The Best Gift You Can Give Your Dad On Father’s Day

How children can make their father happy on Father’s Day

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Daughter wanting to give her Dad Father's Day Gift

For children, Father’s day is the perfect day to present a gift to their dad. But what Father’s Day gift would make their dad really happy?

Whether you’re a daughter or a son, I know this would be on your mind whenever Father’s Day approaches.

Well, it’s already around the corner, and this year it falls on Sunday 15th June, 2014!

Do you think your dad would like an expensive gift? I don’t think so.

But yes, you can gift him something that probably he needs, but stops himself or shy’s away from purchasing.

I’d sometimes gift my father a shirt, couple of golf T-shirts, a travelling suitcase, or anything I notice he really needs, but will never buy for himself.

And he would gift us back with the best perfumes, chocolates, and take us out to watch a movie.

I’ve a very special father and I even wrote a tribute post on my father some time back.

This time, I thought to make Father’s Day a little different and special in my own family, so I asked my husband to write a post on it.

He is a caring and loving father. And he did a great job by making this post exceptional and writing it as a gift for all teens and young adults.

However, I am sure you too, as a reader, can relate to it because you all have/had fathers, and some of you are fathers too!

My husband has been involved in Aha!NOW since its inception, working mostly behind the scene, and without him I would be really lost 🙂

This is the first time he is making his way to the foreground because I wanted a father’s perspective to make this Father’s Day a special one for my kids, and for my readers.

Please welcome Vinay with his very first post, though there would be more in the coming days as he’s going to share my responsibilities here on Aha!NOW.

That’s because Aha!NOW is growing and it becomes tough for a single person to manage it ALL! 🙂

“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” ~ Sigmund Freud

On Father’s Day, my children surprise and shower me with gifts. Although they know I don’t like them spending money on me, but I accept their gifts as a token of their love and care.

This is what a Father’s day is all about – showing that you care and expressing love to your father.

I consider myself fortunate whenever my children think of me, and even take out time to be with me.

That’s because nowadays children have become so busy in their own world.

They’re mostly occupied with gadgets, surrounded by friends, involved pursuing the latest trends, or either are engrossed in studying.

Therefore, it makes me really happy when my children decide to spend time with me. Their precious time is the best gift they can give me, ever.

However, I’d confess that like most fathers, I too get busy and stuck with my work, but then I don’t want to become a father who has no time for his family.

That’s why, all the more, as a father, I love and cherish Father’s Day, the day when I get the personal attention of my children.

So, when my wife asked me to write a post, I thought of this as the best opportunity to convey my message as a father across to everyone.

And of course, to make up for all the missing communication with my children for the time when we both get too busy. 🙂

“It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.” ~ Pope John XXIII

Being a Good Father

While I accept the gifts that my children give me, about which I tell them should not be expensive; I really have a strong desire for some other kind of a gift.

It might sound weird, but yes I’m demanding a gift from my children on this Father’s Day.

It doesn’t always have to be a money gift. For example, read this for choosing activities as gifts.

But before even thinking of expecting a gift from my kids, I need to make sure that I deserve it. Merely being a father doesn’t entitle you to demand anything from your children.

You first need to be a good father.

Harleena has written a brilliant post about it, which I am sure you’d love to read.

Of all the tips to be a deserving good father mentioned in that post, I’m trying my best to work on staying calm and patient.

Relationship between a father and his children, as in every real relation – is based on good behavior, kind intentions, pure and selfless love, care, and compassion.

Such relationships are much stronger, even if they’re not blood relations. Love is thicker than the blood I’d say.

Last year on Father’s Day, Harleena wrote another beautiful post – Understanding the Role of the Father in Child Development.

I learned a lot from it and I feel that every father should read that post to become the PERFECT father to his children.

You’ll realize how important you’re for your children – the PERFECT acronym says it all!

Coming to this post, it is an open letter and my gift of love to my kids as well as thousands of teens and young adults all around the world, who love their father and want to give him the best gift this Father’s Day.

Even the other grownups can share their life experiences and add more value to this post to make it a valuable resource for kids to understand a father’s viewpoint.

What prompted me to write this post is that I realized how seldom I get the time to chitchat with my children and communicate regarding the essential things about life.

Well, as a father, do you talk to your children about life and teach them its lessons? I wonder how often you find the time or how available are your children to listen to you.

I feel, as a father, it’s my duty and responsibility to prepare my children for their journey into life, and help them make it successful by sharing my knowledge and experiences with them.

Although children have their own lives, but to be successful in life, they need a mentor, just as is the case with any other aspect of life.

I want to teach my children how to be happy in life. If they find me worthy, then the best gift they can give me on Father’s Day is to read, remember, and pursue the following lessons in life.

DO READ: How can I be a better parent?

“The father who does not teach his son his duties is equally guilty with the son who neglects them.” ~ Confucius

Happy Fathers Day Gift

The Best Father’s Day Gift

This is what I’m going to tell my children – if you want to give me a gift to make me happy, then – read this entire post.

I’m not going to make extravagant, unreasonable, unrealistic, or impossible demands. Your happiness is inherent and embedded in my desire.

I don’t want any riches, but enrichment of your life. I don’t want any accolades, but want to hear your appreciation by others.

I don’t want to make your life difficult, but make it successful, though for that to happen it may have to go through hard – testing times.

Are you ready to give me what I want? Okay, here it is:

“You’re special to me. That is why I want you to be a person of substance, a real gem of a person.

Of course, you can be yourself and have your identity, but it would be nice if you can get better, and gradually become the best.

