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Simple Ways to be Romantic on Valentine’s Day


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a love you post note on mirror as a simple way to express romantic love on Valentine's Day

Are you looking out for simple ways to be romantic on Valentine’s Day? I too believe that the simple ways to be romantic make the best impact on one’s heart.

So, here I have compiled some of the most affordable and evergreen ways to be romantic- including tips on how to find love in a new or existing relationship, especially with Valentine’s Day just round the corner.

Being romantic or finding out ways to be romantic isn’t just for couples who are dating. It’s for anyone who has a partner; in-fact, if you are truly wondering how to find love, or if you are looking to rekindle your love within your marriage, these simple ways to be romantic on Valentine’s Day are sure to help you!

1- Find ways to say ‘I love you’

This is truly one of the most important ways to be romantic, yet often forgotten. Try leaving notes in unexpected places like the car, bathroom mirror, or the kitchen.

Get creative and try things differently like sending an unexpected text message stating ‘I love you’ or ‘thinking of you’ or ‘missing you’. Remember, small things matter.

“Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly, and without expectation….We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.” ~ Leo Buscaglia

2- Pamper your partner

Another way to be romantic on Valentine’s Day that I read on various relationship sites is to pamper your partner with a bubble bath or try the hand, foot, or neck massage. Some of the exotic ways to be romantic are to put up some romantic music, turn down the lights, and whip out the massage oil!

If you are wondering how to find love in your relationship or dating your partner, then don’t forget to pamper them by gifting them things that they like. They needn’t be expensive ones, instead something small and thoughtful.

You could even pamper your partner by sharing their chores and taking up their responsibility for Valentine’s Day, and surprise them.

3- Hold hands

Holding hands sounds a simple thing to do, but is one of the most effective ways to be romantic. It makes an immediate connection with your partner.

Every time you are together, make sure to hold hands. Remember, all you need is more touching and getting closer to each other, and holding hands is a simple way to be romantic and show your partner that you love them.

“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” ~ Robert Heinlein

4- Go for a date

When was the last time you actually went on a date with your partner? If you are dating someone or wondering how to find love that seems to be a bit lost and faded, or wanting to find ways to be romantic with your spouse, then take them out on a date.

But remember, this is not the time to talk about your work, insurance, or the bills, but rather to focus on each other, keeping all other things aside. Going out for a date is a great way to learn more about your partner or become best friends with your spouse.

Recollect some of the things you did and enjoyed doing together while you were courting your partner, like candle light dinner or watching a late night movie show. Turn up the flames and set the mood for romance if you wish to share a romantic dinner at home!

5- Listen to your partner

Another simple way to be romantic is to listen to your partner without interrupting! With our lives getting hectic and busy, this can be rather hard to do as each side tries their best to get in the last word.

For a change, just try to be quiet and listen to your partner. Show them that you are really interested in what they have to say.

“Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted. Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another’s heart, or its flame burns low.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher

6- Spend time together

People who are dating, or those who are wondering how to find love that remains evergreen forever, just need to find quality time to spend together with each other.

Though it is also a wonderful idea to spend Valentine’s Day with your family, but if you have kids and wish to be alone with your partner, then make arrangements with family, friends, or a babysitter to take care of them.

Try going out for movies, picnics, outings, moonlight walks, cooking up a meal together, sipping your bed tea together, breakfast in bed, simply talking about things, laughing together, or just laying down a blanket outside and cuddling up to gaze at the stars.

Spend a few minutes daily on the couch without children, as these precious moments bring you closer and your children also gain security knowing that their parents enjoy spending time together.

Remember, the more time you spend with each other by doing things together, the closer you get and greater connection you make.

7- Compliment your partner

When was the last time you paid a compliment to your partner? Men as well as women love to be complimented on their good looks or about their work etc. Express your love and tell your partner what you love and appreciate about them.

One of the nicest ways to be romantic is to display playful signs of affection like leaving compliments on the home answering machine, or voice mail for your loved one. Occasional flowers, cards, small meaningful or thoughtful gifts, or a simple ‘thank you’ can mean a lot.

This works wonders for those who are dating or wondering how to find love in someone new, or within your marriage, as compliments are something anyone would welcome.

“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” ~ Lao Tzu

8- Kiss passionately

Kissing is a natural way to be romantic and the easiest way for those thinking of how to find love in a relationship. All you need to do is just get closer to your partner by kissing long and passionately. Kissing is intimate and romantic, and kissing daily keeps the fire burning.

