How to Be Grateful Every Day and Make it a Habit

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We’re dependent upon and affected by other people, things, and events. Some help us directly and some indirectly by teaching us valuable lessons. We should be grateful to them. Research tells us that gratitude makes us happy and healthy. It also helps bond with other people and spread happiness and a positive atmosphere. Here’s how you can be grateful in your daily life in this re-published post. ~ Ed.

 

How can you be grateful every day? Do you find it easy to be grateful or express your gratitude? I think being grateful is an attitude that we need to cultivate daily.

You can learn to be grateful for just about anything that comes your way. Begin with the small things first, or things that happen every day that you appreciate.

Such things to be grateful for can be like waking up to a new day. Or being grateful for your health, kids, home, parents, job, phone, nature, birds, comfy bed, laughter, and having each other.

Being grateful helps us grow, evolve, and feel better. Even research reveals that gratitude improves well-being, mental and physical health, and helps you get on in life.

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” ~ Marcel Proust

Thankful grateful note

Why Do We Need to Be Grateful and Give Thanks

We give thanks to acknowledging someone else’s goodness and express our gratefulness.

We thank others when they do good things for us, though even the bad ones teach us lessons in return.

Hey! It’s Thanksgiving! Just as the word indicates – “Thanksgiving” has two words, ‘thanks’ and ‘giving’, and that’s what we need to do – thank others and learn to be giving.

Thanksgiving is a time when family and friends gather together to enjoy. They share a meal and take time to reflect on the things they are thankful for.

I love the spirit in which it is celebrated, and I wish all my friends who celebrate it – a very Happy Thanksgiving.

I personally like every day to be full of gratitude and giving. Not to mention that you need to instill gratitude in your kid’s too!

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” ~ William Arthur Ward

10 Ways to Be Grateful Daily

You too can cultivate the habit of gratitude every day by learning to be grateful and make it a part of your daily life and routine.

Try the following ways:

Keep a Gratitude Journal

I know many of my friends keep a gratitude journal, though some write it daily, while others maintain a weekly one.

Just write down what you feel thankful for. Also, mention the benefits that come from writing things you appreciate. It’s kind of a visual reminder that you can reflect back on often.

Some of you might prefer writing a gratitude letter to a person. It might be to someone who has had a positive influence in your life, but whom you’ve not thanked properly.

Have a Grateful Attitude

There are times when you come across problems or issues in your life. You need to re-frame them by keeping an affirmative attitude. Just remain grateful and positive even for such times.

Take such problems as challenges and opportunities to make you better. Don’t fear your failures; instead, be grateful that you are given the chance to make them stepping stones to your success.

Remain Positive

Sometime you might tend to compare your life to others and feel you aren’t lucky or you don’t have the LUCK factor in your life. You need to make positive comparisons instead.

Think about what you have in your life that others don’t have, and be grateful for those things.

Appreciate Everything

You should be grateful to each and everything in life. It’s not that you’ve to be grateful for only the big things in life. In fact, there’s nothing too small to be grateful for.

Develop a habit to appreciate anything and everything that you’ve in life. Don’t compare but just value them. Take nothing for granted.

Set Reminders

Initially, you would need small reminders to start cultivating an attitude of gratitude. Things like alarms in your phone, post-its on your mirror, or family and friends can remind you what is it that you want to be thankful for.

Learn to be grateful daily and make it part of your life.  You need to integrate it into your daily schedule till it becomes natural or second nature to you.

Express yourself

If you’re grateful, then let the people know about it, if you can. By expressing yourself you not only increase your level of happiness but also make the person at the receiving end happy.

Make it a habit to say thank you, as many times and as often as you can. Care for your loved ones whom you’re grateful to and spend time with them. Appreciate and praise whomever you’re thankful for and you’ll feel the happiness within and all around you.

Volunteer

A way to express gratitude is to volunteer and give back to the community. Volunteering is known to increase the well-being quotient within us. It has been researched that those people who frequently take part in volunteering activities are at the least risk of depression in life.

You help yourself by helping others. But that’s not why you’re helping; it’s just because you feel like and you get happiness as a return gift!

Be Humble

Humility and modesty make you more compassionate. Needless to say, if you’re humble you’ll be more grateful. Live with an attitude of gratitude towards all big and small things or people in life.

Life is filled with seemingly ordinary and small moments that if you reflect upon help you immensely directly or indirectly. Humbly accept and appreciate them and feel grateful for them in your life.

Practice Gratitude Before Meals

The meal that you eat is facilitated by many people and animals. If it weren’t for them, you would be left hungry and weak. It’s a good thing to thank them all the first thing when you sit down for a meal.

You can even make the mealtime as an opportunity for all to express their gratitude to whatever and whomever they feel grateful to.

Reflect On Your Day at Bedtime

Last but not least, recall the events of the day just before going to sleep and be thankful to all who helped you. Be thankful to all the good and bad events for helping you learn valuable lessons.

