mentioned, we need to make the best of what we have and learn to love the life we live. I am happy for Adrienne though, as she has finally found her happiness in life, which gives a wonderful content feeling.

      We are quite similar there I think, for I also have certain wishes and dreams that I am trying to fulfill, but that doesn’t stop me from loving the life I am living presently. I just wish and wait for things to happen, if they do well and good, or else I just make the best of what is there.

      Yes indeed, we need to appreciate that the lives we are leading are any day better than so many other, and just this one thought makes us feel grateful to the Almighty for all that we have got in our lives. So true – decide to be happy – and when you do – you will be happy – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by. Always a pleasure to have you over. :)

  11. Jack
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    October 27, 2012 at 11:04 am

    Hi Harleena,

    The answer is no, I don’t love my life. I love parts of it but I am thoroughly unsatisfied with a variety of things. I don’t sugar coat or hide from that.

    But I also don’t wallow or wait for some magical change to happen. I am actively working on making changes so that my life more closely follows what it is I want.

    It is not always easy, but that is ok with me. I understand that life has its ups and downs. Right now things are a bit down, but that just means the time is coming where they will come back up.

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 27, 2012 at 3:08 pm

      That’s alright Jack!

      All of us have our reasons to be happy or unhappy, because none of us are actually leading happy and perfect lives – or very few do. Yes, the most we can do is appreciate what we have got and try to make things better, just as you mentioned, so that you can begin to love the life you live.

      It isn’t easy at all as we need lots of time and patience for that, but there is no other way – isn’t it? Absolutely – every cloud has a silver lining, and these down – trying times never last. If they come, then the good times are right behind too. I guess that’s why it’s called life.

      Thanks for stopping by, and hope you begin loving the life you are living, whenever it is. :)

  12. Mayura
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    October 27, 2012 at 3:30 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Love the 10 ways your mentioned Harleena. Especially glad to see Simplicity comes first ;) I always love to be simple dear. That really saves me from unnecessary stuff and costs. I don’t wanna make things complex, but love to build and solve complex stuff as a Software Engineer ;)

    Realistic goals, accept change and understandable relationships are worthy than billions of money I say :) ‘Cause with the help of ‘em, life would be so enjoyable. No broken promises or ambitions. Don’t worry MUCH (‘Cause we worry a little though) in changes. I think more people stress out due to related problems.

    Actually, financially I’m not strong yet. My father pays for me now. But I know, I will and have to change it :) Like to be rich. I love the life I live now in a way. Love to live alone and explore the world. You know, I don’t like going out to work and come home. Wanna work at home, though how much hard work it is ;) Home is like being in heaven.

    I have more things to do in my life. Gotta move away as a new family, kids and after all I’m thinking of helping kids + people who have no support, with my skills and abilities. I can’t help that Harleena. My parents used to say I’m not selfish enough to care about myself. But I proved it false with my graduation. It’s me :) I think just my family is not my responsibility. I can do more to this world. People even helping people without even having money, so why can’t I?

    I can say there are moments which I don’t like, but I think they are opening my eyes and show me new directions. If life is all about sweet stuff, it’s just lazy, nah? :) Doctors say don’t eat sweets too much, so I prefer that way when it comes to life too ;) Not to eat, but not to have sweet things always.

    Glad you have no video in this one :D I mean, currently I’m surfing with low bandwidth on my Internet connection.

    Cheers…
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 27, 2012 at 6:06 pm

      Glad you liked the post and ways mentioned Mayura!

      Being simple is so easy I think, yet some of us complicate our lives and find ourselves stuck in the complexities of life. Ah…being an engineer, you would be the right person to solve complex problems and make them simple. :)

      Yes, most of us have stressed lives that makes us worry too, but if we set realistic goals that we can achieve, the worry would lessen if it’s because of that. And if we learn to accept things that we cannot change, we would be more at peace – isn’t it? You are just starting off as yet Mayura, and once you are on your own, you will do well I’m sure because you are already thinking of changing the present to something better for yourself. I guess once you are married, you might not be able to live alone, though would be nice to explore the world with a life partner ;)

      I’m sure you can earn well sitting at home because you have all your work mostly online, and by the time you are married and settled you might even have more opportunities to do well for yourself. Moving away once you have a life of your own with your kid’s and family would be a good decision and a nice change perhaps.