Something that is often forgotten or kept for later, it is not just the quick peck when your partner is heading for work out of the door or returns home after a hectic day, instead, the long-lasting kiss is what makes it romantic and especial.

9- Honor and respect

An important lesson I had read somewhere said that wives should build up their husband’s ego and honor and respect them. Make your spouse feel special always by respecting and honoring them.

Husbands, on the other hand, should treat their wives like the queen they want her to be. Both partners need to practice TLC: tender, love in little things, and care in contact.

10- Promise to change and get better

One of the simplest ways to be romantic on Valentine’s Day is to make promises to each other to become better.

If you are the kind who nags too much, are always busy getting intimate, bring work home, don’t spend time with your partner, remains tensed and worried, then you need to make a commitment to each other by making changes in your life.

Remember, small changes can yield big rewards and it really doesn’t cost you much.

If you are wondering how to say ‘I love you’ on Valentine’s Day, then you may like to read the post about it I wrote last year. Sometimes we do want to say a lot, but fall short of words.

The above mentioned ways to be romantic may not be something new for most of you, but they are a reminder for people like me and my husband, who tend to get so busy in our day to day affairs that most of these things do take a back seat.

After going through these simple ways to be romantic on Valentine’s Day, remember it’s the thought that counts, and its worth every effort and moment you invest in strengthening your relationship.

Not only does your partner or spouse benefit, but your entire family as well. I guess that loving your spouse by finding out ways to be romantic, is one of the best things you can do for your children.

“A lasting relationship is like a garden– tend it lovingly and you will reap bountiful rewards.” ~ Norman M. Lobsenz

So, what have you planned for this Valentine’s Day? Which simple ways to be romantic on Valentine’s Day relate most to you? Share your views on how to find love and ways to be romantic in the comments below.

 

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Harleena Singh is a positive thinker and a freelance writer. She loves to write inspiring and thought provoking posts on self-improvement, family, relationships, health, and other aspects of life. She's not another personal development guru, but just an average person with great life experiences. She's also a blogger, who loves to share her blogging knowledge and experiences. Network with her on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+..

58 Comments

  1. Marcus Baker

    February 10, 2012 at 12:49 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I love all your simple ways to add more romance to a relationship especially as a reminder with Valentine’s day around the corner.

    I like this quote a lot –

    “A lasting relationship is like a garden– tend it lovingly and you will reap bountiful rewards.” ~ Norman M. Lobsenz

    I think the lack of romance in more established relationships happens purely because we start to take the other person and the relationship in general for granted, rather than putting in the effort to keep the romance alive.

    It’s easy when the relationship is new but it takes more work as the relationship matures. The reason for this is we start to focus on everything that annoys and frustrates us about the other person, after we have been with them for a while, most of which is not important at all, but the cumulative effect of all these thoughts is toxic to say the least.

    I have found one of the easiest ways to continue to be romantic is to make it a habit when one starts to think about what is “wrong” with the other person or what they do, to interrupt the thought and immediately focus on everything that you love about them and what they do. As you do this so you will FEEL that love again and you will automatically do things to show it which are romantic.

    ~Marcus

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      Harleena Singh

      February 10, 2012 at 1:22 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Marcus!

      I love that quote as well, guess it has a lot of meaning in it :)

      I couldn’t agree more with you about taking the other person for granted in more established relationships. I guess over a period of time the love that was once new takes a back seat for the very reasons you mentioned, and also because we are not really able to take out the time to be with each other and tend to get busy with our own lives. You do need to make that extra effort or need frequent reminders to keep the romance alive!

      That is a beautiful way indeed to be romantic- find the goodness in your partner, rather than looking for faults all the time. I wish more people would follow this- it would make a world of a difference in any relationship as you would see nothing but love in each other.

      Thanks so much for stopping-by and adding more value to the post :)

  2. Deeone

    February 10, 2012 at 4:30 pm

    Good day to you, Harleena!

    I loved this post! It is so heartfelt and tugs at the very emotion of love.

    I had actually forgotten about Valentine’s day coming up. I’ve been so entangled with projects the date had almost slipped right on by. And it still might, but I know without a shadow of a doubt that my partner knows exactly how I feel if it does. Since becoming a couple 5 years ago, we do random acts like the ones you shared here, throughout the year.

    I think you nailed some incredible tips for people here to include not only for Valentine’s, but they should be practice as often as possible.

    I especially enjoyed this quote, “Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted…” That’s rich! That’s what everyone wants, to feel validated and to know that what they are doing is making a difference to someone.

