9 Simple Ways To Be Yourself And Discover Happiness

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This is a guest post by Yatin Khulbe, who was the runner-up of the February GEMS leaderboard. He is a self-development blogger and writes about how to be yourself. In this post, he reveals the easy ways to do so.

How does it feel when you are not able to express your true desires?

When was the last time that you had an inner chat?

How many times do you curse your present life?

All these questions create a web of doubts from where we are not able to come out in a proper manner.

In this phase, a person detaches from the real identity due to repeated cycles of negative thinking.

In short, are you happy with yourself?

This simple question carves out our real identity. If we are connecting with ourselves, we can sip the lovely flavors of life.

Life is not complex. It is made complex.

The good news is that all the things are temporary. It depends on us whether to inflate or deflate the circumstances.

If you are not happy with the current setup, stand up and re-design the whole structure by connecting with your true voice.

Let us understand the meaning of ‘being yourself’ by this conversation between four friends who are meeting after a long time

First friend: I am earning well, but I am not happy with my present routine.

Second friend: I am not earning well, and I am not happy with my present routine.

Third friend: I am not earning well, but I am happy with my present routine.

Fourth friend: I am earning well, and I am happy with my present routine.

Who is living a satisfactory life? Ya, you guessed it right.

The third and the fourth friend are living life on their own terms.  Rather than thinking about money, the third friend is focusing on the present routine.

After some time, he will definitely catch up with the fourth friend without putting too much effort.

‘To be yourself’ is all about living life on your own terms. For these people, money and fame are always behind happiness. Without happiness, there is no meaning in life.

Just be YOU – Your Own Navigation. Create your own path to map out the journey.

While discovering our own trip, we understand the exact position and plan the journey in a happy manner.

How to be Yourself in Nine Simple Ways

There’s a lot of stress out there, and to handle it, you just need to believe in yourself; always go back to the person that you know you are, and don’t let anybody tell you any different, because everyone’s special and everyone’s awesome. ~ McKayla Maroney

1. Everybody is gifted with a unique twist

We do not realize that we all are blessed with special features. At the physical level, we all have a framework of 206 bones.

However, mentally, we all are designed with a unique twist. So, appreciate your wonderful presence by connecting with your inner child.

Don’t criticize yourself. Your special characteristics deserve more than this on any day. Never create an opening for someone else to make you feel inferior.

Each of us looks at the same condition from a distinctive point of view. So, there is no need to control your true emotions because you have a unique voice.

The terms superior and inferior look good in the dictionary only. They have no significance in the practical world.

We create boundaries for ourselves only.  Step out of this mental trap and enjoy life in your own way.

To be yourself, believe that you’re special!

Photo of Dalai Lama and his quote

2. Mix confidence with authority

Why are you attracted towards some people? What is the basic ingredient behind their magnetic appeal?

It is the lovely combination of confidence and authority. With self-confidence, we create a never ending bond with our real passion.

If we have faith in ourselves, we can easily develop lovely connections with others also. As the charity begins at home, confidence begins at our inner home.

With authority, nobody dares to mess with you.  Everybody thinks twice before questioning your work.

With this deadly combination, our personality comes out in a vibrant manner.

So, do your work with full command and belief to discover your magnetic appeal.

To be yourself, believe in yourself.

When I get logical, and I don’t trust my instincts – that’s when I get in trouble. ~ Angelina Jolie

3. Don’t cover your mad elements

When you start with your real journey, some people make awkward faces. Your budding idea looks illogical.

They might laugh at your madness. Instead of getting depressed, turn your face to the bright side.

Today, they are laughing at your madness. Tomorrow, you will laugh at their ignorance. Things balance out each other.

I love Newton’s third law: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Your action will definitely create an equal and opposite reaction from others.

So, do not waste your time in listening to people’s reaction because you cannot stop them. Just focus on your mad elements to realize your real happiness.

People are temporary, but your true identity is with you forever.

To be yourself, trust your instincts!

Picture of Buddha and his peace quote

4. What are you searching outside

Be yourself to realize the beauty of your inner treasure.  The good news is that there is no shortage of resources.

The bad news is that we are not creating a demand for them. We need to fill this gap between demand and supply to achieve happiness in our life.

Before searching outside, devote your time towards your inner assistance.  So, detach from all external noise to embrace the real inner voice.