Be wise and make the most of life, and for that you need to give your life a direction and a push.

Act mature, be good, humble, and humane. Stand by your values and have a meaning in life.

I want to see you grow and evolve into a successful and happy human being by improving your life and taking it to a higher level.”

Is this too much to ask for?

Well, honestly, may be yes. To fulfill my desire, you need to take many steps – and I can help you in that.

You don’t have to be too hard on yourself, or feel too pressurized.

I can simplify my desire and break it down into achievable objectives. You can go at your pace and achieve them in bits.

These will be my lessons of life that I acquired from my parents, and enriched it with my own wisdom.

I want you to take these lessons, add your own knowledge and experience, and pass on to the next generation.

GOOD READ: Transform Your Life to Be Happy in 17 Simple Steps

“To be as good as our fathers we must be better, imitation is not discipleship.” ~ Wendell Phillips

Father celebrating Fathers Day with teen son

Lessons Of Life For Every Child

As you grow older, you’ll realize that the aim of life is to be happy.

Everything you do is ultimately to be happy in life. Whether it’s being with friends, securing good marks in school, celebrating in a party, working out in the gym, or eating the best food.

If you learn about what exactly are the ways to be happy, you’ll cultivate happiness within you and reap love and peace out of it.

Yes, that’s true. More the happiness quotient in your life, more loving and peaceful you are.

I’ve created a 10-step guide for you just for that purpose.

The first step in bringing happiness into your life is to be happy with yourself.

1. Know that you’re special

Every person in this world is different. Believe in this fact – you’re special and unique, and be happy about it. Your belief will become strong if you know the following 3B’s:

1)    Be familiar with yourself – Make an honest overall assessment. Find your strengths and weaknesses. Take help of your friends and peers if needed, or ask your parents.

2)    Build on your strengths – Every person has some specific skills or talents. You too have them. You need to discover and develop them. That will make you more special.

3)    Believe in yourself – Nothing can be achieved if you’re not confident of yourself. Always believe you’re special, and you can achieve and do what you want.

NOTE: Don’t deceive yourself or others. Have the belief that belief has power. Work on yourself – every effort is worth it. Don’t waste your time on useless activities, time is very precious.

2. Be a gem of a person

Be real, be honest, and always know your true value. Be true to yourself, and know that your Self is the truth that will guide you. Develop these 3S’s:

1)    Self-esteem – Love and value yourself. Get rid of all the complexes because you’re worth more than you think. Read this post to enhance your self-esteem.

2)    Substance – Be a person of substance, and a person of character and integrity. Be the real person by being conscientious, a person of value, who can be trusted.

3)    Smartness – Use your intelligence in your daily life. Make smarter choices, smarter decisions, and carry a positive attitude approach to all aspects of life.

NOTE: Never fake yourself. Never hate yourself. Under any circumstances, never choose to be a bad or negative person.

“Character is like a tree and reputation is like a shadow. The shadow is what we think we are; the tree is the real thing.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

3. Just be yourself and become better

You need to keep your identity – don’t copy anyone else’s. Love yourself for what you’re by adopting the 3D’s to be progressive.

1)    Do your own things – Don’t try to be and do what your friends do. Have the belief and determination to do your own things that you love to do.

It’s okay to be different, not just for the sake of being different, but different by virtue of quality.

2)    Discipline yourself – You’ve potential but you can only tap it if you’re disciplined. Adopt good habits, healthy routine and robust time management techniques to make the best of yourself and your time. Here are the tips for time management that might help you.

3)    Develop yourself – Always make efforts to improve and evolve. You’re good, but you can always be better. You increase your chances of success by trying your best, to be the best.

NOTE: Don’t do anything that may harm or hurt others. Respect your parents, elders, society, and the norms, if they’re just and good.

DON’T’ MISS THIS: Why Fuss About a Good Habit

4. Be wise and leverage life

At times, things don’t go the way you want them to. However, if you try, you can change the course of your life by applying the things you learned in life. Use these 3L’s in life.

1)    Learning or knowledge – You’ve read that knowledge is power, and that’s true. By applying it in life, you gain experience. Thus, you attain wisdom.

If you’re wise, you’ll always make the right choices that bring you happiness. You should read this – How to Change Your Life with Knowledge

2)    Logic or reason – Override your confused feelings with logic and validate the reasons behind your thoughts, words, or actions. It may help you in making important decisions of your life.

3)    Lessons of life – Learn from the experiences of your life and from the lives of other people. This is your shortcut to success. Read books and watch movies that teach you, and save your time learning it on your own.

NOTE: Don’t get tempted to make wrong decisions in the flow of emotions. Always stop and think before reacting. Sometimes, as time passes, your decision also changes.

5. Empower yourself with direction and drive

I want you to keep your head high always, wherever you go and whatever you do. Have the following 3P’s in your life to be happy:

1)    Purpose – Enjoy your life, but know that there’s a purpose why you’re here. If you know the purpose of your life, it will make things easier for you. I want you to read this post and work on the aspects mentioned in it.

2)    Passion – You know, you should be mad like a lover to do the task you love – go after the aim you want to achieve. Dream, think, and work on it day and night. Read How to Find Purpose in Life and Be Happy – follow the tips to be successful.

3)    Power – You can have power in your life if you prepare yourself, practice your skills, and have patience. This post will help you to develop your strength and power. You’ll feel more strong, confident, and capable.

NOTE: Don’t misunderstand the cliche “live life to the fullest” to mean that you can take drugs or resort to addictive habits like alcohol drinking and smoking. Remember that makes you powerless and you lose your purpose of life, which in fact is ruined.