    Love is such a sacred thing. If we find ourselves sharing it with our partner more randomly, and not waiting on a specific time to do it; I think we will soon find that the relationship would strengthen. If couples will do what you mentioned here throughout the year, then when Valentines’s comes around they will automatically know that it is just another day that they are blessed to have their loved one in their life.
    Wouldn’t you agree? :)

    Thanks for sharing this great post!

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      Harleena Singh

      February 10, 2012 at 6:32 pm

      Glad you loved the post Deeone!

      Lol…yes that does happen to the best of us when we are too involved in work, and knowing you- you must have got something lined up. But I am glad that you have an understanding partner, which makes a world of a difference. Nice to know that you don’t really wait for Valentine’s Day to do the above mentioned things. Though Valentine’s Day is yet another day, but just the feel of it makes it a little special :)

      I loved that quote as well the moment I read it- guess it has a lot of meaning and depth in it. :)

      Yes indeed, love is a sacred thing that you can only feel within your heart, and there are really no words to express it. I too believe in doing what you just mentioned- sharing and doing the above mentioned things with our partner, without really waiting for a specific day or occasion. If we did that, there would be nothing but love and deep understanding all around.

      But I guess sometimes these very things do slip our mind and we get so involved in our own life and works that you need reminders like a Valentine’s Day to get back to the ones you love :)

      Thanks so much for stopping-by and adding so much value to the post :)

  3. Ileane

    February 10, 2012 at 11:31 pm

    Harleena, I’m looking for a way to say I love you to my sweetie this year and you have given me some wonderful ideas. I really like the one about holding hands. Most of the time my fingers are pounding on a keyboard. I think a hand massage would be marvelous too.

    Thanks Harleena!

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      Harleena Singh

      February 11, 2012 at 10:20 am

      Welcome to the blog Ileane- wonderful to have you over!

      Glad you liked these ideas, guess holding hands is indeed a simple, yet effective way to say ‘I Love you’, without really having to say the words. Just the gestures at times are enough :)

      Lol…I can well imagine how busy your work must be keeping you. Hope the hand massage does wonders for you and your sweetie :) Have a wonderful Valentine’s.

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

  4. Hajra

    February 10, 2012 at 11:38 pm

    Hey Harleen,

    So the Valentine fever in the air already? :)

    Well, I am single and plan to spend it with my mother. No special plans as such but yes, we might go out for a dinner or something (if we manage to get a reservation!)

    I don’t consider Valentine’s day to be so special; maybe because I am not the romantic kinds. I am of the kinds who believe that there shouldn’t be a day. People should actually make their loved ones feel loved as often as possible. The day might just be an excuse to make up for the rest and it does have a lot of unwanted attention focused on it (yes, all the V- day fans might just come and hit me now!) But that is my opinion.

    The things you mention here are so important to strengthen any relationship over time. We just have forgot to give time and make others feel special. We need to reach out more often. A little bit of love goes a long way!

    Lovely post Harleena! And yes, wishing you a loved Valentine’s Day ion advance! :)

    Have a lovely weekend!

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      Harleena Singh

      February 11, 2012 at 10:34 am

      Yes it sure is Hajra!

      Spending Valentine’s with your loved one, whether it is your parents, kids, mom, dad, pets, spouse, partner- just about anyone is all that its all about. We too haven’t really thought about what we intend doing this Valentine’s, but I guess after reading this post we could cook up some idea :)

      You are very right when you say that each day should be as special as Valentine’s Day, and should be lived beautifully and full of love, care, and understanding for one another. However, that rarely does happen. I guess in our day to day life, we tend to get so busy with our own lives and work- that reminders like Valentine’s Day do work wonders at times :)

      Yes indeed, reaching out and connecting with one another, spending time with one another, and communicating are the very basics- without which no relationship can move ahead. All other things come by later. Of course, love and feeling is what makes it all worth the while :)

      Thanks for stopping-by and adding more value to the post. Wishing you and your loved ones a wonderful Valentine’s as well :)

  5. Akos Fintor

    February 11, 2012 at 12:24 am

    Hey Harleena,

    I’m so bad at being romantic, that is almost funny. It is high time to ramp up my game I guess. Reading your post gave me some ideas what I could do for my wife.

    If I think about it, it doesn’t really takes too much effort, I’m just lazy on the subject. The truth in a relationship is a place where we go to GIVE and NOT to GET. Putting that in perspective I can (what the hell) I WILL make this the best Valentine’s Day ever for the one I truly love.