Researches prove that if you come to a truce and be peace with yourself and others before sleeping, you sleep with a light heart and that would help in falling asleep and have a sound sleep.

Make Gratefulness a Part of Yourself

Besides these, just learn to relax and make your life easy. That’s because you cannot be grateful when you are angry, anxious, or frustrated.

Take each day as it comes by living in the moment, without going back to your past or thinking about the future.

Be grateful for such life’s moments, and learn to treasure and value them because such moments will never return.

Value your relationships, and bring in more of affection, laughter, and joy into your daily lives. These are the things to be grateful for every single day.

“Let us rise up and be thankful; for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.” ~ Buddha

What Am I Grateful For

Ah…my list is quite endless though I will try to keep it short. When you want to be grateful, you can – for anything, whether it’s big or small, good or bad.

I am grateful to the Almighty for everything. I need to express my gratitude to my family and friends who have always been supportive and there for me – all the time.

Most of all for being healthy, having a roof over my head, and being financially stable. Besides, I remain grateful for having food to eat and to be able to help others.

I am also grateful to everyone I’ve come across because I’ve learned more about life and being a better person myself. And it’s often the rough or tough ones that teach you the best – isn’t it?

We tend to be grateful for things that make us feel good, but we need to also learn to be grateful for those that don’t.

“There is always, always, always something to be thankful for.” ~ Author Unknown

So, I am also grateful for:

  • Pain – because that has taught me to love life more.
  • People or things that hurt me – because then I am able to learn more about patience, tolerance, and compassion.
  • All the obstacles that come my way – because they are opportunities for me to get better.
  • People who make me angry – because that gives me a chance to grow. I learn to accept others and myself better. It reminds me to find peace within myself. It also reminds me that I am the only one who can put out that anger, and I learn more about forgiving.
  • Tears – for they bring out my emotions. And when that part of me is touched, I evolve into a better person.

Being grateful every day isn’t tough, but it requires effort on your part. If you learn to look at what you have in your life, instead of what you don’t, you will learn to be grateful and not complain.

“Be thankful for what you have and you will end up having more. But if you concentrate on what you don’t have, you’ll never, ever have enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Over to you –

What are you grateful for? How do you express your gratitude? What suggestions would you give to be grateful every day? Share in the comments below.



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  1. Viola Tam

    2012-11-22 at 5:22 am

    Hi Harleena,

    Congrtaulations! You well deserve the award!

    You have covered some very important tips here. Gratitude is an attitude. Once it has become our habit, we have a gratitude-friend for life. Every moment in life, there is a reason to be grateful for.

    For those who are finding it hard to appreciate life AS IT IS, I suggest your associating with more like-minded friends. Coming to Harleena’s blog is a good starting point.

    Thanks, Harleena, for your insights. I appreciate your friendship! Keep up the great work!

    Viola Tam

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-23 at 10:51 pm

      Thanks so much Viola! It was a pleasant surprise for me too. 🙂

      Yes indeed, gratitude is an attitude that we should make into a daily habit, though few are really able to be grateful everyday. I agree, there is something or the other to be grateful for each passing second, all we need to do is sit back and realize this simple fact – isn’t it?

      Ah…thank you for saying that, and everyone is most welcome here. I’m sure people would find more like-minded friends, just as you mentioned, who also appreciate life as much.

      Thanks for stopping by. I appreciate you and am grateful for your support as well. 🙂

  2. Mary Stephenson

    2012-11-22 at 2:15 am

    Hi Harleena

    Congratulations on your award, much deserved! You have so many cool things to say.

    Thank you for the “Super Sweet Blogging Award” it is greatly appreciated. Wow, I can’t believe it!

    I try to write down 10 things each night to be grateful for. Having a place to live, food to eat and so many things that others do not have, especially like folks on the east coast that lost everything. Life might not be perfect at the moment, but it is a long cry from being horrible. Love your Buddha quote.

    Definitely when we think of how other people’s situations are, ours seem insignificant in comparison. Being grateful definitely improves the mood to happiness.

    Perfect post for Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving!

    Mary

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-23 at 10:43 pm

      Thanks so much Mary for the warm and kind words!

      You surely DO deserve the award for the sweet person that you are, as I’ve come to know you over time.

      Nice to know that you also write down or maintain a gratitude journal and pen down your thoughts in it. Absolutely! There is so much to be grateful for that our lists can really turn endless when we begin counting the things, but yes, when we think of those people who don’t have as much as we do, we tend to love and appreciate life all the more – isn’t it? None of us have normal or perfect lives, but that doesn’t stop us from loving and living it. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving as well 🙂

  3. Praveen Rajarao

    2012-11-22 at 1:41 am

    Hi Harleena…

    This is the time of the year when people feel compelled to be thankful here in the US…makes me wonder why not the entire year instead??

    Yes, being grateful and appreciating what you have in life is very important and one can find loads of happiness in that. I am sure you covered most of the aspects in your post above.