      I love the noble thought you have of helping the less privileged through your skills and abilities. It would help make the world a much better place if all of us could devote a little time to help out others instead of only thinking about ourselves. And yes, monetary help isn’t always that’s needed, help can be of any kind and you can help people in so many ways.

      Absolutely! Moments we don’t like or the down times in our lives teach us something in return and make us more aware of how we can get better in our lives. I thought of not having a video each time because it then gets monotonous then, and am glad because even you are facing Internet connection problems and wouldn’t be able to watch it.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with all of us. :)

  13. Corinne Rodrigues
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    October 27, 2012 at 10:10 pm

    Life is as good as we choose it to be, Harleena.

    That’s the truth I learned a few years ago. Now I focus on being grateful for everything I have, and find more and more to be grateful about. I do love the life I live. But I’m also aware that I cannot get complacent and need to constantly see if I’m living life to the optimum – lots of room for improvement – but I seem to be on the right path – finally!

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 27, 2012 at 10:46 pm

      Absolutely Corinne!

      It all depends on us and how we choose to live our lives – whether being happy with what we have or the other way round. There is indeed always scope for improving ourselves and our lives if we don’t like our lives the way it is, which again is very normal. However, I feel being grateful for the smallest of things we have and appreciating those makes all the difference in learning to love what we have – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post. :)

  14. Alice Chan
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    October 28, 2012 at 12:11 am

    I do love my life, as it’s in alignment with what I’m passionate about and what my soul seeks to express.

    Sure, just like every other human being, I’m prone to want external “prove” of joy, but my consciousness always returns to recognizing that it’s not the “stuff” I can amass that brings happiness and love. It’s because I love that I create what’s in my external world.

    Also, as Robert Holden says, happiness is a quality of our Essence, so it doesn’t come and go, as when we pin our happiness on the condition that some external thing is present, whether the perfect job, mate, etc. Instead, it’s our awareness of happiness as a quality of our Essence that comes and goes. So, when we remember, we can be happy at any given moment, no matter what the external parts of our lives look like.

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 28, 2012 at 2:08 pm

      Glad you love the life you live Alice!

      I guess it’s but natural that we want to experience the joy in our lives and often look for it at other places rather than within our own-selves, unless we are made to realize it. Those are wonderful lessons to take back home from what Robert Holden says, and am glad you could relate to them so well. :)

      Like I keep saying so often, happiness is a state of our mind. When and if we want to be happy, whether for external or internal reasons, we can – provided we want to – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and your insightful comment. :)

  15. Radu

    October 28, 2012 at 1:11 am

    Hey Harleena,

    You have a wonderful and insightful post here :)

    First of all, the quotes are great, especially Gandhi’s one. Life was created from love, with love. Whatever we do with love has the power of life itself behind it.

    The only things that can keep us away from a happy life are not the lack of more money, houses, cars etc but the limiting thoughts believed in : I don’t deserve to be happy and prosperous, I can’t be happy without this or that or because of him/her I am unhappy etc. When these patterns don’t get attention anymore than love, peace, joy will flow naturally through our being.

    All your tips are great. I especially agree with #1, 4 , 5 and 7. Even if we live in a quite complicated world you can still remain simple. Gratitude keeps you in a vibe of abundance and brings even more things to you. Acceptance is the key for inner peace..one won’t control every event in life but by accepting that life is continuous change he or she will flow with it. Living every moment as if it is the last…this is the one I’m working on…when you put your best in each moment, your relationships, work, health etc will be positively influenced too.

    In the end, life is what we make from it. We have the privilege to choose how it will be and adapt/change if necessary.
    Thank you Harleena for sharing these pearls of wisdom with us. I appreciate you!

    Be blessed,
    Radu

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 28, 2012 at 2:32 pm

      Glad you liked the post Radu!

      Ah…I sure can’t do without quotes and often spend more time in selecting the right one to go with the post, than writing the post itself. :)

      Absolutely! We limit ourselves and our thoughts and relate to our unhappiness based on the assumptions we make. It isn’t the money, kids, family, or other things, but it’s how we love to blame things and situations for our share of unhappiness.

      Simplicity should be what we should look for in life, even though the world around us complicated. But again, it’s in our hands as to how we want to live our life. The choice always lies in our hand – isn’t it? Acceptance I feel is the key to love the life you live, because it makes you go with the flow when things aren’t in your control and to accept the change – nothing can be better than that.