    Be blessed!

    Akos

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      Harleena Singh

      February 11, 2012 at 10:39 am

      Glad you could resonate to the post Akos!

      Lol…happens to the best of us! I guess we all need to learn to add more love into our lives, which will in itself make you a little more romantic! Glad you got some ideas from the post, and am sure your wife would notice those changes in you :)

      Yes indeed, being romantic doesn’t really take much of effort- it is in-fact the simplest of thing. You just need a little time and lots of love to get romantic! Giving love is the best if you can manage to live just with giving, though getting it back in return works wonders as well!

      I like that spirit of wanting to make a positive change and being sure that you WILL make this the best Valentine’s ever. Wishing you a very Happy Valentine’s Day in advance :)

  6. Adrienne

    February 11, 2012 at 1:14 am

    Oh, I remember those days! Man, that was a very long time ago though. Let’s see it’s been probably 12 years at least. Ouch!

    The only one I’ll be pampering this Valentine’s day is my dog. But we all know they give you unconditional love no matter what.

    In all seriousness though Harleena, these are great tips. I know that anyone in a relationship right now will appreciate this post. Looks like you already have a couple of great takers.

    Thanks for sharing this and sorry I can’t contribute more. It’s just been so long.

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      Harleena Singh

      February 11, 2012 at 10:43 am

      Glad you cold relate to the post a little Adrienne!

      I can well understand the long time it has been- 12 years surely is a long-long time, though am glad you have Kayla with you! Pets are wonderful and if you can manage to love and give them all of yourself, that would be a beautiful way of spending Valentine’s as well.

      Spending Valentine’s needn’t really be with ones date, spouse, or partner- in-fact spending it with your family and friends also works wonders. So, maybe you would be spending it with your folks this year :)

      Thanks for stopping- by, and have a wonderful weekend :)

      • Adrienne

        February 11, 2012 at 11:32 pm

        You are right Harleena, it can be about family too. As a matter of fact, I’ll be heading to my brothers in about an hour. We are going to give blood this afternoon for a friend of mine who has cancer and then tonight we’re all going dancing. Guess who my Valentine’s date will be? My 23 year old nephew who just got home from working on a cruise ship for 10 months. We’re going to have a blast and Kayla is coming too. Not dancing though, she’ll have to stay home with her cousins. :-)

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          Harleena Singh

          February 12, 2012 at 7:32 pm

          Nice to know about the noble deed you are going to be doing today along with your brother.

          Ah…I can see that you managed to get yourself the perfect Valentine!! I guess your nephew too would be looking forward to this wonderful break – having returned after so many months from his cruise ship. And dancing away is the best way to lighten yourself and feel good, and of course the perfect way to celebrate Valentine’s Day!

          Don’t worry about Kayla- she would have her share of Valentine celebration with her family and cousins as well :)

          Wishing you all the very best for today’s dance and family get together. Have a wonderful Valentine’s in advance :)

  7. lilly

    February 11, 2012 at 2:18 am

    Great tips here!

    Look at the image you used at the top of the post, I like leaving notes around the house and also finding notes that have been left for me!

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      Harleena Singh

      February 11, 2012 at 10:45 am

      Welcome to the blog Lilly!

      Glad you liked the tips! Yes indeed, the image says a great deal about one of the ways you can get romantic- by leaving notes around the house. Guess anyone would welcome such notes. :)

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

  8. Ilka Flood

    February 11, 2012 at 5:03 am

    Harleena these are wonderful suggestions!

    I already picked some to surprise my husband on Tuesday. Although we both work from home we really don’t see a lot of each other because we are always busy working.

    As far as your #1 tip we both do leave notes around even on just “regular” days. As a matter of fact, I found one this morning before I went off to my Kaffeeklatsch (get-together) with my German lady friends.

    Loved #10. I think there is always room for improvement. :yes:

    Thank you so much for sharing these, Harleena!

    Be blessed,

    Ilka

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      Harleena Singh

      February 11, 2012 at 10:53 am

      Glad you liked the suggestions Ilka!

      I guess you and your husband are quite like me and my husband, or most other couples who do tend to get busy with their work and lives. Time always seems to fall short for most of us I guess! Occasions or special days like Valentine’s at least make us reach out and connect, or rekindle our relationships once again with our loved ones :)

      Wonderful to know that you do leave notes around even on regular days! That is something we haven’t really got into trying as yet :)

      Yes indeed, there is always room for improvement and we should never forget that and keep trying to get better each day.

