How to Create Life Options for Yourself

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a man searching for life options as the path meets a dead end

Have you ever thought about creating life options?

Well, let me explain the value of life options that we all need to have at some point or the other in our lives.

In daily life, when you’re doing your daily activities you can hit upon stumbling blocks. This is a common occurrence, which all of us experience from time to time.

One of the reasons why you face such challenges is that you get focused on what you’re trying to do in a particular way of doing it. And, if the way you’re doing something isn’t working, then you get frustrated.

You forget you have options to do things in other ways instead.

In order to help you live a wholesome and happy life, you need to consciously create life options for yourself.

Creating Life Options

This is an easy self-help exercise and does not need any specific or special skill. Below are some tips on how you can do this.

1. Do more things

There is nothing like creating more life options for you than to get involved in more things.

For instance, if you’re looking for ways to enhance your career, you can take additional courses or get involved in voluntary activities, which will increase your exposure to different experiences.

When it then comes to looking for work, you have increased your options and can apply for more types of jobs, as you have more skills to offer.

2. Look for opportunities in what you are doing

A simple way to look for life options is to look for the opportunities in whatever you do.

For instance, let’s say you want to increase your income. You can look at all the opportunities that could help you do this.

Perhaps you could get a second job, or start an offline or online business, or invest some money where it will gain a higher interest.

The purpose of consciously thinking about the various ways of doing something enables you to create different ways of doing things.

Although you might only try out one way of doing something at a time, you always have other ways to do so if it doesn’t work out, or if you decide to test another way of achieving your outcome.

3. Options are also in the problems you face

This one is usually a little trickier than point number 2 above, especially if it feels like your world is falling apart because of the problem you have.

Perhaps you just lost your job or maybe a business deal didn’t work out. On such occasions there are usually a number of things you can learn from the experience.

By learning from your mistakes you are actually creating options to try out different and new ways of doing something in the future.

4. Ask for what you want

Creating life options may involve others. Other people can help you achieve what you want. They may even be able to give you what you want.

You could be missing out on many opportunities in a particular aspect of life, because you’re not asking for what you want from those who can help you.

Rather than keep quiet and let opportunities pass away, learn to ask for what you want.

If being able to ask for things doesn’t come naturally to you, then do it a few times and before you know it, you won’t have any problem doing so.

5. Become responsible for yourself

The number of options you have in life can also be impacted by how much control you perceive to have of your own life.

For instance, if you’re dependent upon other people for your happiness, then the number of options you have to create happiness will be limited.

In order to see what is best for you, you need to take responsibility for your own inner joy. Only then will you be able to create and explore options that can improve your life.

6. Keep learning

In order to create life options, keep learning through reading books on how you can improve yourself and by talking and observing others.

The people around you can be a big source of inspiration. What they do, can inspire you to try something new so that you continue to grow.

You can also use what they do to build upon and create more life options for yourself.

7. Adopting an attitude of having options

Whatever thoughts you have in life, you can’t help but attract what is in your thoughts in real life.

By using this principle as a guide, you can create an atmosphere of abundance around you simply by holding the thought that you have options in your mind, again and again, until it becomes a belief. Pretty soon you’ll be looking for options in whatever you do, naturally.

In conclusion

Life options are always around you. However, your ability to see them can become blurred when you get bogged down by challenges you face in your lives.

With a little conscious effort of seeking out options, with an underlying belief that options are available to you, you can overcome barriers and continue to achieve the goals you have set for yourself.

Over to you:

What are your thoughts on creating more life options for yourself? What methods do you use to consciously increase the amount of options and choices you have in life?

 

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  1. King Globalwalyy

    April 22, 2013 at 5:20 pm

    See who is here Hiten Vyas, wow nice to see your face around here, you are such a great writer….

    • Harleena Singh

      June 11, 2013 at 4:17 pm

      Hi King,

      Yes indeed, Hiten was kind enough to grace the blog with such a wonderful post on how to create life options for yourself. He IS a great writer, and not to mention the numerous eBooks that’s he’s authored too.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  2. Amandah

    March 20, 2013 at 11:29 pm

    Hi Hiten,

    Thanks for replying to my comment. Glad you liked it.

    I have one more way people can find life options: listen to music. Sometimes, I’ll listen to classical, rock, pop, techno, etc. to lift my vibration and shift my thoughts. It works. I usually see things differently the next day and have many AHA moments, which are great for brainstorming life options.

    • Harleena Singh

      June 11, 2013 at 4:24 pm

      Hi Amandah,

      Just saw your comment and thought to reply it here, though Hiten already did earlier 🙂

      I agree with you there – music is therapeutic I think, and like you, anything would do for me too as long as it’s music. But I love listening to it only when I am not doing writing or working, or else it becomes a distraction for me. Aha – moments…that’s nice 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  3. Amandah

    March 20, 2013 at 10:17 pm

    Hello,

    Realizing that you have the power to create life options is a good thing. Sadly, most people go through life feeling powerless, like they don’t have any power to create the life they want.