“Train up a child in the way which he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it” ~ Proverbs 22:6

6. Bring maturity and gain reputation

You’re growing up, so remember that people will judge you by your behavior. You risk your reputation if you hurt others with reference to these 3R’s.

1)    Romance Never play with anyone’s heart because romance is not a game. Know the difference between infatuation, love, and lust. Be careful because such matters affect your life more than you think. Certain mistake can turn out to be very costly and cause irreparable damage.

2)    Relationships – Responsibly manage the interpersonal relationships with your friends, peers, family, or even colleagues. Be mature in your interactions, develop a good rapport, and make connections that will go a long way in the journey of life.

3)    Religion – Always respect people’s faith. Be recognized as someone who values humanity and treats others at par, irrespective of demographic differences. Follow your religion, but be sensitive enough not to hurt the sentiments of people of other religions.

NOTE: Wait for the right person and the right time to have an affair or fall into a relationship. Value yourself and your love, don’t give up or throw it away. Build real relationships, and never misuse them.

MUST READ: Why Does Love Hurt in a Relationship

7. Practice goodness and be human

Develop the best human qualities that distinguish you from the others. Develop your finer emotions and treat people well. Have these 3G’s in your life:

1)    Goodness – Always choose to be good, no matter what the situation or circumstances. Always be kind and compassionate, and express goodness in your thoughts, words, and actions.

2)    Generosity – There is joy in giving. Experience that and you’ll love it. Always be ready to help others and never feel that you waste time by helping others.

3)    Gratefulness – You should always be thankful to everybody and everything. The fact that you’re alive is a miracle. Never waste any opportunity to return a favor.

NOTE: Don’t expect instant results and returns. The dividends of being good and giving come late, so have patience and keep practicing goodness.

DO READ: How to be grateful every single day

8. Have a meaningful life and stand by your values

Your life should always have a direction, meaning, and purpose. Then you’ll be able to stand on your feet, undisturbed by external circumstances, and lead a happy life.

Inculcate the following 3Ps in your life:

1)    Philosophy – It’s your belief about life and how to live life. Make your own philosophy of life but do it wisely and keep developing it. This helps you to have a meaning in life.

2)    Principles – Make some rules for yourself that help you in become a good person. These are your morals and values that guide your life.

3)    Personality – Create a personality or persona that expresses your true innerself. Do not pretend – just be as you are. Being yourself reduces stress and makes you happier.

NOTE: You may not like rules or values, but you’ll later realize that values make you valuable. And, the real personality is without the mask.

9. Improve your life

Like the water in a river, your life keeps changing. You need to keep improving your life and making it better. Take help of these 3A’s in your life:

1)    Administer – Take charge and control of your life. Create a life plan and live according to that. Also, plan your career so you stay abreast and ahead of others.

2)    Accept and change – Accept your life as it is and make it the starting point of a new beginning. Go ahead and change it to what you want. Adopt a healthy lifestyle and one that brings you happiness.

3)    Analyze – Always assess and evaluate your life. Improve the standard of living, and enhance the quality of life by nurturing your mental and physical health.

NOTE: Always change for the better. If you do not, then you don’t grow. Those who change fast, benefit early. Don’t fall for the false standards of life – absolute materialism doesn’t give everlasting and real happiness.

10. Ultimately grow and evolve

Your aim in life should be to evolve. Compare your life with your past and become better in all aspects. When you grow up, you’ll realize that knowing and understanding your innerself make you most happy. Bring happiness into your life by these 3E’s:

1)    Education – You don’t learn everything in school or college – life is an institution that teaches you a lot. Learn from the failures in life and treat them as stepping-stones to success. Create a vision for your future and strive for perfection.

2)    Evolution – It means development, and every thought and action contributes to it. Remember that the essence of your behavior encodes in your genes, which you transfer to the next generation.

3)    Enlightenment – This is the stage when you know it all. Your spiritual self is very powerful and you can use its potential by using the power of prayers. Once you’re peaceful with yourself, happiness will envelope your life.

NOTE: Practice meditation and breathing exercises – they help you to be aware and mindful. Thus, you live in the NOW or the moment and that is the state of bliss or real happiness.

RELATED READ: How to Rise Up Every Time You Fall

Children sitting with dad on Fathers Day

I’ll be very happy when you work through the various stages, take the progressive steps, make your life better, and bring happiness into your life.

This will be the best gift that you’ll give to your father.

You don’t have to memorize all the steps and points – just bookmark this post, return to it frequently. Gradually, everything mentioned will become a part of you, if you practice it.

Hope it helps and thank for you time!

I know that I’m not perfect as a father, and I may not be a good role model either. I’d ask you to forgive my shortcomings and strive to become better than me.

Thank you for reading and know that you’ve really made me happy. 🙂

“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.” ~ Mark Twain

So, how did you like these life lessons from a special father to his children, and to all the youngsters out there? Wasn’t it amazing?

I hope you enjoyed this Father’s Day special post, dedicated to every father out there. 🙂

Over to you –

Which of the above-mentioned aspect would you like to gift your father? Do you think it will make him happy? As a father, what do you expect from your child as a Father’s Day gift? Share in the comments.

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  1. Swadhin Agrawal

    June 11, 2014 at 12:28 pm

    Hello Harleena maam and Vinay sir,

    Yes ofcourse AhaNOW is growing and its great to hear sir is helping you.
    This post based on father’s day written on the perspective of what a father wants as gift and that too by a father is a fabulous concept. If one marks at what sir says, he would notice that whatever a father asks is indirectly for the good of his children.

