Transform Your Life to Be Happy in 17 Simple Steps

How to change your life to be happy

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Life transformation is nothing but all about bringing qualitative change in your life.

Once you transform your life, you feel a lot different. You turn from a pessimist to an optimistic person and from a sad person to a happy one.

You may feel that you’ve changed from being an unlucky to a lucky person, or becoming a successful person from an unsuccessful one!

This change can be emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual in nature.

Let’s not talk about betterment in terms of money and materialistic things because those happen as a byproduct of the life transformation process.

But even if that doesn’t happen, you actually move into a state where such things don’t really matter much.

You gain control over yourself. You change from being a helpless person to a helpful resource, and become a winner rather than a loser.

A good change in life definitely makes you content and happy in various degrees and ways.

There’s no doubt that you need to transform your life to be happy, successful, and at peace.

If you have any doubts about it, then I suggest you to read my earlier post – “Should you change your life?”

That post might stir your mind and set you to re-think about your stance! After all, a revolution in your life begins with your thoughts.

You can change your thoughts and change your world, but only after you’re completely convinced that you need to do so!

If you think that it’s the right time to change for you, then let’s go ahead and bring about the transformation in your life.

“Transformation literally means going beyond your form.” ~ Wayne Dyer

How to Transform Your Life and Be Happy

As I mentioned above, you can change your life with your thoughts. Your thoughts transform into wisdom with experience and knowledge.

On the other hand, knowledge or experience can also motivate you to change your thoughts and your life.

Do read my earlier post titled – “How to change your life with knowledge” for a detailed discussion on this topic.

To recap, in that post I wrote about the simple things you need to do to change your life with knowledge.

These include – knowing yourself, then learning something that can help us improve, and finally practicing what you learn.
You need to go into the detail of each of these steps and more, for total life transformation that will fill your life with happiness.

“Happiness depends more on the inward disposition of mind than on outward circumstances.” ~ Benjamin Franklin

Life Transformation: 17 Steps to Change Your Life

Your life transformation is all about changing yourself. It starts with you and ends with you.

I’m pretty sure by now you understand what transformation of life is all about.

You can transform your life once you transform yourself.

Since you don’t have to depend on anyone or anything else, the key to transform yourself lies within you.

I’d suggest a multi-step approach to prepare yourself and creating chances for changes in life.

I say “chances” because these steps don’t guarantee life transformation, but if you follow them, you’ll surely end up in a much better state than what you are in now, and probably will be a lot happier.

These steps in the life transformation list may appear to be too many, but they won’t seem so when you implement them practically.

Here are the steps to make your life better and bring you happiness. You may change the order if you like, which entirely depends on you.

A woman is happy to experience life transformation

“The only thing that stands between you and your dream is the will to try and the belief that it is actually possible.” ~ Joel Brown

STEP 1: Believe in Yourself

This is the biggest and best mantra of being successful in life.

You’ve all the potential to be what you want to be – you just need to convincingly know that. This thought should appear as a doubtless fact to you, or feel like an unrealized reality – that you can do it.

Self-belief is the biggest force and the essential element to transform your life.

STEP 2: Know Yourself

Remember, nobody can know yourself better than you. Make the effort to find out your strengths and weaknesses.

In the process, you might surprise yourself with your hidden abilities and talents that you never even imagined you possessed.

Knowing yourself creates self-awareness, which is when you realize that there’s need for change in life.

STEP 3: Accept Yourself

Neither are you perfect, nor is anybody else. You should strive for perfection, but first you need to accept your mistakes, faults, shortcomings, and weaknesses.

Accepting that you’ve a problem opens up the door to improvement, and the much needed change to bring happiness in your life.

Self-acceptance is like giving yourself the permission to transform your life, if you believe in change.

STEP 4: Love Yourself

I don’t mean that you become a narcissist, but you should find qualities in yourself that you appreciate and like.

When you begin to like yourself, you’ll be happy and at peace.

Your self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-respect will soar, and your complexes will vanish. You’ll start taking better care of yourself in all aspects, including your beauty and health aspects.

Loving yourself gives you the energy to bring the desired transformation in your life.

STEP 5: Be with Yourself

You live in a family and are part of a society. You are surrounded by family or friends most of the time, or you find yourself immersed in work or other activities.

You need to take out the much needed “me time” – the time to be with your Self, in solitude.

Practicing meditation for some time everyday gives you the opportunity to listen to the faint voices and thoughts that arise from deep within.

Being with yourself can give you the power and potential to bring about a revolution within you.

STEP 6: Have a Purpose in Life

If you know yourself, you’d know that every living being, thing, and event in life has a purpose. You need to know your purpose of life.

Once you find out what you want to be, things you want to do, or places you want to go; you’ve set yourself a goal.

With the power of your belief, you can easily achieve your goals and transform your life.