      Thanks so much for stopping-by and sharing your experiences with everyone :)

  9. Jens P. Berget

    February 11, 2012 at 1:26 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    That’s some awesome tips. I admit that I’m not as romantic as I used to be. I’ve been with my wife for 20 years (we started dating when I was 19 years old). I used to do things like leave love notes in the fridge and send her flowers at work, but a hectic life has done something with me. It’s a good thing that there are days like valentine’s day that forces us to think :)

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      Harleena Singh

      February 11, 2012 at 10:08 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Jens!

      I guess most of us are not as romantic as compared to what we were when we were dating or young :)

      Yes indeed, a hectic work life keeps us away from doing things that we may want to do for each other, and somewhere being romantic takes a back seat. I am also glad that we have special days like Valentine’s around so that we can reach out and connect once again.

      Thanks so much for stopping by, and wishing you a happy Valentine’s day as well :)

  10. Rohan Advani

    February 11, 2012 at 10:28 pm

    Hello Harleena ,

    Found your blog through a comment you had posted on kikolani , loved the article you have written , am really happy to see how Indian women have established niche blogs :) .

    Keep up the good work.

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      Harleena Singh

      February 12, 2012 at 7:17 pm

      Welcome to the blog Rohan!

      Nice to have you visit the blog through Kristi’s blog, and am glad you liked the article as well. Thanks for the appreciation about my work- I guess you should not underestimate the Indian women after-all :)

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

      • Rohan Advani

        February 12, 2012 at 7:39 pm

        Hey Harleena,

        I knew this would be coming :) . I really don’t underestimate women be it from any country , I was happy and I liked it – perhaps it was my first time seeing an Indian woman writing a blog , no offence though. I respect what people do and am glad you are in the blogging industry :).. Gud Luck

        P:S : No offence again , it was just a comment to appreciate :)

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          Harleena Singh

          February 12, 2012 at 8:17 pm

          No problem Rohan!

          It’s good to know your views and I took the comment in good spirit by all means. However, there are many Indian women who are blogging successfully as well. Thanks again for the appreciation and hope you benefit by the posts and the valuable comments of the visitors.

  11. Praveen Rajarao

    February 12, 2012 at 12:28 am

    Harleena – Thanks for this post, some nice ideas out there,nothing very tangible, but all of them are sensitive and caring ways to celebrate the day of love.

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      Harleena Singh

      February 12, 2012 at 7:40 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Praveen!

      I guess it all comes down to taking out some time for each other and connecting once again. And Valentine’s Day is a perfect day to start doing the things you always wanted to, though couldn’t really manage to take out the time for doing them.

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

  12. Hiten

    February 13, 2012 at 12:09 am

    Hi Harleena,

    This was a really good post and you covered so many areas beautifully. I really liked the point you made about using Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to make promises to each other to become better. Indeed, this day is a great day to begin to make changes in behaviours to help improve the relationship.

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      Harleena Singh

      February 13, 2012 at 11:07 am

      Glad you liked the post Hiten!

      Yes indeed, Valentine’s Day sure is a day to connect and rekindle your relationship- but its also a great day to make promises to each other to change oneself and get better. I guess anything that makes a relationship better should be done, and this day is a good way to start things off.

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

  13. Amy Turner

    February 13, 2012 at 9:15 am

    The saying “everyday is Valentine’s Day” should guide our homes so we experience a truly wonderful married life. But we are far from perfect, I can’t imagine a couple having no fits of anger or moments of frustration with the other. So, this leaves us this one day in a year, of the opportunity to rekindle the love (if it is already going lukewarm), or nurture the spark of the still early love. Whatever your situation is in your relationship, make the most of this day to express your devotion to your partner. Love this post and its suggestions, thank you!

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      Harleena Singh

      February 13, 2012 at 11:04 am

      Welcome to the blog Amy!

      Glad you could relate to the post and liked the suggestions as well.

      I too wish that each day should be spent like its Valentine’s, though you are right about saying that things are never perfect. I guess every partner or couple do have their shares of ups and downs. And yes, days like Valentine’s are great reminders to rekindle the love or reach out and connect with your partners once again :)

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

  14. Vidya Sury

    February 13, 2012 at 12:29 pm

    Ah, such a love-filled post, Harleena. :-)

    For me, every day is Valentine’s Day – we practice affection on a daily basis. Those are lessons I was lucky to learn from my Mom, grand mom and uncles. And I am fortunate to have long-term friends with similar views.