    I really got emotional reading this coz I have a strict father who never opens up himself. But reading sir’s post I now reallize that my Dad too wants and expects the above gifts from us.

    He may not say it, but does he need words for asking? Absolutely no. His anger, scolds, praising us behind our back(yes I know he does, I overheard him) all are sufficient for signifying his wishes.

    I promise you and sir and to myself too that I will present him his desired gift.
    Thank you sir for this touching post. 🙂

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 11, 2014 at 4:37 pm

      Hi Swadhin,

      I’m happy that you liked the concept and the post.

      Majority of fathers wish the good of their children, though there are cases where the father takes some actions or decisions that as per him are in the best interest of the child, however, the child thinks otherwise. In this case, either of the parties could be wrong in their assessment.

      There are people who prefer to abstain from expressing their emotions, however, they do observe how the other people react. If you keep being good, helping, and loving, truly and really, the person may change stand and open up for you.

      Nice to know that you’re motivated after reading this post. Thank you.

      P.S. I’d love it if you can call me by my name, that sounds better. 🙂

      • Swadhin Agrawal

        June 12, 2014 at 11:16 pm

        Hello Sir,

        Glad I could understand what you intended in the post, and I understand that some people are reserved to themselves and don’t easily open up. May be my dad thinks that if he expresses his love then we might not be afraid of him and would divert to unwanted ways. well whatever the case may be it is sure that he intends our good. Thank you for motivating me.

        Sir, I would with earnest respect , say that it is unimaginable for me to call you by name (I know your name sounds very good :)). I am way smaller than you and I have great respect for Harleena madam and you so, if you don’t mind I may call you uncle or Sir but calling you by name is really hard.

        • Vinay Kachhara

          June 14, 2014 at 11:31 am

          Hi Swadhin,

          I respect your thoughts and feelings. But always bear in your mind and heart that you can be great and the greatest – age doesn’t matter. 🙂

          Have a good day!

  2. Babanature

    June 11, 2014 at 6:54 pm

    Hello Vinay and welcome to Aha-now…
    Hmmm… i wish i still have a pop, i’d have made this season the most special one for him 🙂

    I don’t expect much from my son. Seeing him smiling is the greatest gift for me :).

    Aha-now is a large community that worth every penny of your time. Good to have you in the family sharing a wonderful tip to spice up father’s day.

    Thanks and do have a special week ahead…

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 11, 2014 at 9:10 pm

      Hello Babanature,

      Thanks for the warm welcome, let me tell you that you’re no stranger to me.

      I’m happy that things are going great for you. You’re going the right way with your kid – a good rapport at the young age will take your relationship to great depths and heights.

      The Aha!NOW community is awesome with special people like you making great contributions. Glad you like the tips.

      You too have a great time coming weekend!

  3. Enstine Muki

    June 11, 2014 at 7:03 pm

    Hi Vinay,

    I’m lost 😉 I don’t know how to start this comment really! You know when I just knew Harleena, I used to say she was born with a keyboard in her hands. Now, looking at this very first post of yours, looks like you came with 2 keyboards. You both are wonderful writers.

    Now back to the subject…

    Though I’m a father too, I don’t expect much from my kids this year. One is 4 and the other barely 3 months. However, last year, my daughter, on the father’s day fed me. I can vividly remember when she took up the table spoon and insisted she must be the one to feed me.

    Curiously, like she knew that day, she never did it again thereafter 😉

    This post has a lot of meat and will definitely need a closer read. I have printed several of Harleena’s posts on this blog. I think this is one I have to print out. The content is great and thanks for making it a hot start with us here at aha-now.

    Will be waiting for another one from you. So, do have a wonderful week Vinay!

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 11, 2014 at 9:20 pm

      Hi Enstine,

      Thanks for the awesome compliment! Great that you like my writing too.

      That’s so sweet of your daughter – kids learn quickly from our behavior and imitate them.

      I had this post focused more on the teens and adolescents. Wow, it’s great to know that you take printouts of the posts.

      Thanks again for the welcome and you too have a great weekend!

  4. Balroop Singh

    June 11, 2014 at 7:31 pm

    Hi Vinay,

    Harleena must Thank you for being so good and co-operative…you seem to be a gem of a person! Of all the gifts that a father deserves is the love, care and respect and I am sure a person like you can evoke that spontaneously. I agree with you – all fathers expect their children to grow up into fine, responsible individuals, be independent and happy. If they keep up with the times and yet imbibe the values of their father…what could be a better gift?

    Fathers refrain from sharing their problems, tensions and most secret thoughts with their children. This creates a gap, which may create the misunderstandings. A good father is also the one who gives the same kind of gifts he expects. If he wants his children to be open about their life, he must make an effort to widen that emotional channel, which is often closed. He has to be filled with happiness to pass that on to his children…this post is loaded with all the values that he has to pass on! Thanks for sharing every possible point.

    I wish you a Happy Fathers’ Day and also the best of the gifts for you. Have a nice day.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 11, 2014 at 9:30 pm

      Hi Balroop,

      Thanks for the compliment. Honestly, I’ve vested interests too – I believe this blog can reach greater heights. 🙂

      That’s true – as a father I’m very much concerned about the future of my children – their security and stability. That’s my responsibility till they’re on their own.

      I believe it’s good to communicate with your kids, yet maintain a respectable gap too. Father and kids should be friends with boundaries, as that helps in better management and coordination. But yes, the connection via the emotional channel is a must.