    I have a FB friend, who has been following this “30 days of being thankful”…every day she posts a status where she thanks someone or for having someone in her life…it is quite amusing and I think that is a wonderful way of realizing what you have also.

    Have a wonderful day ahead.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-23 at 10:34 pm

      Absolutely Praveen!

      It make me wonder too as to why does Thanksgiving come just once a year, and why can’t we be grateful every single day of the year. And the result was this post. 🙂

      There is ONLY happiness in being grateful and giving to others, I see it no other way. Your FB friend sound like another person I know who does the same as she too puts up her gratitude status daily, and yes, by doing so you learn to appreciate and acknowledge all that life has put forth you.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post. I am grateful for your support and friendship. 🙂

  4. Barry Wells

    2012-11-21 at 8:34 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    congratulations on the awards, you certainly deserve them 🙂

    Thanks for awarding me with the Super Sweet Blogging Award, I’m very grateful to you for that, thank you. Do I need to do anything to comply with it?

    I do believe that we should show our gratitude on every occasion, especially when people are being good to us in some way.

    I’m extremely grateful for life itself as i died twice at the time of my injury but thankfully the medical staff were able to bring me back on both occasions. I still take them chocolates occasionally to thank them for my life, even though the medical teams have changed since then they’re still doing the same job.

    I’m grateful to ALL the medical staff that nursed me back to being independent and taught me how to live with my injury as well as the physiotherapy department that taught me how to cope with my “new” body and the hurdles I face.

    I’m grateful to the NHS, even though I sometimes moan about the time they take, for being there and helping us all survive our injuries as well as their continued efforts to improve things for me.

    Without them and their staff I would not be here to see my children grow into fine young adults or share life with my wife and family.

    I try and show my wife gratitude every day as I know the work load she has and the way she has dedicated her life to our family. To say i love her just doesn’t cover the extent that i do love her, she’s my rock, my companion, my soul mate and the first person I turn to for anything.

    I’m grateful to my children for being so understanding and compassionate, whilst missing out on so many things due to my condition. I’m grateful for them growing up to become fine young people that set themselves rules of life and tread a positive path.

    I’m grateful for my mother, who amongst many things, has taught me never to give up and keep pushing with everything we have.

    I think I could write a book on who and what I’m grateful for but that’ll do for now 😉

    I’m not quite sure about being grateful for the negative things that happen but I can see your point Harleena. Maybe I should turn my attentions to looking at those things more closely and taking what positives I can from them.

    I’ll end this comment with a note of gratitude for my blogging friends who have come to support me over my current health issues. It really does mean a lot and tells me that however bad i feel some days I’m not alone and there are people supporting me.

    You’re one of those people Harleena and I thank you from the bottom of my heart x

    Take good care,
    Barry

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-22 at 8:56 am

      Glad you could resonate with the post Barry!

      Thank you for your warm and kind words. And you certainly are so very deserving of the award for the sweet and wonderful person that you are. You don’t have to do anything to comply with it, other than pass it on to others if you feel like it. 🙂

      Absolutely! Expressing gratitude to people who have been good to us should be a regular process, and we shouldn’t really wait for days like Thanksgiving to really think about it – isn’t it? Even those who aren’t really good to us need to be thanked for teaching us something in return, though it’s not easy to do so.

      I love the way you expressed your gratefulness here. Especially after your injury and illness, there is a lot to be thankful for, and yes, the medical staff and nurses are God sent at such times. But what’s important here is that you remember and value them to date, and give thanks in whatever way possible.

      I’m sure your wife must be loving you as much as you love her Barry, and simply acknowledging the fact that she means so much to you is wonderful. (I need to make my hubby read this!)

      Oh yes…kid’s are quick to pick up things and when they say their parent’s unwell, they are the first ones to adapt themselves and rise to the occasion. So, one good thing that came up from your condition was that they learnt to be more compassionate and understanding – isn’t it something to be grateful for? I guess there is always something good in everything, though most of us don’t seem to notice it.

      There is so-so much to be grateful for, and yes you are right, we could compile a gratitude book from our list. Being grateful for the pains and hurt that life puts forth us is what really makes us what we are, and those negatives have a hidden positive in them too.

      Yes indeed, there are always people around who will support you because they like you for who you are. And that includes me too Barry! I appreciate and value your friendship, and hope and pray that you get well soon too.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post. 🙂

  5. Sylviane Nuccio

    2012-11-21 at 8:20 pm

    Wow Harleena,

    I usually come to your blog on Wednesday and Friday and what do I see, we have the same theme blog post today!

    The good thing is that it’s also two very different posts at the same time and that’s the beauty of blogging.

    I think that having a gratitude journal is such a good idea. As you said at the beginning for someone who is not “used to” be grateful on a daily basis they are going to have to have reminders, and that’s normal. As time goes one, though, they will get into such habit and will do it naturally.