      I wish more of us cold really live each moment as if it were the last, something that I truly believe in too. However, few are really able to do that, and are stuck in the daily ups and downs of life where we keep shifting to and fro from the past to the future and forget to live in the NOW. I agree, when we put our best in each passing moment, it becomes beautiful in itself.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your wisdom, at this young an age with all of us. :)

  16. Carolyn
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    October 28, 2012 at 4:29 pm

    Hi Harleena, Great article.

    You’re right, it’s important to evaluate your life and make changes if you’re not satisfied with it. In my mind, #4 is the most important. If you’re grateful for what you have, then it really doesn’t matter how much you have. As you point out, it doesn’t matter how much money you have if you don’t appreciate what you have.

    Having lived in the UK for four years, I appreciate living here back in the US and being close to family. Living in the UK was a great experience, but I prefer being close to family.

    And, yes, I love the life I live! :-)
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 28, 2012 at 6:30 pm

      Glad you liked the article Carolyn!

      If by making changes we can become a little happier with the lives we are living, then there’s no harm in it, though I strongly do believe that we should be happy with whatever we have. I totally agree that if we can appreciate what we have and remain grateful, we really don’t need much in life.

      Absolutely – anything to be close to our families for me too. I guess when we don’t have something or feel the lack of it, we appreciate it much more – isn’t it? I am glad you love the life you live, and that’s the way it should be too.

      Thanks for stopping by. Always nice to have you over. :)

  17. Roz Bennetts
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    October 28, 2012 at 9:07 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    The answer to your question for me is mostly; I was able to answer no to all your questions about why someone wouldn’t be happy with their life – so that must be a good thing! And it is and I’m very grateful for my good fortune. I think though we always need to feel we’re leading our best lives, what I mean by that is we need to feel challenged and that we are able to accomplish things that we know we’re proud of – it’s not enough for someone else to think we’re great, we need to feel that too.

    I want to make some changes in three areas, and am busy doing that now – just working towards those goals in a positive way makes me feel good.

    Thank you for a great post Harleena.

    All the best, Roz

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 28, 2012 at 10:28 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Roz!

      Nice to know that you too believe in being grateful for the smallest of things in life, and that is how it should be. I agree that we need to feel happy about our accomplishments as well, which would make us happy within.

      If we don’t like certain things, it’s best to change them so that we begin liking our lives, and am glad you are working towards those goals in your life.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post. :)

  18. CarolB
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    October 28, 2012 at 9:41 pm

    Such an inspirational post.

    I have to say that most days I love the life I have, though I will admit to those times where I don’t. When I’m in one of those “poor poor me” moods, I eventually realize I need to step back and reflect upon all that I do have. Once I hit that point, it doesn’t take long to realize just how fortunate I am! Thanks for providing me with a few more “pointers” to think upon when I stumble into one of those moods.

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 28, 2012 at 10:30 pm

      Glad you found the post inspirational Carol!

      It’s but natural to like some days, and wish for better days at other times – happens with most of us I think. You are absolutely right – when we are in those down times, we need to think about all that we have got as compared to those who don’t even have this much and learn to appreciate and be grateful for these small things that life’s made up of – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post. :)

  19. Anne relationship help blog
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    October 28, 2012 at 9:54 pm

    This is a lovely, uplifting post, Harleena.

    I love the life I live and I pray each day that I remain grateful for it. I think that of all the things you mentioned, staying grateful is one element I find that will work each time.

    As long as you stay in a state of mind which is grateful, you will find new things in your life each day, for which you can be thankful. I think gratitude just opens up your eyes and makes you see more spiritually, and more clearly.
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 28, 2012 at 11:36 pm

      Glad you liked the post Anne!

      Nice to know that you too love the life you live, and I think being grateful remains a major part of it. If we can learn to appreciate the small moments we are given in this life, we would learn to value life much more – isn’t it?

      Absolutely! Being grateful is what I too believe in, and that’s what keeps me going as well.

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  20. Sylviane Nuccio
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    October 28, 2012 at 10:30 pm

    Excellent post Harleena, and good reminders of what can help us to enjoy our life better.

    To me there are two things that I’ve learned will help just anyone love the life they live better, is appreciation of what you have and live in the moment.

    If you fail in recognizing these two most important points you are doom to fail. When I analyze all the people I’ve ever known well and think of the ones who’ve almost never been happy they had issues recognized how blessed they already were , and they never even thought about enjoying the moment. “the moment” is’t all we have.