      I’m glad you like the post and thanks for your wishes. Have a great weekend!

  5. Nikky44

    June 11, 2014 at 7:48 pm

    Thank you for this post. I have no many mixed emotions reading it. It made me look back at my own relationship with my father with all the ups and downs. It made me apreciate and love him more despite all the problems we have faced.
    I also felt a little guilty for depriving my children of their father, but then again, he wasn’t the loving and protective dad.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 11, 2014 at 9:43 pm

      Hi Nikky,

      It’s good that you balance yourself and can weigh the good objectively in spite of having contrasting subjective experiences. The best way to get relief is to forget and forgive, but its the toughest to make it happen too.

      I’m sure your kids will be understanding as they grow and adjust themselves to their situation, with your continued love and support. I wish you all the best.

  6. Temilola Globalwalyy

    June 11, 2014 at 7:52 pm

    Hello Sir Vinay,

    I must confess this is really an excellent post, i once though Ma Harleena is one of the best writer i ever see, reading your first post i must admit, greatness runs in your genes..

    Someone once told me, Everyone can become a father, but it takes hard work to become a great Father..

    This is really a beautiful post, and now that father’s day is around the corner..

    Am glad i was here to read this, i will really love to read more post from you Sir..

    Kind Regards,
    Temilola

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 11, 2014 at 9:49 pm

      Hello Sir Temilola!

      Hey, Harleena doesn’t carry my genes but I’ll take that compliment. 😉

      Fatherhood is real hard work, but enjoyable when your kids turn out to be cooperative and loving, which mostly depends on you.

      I’m glad you like the post. See you again soon. Have a great weekend!

  7. Perambur Kumar

    June 11, 2014 at 7:53 pm

    Hi Vinay,

    Red-carpet welcome to Harleena’s Blog

    Wonderful Post. I already suggested Harleena to put one banner between the post “Interval” or “Intermission” because reading such a longer post oh dear we need some coffee break or tea break. I am big fan of Harleena now you also joined that list.

    Vinay this is just a outstanding post. If you write the same post for Yahoo Lifestyle at present you’ve earned more than 2000 US Dollars. This post really a “Father’s Day – Special Post”

    Winning Pair of Blogging
    Main Udin and Shazida
    Now Harleena and Vinay

    Have a Great Weekend

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 11, 2014 at 9:57 pm

      Hi Kumar,

      Thanks for the warm welcome!

      I’m glad you like the posts even though they are lengthy. Next time, have your coffee ready in your hand before you start reading the posts. 😉

      Wow, that’s a big booty! You got to tell me the secret of Yahoo. Thanks for the compliment and glad you like the post.

      You too have a wonderful weekend!

  8. Yvonne I. Wilson

    June 11, 2014 at 10:31 pm

    Hi Vinay

    Welcome as this is your first post. While I am happy to be reading this post (which by the way is carefully thought through and beautifully written)it brings with it brings me to a place with a bit of sadness and regret.

    I hear all of the wonderful things you have said you would like your children to give you as a Father’s Day gift. Then brilliant lessons of life for every child.

    My sadness is not having my father alive today so that I could shower him with these gifts and to let him know that no matter what I love him. My regret is that he never taught me the seriousness of life as a child so when I grew up into adulthood and got a taste of the real world, I realized that there was something called “NO” Like really? But my father always let me have my way. He gave me everything I asked for! Hmmm..He never denied me. I was my father’s little pride and joy.

    Stuff like that I believe have affected me in my life, especially in my relationships. But I am encouraged because, while I have life, there is hope. I can teach someone else from my own experiences and pass on the lessons so that such mistakes are not made.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 11, 2014 at 11:40 pm

      Hi Yvonne,

      Thanks for the welcome and glad you like the post.

      I’m sorry about your father and he sure seemed to have taken well care of his little angel. He did what he thought was right – to give you the best of life because when you grow up, he knew it becomes difficult to remain happy.

      One thing is for sure that whatever happened, happened because it had to happen like that, and now it is up to you to try to understand the underlying reasons and configure your future plan of action.

      You’ve learned some aspects of life the hard way, probably to teach and help others. I’d suggest to have no regrets and be happy with where you are at this point in life. If you like what you’re doing, then you wouldn’t be doing it if things were a bit different in your past, right?

      I hope I make some sense. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences of life. Yes, there is always hope. 🙂

  9. Mohit

    June 11, 2014 at 11:30 pm

    Vinay superb post, and you have published it at the right time. Fathers Day is very near which means that this post will be useful for many. This day is very important day for kids as most of them spend entire day with their father. I learnt lot of things from this post. It made me realize somethings which I didn’t thought about before….

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 11:34 am

      Hi Mohit,

      I’m happy you like the post. I’m glad you learned from it and it helped you in someway.

      Thanks.

  10. Neamat Tawadrous

    June 12, 2014 at 1:24 am

    Hi Vinay,

    WOW, awesome awesome post and I don’t think you missed anything. Very thoughtful and well organized.

    I am a great fan of Harleena and her posts and the way she writes that really penetrates the soul especially when she writes about real life issues.

    Your post shows how a great father you are and the gifts you are asking from your kids are the best gifts a father could ask for. I am really touched by your love for your kids. I am a mother for 3 kids, all teen age now. Their father lost his father when he was 3 years old and being the oldest of his siblings, he took the role of the father when he was so young. But one can live fatherhood only once and that’s why there is a big gap between him and our children. I wish I can make him read this post. I will try. It really brought tears to my eyes.