    Gosh, it’s very important to NEVER compare our life to that of others, because that would be the stupidest thing to do. we ALL have access to the same opportunities and blessings, it’s just that most people are not aware of this, and therefore become envious. Big mistake, indeed.

    Congratulations on the blogger winners, by the way. Some new blogs to visit for me.

    P.S. I like Leena 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 10:06 pm

      Yes indeed Sylviane, this time we had almost similar topics shared on our blogs!

      But yes, the posts are very different from each other, yet about how to be grateful and Thanksgiving that we should practice everyday in our lives.

      Maintaining a gratitude journal takes time, though if you are used to keeping a personal diary and penning your thoughts in it, getting used to a gratitude journal won’t be a problem. But yes, for those who have a problem to remember to be grateful every day, setting reminders helps a great deal till it becomes second nature to them.

      You are absolutely right about how people tend to become envious of someone who has a little more than them because they compare without really noticing all that life’s given them too. But there are so many people we know around us who are like this, though I hope they change with time.

      Thank you for your wishes, and you must visit the bloggers mentioned as you are sure to like them too.

      Thanks for stopping by. Happy Thanksgiving. 🙂

  6. Amandah

    2012-11-21 at 6:16 pm

    @Harleena…Thanks for the award! I’ve been busy working on my manuscript and teaching a Junior Achievement class. I’m grateful for these opportunities. 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 7:09 pm

      You are so very welcome and deserving Amandah! I guess you are doing a wonderful job of teaching and working alongside, so in a way giving your best this Thanksgiving. 🙂

  7. Stan Faryna

    2012-11-21 at 6:00 pm

    Thank you, Harleena!

    Ironically, those three, powerful words are not enough to satisfy your spam filter. [chuckle]

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 6:54 pm

      Welcome to the blog Stan – nice to have you over!

      Those were indeed powerful words that touched my heart, but I do have an appetite for long comments – I’ll try to make an exception for you if my spam filter agrees to that 😉

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  8. Jodi Heal Now and Forever

    2012-11-21 at 5:23 pm

    I am grateful for my blogging friends and my wonderful family. I am grateful for the world, too, and all we can learn in it!

    I like the idea of a gratitude journal. i use this technique with my clients, as a way to counter negative thoughts, doing this, they build skills in see other perspectives in each event.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 6:53 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Jodi!

      Two wonderful things to be grateful for family and friends. And of course all that life teaches us – every single day. I guess the list can never really end when we sit down to write all that we are grateful for – isn’t it?

      I like the way you use the gratitude journal with your clients, and it must be helping them a great deal too.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  9. Vidya Sury

    2012-11-21 at 1:29 pm

    This has to be one of my favorite posts by you. I begin my day with a prayer of thanks and consciously feel grateful throughout the day for everything I experience, good and not so good

    Congratulations to you for the nomination to 50 Best Blogs by Women – 2012 – you richly deserve it!
    And congratulations to the blog award winners!

    Happy Thanksgiving – every day, Harleena! May you be blessed with happiness.

    Love, Vidya

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 6:44 pm

      Glad you liked the post Vidya!

      That’s a wonderful way to begin your day to be grateful for everything, whether it’s good or not so good – and the strength of such a powerful beginning help us sail through the rest of the day – isn’t it?

      Thank you so much, it was indeed a pleasant surprise to be mentioned among so many other wonderful bloggers too.

      Happy Thanksgiving to you as well Vidya, and I value our friendship which has grown over the year as well. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. It’s always nice to have you over. 🙂

  10. Sarah Park

    2012-11-21 at 12:41 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Being grateful for every little thing we have in our life is the best gift we could give to our creator. I had a teacher way back in grade school who always said to us that every time we receive little gifts or experience happy moments, we should always stop for a few seconds to heartily thank God.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 6:40 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Sarah!

      Yes indeed, it is the best gift and something that helps us get better too – isn’t it? Your teacher surely said the right things way back then and that’s why you remember those lessons to date. Thanking God for everything, whether good or bad is what I believe in too, and we just need to be grateful for all that life puts forth us.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  11. Sunil

    2012-11-21 at 8:31 am

    Hey Harleena! Awesome post I gotta say.

    Well, I am grateful to my mom each and every single day, she means my world to me. And I always express my gratitude towards her but some times I think its not enough for all her efforts that she has put on me for what I am right now. She deserves more than that. Happy Weekday 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 7:04 pm

      Glad you liked the post Sunil!

      Being grateful to your parents for all that they’ve done for you is wonderful indeed. Most of us tend to forget all the time our parent’s spend on raising us, and it’s because of them we are what we are today – isn’t it?

      It’s nice that you express your gratitude towards you mother and I’m sure she must be appreciating it. I agree that no matter how much we say or do, it’s never enough…our parents deserve so much more.

      Thanks for stopping by.:)

  12. Galen Pearl

    2012-11-21 at 6:33 am

    Developing a habit of gratitude is just about the most important thing we can do. I love your suggestions about how to integrate gratitude into our daily lives. I used to have my phone set to vibrate several times a day to remind me to pause and be grateful.