Having a vision and purpose makes your life meaningful, useful, and interesting.

STEP 7: Make the Right Choices

Life is all about the choices you make.

If your choices are like the steering of your car, which symbolically represents your life, then your life or the car will follow the path steered by your choices.

Your purpose in life can be achieved only if you choose the right life option among the many that life presents to you in its course.

The choices you make regarding your studies, work, skill development, life partner, workplace, job etc., determine if you can make your life better and happier.

Making the right choices are the micro steps in transforming your life.

STEP 8: Set Priorities

Now that you’ve set the goal of your life, you need to implement it in your life.

Know what you need to do and when, so that it serves your purpose well.

Leave out things and tasks that have no meaning for you. Set your life priorities and do those things first that help you in transforming your life.

Prioritizing not only helps you save time and effort, but also makes you progress faster.

STEP 9: Change Your Attitude

Your attitude is a mental state that is composed of your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and values.

Your negative or weak mental state might not really help you in achieving your purpose of life. Your failure and success in life depends on your attitude.

You need to change your attitude if you wish to change yourself and your life.

STEP 10: Develop Passion

You can only transform your life if you’ve a strong drive or passion to do things. Your drive is powered by your true and strong feelings and emotions.

Passion is your emotional determination that develops a strong liking and desire to achieve something in life.

Life without passion is like an Indian curry without spices. 🙂

STEP 11: Let Go and Forgive

Don’t hold on to grudges or your negative emotions of hate and revenge – release them.

Such feelings will pull you down and not let you transform your life.

As far as possible, forgive the people and events that disturbed you and your life. There’s no use holding on to past grievances as they only make your life miserable and hurt you more.

Letting go and developing tolerance sets you free to change your life.

STEP 12: Improve Relationships

Relationships matter to me, you, and everybody. Many a times they tend to define your life and your life course.

The support you get from your improved relations makes a difference in your attitude, purpose, and brings happiness in your life.

Improving your relationships with kindness helps get rid of misunderstandings and other negativity.

STEP 13: Be Responsible

You need to stop blaming or complaining about people and things in your life. Stop being a victim, instead, take charge of your life and be proactive.

Be mature enough to be responsible for your actions and take life as it comes. Remember, when you can’t change life, change yourself.

By being responsible, you can be more determined to change and bring happiness in your life.

STEP 14: Take Risks

Have no fear – it’s a negative attribute. Remove the fear of failure from your psyche.

When you believe in yourself and have self-confidence, then there’s no place for fear.

Always treat failures as stepping stones to your success because they always teach you lessons in disguise, though you get to know about them much later.

Taking calculated risks in life increase your chances of success and being happy.

STEP 15: Practice Gratitude

Be thankful to everyone and everything that you come across in your life.

It’s because of them that you’re in your present situation and here. Remember, if your condition is bad, it could have been worse.

If you feel you’re in a better condition than many others, then you’ve all the more reasons to be grateful for.

Practicing gratitude fills you with love and makes you more content and happy in life.

STEP 16: Develop Good Habits

When you made the effort to know yourself, did you come across any bad habits you possessed? It’s time now to discard them and adopt the good habits.

It’s not only about your habits, but also the routine you follow that might need to be changed.

Change your life pattern and the way you live your daily life, if you feel it needs to be changed.

STEP 17: Expect the Best

Life will give you the best, only if you expect the best. The Law of Attraction works well here and will bring in all the positives in your life, if you remain positive.

Keep yourself motivated, keep striving to give your best, and remain focused on what you want in life.

Best expectations are realized when you make your best efforts, best choices, and put your best foot forward in all aspects and respects.

When you expect and give your best you’ll definitely make your life different from what it was before.

Here’s a video that you must see as it adds many other characteristics and dimensions for transforming your life.

Transform your life ~ Wayne Dyer ~ YouTube Video

“To become different from what we are, we must have some awareness of what we are.” ~ Eric Hoffer

Small positive changes in life add up to make big positive changes.

If you adopt a most of these changes and they make you feel a completely different person and happier than before, then it’s a clear indication that you have transformed your life.

I’m sure now you know that changing your life isn’t difficult – is it? But it isn’t easy either if you don’t follow the above steps.

There are many ways to achieve transformation of your life – it can be through losing weight, learning new skills, taking up new courses, or securing more sources of revenue.

No matter what way you choose, you need to follow these steps of transformation because you experience a total change of your life only when you change yourself.

Remember, there’s no magical formula for life transformation, but these steps do bring the magic in your life. So, are you ready to transform your life to be happy? 🙂

“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.” ~ Lao Tzu

Over to you –

I know this post isn’t comprehensive as a lot more can be added to it. Most importantly it lacks your contributions in form of views, thoughts, and examples from your personal experiences.