    Thank you for this great topic :)
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 28, 2012 at 11:28 pm

      Glad you liked the post Sylviane!

      These two things are the most valuable of the lot. I think if we can appreciate even the smallest of things we have in our lives, we would be so much happier. And I do believe in living in the moment too, though sometimes life does get in the way. But then you keep the negatives aside and appreciate all the positives that you have been gifted with and start loving life – isn’t it?

      I do agree with what you said about some people who don’t appreciate what they have. I guess they tend to see more of what they don’t rather than what they do, which would only bring in more negatives in their lives. I wish more people would learn to live in the present, this moment – the NOW because that is all there is that keeps us going.

      Thanks for stopping by. Always nice to have you over. :)

  21. Karen
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    October 28, 2012 at 11:38 pm

    I love the life I live, over the past 12 months, things have really taken off for me, popularity has grown, I’ve met some amazing new friends and made some rather famous friends, I’m doing something that I’ve always wanted to do and I’ve never been so happy.

    If you set your mind to something and have the support of loved ones and amazing friends, then you can succeed with your dreams ;)
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 29, 2012 at 12:05 am

      Welcome to the blog Karen – nice to have you over!

      Glad you love the life you live, and I can see it in your voice why you do so. :)

      Things do happen gradually and we need to be patient with our efforts and remain persistent too, which is what you must have practiced to achieve such success. It’s nice to know that you do what you like doing that only few of us are really able to do, which makes all the difference to finding happiness in our lives too.

      Absolutely! If you set your mind to something and put all your heart and mind into it (yes, with everyone’s support) – you are bound to succeed.

      Thanks for stopping by, and wishing you all the success in life. :)

  22. Liz Hancock
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    October 29, 2012 at 3:20 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I personally love the life that I live because I realized a long time ago that I am responsible for my reality and all that is in it. I quite my corporate job last year to focus on my diamond consulting business full-time and have never looked back. It is all about deciding on what you want in life, and making a plan to achieve that goal through small steps. Nothing is created overnight, but with determination and attention, your life will grow to be exactly the life that you love to live.
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 29, 2012 at 8:07 pm

      Glad you also love the life you live Liz!

      Absolutely! We are all responsible for the decisions and choices we make in our lives. And if change in some area is required, we should bring it about without further delay, just as you did in your case, so that you achieve your set goals. Yes, it happens with time, patience, and determination, so we shouldn’t expect miracles overnight.

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  23. Mary Stephenson
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    October 30, 2012 at 4:04 am

    Hi Harleena,

    Great post as we all should remember to live to our fullest. Not always easy when things are tough. But I remember to be grateful for what I have comparison to what others don’t have. It is definitely a lesson in being humble.

    #2 and #4 are things I try to achieve each day. #5 is probably the hardest, it is always harder to accept changes. A lot of the times they can be the best thing for us.

    Thank you for your list today.

    Mary

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 30, 2012 at 9:10 am

      Absolutely Mary!

      Living in the moment and living it to the fullest is what I believe in too. Yes, it’s easier said than done, especially when we have other things that come in our way. But if we appreciate what we have, just as you mentioned, as compared to those who don’t, we begin loving the life we live.

      Accepting change isn’t easy I agree, but if that change would help you feel better about yourself or help achieve your goals, then there can be nothing better than that. Also, once you change yourself and the way you think, you begin liking it too.

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  24. Donna Merrill

    October 30, 2012 at 10:12 am

    Great job Harleena!

    Being ourselves is the only thing we can do. People can quickly see if we are not, so that to me is so important. Your other point of being Grateful is a key factor in happiness. People sometimes forget all the blessings they have already. Always looking ahead. Yes, we need a plan, but we must be in the moment in our lives.

    To me, gratefulness is the most important thing. Each morning before I get out of bed I take a few moments of what I am grateful for. Then and only then do I get out of bed. It turns my day into a positive one!

    We must live well balanced lifestyles and take time for ourselves to prevent burnout.

    Your tips are wonderful, thank you,
    Donna

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 30, 2012 at 11:19 am

      That’s true Donna!

      You raised a very important point of being your own true-self, which will help you love the person you are, and yes, people are quick to make out the fake from the genuine ones.

      I guess being grateful is what most people here have also related so well to, because that is the key to happiness, which happens only when we appreciate even the smallest of things we have in our lives. But yes, some of us tend to look at what we don’t have rather than what we do, which makes us frustrated and unhappy, and then we tend to blame people and circumstances for the same – isn’t it?