    Thanks Vinay for a great post and I wish you a great and wonderful Father’s Day ahead!!

    Be Blessed,

    Neamat

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 11:43 am

      Hi Neamat,

      Thank you for the compliment and I really appreciate your thoughts and feelings.

      That’s true, my wife is a great writer. I hope I can reach that level one day. 🙂

      Yes, I love my kids and want them to have a happy, secure, and stable life while I’m alive. May be I’m too demanding, but I guess the gifts that I ask for will help them in the long-term.

      I can understand the situation in your family. I must appreciate your husband for taking up responsibility of the family at a young age. Probably he’s seasoned in fatherhood now and knows that you don’t have to always pull the strings.

      Thanks for your wishes and you be blessed too.

  11. mathi

    June 12, 2014 at 9:37 am

    Hi Vinay,
    Often the role of a father is overlooked as the accolades is always for the mother. Of course, a mother is the pillar of the family, but the stability a father gives to the family can never be ignored. Excellent posts on the expectations of a father. I was moved!

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 11:47 am

      Hi Mathi,

      A mother is always the greatest. As a father, I know that my family matters to me a lot and I’ve my responsibility towards my kids.

      I’m glad you liked my post. I’m honored. 🙂

  12. Latha

    June 12, 2014 at 12:34 pm

    Vinay,

    Lovely post, made me think quite a bit. I have never celebrated Fathers Day.

    I hope to this year. It might be too late to get him a gift, but I am thinking of sending him one for his birthday which falls a few days after fathers day.

    It is wonderful to learn a fathers perspective. My father never pushes us to do anything. We naturally or instinctively, just knew what he was thinking.
    It is strange the bond we share with our fathers. Words need not be said, nothing needs to be said, yet everything is said.

    I thank you for such a wonderful post and wish you a Happy Fathers Day.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 11:53 am

      Hi Latha,

      I’m glad my post could give you food for thought. With the birthday following up, I’m sure it’ll spice up your first Father’s Day celebrations. All the best!

      You and your father really have a special bond. It’s good to know about it.

      Thanks for your wishes, I appreciate them.

  13. Dr. Diana

    June 12, 2014 at 1:14 pm

    Hello,

    Father plays an important role in our life. He is the main hero when we birth. I love my mom dad so much. I am thinking to give iPad mini to my father on Fathers Day.

    ~Diana

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 11:54 am

      Hi Diana,

      Great idea for your gift! I’m sure he’s going to love it. Thanks for your comment.

  14. Ryan Biddulph

    June 12, 2014 at 3:18 pm

    Vinay, wonderful take! Being the best son or daughter possible, and doing the same for your kids, is a wonderful present. Thanks!

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 11:58 am

      Hi Ryan, I’m glad you liked the post. Ideally carrying out our duties can really make us all happy, and happiness is the best gift!

      Thanks for your comment.

  15. June

    June 12, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Fantastic post. My dad died many years ago. But I still celebrate his life by keeping his memories alive in my mind. He was an amazing dad and my best friend. He’ll never be forgotten.

    Harleena, I’ve awarded you the Very Inspiring Blogger Award. You’ve always been an inspiration to me. And this is my way of saying thank you. I hope you accept this award.

    Please pop over to my blog to find out why I think you’re such a passionate lady…

    Have a great day. 🙂

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 12:02 pm

      Hi June,

      I’m sorry about your dad but I appreciate that you still celebrate his life.

      I’ll pass on the message to my wife and I’m sure she’ll be happy with your award.

      Thanks.

      • June

        June 14, 2014 at 4:33 pm

        Hi Vinay,

        I must apologise. I thought Harleena wrote this post. How silly of me.

        You’re an excellent writer. Together you make a wonderful team. I hope this post will excel you to greater and bigger things in your writing career.

        Have a blessed day. 🙂

        • Vinay Kachhara

          June 14, 2014 at 11:31 pm

          Hi June,

          No need to apologize. It so happens at times when we’re preoccupied with other thoughts and tasks.

          Thanks for your compliment and wishes. Hope you’re enjoying your Sunday. 🙂

  16. Ilka

    June 12, 2014 at 4:29 pm

    Hi Vinay!

    Thank you for this great guest-post! And thank you Harleena for inviting Vinay to be a guest blogger 🙂

    I love the Sigmund Freud Quote and I had to laugh at the Mark Twain one.

    When I was a little girl I was convinced that my father could do, and especially fix, anything and everything. And I still like to see him this way. And even we don’t live in the same city, we are very close. Now he is going the extra mile for his grandchildren as well.

    He is, just like me, getting older though. Sometimes it hurts to see him struggling with something that used to be easy for him. But I hope I am – and I will be – giving back to him.

    Great Post! Blessings to all fathers who are pouring their love out on their children in their own special way 🙂

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 12:07 pm

      Hi Ilka,

      Thanks for your appreciation, and I’m really happy that you like my post.

      You really have a great and wonderful father! Thanks for being a concerned and dutiful daughter.

      Thanks for your wishes and great thoughts.

  17. Sylviane Nuccio

    June 12, 2014 at 7:35 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Ouff, I think I actually caught that post on time for once. Just can’t seem to be able to keep up this days. This post is actually a true guide for fathers. So, so much good stuff in it.

    Interestingly, according to Wikipedia Father’s Day was introduced in 1910, but at least in France this fathers’ celebration was pretty much ignored until the 1970’s. My guess is that back in the days, the father had much less relationship with his children than the mother did. The father was working and being the bread winner, but had very little one on one relationship with his children.