    I loved all the simple ideas – it is so easy to be happy, is it not?

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      Harleena Singh

      February 13, 2012 at 12:58 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Vidya!

      Nice to know that everyday is Valentine’s Day for you, that is indeed so rare, but wonderful indeed! Good lessons learnt from your folks- something that would always make your relationship only get better by the day.

      Yes indeed, it is very easy to be happy- as I believe it is all in our mind. If we want to be happy- there is nothing to stop us. Though if we intend to remain unhappy, then we would always be and find excuses to not become happy.

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

  15. Carolyn

    February 14, 2012 at 12:39 am

    Hi Harleena,

    This is great advice for any day, but especially Valentine’s Day! My favorite bit of advice you gave was about holding hands. When I see elderly couples holding hands, my heart soars. How great is it when you find that special someone is still special after all of these years?

    Perhaps that is why they are still together…

    I also say to those who don’t have a romantic interest in their lives to romance themselves on Valentine’s Day. Give yourself the gift you deserve: flowers, chocolates, jewelry, etc. Enjoy the day and own it! :-)

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      Harleena Singh

      February 14, 2012 at 11:38 am

      Glad you liked the post Carolyn!

      Yes indeed, the advice is not just meant for one Valentine’s Day, and should ideally be something most of us ought to do everyday! However, as that rarely happens- days like Valentine’s are nice reminders about reaching out and connecting with the ones we love :)

      Holding hands is truly the simplest and easiest of things anyone can do, and the best part is that it costs you nothing, yet has a lot of meaning. I guess it makes an immediate connection and conveys to the person that you care and you love them.

      I totally agree with you there. Even those who have no romantic interest of really aren’t the romantic kinds ( I wonder why and how though!)- Take the opportunity on days like Valentine’s and give yourself the gift of things you love. Fall in love and pamper yourselves :)

      Thanks for stopping-by and adding so much value to the post.

      Wishing you and yours a very Happy Valentine’s Day :)

  16. Bryce Christiansen

    February 14, 2012 at 2:23 am

    Hi Harleena,

    I just got a text from my wife about an hour ago saying she has no idea what to get me for valentines day. Then I read your post and thought, “It really doesn’t have to be that hard.”

    There are lots of simple things we all would like for Valentine’s Day and this post gets that.

    Thanks,

    Bryce

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      Harleena Singh

      February 14, 2012 at 11:29 am

      Glad you could relate to the post Bryce!

      Yes indeed, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a struggle to decide what to gift each other or what your partner would like to be gifted etc. Instead, it’s the small things that you do for one another that make a difference. The simplest and smallest of gestures can make a world of a difference.

      Thanks for stopping by. Wishing you a very Happy Valentine’s Day as well :)

  17. Jonathan Gaurano

    February 14, 2012 at 4:38 am

    I think what’s so beautiful about this post is that everything mentioned comes from the heart. As in it paints a picture that monetary gifts are not as important as personal/physical gifts. For my valentine’s day – I’m treating my girlfriend out on a nice hike to our view. A romantic view / with a picnic basket. Call me cliche but I think it’ll make things sparkle (:

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      Harleena Singh

      February 14, 2012 at 11:26 am

      Glad you could resonate with the post Jonathan!

      Yes indeed, those who have been reading the posts on the blog know that I am more of a person of the heart- so everything written in my posts come from deep within. :)

      Monetary gifts are temporary I feel and would last for a few days, months or years- but what you can give your loved ones is something that is going to be valued and treasured life long.

      You seem to be on the right track and wishing you the best for the romantic hike with your girlfriend. I am sure she is going to love and value it a great deal.

      Thanks for stopping-by :)

  18. Allie

    February 15, 2012 at 1:41 am

    Harleena,

    I can tell you are a romantic. You wrote the words above like they came natural to you. :-)

    I would settle for some really good dark chocolate today, lol. Actually, you gave me an idea. I was having trouble coming up with a great gift for my husband (our 17th wedding anniversary is Saturday) and you made me realize I should just spoil him. Make him feel special. Sometimes when you are married for a while you forget to do this and it means so much to a relationship.

    And I like how you said to hold hands. Same as above, we forget to do the simple things that bring us together, like holding hands or a rub on the back while we are sitting together.

    Happy Valentine’s and thank you for the idea for Saturday. I am going to try and get us partner spa treatments!

    ~Allie

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      Harleena Singh

      February 16, 2012 at 10:50 pm

      Welcome to the blog Allie!