    It’s that your problems are opportunities for you to do better in your life. However, you must be open to the idea that problems/issues = opportunities.

    I like to meditate and journal. The latter is a great way to vent your aggravations, frustrations, etc. Positive emotions and actions can come from your negative emotions. They can be the catalyst that moves you forward in your life.

    Remember, you ALWAYS have the option to choose a better feeling thought or action. You can also choose better foods for your body, friends who support you, etc. You always have OPTIONS!

    • Hiten

      March 20, 2013 at 10:44 pm

      Hi Amandah,

      I loved your comment and what you wrote is so true. There are opportunities in our problems. However, one needs to be able to see that problems do give rise to opportunities in the first place. Once a person does this, it can make life quite fun!

      Thanks so much for adding your experiences with journaling. This is a great idea. I used to do this when I was younger in order to get over my stammering problem. I would record how my speaking interactions went with people.

      You are so right. We always have the option of choosing how we want to feel or how we want to act. This is very powerful and the more people who learn to do this, the better.

      Thanks for your amazing comment!

  4. Koundeenya

    March 20, 2013 at 8:04 pm

    Inspiring, Hiten!

    It’s hard to get along with life, in tough times. But having options always give us a choice. At least, we can be more careful while making decisions.

    But people should be conscious enough while opting for something. Else, they would be regretting for the whole life.

    Thanks for the lovely post!

    • Hiten

      March 20, 2013 at 10:36 pm

      Hi Koundeenya,

      It’s great to see you here, my friend!

      Indeed, as you said, it’s important that people are conscious of the option they are choosing to run with. This can be done by what Jon said above and evaluating the options and selecting the most appropriate ones. However, even if one way doesn’t work out, we will still have learnt a lot and at least we have other options at hand.

      I’m really glad you liked the post and thanks for commenting!

  5. Tim Bonner

    March 19, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    Hi Hiten and Harleena

    At the moment, I’m a stay at home dad and I’m creating life opportunities for my kids as that’s more important.

    One day though, there will come a point where I need to grab more opportunities for myself. I started my blog to see if that could be a way of doing that and only time will tell.

    • Hiten

      March 20, 2013 at 3:05 am

      Hi Tim,

      Absolutely, you’re at a stage where creating life options for your children, is a priority. This is interesting as I’m not a parent yet. However, after reading your comment, I can definitely imagine what it must be like to consider creating options for your kids.

      Indeed, a blog is a very versatile platform. It may just be a tool that will allow you to create more options for yourself while you also create opportunities for your kids.

      Thanks a lot for commenting. It’s great to meet you!

    • Harleena Singh

      March 21, 2013 at 11:51 pm

      Welcome to the blog – nice to have you over!

      Nice to know more about you, and yes, you are right because as parents we do think about creating more life options for our kids, to the best of our abilities.

      Along the way, because we remain busy creating options for our family or kids, we forget to think about ourselves. I guess when they grow up a little, we can take out time for ourselves. You surely have an informative blog, and am sure it’s going to create the opportunities you are looking for in your life. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. Have a nice day ahead 🙂

  6. koyel

    March 19, 2013 at 10:56 am

    Great post, Hiten. it is so refreshing. You have a good style of writing that directly touches the heart.

    Actually, often we are so engrossed with the problems that we fail to look beyond. it is important to learn to look beyond. when we extend our vision we can see things like untapped opportunities. so, what we need to develop is the ability to look at things from a different point of view.

    • Hiten

      March 19, 2013 at 4:26 pm

      Hi Koyel,

      I’m glad you liked the post and I appreciate your kind words regarding my writing style!

      Absolutely, as you said, sometimes our focus on our problems becomes so strong, we can’t see beyond them. Just stepping outside of the box will allow us to see again what we’ve been missing and has always been there.

      You’re right, Koyel. Being able to develop this ability to see beyond our problems is something we all need to do.

      Thanks for your great comment and it’s fantastic to meet you.

    • Harleena Singh

      March 21, 2013 at 11:35 pm

      Welcome to the blog Koyel!

      You are absolutely right – Hiten is a wonderful writer, and the way he write’s is something that everyone can understand easily too – isn’t it?

      When we are surrounded with problems or worries, we tend to get stuck in them. However, when look beyond, we are able to see many options that aren’t visible to us otherwise.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  7. Sylviane Nuccio

    March 19, 2013 at 5:03 am

    Hi Hiten,

    Yes, life options are always around us, but sometimes we don’t see them. I personally some people who have never ever seen their options in life.

    That’s why I entered the personal development world. First of I wanted to learn more about my options and then I got so addicted I had to share what I learned with others.