    I know it was the case of my grandfathers and sadly even as recent as my father. This is why when my father died when I was 5 my mom told me that I never showed any sign of missing him much, because he wasn’t SO MUCH part of my life when he was alive to start with.

    But luckily, fathers are so much more hands on today, and that’s such a good thing to see. Hopefully many fathers will be able to see this post.

    Great job! And have a great day 🙂

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 12:17 pm

      Hi Sylviane,

      You’re right about the relationship fathers used to have with their children earlier, though the same continues to happen even in the present times for many families.

      Being an involved parent is really what makes a difference. The present generation fathers are doing a better job.

      Thanks for your comment.

  18. Christy Garrett

    June 13, 2014 at 6:38 am

    I love that you took the time to honor Dad’s on your page. I think more emphasis is put on Mother’s day. It doesn’t take much to make my husband happy. He loves electronics and gadgets. 🙂

    I hope all the dads, dads to be, and other dad role models have a great Father’s Day.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 12:19 pm

      Hi Christy,

      Thank you for your understanding and kind wishes.

      Have a good day!

  19. Mi Muba

    June 13, 2014 at 7:26 am

    Hi Vinay,

    Thanks for writing this amazing piece of content on the occasion of Father Day that is the day to revive your pledge to follow the footprints of your father by telling him how much you love him.

    This day has more meanings for those who are both son and father and are lucky enough to spend their life with their three generation family.
    The lengthy but very very important pieces of advice you mentioned in this post are actually dream of every father to their children. But the most important thing is their expression and to make them heard what you want from them in terms of education, grooming and social life.

    I think love doesn’t reach to its height unless we express it to whom it is for in our heart. Similarly if we have any expectation for somebody we must let him know.

    Thanks a lot for sharing this wonderful post that’s really the best gift on this occasion.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 12:35 pm

      Hi Mi Muba,

      I’m glad you understand my perspective and value the advice given in the post. I believe kids should be taught lessons about life and how they can make their life better in the real sense by achieving long-term happiness. As fathers, it’s our duty to guide the children and show them the right path.

      I agree that the love that is expressed blooms.

      Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

  20. Adrienne

    June 13, 2014 at 8:14 am

    Hi Harleena and Vinay,

    It’s a pleasure to meet you Vinay and I almost didn’t stop by and read this only because I lost my father 11 years ago and I’m not married so my celebrations ended a while back for this day. But I’m happy I did now because I had a chance to not only meet you but find out that you’re also a writer.

    As I was reading I thought my goodness, this must run in the family. What a wonderful and thought out post and how very talented you are as well.

    We were never a family that was big on gifts, that’s the way my Mom brought us up mainly because of our finances. My Dad was a salesman that worked on commission and my Mom was a secretary at an elementary school. Still to this day my Mom would rather have our time and even a phone call then any gift. My Dad was the same way.

    What a wonderful post though so I want to say thank you for sharing this with us and please do have a special and wonderful Father’s Day!

    ~Adrienne

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 12:44 pm

      Hi Adrienne,

      I’m sorry about your father, but I’m glad that you stopped by.

      Thanks for the compliment and appreciation of my writing, though I’m still trying to make it as better what my wife writes.

      You had great and sensible parents. Personal attention and time are more valuable than any gift that money can buy.

      Thank you again for your wishes. Have a good day!

  21. Angela McCall

    June 13, 2014 at 10:32 am

    Hi Vinay,

    So you’re the guy behind Harleena’s posts. What a great Editor and Writer you are!!! Harleena is very blessed to have you as her partner in life and partner in business.

    Anyway, it’s nice meeting you. 🙂 Reading your post is like reading a book. WOW…how did you come up with all of these elements? What a wonderful way to illustrate in developing characters and discipline upon yourself. You know I was raised by my grandparents.

    I didn’t know my biological father till I was seven. I’ve learned that my mother didn’t want to be with my father anymore but in the Philippines (where we used to live) didn’t have any divorce. And so my mother felt compelled to stay with my dad, although she actually wanted to end the marriage. Unfortunately, I was actually disowned by my real father. Thank goodness I have the love of a grandfather whom I treated like my own father as I was growing up.

    Although my dad was a professional engineer and I thought he was a real genius, when “character” is missing from a father…it a huge difference. My father didn’t think I was his child, and thought that my mother cheated on him. But my mother said to him, “Do a blood test and I can prove to you she is yours.”

    I wish I can share with you my relationship with my father. But I don’t have one.

    My grandfather have been the father for me for 16-years. He was a great father. He loved and respected my grandfather and he always take us out to lunch or dinner during payday. We went to the movies. And guess, he was like the great substitute father for me. But still, I wish I’ve known my father more or I wish we had been close.

    Anyway, Happy Father’s Day. Your children are lucky to have you to be a father. Have a great weekend.

    Angela

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 1:03 pm

      Hi Angela,

      I’m happy that you like this post.

      On the other hand, I’m sorry for what all you had to undergo in your childhood. Glad that you had a wonderful caring and loving grandfather.

      I agree that its the values that make a person, fathers included.

      You had a fatherly bond with your grandfather, so you did have some level of a father-daughter relationship. And as I wrote in the post, its the love that matters more than the blood relationship.

      I guess you were destined to learn a different lesson and values of life.

      Thanks for your wishes and for sharing your touching life story. Have a good day!

    • Angela McCall

      June 14, 2014 at 1:57 pm

      Correction:

      He loved and respected my grandfather = He loved and respected my grandmother

      (Should be grandmother instead. I was writing faster than I could think. Sorry.)