After developing strong connections, you will definitely get clear answers.

If we are not valuing your inner treasure, nobody will understand your real worth. Understand your inner strength to shine like a gem.

To be yourself, you need to dive inside.

To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment. ~ Eckhart Tolle

5. Don’t create.  Just discover

Did Portuguese explorer Vasco Da Gama discover or creat India? He is credited with discovering India.

It was not created because the land was already there. In a similar manner, we need to discover our real identity.

There is no need to waste time in creating the ‘real you’. Your land is hidden behind all the smoke of arrogance, stress, and hopelessness.

Wake up and make up all missing links of your life. Strip off all fake covers to discover the true route.

Expose all the suppressed corners to hug your real fragrance. There is no need to suffocate your real self.

Nobody will do it for you. You are the Vasco Da Gamma of your life.

To be yourself, you need to know yourself.

Picture of Mahatma Gandhi with a quote

6. Do everything with ease

Whenever I see a piece of modern art, I am completely mesmerized by the simple brushstrokes.

These strokes speak the language of effortlessness. They convey the mastery of the painter over the topic.

We also need to analyze life in simple terms. Instead of complicating things, master your journey by connecting simple dots.

Happiness lies in small and easy things. When we put more effort, we disturb the flow of the work.

Don’t be hard on yourself. Life is not about competition only. Don’t think too much because you will get nothing in return except stress.

So, brush the canvas of your life with ease.

To be yourself, just be simple.

Be original; don’t be scared of being bold! ~ Ed Sheeran

7. Don’t live someone else’s life

Suppose you follow someone from your field. Due to invaluable information, you develop a blind connection with this person.

There is no harm in listening and gaining some advice, but don’t try to copy other’s life.

While getting trapped by their gorgeous and happy lifestyle, don’t forget their starting struggle period.

Stop living other’s dreams and start taking responsibilities.  Never compare your life with others.

We just need to recognize and appreciate our real talent. In order to live a happy and fulfilled life, build your own dreams.

Life is too short to live someone else’s life. Never forget that you are the rockstar of your own life.

To be yourself, be original.

Little girls fearlessly discovering sea life near a beach

8. Dance like a free spirit

Move beyond all explanations to enjoy the lovely ride.  Enjoy the present moment to suck the creative juices within.

There is no need to please anybody. Don’t think about other’s opinions.

Close your eyes and visualize yourself like a bird gliding in the vast sky with no boundaries.

Sky is your perfect playground for performing all the acts that make you feel happy and satisfied.

Develop your own vision and forget about all tensions. Dance like a free spirit and enjoy your true passion.

Don’t get upset due to rough circumstances.  Leave behind all those things that disturb the melody of the song of your life.

To be yourself, just be in the moment.

Believe in yourself, take on your challenges, dig deep within yourself to conquer fears. Never let anyone bring you down. You got to keep going. ~ Chantal Sutherland

9. Accept your fears

Whenever we start a new task, there is always hesitation. At that moment, we are bombarded with lots of questions.

As we are not able to answer all the questions, as our mind creates different level of fears.

Remember one thing in your life: fear is natural.

So, what do we need to do? There is no need to hide your fears. When we try to suppress something, it comes up again with more intensity.

Everyone goes through this stage. Simply, have the courage to bring them in broad daylight.

Don’t forget to highlight them in the beginning to live a happy and peaceful life. By suppression, you create a smoky atmosphere for your future.

Instead of giving any protection, release all fears to let them die a natural death.

To be yourself, be fearless.


In a nutshell –

– As everybody is gifted with a unique talent, don’t doubt your true potential.

– Apply the deadly combination of confidence and authority to develop trust and command over your work.

– Expose all mad elements to experiment with your life in a crazy manner.

– Instead of searching outside, enjoy the abundant inner supply.

– As your true path is already created, discover it by stripping all fake covers.

– Understand the power of simplicity. Don’t relate complexity with more output.

– Don’t compare your unique dreams with others.

– Dance like a free spirit to enjoy every moment of life.

– Have the courage to accept your fear and do not suppress it.

Over to you –

Are you happy with your present life?  How do you define ‘being yourself’ in your own way? Share some experiences about your life’s journey in the comments.