    There is a discipline that we can follow that can help us to write down our goals and go for them.

    Thanks for sharing this.

    • Hiten

      March 19, 2013 at 4:00 pm

      Hi Sylviane,

      I too know people who just can’t see the options in their lives. It can be a little frustrating to see this. I guess, what we can do with people who don’t want to listen about creating options in their lives is to share indirect stories from our own life and those of others. The idea that they can create options themselves, might just rub off on them.

      My journey into personal development sounds similar to yours. It’s like we enter into the field to improve our lives. We make effort and actually create changes and learn that this works. We then become inspired to share and teach others how to do similar things to what we did!

      You’re spot on about writing down goals. Writing them down does wonders in helping us to achieve them.

      Thanks for your great comment!

  8. Adrienne

    March 19, 2013 at 4:13 am

    Hey Hiten,

    Great to see you here at Harleena’s blog. Ah, what a wonderful topic and you definitely gave us some great choices in case some people need to chose other options for themselves.

    Gosh, I think that at this time I seem to be on the right path but as we all know, things can change rather quickly right. If they do I just might have to revert back to your post so thanks for putting this one together.

    Harleena, great choice for a guest blogger! Nice!

    You two enjoy your week.

    ~Adrienne

    • Hiten

      March 19, 2013 at 3:50 pm

      Hi Adrienne,

      It’s great to be at Harleena’s blog and to be hanging out with you all!

      I’m glad you could appreciate the various ways to create life options as laid out in the post. It’s also awesome to hear you’re on the right path. Isn’t it great when we read something and it positively validates what we’re already doing?

      Absolutely, we can all lose track and go back to old ways. However, by already having done things in different ways, our minds have become used to alternatives, which helps us get back onto the path fairly quickly.

      Thanks a lot for your comment and hope you’re having a good week!

  9. Debbie

    March 19, 2013 at 2:49 am

    Great tips for llife. This is the one that I have been really working on, 4.. Ask for what you want. I have had trouble asking for help from others.

    No worries though I am working very hard on this one step at a time. I do have to say, I like 6. too. Keep learning. To me anyone that is not learning something everyday might as well be dead. Life is a journey of learning new things everyday. Some little and some big.

    Thanks Harleena. Love your post.
    Debbie

    • Hiten

      March 19, 2013 at 3:45 pm

      Hi Debbie,

      I’m really happy you enjoyed reading the tips and thanks for sharing your experiences regarding point number 4. It’s great to hear you’re making effort to ask for help.

      I too have had trouble with asking. It does seem a bit strange when one does start to ask, especially if one is not used to doing so. However, very rarely do people say no, so we might as well ask!

      Indeed, I can resonate with what you said about keep learning. Being in a position where we’re not constantly learning really does look bleak. It would make life so boring, don’t you reckon?

      It’s great to see you here, Debbie and thanks for your comment!

  10. Theodore Nwangene

    March 19, 2013 at 2:32 am

    Hi Hiten and Harleena,
    Great post indeed. I love reading this type of posts because it normally adds more meaning to my life.

    I also believe in having many options for my life because you never know which will help you. The best way to build this up in my opinion is by following like minded people and reading some motivational books that will aid you towards attaining that your desired goal.

    One of the books I’ve read before that i really enjoyed is The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale and Think Big by Ben Carson.

    There are many other books out there that one really have to read on this same topic.

    Thanks Harleena for inviting Hiten to share this wonderful tips with us.

    Have a great week.

    • Hiten

      March 19, 2013 at 3:39 pm

      Hi Theodore,

      I’m glad you enjoyed the post and am so happy you could see how it could help you.

      Indeed, like you, I too love reading stories about other people who undertook challenges in their lives, through helping themselves and creating more options for themselves. I’m so glad we have access to inspiring stories from people all across the world.

      Thanks for the two references. I’ve heard of The Power of Positive Thinking and Think Big but haven’t read them. I will be sure to check them out based on your recommendation. Thanks again.

      Many thanks for leaving your wonderful comment, Theodore and have a great week, too! 🙂

  11. Ahsan

    March 18, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Hi Hiten Vyas,

    Awesome post teaching how to utilize our life in an appropriate way. We know that our life is short. So we need to do everything in a appropriate time with best effort. Another thing there is no limit of learning.

    For a blogger I think it is more than that. Every day even every sec. I am learning new things. So we need to be positive to learn & implement in a best way.

    Thanks

    • Hiten

      March 19, 2013 at 4:39 am

      Hi Ahsan,

      Thanks for your comment and I’m really glad you enjoyed the post!

      I really appreciate your comment and what you wrote got me thinking about something. Life is indeed short and we really do need to create options and then go with certain choices, now. As the old saying goes, life isn’t a rehearsal.

      I totally agree that there is no limit to learning and many thanks for sharing your experiences with constantly learning. This is great!