    And speaking of gratitude, thank you for the award! That was a nice surprise at the end of your post. Many many thanks.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 9:48 am

      Glad you could resonate with the post Galen!

      Yes indeed, if we can all develop a habit of gratitude, nothing can bring us more happiness in our lives. Ah…nice to know about your phone reminding you to be grateful, which is one good way to remind yourself to stop and be thankful.

      You are most welcome and so deserving of the award Galen for the great content you share on your blog. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours. 🙂

  13. Alice Chan

    2012-11-21 at 6:09 am

    Hello Harleena,

    Gratitude is tossed around so much now that it almost runs the risk of being “over-hyped.” Yet, it’s such a powerful force, so thank you for this post and for pointing out the things that don’t easily elicit gratitude, including painful life lessons.

    To me, I’d like to get to a place of asking, “What am I *not* grateful for?” After all, all of life is a blessing, even if I’m going through rough spots. In fact, while in the rough spots, I come to appreciate how much I took for granted in the past. So, gratitude really needs to become “muscle memory” in my everyday consciousness.

    Anyway, thanks again for introducing this topic for reflection and discussion. Happy Thanksgiving (early),
    Alice

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 9:35 am

      That’s true Alice!

      I hardly see very many people who are really grateful nowadays, especially for what they have in their lives. Instead, many tend to talk about things that they don’t have in their lives.

      I liked the way you put that question and asked what you are not grateful for, which would be a tough one to answer! Yes indeed, all of our life IS a blessing, though few really take it that ways, which I hope changes with time. It is during our trying and tough times that we learn to appreciate what we have and value it more.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post. 🙂

  14. David Stevens

    2012-11-21 at 3:39 am

    There’s no official “Thanksgiving” down here however it’s a day that can & should, be celebrated every day. That’s Life, be grateful that you have one. Nice work Harleena
    Be good to yourself
    David

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 9:27 am

      Absolutely David!

      When we want to be grateful there should be nothing stopping us, nor should we wait for occasions like Thanksgiving – isn’t it? Instead, we should make it an everyday routine till it becomes a habit with us.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  15. Hiten

    2012-11-21 at 1:04 am

    Hi Harleena,

    What an amazing post on how to be grateful! In particular, I liked point number 2 on facing problems and point number 3 on remaining positive.

    As I was coming to the end of your post, I read your thoughts on being grateful to aspects such as pain you’ve experienced and people who may have hurt you and those who showed anger towards you, as such things allowed you to grow. I’m totally with you on this one. As I think about it, I must show gratitude to all the problems I have faced until now, as it is these very challenges that have made me who I an today.

    I also express the greatest of gratitude towards my family, and friends including you. You are such a warm a person and I’m truly grateful for all the support you’ve shown me over the past year.

    Thank you so much for passing the Super Sweet Blogging Award onto me. It’s very kind of you and I definitely accept! 🙂

    Happy Thanksgiving to you.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 9:22 am

      Glad you liked the post Hiten!

      All of us face problems sometime or the other and have our rough patches in life. But what matters most at such times is that we learn to face those problems with a positive mindset, and be grateful for the opportunities for being given such problems as they help us become better people. And once you are positive, then you won’t really compare your life with others or feel that they’re luckier than you in any way – isn’t it?

      You are absolutely right about being grateful for the pain, anger, hurt, and sadness that we experience because of which we become what we are today. These are the main things that bring out the best in us in their own way I think, so all the more reason to be grateful for them too.

      Thanks so much for the warmth shown in your words, and I am grateful for having met wonderful friends like you too Hiten. It’s indeed been a pleasure knowing you and everyone else here. And you are more than deserving of the award, with many more to come. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. It’s always a pleasure to have you over, and Happy Thanksgiving to you as well 🙂

      • Hiten

        2012-11-22 at 12:38 am

        Hi Harleena,

        I loved your comment!

        As you say, once we are positive, we cease to compare ourselves with others or feel they are luckier than us. Amazing words and very true. Thank you.

        • Harleena Singh

          2012-11-22 at 7:17 am

          I guess I am also learning many things in life and it’s always good to share it with everyone – isn’t it?

          Thanks once again Hiten 🙂

  16. Jackie

    2012-11-20 at 11:06 pm

    Great tips… I personally love the reminder tip. It can be so easy to get all caught up in the rush of life, and let being grateful just slip by. The reminders are a great way to get yourself into the gratitude habit… because once you get started it really is a habit. 🙂 Congrats on your award.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-21 at 12:02 am

      Glad you liked the tips Jackie!

      Yes indeed, most of us tend to forget to be grateful for things that come our way, because of our hectic lifestyles that we lead. Setting small or gentle reminders helps in such cases and you mostly need them till being grateful becomes a daily habit with you.