      You are so right there- I am indeed a romantic at heart and know for sure it’s only love that makes me go round :)

      Dark chocolates, red wine, or red roses- anything would go for the day! Belated anniversary, and am glad you got some ideas through this post. Husbands do need a little bit of spoiling off and on, I guess makes them loosen up a little. And yes, we do tend to forget or overlook this important aspect when we are married for a long period of time :)

      I guess the essence of a long pasting relationship or what really keeps a marriage together is the connection we make with each other, how we reach out and remain with one another through thick and thin. And the smallest of gestures like holding hands, doing things together, or just sitting and being with each other makes a difference.

      Hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s as well as an enjoyable anniversary with the spa treatments!

      Thanks so much for stopping-by. :)

      • Allie

        March 3, 2012 at 3:00 am

        Unfortunately, we never made it for the spa treatments but we had a very nice evening at a nice restaurant and then a movie with dessert. Not romantic but it was quality time and we enjoyed each other.

        And, mmmmm, on the dark chocolate. My favorite!
        ~Allie

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          Harleena Singh

          March 3, 2012 at 11:29 am

          Wonderful indeed Allie!

          I think all that matters more than being romantic, at our age especially is the quality time we spend with one another and enjoying each other’s company. And I envy you for the dark chocolate, my favorite too!!

          Thanks for stopping by :)

  19. Mahipal Singh

    February 15, 2012 at 11:38 pm

    Hey Harleena!

    It is such a lovely post. I wish that I would have read it on the 13th, but anyways I will follow these points next year.

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      Harleena Singh

      February 16, 2012 at 10:53 pm

      Welcome to the blog Mahipal!

      Glad you liked the post and could relate to it! Sad that you weren’t able to read it earlier than Valentine’s, but these romantic ways can be used anytime. Or if you wish, you can keep it away for next Valentine’s Day :)

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

  20. Keith Davis

    February 16, 2012 at 1:10 am

    Harleena,

    Many congratulations on a wonderful blog, a fabulous post and an awesome community that you’ve built here.

    First of all – thanks for visiting easyP and supporting Hiten. His work deserves recognition.

    And now your post… even at my age I can see the wisdom in your words. Love after all “makes the world go round” and we do forget that sometimes. I would try holding hands with my wife, but she would only think that I had a guilty conscience. LOL

    I’ll keep this post for next year’s Valentine’s day.

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      Harleena Singh

      February 16, 2012 at 10:57 pm

      Welcome to the blog Keith!

      Glad you liked the blog, the post, as well as the wonderful readers here :)

      Yes indeed, Hiten was wonderful with his post at easyP.

      It is not about your age- as love always remains within us, but somehow we all forget to do things we know we ought to do, more so as we age or as we grow more into our marriageable years. I guess most of us do need reminders like Valentine’s day to reach out and connect with our partners once again, and rekindle the love.

      Thanks for stopping-by. :)

  21. CarolB

    February 16, 2012 at 5:55 am

    Hi Harleena,

    Thanks for such an inspirational post! I actually read it yesterday morning, but just now finally writing to say thanks. I’ve never been a big “gifter” for Valentine’s day, and I must admit I was feeling a bit guilty about it yesterday before reading your blog. It was just the push I needed to remind me that there are so many other ways to let someone know how much you appreciate them besides with a gift. Sometimes it’s the little things that make it big … I made special cupcakes for everyone, complete with chocolate kisses … which in this house, is a big deal since I don’t like to bake! My boys and husband were still talking about it today. lol

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      Harleena Singh

      February 16, 2012 at 11:09 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post and found it inspirational Carol!

      What you mentioned happens to the best of us, as we do tend to either forget to do things we want to do, or get lazy about it, or just aren’t the kinds to get into all such things.

      Spending on gifts is one way that most people feel is a way to express their love, as they can say a lot to their partners, though I differ a little here. I guess what you feel or share with one another holds more value. So, I am glad that Valentine’s is a nice day to do all the things you really want to do – it’s a reminder for me as well :)

      Yes indeed, it’s always the little or smallest of things, deeds, or gestures that make a big difference.

      Nice to know that you baked such goodies for everyone, which am sure your husband and kids must have thoroughly enjoyed :)

      Thanks for stopping-by and sharing your experiences with everyone :)

  22. Janet Callaway

    February 16, 2012 at 7:32 am

    Harleena, aloha.

    Absolutely love your tips. Leaving notes or cards around has long been a favorite of mine. Also, I like to send the jacquielawson cards. She frequently adds new ones and they are a nice surprise to receive in the inbox.