      It’s wonderful to meet you, Ahsan. Take care.

  12. Mayura

    March 18, 2013 at 12:32 pm

    Hi Hiten,

    Exactly! Getting involved in more activities will create a better profile. Doing more things helping me to feel productive too. However with a caution. If we go too far beyond limits, I don’t think we can get what we want. It’s very subjective and can be wrong for some folks who always beat the limits, no matter what.

    I’m inspired by the friend circle around me as I know they have more to deal with while managing their time. I believe having right people around me has been motivating me too.

    I’m lack of asking what I want. Seems not confident enough 🙂 But looking for opportunities though. So far I’m happy with the results and one of most awaited opportunities gonna work out this week for me. Anyway I’ll try more to focus on asking too 🙂

    Learning can be a huge resource for our lives if we up for it 🙂 I really like learning from each other and observing it another thing I like the most. The question is how much we apply what we learn. Isn’t it Hiten? 🙂

    Have a successful week filled with more life options for both of you, Hiten and Harleena 🙂

    Cheers…

    • Hiten

      March 18, 2013 at 3:29 pm

      Hi Mayura,

      I can definitely appreciate what you wrote in your comment and in particular, the point about feeling productive when we’re busy and doing things. I think it’s useful to select those options that not only allow us to be productive, but will help us achieve concrete objectives.

      Having a great friend circle and support network can be so powerful and motivational. Such people can encourage us to keep going, especially during those difficult periods.

      I loved your attitude with regards to asking for help. You’ve identified an area where you want to make progress and are looking for opportunities to do so! This is brilliant.

      Indeed, the question certainly is how much we apply what we learn. I think if we even applied little chunks of useful knowledge we have picked up from learning and watching others, we could make massive amounts of difference.

      Thanks so much for your kind wishes of a week full of options, Mayura. The same to you, too! It’s lovely to meet you and your positive energy is a great start for a Monday morning. Thank you.

  13. Donna Merrill

    March 18, 2013 at 10:35 am

    Hi Hiten,

    There are so many options in our journey. When we choose something, and it fails, it is not really failure, but a learning opportunity to do it a different way.

    I mostly resonate with #5 and #6! Becoming responsible for yourself. Depending on others will always be a let down and a waste of energy. When we depend upon our selves, we are gaining more strength and a higher self esteem. Having that mindset of responsibility also comes in handy when running your own business. We choose more wisely and can handle our business more effectively.

    Also…learn learn learn! There is always a learning curve each day that we encounter. It can be taking a course, or visiting someone’s blog. Our eagerness to learn just gives us more knowledge and therefore makes us feel good. We also can share that knowledge with others.

    Thanks for a wonderful post.

    And thank you Harleena for a great guest!

    Donna

    • Hiten

      March 18, 2013 at 3:18 pm

      Hi Donna,

      Thanks for your brilliant comment!

      As you said, when we choose an option and it doesn’t work out, it is never failure. It is a learning opportunity to do it in a different way. I love to use the attitude from the field of NLP that there is no failure, only feedback.

      I’m really glad you could resonate with points number 5 and 6. You are right. Depending on others is a waste of emotional energy in the wrong direction. Instead, we can use this energy to do what we can ourselves and ask for help if we need it.

      Absolutely, running a business is definitely one way that teaches us responsibility very quickly. What you wrote about learning is so true. It does make us feel good. In particular, I love the feeling when I’ve applied what I’ve learnt and have seen the results in some tangible form.

      Thanks for commenting and it’s lovely to meet you.

  14. Rupali Gupta

    March 18, 2013 at 9:44 am

    Hi Hiten,

    Nice post, as u say we must consider all available options and choosing the best one. If one not work, other can try, never loose hope.The question arise with which one we should go?

    Here we confused but we can discuss with friends, co-workers,and some others to make sure.Success is around us just a need to explore the available opportunities.

    • Hiten

      March 18, 2013 at 2:50 pm

      Hi Rupali,

      Thanks for adding so much more to this post.

      As you said, when we do create a number of life options, it then becomes a case of deciding on the best ones to take. I really appreciate how you said we can do this by discussing with our friends, colleagues and other people we know.

      This is brilliant! Thanks, Rupali.

  15. David Stevens

    March 18, 2013 at 8:36 am

    Hello Harleena and Hiten,
    Life long learning is the No1 pick for me alongside always looking on the bright side. Keep learning about the key stuff and about yourself … it’s like a text book that never closes. Thankyou for this.
    Be good to yourselves
    David
    Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

    • Hiten

      March 18, 2013 at 2:46 pm

      Hi David,

      Indeed, lifelong learning is what it is all about! I believe that’s what makes life so interesting, having the option to keep on learning and becoming wiser.

      As you brilliant stated, it’s a like a text book that never finishes. And I agree to always look on the bright side of life.

      Thanks for commenting, my friend.






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