  22. Addison Grey

    June 13, 2014 at 10:54 am

    HI Harleena and vinay,

    You have posted very lovely concept.Father roles is very important in children’s life. Almost girls is very closed with her father rather than son.On the occasion of father day you give beautiful idea to every one.

    Thanks for sharing 🙂

    Keep It up 🙂

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 1:04 pm

      Hi Addison,

      Thanks for your comment and I’m glad you like the post.

  23. Swetta Sharma

    June 13, 2014 at 12:39 pm

    Hello Harleena and Vinay,

    I going to tell you a truth that i never give a gift to my father except a big hug after reading this wonderful article i think is time to use your tips and ideas to make this day special for my Father. Thank you for sharing such a lovely article.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 1:07 pm

      Hi Swetta,

      That’s what your father expects and loves, a hug from you – that’s the best gift. I’m sure your father will love to see you grow and successful.

      Thanks for your comment.

  24. Sarah Park

    June 13, 2014 at 12:50 pm

    What a very lovely post.

    Very timely as well. My father didn’t want us spending on a father’s day present for him, so what my siblings and I would do is we help our mother prepare breakfast and we serve our dad breakfast in bed. We’d give him the “Ultimate Service” for the entire day. We’d let him watch sports all day and rub his foot and get him his stuff and all those sort of things and he was very happy at the end of the day. Such simple pleasures. Advanced happy father’s day to all your dads!

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 1:13 pm

      Hi Sarah,

      I’m happy that you like the post.

      You did one of the best things a father could expect as a gift. Thank you for doing that. You’ve all my admiration!

      Thanks for your kind wishes, have a good day yourself.

  25. Akaahan Terungwa

    June 13, 2014 at 3:02 pm

    Hello Vinay,

    My father is quite a simple man…on Father’s day, the old man would only appreciate the greatest gifts of all: my physical presence with him. As a father (on my own part), any act that my son exhibits in memory of the day towards me will be highly appreciated. Like my old man too, I’m also quite simple!

    Do have a very great day!

    Always,
    Terungwa

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 1:37 pm

      Hi Akaahan,

      Nice to know about your father, and he knows what the best gift is – your personal attention and time.

      Being simple is really great. Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it. Have a good day!

  26. Mikestephans

    June 13, 2014 at 7:32 pm

    HI Vinay Kachhara & Harleena,

    No doubt Fathers has Great importance in everyone’s life.
    Most importantly you had Posted a lovely concept.
    Really Appreciated.

    regards.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 1:39 pm

      Hi Mike,

      Glad you accept the importance of fathers. Hope you have a good time ahead!

  27. Jodi

    June 14, 2014 at 4:52 pm

    Vinay, it is nice to meet you. Is there Father’s Day in India?

    I like the Practice Goodness section. I don’t think we can emphasize enough that it is important to be good through and through. Yes, we all make mistakes sometimes, but good people don’t get caught up in that but keep setting the intention to be good from now on. (it’s less about expectation and being perfect but being gentle and compassionate.

    • Vinay Kachhara

      June 14, 2014 at 11:46 pm

      Hi Jodi,

      It’s nice to communicate with you too. It’s mostly certain sections of the urban population that celebrates Father’s Day in India. Though this event is largely popularized by the media and merchants.

      Good begets good, and that’s true. I think even the good people make mistakes, but the difference is that they would accept them without hesitation, improve upon them, and never repeat. Intention is what matters most.

      I agree with that it’s just being good, that is simple, kind, loving, and if you can lower or remove your ego, all the better.

      Thanks for your comment, good thoughts. 🙂

  28. karan

    June 17, 2014 at 4:00 pm

    Nice post, I just love this blog and my father as well. This is all what we can best deliver to our father.

  29. Sid

    June 18, 2014 at 5:01 pm

    Hi Vinay,

    Thanks for this lovely post!

    Though I’m a little late for this post, I think we can gift these things anytime we want. For me everyday is a ‘Fathers’ Day’ as I am near to him and learn more from him.

    Thanks, it would help me in future,
    Sid

  30. Ahsan

    June 21, 2014 at 9:42 am

    Hello Harleena,

    Father is certainly a dominating & key person in a family. He is the role model of every children. A child grows by seeing father’s activity. Father’s physical appearance makes a child afraid again makes him peace.

    On this special day, I wish my father live long & remain healthy 🙂

  31. macjoseph

    June 30, 2014 at 5:09 pm

    Thank you for this post. I have no many mixed emotions reading it. While I am happy to be reading this post it brings with it brings me to a place with a bit of sadness and regret.

  32. Sanjay

    June 21, 2015 at 3:28 pm

    Namaskar, indeed a very great and a timely post vinay, loved and relate myself to it, thanks for sharing your views, apart from achedmics what is more important is sharing time and imparting life’s lessons and keeping ones cool at times, wonderful post my friend, Congrats!!!

  33. Pankaj

    December 29, 2015 at 8:03 am

    Fantastic post. My dad died many years ago. But I still celebrate his life by keeping his memories alive in my mind. He was an amazing dad and my best friend. He’ll never be forgotten.

  34. Rob Martin

    October 25, 2016 at 2:30 pm

    Nice blog indeed, I live away from my family for doing job…after reading this blog I send a special gifts to my Dad. Keep posting blogs like this thanks great content, thumb ups!

  35. Ashu

    October 25, 2016 at 2:50 pm

    Awesome Blog so much knowledgeable, after reading this I feel much closer to my Dad. Definitely, every father does so many compromises in our life for their children.




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