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  1. Vernon Layne

    2015-03-19 at 8:39 pm

    Hi Yatin,

    Congratulations on this guest post. You knocked it out the park with this one! 😀

    It’s difficult for people to be themselves when they try to create themselves instead of discovering themselves. Everything they need to be happy is already inside them. But in order to discover the hidden treasure there have to be some digging through garbage to get to it and most people don’t like that part.

    Our opinion of ourselves in the most important. You gave us some tools to use to help us get a better perspective of ourselves. Thanks for that too!

    Self-acceptance on a deep level takes time and courage, but if we apply what you suggested here we can get there and live a happier and content life.

    Great post!

    • Yatin Khulbe

      2015-03-20 at 12:33 am

      Hi Vernon
      Thank you so much. Ya, the knocking was possible with the help of Harleena Mam and Vinay Sir.
      I really love your hidden treasure point. Ya, mostly people don’t like to face rough situations which look like a garbage in the beginning and, as a result, they leave their true path.

      As you said, opinions of ourselves are really important. In order to rise above all problems, we need to voice our own opinion in a confident and bold manner because no one will speak for us.
      You have hit the right word-TIME. It takes time and courage for building an empire of our own desires. Though it takes time, but the end result is very peaceful and lovely.

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.

  2. Adrienne

    2015-03-18 at 2:35 am

    Hi Yatin,

    Congratulations on the guest post here at AhaNow. What a great share for it being your first here.

    You definitely gave us a lot of wonderful tips for ways to just be ourselves. I know some people who really don’t know how to just be. I think they are constantly worried about things which we all know leads to nothing but more worry. Things will never be good in your life unless you truly believe in yourself and that your situation will improve.

    Being myself has never been an issue for me. I’m one of those that never walked the straight line. I never wore clothes that were in style, I never had the coolest hair do, I never did what everyone else did. I just didn’t feel like I fit in with others so I did my own thing and later on in life I learned that it really benefited me greatly.

    Your suggestions are wonderful and I’ll be sure to share this post again with my friends too. Hopefully they won’t need your advice but just in case I’ll be sure to let them know about this one.

    Hope you both are having a wonderful week. Great choice Harleena with your guest.


    • Yatin Khulbe

      2015-03-18 at 5:58 pm

      Hi @adriennesmith
      Thanks to Harleena Mam who gave me this wonderful opportunity. Through her only, I came to know about your wonderful blog.

      Ya, you are absolutely right. If we are not able to dig in, we won’t be able to extract our true potential. It is within us only. We just need to uncover all fake covers and as you said ‘situations will improve.’

      Oh great… You never had trending clothes, never had the coolest hair, never did what everyone else did. You knew that all these things have a temporary existence and you preserved your true identity. Hats off to your courage and stability.You are a free spirit in a true sense. Apart from your blogging skills, I have to learn a lot from you, buddy.

      Thanks for taking out time to read and share your wonderful thoughts on this topic. You have added some valuable points. You too have a wonderful week ahead.

  3. Yash

    2015-03-17 at 9:20 pm

    Thanks for this fantastic post.Really loved it.Thanks for sharing your thoughts and adding your personal experience.Have a great day.Thanks.

    • Yatin Khulbe

      2015-03-17 at 10:25 pm

      Hi Yash
      I am glad you liked this post. Thanks for reading and dropping your comment. Have a great week ahead, buddy

  4. Sylviane Nuccio

    2015-03-17 at 8:02 am

    Hi Yatin and Harleena,

    Great advice.

    To me the most important one maybe is not to live someone else’s life. We live a world where many people, especially women are living other people’s life with no say about what they really want to do or be. That’s so sad and that’s not living.

    Life is much less complicated then lost of people want to make it to be.

    • Yatin Khulbe

      2015-03-17 at 9:17 am

      Hi Sylviane
      Ya, we must not waste our precious life by living someone else’s life. I can’t specify a particular gender, but I completely agree that it’s very sad.
      Life is not complex. It is made…
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts and adding your personal experience
      Have a great week ahead, buddy

    • Harleena Singh

      2015-07-03 at 6:39 pm

      Hi Sylviane,

      Glad you liked Yatin’s advice shared through this post 🙂

      I agree with you there because you just get to live once, so live your life, your way. Women mostly live for their kids and families once they are married, and it’s tough to find their own identity, unless they make it a point to do so.

      Thanks for stopping by, we appreciate it 🙂

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