Pour them over to make it a complete guide to transforming life to achieve happiness. So, tell me –

Did you ever feel the need to transform your life? What steps did you take? What additional steps would you suggest for total life transformation and to be happier in life? Share in the comments.

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  1. Darlene Lancer, MFT

    August 25, 2013 at 11:01 pm

    Another great post! Loving myself used to mystify me, until I learned how. My book explains in depth the steps you suggest. Two articles are helpful. The first explains the difference between self-esteem, self-acceptance, and self-love. The second suggests 10 Tips to Self-Love.

    Darlene Lancer

    • Harleena Singh

      August 26, 2013 at 7:45 am

      Hi Darlene,

      Glad you liked the post and could relate to it. 🙂

      Nice to know more about your book and it’s great that you have written about this earlier.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views. 🙂

      BTW- Why don’t you get yourself a Gravatar, so that we can see who we are talking to. Just a friendly suggestion as I do see you have a nice picture at your blog. 🙂

  2. Kalina Slavkova

    August 7, 2013 at 10:30 pm

    This was an extremely motivational post 🙂

    It seems we think it’s silly that simply loving and believing in ourselves can transform our lives. Transformation depends on action, right? Little do we know that our actions rely entirely on our mindset and our subconscious beliefs. So we have to love and believe in ourselves!

    Great post, Harleena! Thank you!

    • Harleena Singh

      August 7, 2013 at 10:54 pm

      Hi Kalina,

      Glad you liked the post on how to transform your life to be happy 🙂

      Yes indeed, transformation depends on our thoughts and actions, and we can change to become what we want, and when we want. The self-belief is all we need – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂

  3. Damayanthi

    July 30, 2013 at 1:09 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    What a great post. The most important thing I do every night is write my gratitude journal. It help me to be positive even on a crappiest day because there are so many things that I can be grateful. The thing was before I started writing this journal, I took these things for granted.

    There are few things here that I need to improve on for example – taking ‘me’ time, loving myself, feeling guilty about things that I have no control over. I have to grow so much in this area.

    Thanks for sharing Brent’s video.

    Have a great week.

    Damayanthi

    • Harleena Singh

      July 31, 2013 at 7:32 am

      Hi Damyanthi – nice to have you back after long 🙂

      Writing a gratitude journal is a great way to remain grateful and pen down your thoughts about it. It reminded me of the time when I used to do that too while I was studying, and it surely does help a great deal to make you a better person.

      You’re not alone because I need these reminders myself too, and taking out the ‘me’ time is the toughest of them all. I guess you get so tied down with other things and give those priority that you forget yourself in the run. Glad you liked Brent’s video – I think he spoke a lot of wisdom – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by, and have a nice week ahead as well 🙂

  4. Prince Ramgarhia

    July 30, 2013 at 7:13 am

    This is such a nice article me need to follow this for happy life. always find something interesting in your blog..

    • Harleena Singh

      July 30, 2013 at 7:26 am

      Hi Prince,

      Glad you liked the post. 🙂

      Yes, if you can follow these steps, they would surely transform your life to bring you more happiness in your life. Thanks for your kind words of appreciation 🙂

  5. yogesh pant

    July 29, 2013 at 8:42 am

    Hi Harleena,

    When we do not get the required output for our hard work as input, demotivation prevails. In this situation, it becomes quite difficult to stay happy. You have given very nice points to be happy in those conditions too. Believing in ourselves and not loosing hope will work but it all needs patience.

    Thanks for the motivating article.

    • Harleena Singh

      July 29, 2013 at 10:02 pm

      Hi Yogesh,

      Yes it does, and that’s very normal too, something that happens with all of us 🙂

      But just as I mentioned it’s all in our mind and the choices we make. If we choose to be happy, nothing can stop us, whereas if we choose to be unhappy, then too, nothing can stop us from feeling that way. Yes, with time and patience, things do work out and you can transform your life with ease.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂

      • yogesh pant

        July 30, 2013 at 8:36 am

        But it is easier said than done.
        It needs experience to generate skills to choose happy while we are in a state of low ebb. However, if we once have generated such skills, there is really no one who can stop us from being happy.

        • Harleena Singh

          July 30, 2013 at 8:46 am

          I agree that it’s not easy, Yogesh. But as you mentioned, once you gain experience and have gained the required knowledge and wisdom along the way, nothing is difficult either. These steps will help you transform your life to be a much happier person, and you can pick just a few of them to get started – isn’t it?

          Thanks once again 🙂

  6. Hiten

    July 29, 2013 at 1:13 am

    Hi Harleena,

    This was a brilliant post and the 17 steps you included for life transformation were fantastic.

    Personal transformation is an area that is very close to my heart and something I’ve been doing for the past 11 years or so.

    One of the steps you included in your list really stood out for me. It was the last point about expecting the best. This is such a powerful attitude to adopt and anyone can do so, no matter what their background, experience, qualifications etc. is. By expecting the best, we take control of our own self-worth, and truly believe we deserve to live a life of abundance.