      I love your habit of being grateful the first thing in the morning, something that all of us need to do. I guess with kid’s school and college, I just don’t see beyond the ringing alarm clock at 5 every morning! Yes indeed, living a well balanced and healthy lifestyle IS important or else you will see the drop in your health for sure.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post. :)

  25. bbrian017
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    October 30, 2012 at 6:50 pm

    Hi Harleena, you know I’m so happy with life right now.

    My company is doing amazing, “Blog Engage” and with the arrival of my new baby boy I couldn’t ask for anything else. I get to be a stay at home dad and raise my son, spend very moment with him and to me I have been granted the best possible life ever. I only hope life continues to be filled with joy and happiness.
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    • Harleena Singh
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      October 30, 2012 at 7:01 pm

      You have all the reasons to be so Brian!

      The most happiest moment of course is to be a parent, and yes, being grateful that everything has turned out well for you and your family too. And of course, to be beside your child and see them grow is something very few of us can really do.

      Blog Engage is surely doing well, and am happy for you and for everyone who is associated with it as well. I think it gives everyone a platform to interact and reach out to connect with other bloggers and learn something in return. So, all the reasons for you to love the life you are living – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

      • bbrian017
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        October 30, 2012 at 7:07 pm

        Yeah for sure you’re 100% right. Let’s pray it continues and life continues to move in a positive direction. One thing about life, you never know what can or will happen.
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        • Harleena Singh
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          October 30, 2012 at 7:11 pm

          I’m sure it will be as good as it is now Brian. Yes, we can never say about tomorrow or what life holds for us. That’s why living in the moment – the NOW is what each one of us must do – isn’t it? Make the best of what you have and life life to the fullest. :)

          Thanks once again. :)

  26. Jeevan Jacob John
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    October 31, 2012 at 7:29 pm

    I do love my life, but do I find it enjoyable? (Well, it is enjoyable, but not much adventurous!).

    But, who am I to judge, maybe life is better without much adventure!

    I do love changes though, I always try to bring some sort of change into day to day life (take a different route to college or maybe play with my daily schedule – do some reading in relaxation time and learn in reading time and that sort of stuff!).

    But, life is great – and I am grateful, knowing that I am fortunate to have my life (knowing that many others in the world don’t have all that I have – makes me sad though).

    Life is indeed great :D

    Thank you for the post, Harleena :)

    • Harleena Singh
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      October 31, 2012 at 7:47 pm

      Glad you love the life you live Jeevan!

      Ah…perhaps the real adventure would start when you get married and have a life partner to share your life with – isn’t it? :)

      Life is as such full of twists and turns, and what we will come across life, we can never really say. That’s why it’s said that live each moment and live it as if it were your last – to the fullest.

      I know you love change, and I’ve often read your posts and guest posts too where you are all in for trying out new things, which very few of us are really able to do. That’s a great way to bring something new and fresh in your life, which would make you love it.

      Yes, we do feel sad to know that there are so many people in the world who don’t have as much as we do, but that’s a major reason for being grateful for even the smallest of things we’ve been given also.

      Thanks for stopping by. Nice to have you over. :)

      • Jeevan Jacob John
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        November 3, 2012 at 2:19 am

        Perhaps, but I don’t plan to marry at all :) I have big plans/goals for my life – and I like to keep the attitude that nothing else matters ;)

        Ah, yes, life is indeed full of twists, although I am not seeing many twists in my life right now (So, I just take action to create a twist, like taking a different path or doing something different).

        I guess that’s because I am a student (and because I have a lot of time, I can spend so much effort into experimentation and change :D)

        No problem :)

        • Harleena Singh
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          November 3, 2012 at 9:07 am

          Why’s that Jeevan? It’s good that you have big plans for your life, but wouldn’t you want to have a life and your achievements to share with someone else. You never know what might change your mind in the future :)

          You have a lot of life as yet ahead of you, but for people like us who have lived half our lives – it sure is full of twists and turns. But yes, taking a new challenge or trying out something new is like a twist or turn that you really don’t know about or what it holds for you in the future.

          Yes indeed, you are still young and with time in hand, so you can do a lot of things to experiment. Hope you love the life you live. :)

          Thanks for your contribution. :)

  27. Deone Higgs
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    November 1, 2012 at 9:18 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I’m not exactly sure if the Bob Marley quote is from a song or not, but it instantly reminded me of the other saying of his that was from a song, “Everything is going to be alright.”