      Thanks for your kind words, and for stopping by. 🙂

  17. Donna Merrill

    2012-11-20 at 11:05 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I could write all day long what I am grateful for. But to put it in a nutshell, Before I get out of bed, I think of the many things I am grateful for. I’ve been doing this for years and it is better than my morning coffee!

    Living a life of gratitude, brings us peace and joy. When things hurt, it is a sign to me that I have to re-think the situation. A message for me to dig deep into my soul and bring up forgiveness, understanding, empathy, etc.

    As we approach the day of Thanksgiving in the U.S. People seem to equate it with a turkey dinner, and football. When it is really about being thankful with the people we share the day with. It doesn’t have to be that one day. It NEEDS to be every day.

    I just loved this post!
    Donna

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 11:53 pm

      Absolutely Donna!

      I know our lists of being grateful can be endless, but we need to limit our words I guess. That surely is a wonderful habit to be grateful for the many things first thing in the morning. I might start doing the same, though once my kid’s are a little grown up and leave for college, because right now my mornings are so-so rushed sending them off to their schools and coaching centers. 🙂

      Yes indeed, there can be nothing more peaceful and soothing than living a life of gratitude, though few of us really understand this simple fact. Hurt does cause us pain, but just as you mentioned, it makes us re-think on our decisions, words, or actions that we might have taken also. I guess we evolve as better humans when we learn to be more forgiving, kind, compassionate and understanding.

      You are quite right and that’s what most people nowadays seem to focus on for Thanksgiving, when it’s all about being grateful and being more giving. I truly feel that if we really want to be grateful, we wouldn’t just be so for one day, but make it an every day affair.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post. 🙂

  18. neethi srinivas

    2012-11-20 at 10:57 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Lovely message on the blog and so in time for the thanksgiving time 🙂 Loved everything that you have shared.

    I realized a year and half ago that I am not really a grateful person because “thank you” was used by me only as manners & courtsey and I really didn’t mean it from within. Today, after having this attitude for gratitude every single day, and I can really say that with so much of confidence & pride, that I feel my life has turned around 180 degrees for the better of course. I use a gratitude stone and hold it in my hand and thank for all the good things that happened through the day and even the smallest of things (its amazing that once we start looking for the good things its surprising for how many things we can be thankful in a day) and make sure to choose the one closest to my heart and thank immensely. This surely re- energizes the entire being and I feel so charged up and up and about and so very positive about my life.

    The best thing that has happened because of me doing this every single night since more than a year is that my 7 year old son Aryan has started doing the same and has a separate gratitude stone for himself and its amazing to see a small child scan through his brain thinking of all the good things that happened to him through the day. He chooses 2 best things out of all and thanks from the bottom of his heart 🙂 I feel so good and proud and happy when I see him having the attitude of gratitude at such a young age.

    I will be reading out your blog to him over the weekend 🙂
    Thanks so much once again for such a wonderful blog.
    Hugs
    Neethi

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 11:36 pm

      Welcome to the blog Neethi – nice to have you over!

      I know we don’t celebrate Thanksgiving in our country, but I simply love the way it’s celebrated otherwise with a very nice message of giving thanks, which is what we all need to do – and do so every single day – isn’t it?

      I can well understand all that you must have undergone as we had talked about things earlier, so I’m not surprised as to how you must have felt earlier. It’s not easy to bear up all that you have Neethi, and am glad you are over that rough patch in your life.

      I love the idea of having a gratitude stone, and it seems to be working so well for you as you are the best person to see the energy and positiveness that’s come into your life. Yes indeed, once we start voicing or penning down what all we are grateful for, I think our list would be quite an endless one because there IS so-so much to be grateful for. Still so many of us tend to crib about things we don’t have, instead of appreciating what we do. (I’ve been guilty of that too sometimes, but I never said I was perfect and am learning to get better every day by appreciating what I have in my life and being grateful for it!)

      Isn’t that wonderful that even Aryan has started doing what you do? He surely is taking up good things from you and this will have a positive impact on this overall development as well. I remember when we were kid’s, my Mom used to have a chart made out where she would ask us to write down one good thing or deed we did for the day and what were we grateful for. As we were still young, she used to give each one of us a star if we did one good deed, or 2 stars if we did two of them – something to keep us motivated to keep doing a little good daily, and simply being grateful for all that we have in life. I still remember those lessons of life and they are so fresh in my mind after all these years, which I am sure even Aryan will remember and value when he grows up.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with everyone. 🙂

  19. Brenda

    2012-11-20 at 10:55 pm

    Woohoo!! Congratulations gf! An award that’s truly deserved. Your blog is very inspiring and I gladly share it with the rest of my friends!

    Thank you for the honor of such a fabulous award! I truly don’t believe I’m deserving so I am very grateful to you for seeing my blog worthy. (hugs)

    I am grateful for so many things as well. Life, family, my job, freedom, and good health. There are those around me that aren’t quite as fortunate and I try to be as supportive and positive with them. I express my gratefulness by given back to others and to nature. It’s hard to stay positive and “good” all the time and I slip, but I just right back in and try again.