    The only one of your suggestions I don’t do is #10 because I do consciously work at being better on a daily basis. That being said, I like the idea of the promise/commitment to improve in a particular area.

    Here’s a quote on love that I quite like. Though it is attributed to Bruce Lee, I have seen it with slight variation attributed to others. In any event, doesn’t matter the author–just the message.

    “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.”

    Hope you and your family enjoyed a wonderful Valentine’s Day. Until next time, aloha. Janet

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      Harleena Singh

      February 16, 2012 at 11:17 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Janet!

      Yes indeed, sending cards or leaving notes – or any such kind of small gestures goes a long way.

      Wonderful to know that you make that deliberate effort to reach out and be together with one another, which is a rarity with most couples nowadays. I guess the busy lifestyle, and hectic work routine is the main reason. However, if we want we can always get better, provided we are ready to make that first move to change ourselves :)

      Beautiful quote with a lot of meaning- thanks for sharing it :)

      We had a nice Valentine’s our end, and my husband preferred a family Valentine’s this time, so all four of us went out for a small outing followed by dinner.

      Thanks for stopping-by, it’s always nice to have you over :)

  23. Joanne Cipressi

    February 18, 2012 at 2:22 am

    Anyone who knows me knows that I love romance. I live romantically everyday whether I am single or not. These heartfelt suggestions are great for Valentine’s and for the rest of the year as well. I love how in number 10 you write about small changes bring big rewards. That is so true. Sometimes people get caught up in thinking they have to do so much or something really BIG, when a very passionate kiss out of nowhere or simply listening without judging can move another’s heart and bring two people closer to one another.

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      Harleena Singh

      February 18, 2012 at 3:08 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Joanne!

      Yes indeed, I know you are a romantic at heart- just like me :)

      I guess these ways to be romantic can be for any day, and not only for Valentine’s- just depends how and what you use out of these! Changing yourself for the better is something I have always believed and followed, and I know it works wonders.

      If you know something isn’t working right for you, you have two options. Either you change the situation or you change yourself. Changing the situation is not always easy, nor is changing the way people react or behave easy, so the best option is always to try and bring the change within yourself- and see the marked difference in yourself :)

      Yes, you are so right in saying that it’s not the large things or gifts that matter, as compared to the smallest of deeds, acts, or gestures of love, which always go a long way.

      Thanks for stopping-by :)

  24. joshua

    February 23, 2012 at 1:00 am

    I read this article with my wife at my side and of course she looked down at me and told me how much she loves me and thank you for doing these things for me every day. Valentine’s isn’t just a Hallmark holiday, it is a day for celebrating the love in your life. Life can be so overwhelming and to take one day out of the year to show the one you love how much they mean to you is so important. Thank you for posting what WILL contribute to longer lasting relationships and posting about what every human being wants and needs…LOVE.

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      Harleena Singh

      February 23, 2012 at 10:14 am

      Welcome to the blog Joshua!

      Glad you could resonate with the post! Nice to know that your wife felt that you are already doing these things everyday- wonderful indeed!

      Yes, Valentine’s Day is just another day that we all celebrate, because it’s done so by others or we want to have the feeling of doing so. But those who are truly romantic and connected with each other, would make sure they follow all these ways to be romantic every day, and not just wait for Valentine’s, which comes just once a year!

      However, such days are wonderful reminders for all of us to re-connect with out loved ones and remind each other that we care and love them. It works wonders for those who are really tied down with work and even though they may want to, don’t find the time to do or say the things they should :)

      Thanks so much for stopping by :)

  25. AjayKumar

    May 6, 2012 at 3:36 pm

    You can be romantic with your love not only on valentine day but daily. There are many ways to say I love you.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 6, 2012 at 6:38 pm

      Welcome to the blog Ajay!

      Yes indeed, you should be romantic every single day and not only on Valentine’s. And there are many ways of saying those 3 words to your loved ones, though days like Valentine’s are great reminders for those who aren’t able to say them – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  26. Zack Roberts

    March 2, 2013 at 12:08 pm

    Hey.. Great tips. but what about those are single like me.. :) Do you have any tips for singles

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      Harleena Singh

      March 2, 2013 at 1:53 pm

      Welcome to the blog Zack!

      Glad you liked the tips shared. Ah..for that you would need to come again next Valentine’s, when I would share more tips, especially for singles. :)

      Thanks for stopping by. :)

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