    I say that to say, once we reach a place where we know that we are completely in love with the life we live, we also know that “everything is going to be a-okay.” :)

    I really enjoyed reading this post, Harleena. I found it very similar to many of the life lessons I’ve had to learn over the last two years. They truly made all the difference in the world for me to have learned them too.

    We must also remember that it’s an ongoing process that needs our utmost attention. As my mother used to say, in a way that only she could say it, “Pay attention.” :)

    Thanks for the sharpening this morning, my friend. :)
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    • Harleena Singh
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      November 1, 2012 at 9:57 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Deone!

      I wouldn’t know that too because I saw it as a quote and loved it instantly, though everything is going to be alright would go very well with it too. :)

      I can understand the journey you are on, and it must be a wonderful transformation going on for you, and yes, I am sure everything is going to turn our perfect for you too.

      Yes indeed, the lessons we learn in our lives never really end – no matter what we might read or how learned we might become. It is a continuous, ongoing process, and it should be too because learning never stops. We never know what we learn from where, so we need to keep our eyes and ears always open and embrace life as it comes, with it’s ups and downs – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by. Always nice to have you over. :)

  28. Betsy/Zen Mama
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    November 2, 2012 at 2:03 pm

    Love your tips Harleena!!

    And yes, I love my life! I was lucky enough to be born with a positive attitude and a love of life.

    • Harleena Singh
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      November 3, 2012 at 9:29 am

      Glad you love the life you live Betsy!

      Seeing the positive vibrations around you and your blog, I know for sure that you are born with a positive attitude, which is what we all need in our lives to love it more.

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  29. JamesW
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    November 3, 2012 at 5:49 pm

    Really great and inspirational post,

    I think that embracing changes will help us to love life even more. Because changes are the main thing in everyday life of every person. When the change happens, it’s best to adapt to it.

    Thanks for sharing :)
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    • Harleena Singh
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      February 17, 2013 at 11:45 pm

      Welcome to the blog James!

      Sorry for replying late – I guess I missed your comment, though am glad I’m here now. :)

      Glad you liked the post. Yes indeed, change is constant and will happen. So, its best to change yourself according to the situation if need be, and learn to love the life you live and enjoy each moment of it – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by.:)
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  30. Karen W

    December 3, 2012 at 2:15 am

    This was a great posting and a much needed read for me. Lately I have been wanting to just quit my job, pack up and go…no set plan..just go. I know this is unrealistic but sometimes you need to read something like this article to help ground you a bit… Thank you! I am a traveler at heart and I’ve been pretty much travel free for almost two years now (beginning to wear on me..)

    Everything about travel gets me excited and energized! The problem is…the money and the time needed to do so! I lived in London for two years where I was able to travel and see the world! I am back in the states now, working and living…and not traveling. So I guess for me the balance needs to be…work (save), travel, and when I can’t travel perhaps just reading about travel will do the trick! I guess this goes along with the idea of getting enjoyment from the smaller things in life! Travel and reading are my two favorite things so if I can’t travel I can read! I know, I know it’s not the same at all…but depending on the book….sometimes that excited feeling in the pit of my stomach returns!

    “Eat, Pray, Love” did that for me and now I just read the book “Until Brazil” by Bethe Lee Moulton and the feeling is back! It’s about a married woman, in a steady job looking for a little excitement! She goes on a business trip to Brazil hoping for a promotion and instead gets immersed in a culture and an experience that she will never forget! – recommend 100% – It has given me the little escape that I so desperately need! Time to be an adult right? And make adult decisions! “The bottom line is, life is about creating happiness. ” – My new mantra!

    Time to make things happen, but in a balanced way :) Thanks so much, looking forward to reading more.

    • Harleena Singh
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      December 3, 2012 at 9:44 am

      Welcome to the blog, Karen!

      I’m glad this post could be of help to you. Travelling is something that I wish I could also do; it is very refreshing, interesting, and educating. I wish you can find a job or profession that requires travelling and then viola; you live the life that you love!

      I’m sure the books you mention must be really inspiring and motivating. I like your mantra, and truly life is all about learning how to be happy, no matter what. I hope your wishes come true, till then have a balanced and a happy life.

      Thank you for stopping by and sharing your like experiences. :)
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