    Thank you again Harleena and Congrats to you again!

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 11:20 pm

      Thank so much Brenda for the warm and kind words!

      Ah…I love your blog too and it is indeed a ‘sweet’ – well deserving one. I like all that you share on it too, so this one IS for you. 🙂

      Glad to know that you are grateful for so many things in your life too. You are so right about seeing those who aren’t as lucky as we are, nor do they have all that we have, which is all the more reason to be grateful for even the smallest of things He has given us – isn’t it? You are doing a wonderful job of trying to help those who aren’t as fortunate as us. And no one is really perfect, though all that really natters is that we keep making a sincere effort from our side and doing our best.

      Thanks for stopping by. Happy Thanksgiving as well. 🙂

  20. Ilka Flood

    2012-11-20 at 10:48 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    First, before I forget it, congratulations on your nominations! They are so well deserved. Great to learn some new things about you too 🙂

    As far as being grateful…I am grateful for a lot of things, especially my family, my husband and my kids. And of course Georgi who gives us so much unconditional love. I’m glad you mentioned the ‘Gratitude Journal.’ I have wanted to start one a long time ago but haven’t gotten around to it. I actually have one already that came with a ‘Vision Board’ and Jack Canfield’s “The Key of Living the Law of Attraction.” So I will start January first.

    Thanks for the reminder and have a great week!

    Ilka

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 11:06 pm

      Thank you so much Ilka – I am indeed humbled.

      Nice to know about things that you are grateful for in your life, though I have a feeling you would have an endless list like me too – isn’t it? I mentioned the gratitude journal because I used to write one long back, and I also know of a few online friends who write one and it surely IS making a difference in their lives. Would be wonderful if you start yours with the New Year’s. I guess I needed a reminder myself too. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. It’s always a pleasure to have you over, and I appreciate and value your friendship as well 🙂

  21. Lisa

    2012-11-20 at 9:12 pm

    Harleena, congratulations on your well deserving awards. Nice badge!

    I’m honored to be included in your list. Thank you. I’m grateful for all the wonderful friends I’ve met online and have taught me so much. I’m also grateful to my long time friends, (none on social media) and my family. Have a wonderful thanksgiving Harleena.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 9:32 pm

      Thanks Lisa!

      You are more than welcome and so deserving. I remain grateful for your friendship as well and for the wonderful other friends I’ve met, mostly online and through my blog. And I think there can be no better occasion than Thanksgiving for giving thanks to all of you. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours too. 🙂

  22. Mayura

    2012-11-20 at 7:30 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    First, let me congratulate you for being awarded dear 🙂 Very nice and you well deserve it…

    I’m overjoyed seeing my friends (Lisa, Brenda & Barry) being awarded here too 🙂 << Congratulations friends

    I agree with you ~ "Being grateful everyday is not tough" 🙂 But for one who hasn't been doing that, it takes some time to practice. I had a friend who was thinking that all trouble is happening to her and not with others. Isn't it common? 😉 Well, after a few months she was able to practice being grateful to what she has first, and good stuff she had. She's now doing lot better than before and she started to attract lot of friends too. I'm happy for her now 🙂 It's really a life changer.

    Usually I try to be grateful for good things that comes for me, but I don't know, I may have missed sometimes without noticing it. I tend to think everything has a silver lining Harleena, so mostly I could be grateful for everything I have. Everything happens for a reason, no? 🙂

    Well, for me, I feel I have more than enough 🙂 I'm grateful for my family, girlie, friends and every person around me who loves me the way I am. Can't forget mother nature and her children too 🙂 Why not, inanimates too – PC, Mobile and everything filling me with happiness 🙂

    From my childhood I had a habit to not keep inanimate objects alone 🙂 I always arrange them to be together so they are not alone and can talk with each other 😀 lol… It makes no sense, but I feel it for them too.

    Yet I don't know what I'm missing too. Apart of all, you are right about being grateful about what made us feel bad. I need to do that. It made me the person I am today. I'm happy about what I have learnt of all though, I'm not like to remind all situations 🙂 That's very true Harleena.

    I'm grateful for you for coming up with this kind of posts as they remind me about what I'm missing too 🙂 I'm improving with them. As I always say, I have awesome friends 🙂

    Cheers…

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 8:13 pm

      Glad you could relate so well with the post Mayura!

      Thank you so much for your kind words for the awards, which were indeed an honor to receive. 🙂

      They are all so worthy of receiving this award and many more, and that includes you too. But as I had already awarded you earlier, I just wanted to pass on this one to those whom I hadn’t earlier, or else you were one of my top choices for the ‘sweet’ person that you really are.

      Yes indeed, being grateful is easy, but it does take time for those who aren’t used to it, just as in the case of your friend. It is common to think that we are the only ones who undergo all the problems in life, or we tend to feel that we have nothing to be grateful for. I guess we tend to forget that all that’s been put forth us, even if it’s not good, is a lesson to learn from to improve and get better – isn’t it? I’m glad she’s doing better now.