    Thank you.

    • Harleena Singh

      July 29, 2013 at 9:32 pm

      Hi Hiten,

      Nice to know that you liked the post and could relate to the mentioned steps to transform your life 🙂

      Yes indeed, you are the right person to know all about personal transformation, something that you yourself too have been undergoing I think – isn’t it?

      You are absolutely right about the last point, though very few of us do that. More so, when you expect the best, you WILL get the best too. The positiveness or Law of Attraction always works in such cases, but provided you believe – that is the core of it all, isn’t it?

      I just wish people would try and adopt a few of these steps in their lives to see their lives transformed, which is bound to make them happier than they might be earlier.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post 🙂

  7. Jens P. Berget

    July 27, 2013 at 7:30 pm

    Lot’s of great advice Harleena.

    I’m always interested in learning more about how to live a happy life. The biggest challenge I have had in the past has been your #1, believe in yourself. It took me many years to understand that I can do anything I want to. And, after that, things have been so much easier. The past years, I’ve been thinking a lot about what my purpose in life is, and what I’m really passionate about. I’m always learning, that’s for sure 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      July 29, 2013 at 9:23 pm

      Hi Jens,

      Glad you liked these steps to transform your life 🙂

      Ah…don’t we all look for ways to be happy, but how many of us really find what we are looking for. I agree with you, self-belief isn’t easy for most of us for various reasons, and it often takes a while before we get that self-confidence.

      I guess if we think we can….we can! We just need to believe in that small inner-voice that keeps telling us to carry on against all odds, but we tend to stop that voice most of the time, don’t we?

      Once you find your answer to that one, which again is hidden within you, you’d be a much happier person because you’d have a real focus in life then, or perhaps you’d know which direction your life is headed. Yes, learning should never end, and that’s how we evolve. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  8. kumar chandan

    July 27, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    Hello Mam,

    I fist time came on your blog and I find it very motivating. You are a true motivator. To live a happy life there need to some transformation in us. We have to start love our self, believe our self and most important is our self confidence of doing something change every thing bad to good, looser to winner. thanks for sharing. 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      July 29, 2013 at 9:13 pm

      Welcome to the blog Kumar!

      Nice to know that you find my blog inspiring and motivating 🙂

      Yes indeed, if you can transform your life to bring you happiness, nothing like it. I don’t say we all need to transform our lives, but if we do, there is no harm in doing so – for the better, isn’t it? It is all in our mind – we can become a winner from a loser in the split of a second, provided we want to.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

      • Kumar Chandan

        August 2, 2013 at 12:51 pm

        Hello, Harleena mam,

        If a bit transformation gives us better happiness, better life, makes us better and influenced human, why don’t we? Again,that bit of transformation depends on our mind, or I better say, our unconscious mind. Isn’t it? I personally feel, transforming a human is not possible without the involvement of mind (conscious and unconscious). I agree with you, there is no harm in a bit transformation. I will always remember your suggestions.
        Thank You.

        • Harleena Singh

          August 2, 2013 at 1:25 pm

          Hi Kumar,

          Yes indeed, if a change can make us better, there is no reason not to adopt that change in our lives. I agree, it is all in the mind and if we want, we can achieve anything and everything, provided there is a strong will for it.

          Thanks once again 🙂

  9. Nate Leung

    July 27, 2013 at 11:09 am

    Hi Harleena,

    You laid out some important highlights when it comes to transforming your life and be happy.

    How does one expect to transform their life if they don’t believe in themselves? We all have the potential to be whatever we want to be if we put our minds into it.

    Accepting yourself is another big one. I think as human beings we sort of beat ourselves up a little bit. We think we’re failures but we’re not. If we all learn to change the way we think our paradigm will shift. We need to accept ourselves for what we have become.

    That leads to loving yourself. Once we love ourselves we will be happy and be at peace. I agree with you there 110%. Awesome points you have laid out!

    Thanks the awesome Article!

    Have a great weekend!

    • Harleena Singh

      July 29, 2013 at 9:06 pm

      Hi Nate,

      Absolutely! You cannot transform your life if you don’t believe in yourself and your abilities. It all first starts from you! We can become what we want to because of the tremendous potential and power we have within us, but that happens only when we want to make it happen.

      Yes indeed, it’s tough for most of us to accept ourselves for who and what we are. Either we try to underestimate ourselves, or then over-estimate, we just can’t come to accept ourselves the way we are. Yes, there’s always scope for improvement and adopting the positive changes in our lives, but we need to accept that there is a problem at hand first.

      Self-acceptance leads to loving ourselves, which is another important point most of us neglect in the long run. We are too hard on ourselves at times I think, and that plays on our minds adversely.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post. 🙂




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