      Taking each day as it comes and living it to the fullest is what I’ve always believed in, and yes, there is always a silver lining to each day, just as you mentioned. If you can appreciate these simple facts, you will always be a happy person. And yes, even my husband says that everything that happens, happens for the better and for a reason, so learn to accept and adapt yourself to those things, and be grateful for them.

      You made a good point about mother nature and also the inanimate objects – I guess we can’t forget them too. I loved the way your kept these object next to each other so that they are not alone, that shows a caring side of you and a person who has lots of feelings. 🙂

      I just felt that we all tend to be grateful for the good things that happen to us, but what about the bad ones or those that bring us unhappiness. Yes, those feelings aren’t easy to deal with when they come, but if we think about them, don’t they always teach us something in return – so we need to be grateful for those feelings and emotions too – isn’t it?

      I am grateful for your friendship and constant support too Mayura, and it’s a pleasure if my posts can help you in whatever little way they do. It makes me feel that my purpose of blogging is accomplished. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by, and for your wonderful contribution to the post – as always. 🙂

  23. Aditya

    2012-11-20 at 6:58 pm

    What can I tell you, I’m so glad to have met awesome and positive people like you in my life. I must give you credit for the dramatic positive change in my attitude. I’m grateful to everything I have in my life right now, to what I’m today, to my friends, to my blog and everything around me particularly family and mom.

    Thank you so much for the super sweet blogging awards, appreciate it 🙂

    Awesome post, good luck and be chirpy!

    Aditya

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 8:24 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Aditya!

      Thanks so much for the warm and kind words. It’s indeed been a pleasure knowing you, and I value your friendship as well. 🙂

      Nice to know that you remain grateful to so many people as well and that you didn’t forget your Mom and family, who are always there for you – isn’t it? I remember you talking fondly of your Mom’s support during your down times and being always there for you.

      You are most welcome and deserving of the award, and I hope and pray you get many more. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  24. Corinne Rodrigues

    2012-11-20 at 6:46 pm

    I have so much to be grateful for, Harleena.

    For love and family and the freedom to do what I love. I’m grateful too for your friendship, that has grown over this year. ♥♥♥
    My ‘gratitude suggestion’ is to go to bed giving thanks for all the experiences of the day – good and ‘bad’.
    Congratulations on the awards, Leena. You deserve many more!

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 7:12 pm

      So do I Corinne!

      Family, love, kids, the freedom to do what we want as you mentioned – there is so-so much to be grateful for indeed. I guess words fall short – isn’t it? 🙂

      I am grateful for your friendship too and am so glad we connected. I agree, because that was something my mom and grandmother taught me when I was a child too – to always give thanks for all that you undergo during the way, whatever it might have been. And that’s now become a habit with me, something that I’m trying to instill in my kids too.

      Thanks a great deal Corinne for your kind words, and for stopping by. 🙂

  25. Amandah

    2012-11-20 at 5:42 pm

    I’m grateful for my mom. She’s the best mom in the world! My mom’s very supportive of my writing career and has helped me throughout the years in more ways than one.

    I express my gratitude by keeping a gratitude journal and naming out loud what I’m grateful for. Sometimes,
    hearing what I’m grateful for is better than writing it down. Saying the words out loud reinforces that I have much to be grateful for even when things don’t go my way every day.

    I suggest counting your blessings because your life can change in a split second. Tomorrow is never guaranteed. Be grateful for what you have and focus on that instead of what you don’t have or want right now. It could be timing.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 7:03 pm

      That’s wonderful Amandah!

      There can be nothing better than being grateful to our parents for all that they’ve done for us over the years, whether it’s your Mom or Dad or both of them. I am sure she must be so very proud of your writing career and achievements. 🙂

      Ah…nice to know that you keep a gratitude journal, something that I used to keep, though long back – so though I’ve written about it, I still need to get back with it. Even saying out loud what you are grateful for brings in those positive vibes in us – isn’t it? I still have to try this one out.

      Absolutely! Count every blessing that comes your way and make the present the best one, because you can never say about the very next second. So, what is there is the NOW, which we all need to value and be grateful for. Appreciate what you have rather than what you don’t, and by doing so, you become a much happier person.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post. Congratulations for the award too. 🙂

  26. B k chowla

    2012-11-20 at 5:23 pm

    Yes,one must always be grateful for whatever happens in life.

    I for one thank God Almighty every night for having given me another day to stand by those who needed me. Once again,first thing in the morning for giving me another day.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-11-20 at 5:36 pm

      Absolutely BK!

      We need to be grateful for the good and the bad that life holds in store for us, though I know it’s easier said than done. But that’s the only way we can make it a habit – isn’t it? Just by taking it as His will, we can find more ourselves more at peace and slowly it does make us happier too.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂




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