How to be Happy in Life

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a girl learning to be happy in life

There’s no secret recipe to be happy in life. Neither is there a perfect formula to achieve happiness in life.

Everybody has the right to be happy, and happiness has no price tag. Happiness can be found anywhere and everywhere; you do not need anything to be happy.

But then why are people unhappy? Why do they still seek happiness and ways to be happy if any of the above statements are true?

It is because we’re ignorant and unaware. We look for complex solutions and fail to understand simple concepts, which bring simple solutions.

It is because we look in the wrong direction and think of happiness as something to possess; whereas, happiness is a state of mind.

It is because we make the wrong choices. Happiness is the result of the choices that we make – if we do not choose to be happy, we lead the path to being sad and depressed.

Is it easy to be happy in life?


I know there’ll be a mixed response to this question. Those who are already happy know that they did not make any special efforts to be happy.

Whereas, those who are sad and depressed either have no clue how to be happy or find it as the most difficult task to do.

Did I say there’s no secret to being happy? Well, yes there is. Just be in the moment, in the present or in the NOW!

Aha!NOW – celebrate the present, indulge in the moment as if time stands still, be fully aware and engrossed; you’ll fail to find reasons to be unhappy.

If you’re happy every moment, then like you can make a line connecting the dots, all the moments of happiness together will make a happiness continuum – a continuous state of happiness.

Our Goal is to be Happy in Life

The test of life is to be happy, no matter what. The ultimate goal of life is to be happy.

We knowingly or unknowingly try to achieve happiness in life through various things, persons, or acts.

It may be through a latest mobile, a new dress, a girlfriend or boyfriend, a job or a movie. When all these cease to exist, happiness also vanishes.

I’d categorize happiness as temporary or short-term, substantial or medium-term, and eternal or long-term.

Temporary happiness is short-lived – only for a few moments or till we are experiencing or possessing something – like material objects, sex, food, clothes, and some basic instincts.

Substantial happiness stays with us for a long time and runs peace of mind in the background. For example, it comes through great relationships, life achievements, good self-concepts, and good deeds.

Eternal happiness is forever and doesn’t come through anything or any person that is not eternal. It comes through something that is everlasting and forever – God.

Whatever form of happiness you wish to have; there are certain basics that you need to follow.

40 Basic Tips to be Happy

Although happiness could have different meaning for different people, and there may be thousands of ways and tips to be happy, here are some basic and simple ones that may fill your life with happiness.

  1. Choose to be happy every moment
  2. Be in the here and now
  3. Love the life you live – try to improve but do not pity
  4. Be content – with what you are and what you have
  5. Believe in yourself – have confidence
  6. Be yourself and stop pretending something you’re not
  7. Look for positives in everything good or bad
  8. Learn lessons from mistakes and move on; do not get stuck
  9. Have purpose of life
  10. Do not compare yourself with others – live your own life
  11. Accept yourself and your life and do not blame others for it
  12. Set priorities and have clear goals
  13. Think positive and be optimistic
  14. Develop good habits, and drop the bad ones
  15. Know yourself – meditate and look within
  16. Learn to let go – forgive and forget
  17. Be giving – in form of material goods, service, or love
  18. Possess feeling of gratitude – be thankful for everything
  19. Embrace change – be flexible
  20. Always be occupied, keep busy
  21. Stop worrying and enjoy life as it is
  22. Laugh more and find humor in life
  23. Remove fear and be stress-free
  24. De-clutter your mind and be decisive
  25. Be wise and plan your spending
  26. Have cordial relations, both personal and professional
  27. Avoid misunderstandings – when in doubt, just ask
  28. Be in a happy company
  29. Control your moods and temper
  30. Experience positive emotions and feelings
  31. Be a love teacher
  32. Have the LUCK factor in life
  33. Spend time with near and dear ones
  34. Share a smile – always smile
  35. Be good – think and act good
  36. Don’t fall for addictions
  37. Reduce needs and demands
  38. Keep healthy – eat right and exercise
  39. Breathe slow, deep, and easy
  40. Be peace

This list can go on and on. But if you even follow any 10 from the above mentioned tips, I think you’ll find the direction of happiness and learn to be happy.

If you’re happy, then you’re peaceful; but if you’re not at peace, angry, and disturbed, you’re not happy. Do everything and anything to be at peace, to be happy.

Over to you –

What do you think it takes to be happy? Do you think it is possible to be truly happy? Is it easy to be happy in life? What’s your tip to be happy to add to this list? Share in the comments below.


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  1. David Adeleke

    2015-05-19 at 10:03 pm

    A lot has been said about finding happiness. Rightly so, I believe a lot of things culminate in making us happy.
    Good post Harleena.

  2. Rachel

    2015-04-12 at 1:41 am

    Hi Harleena,
    That’s a good list that you’ve got there! Definitely helpful in considering how we can be proactive in seeking happiness. So often, it’s easy to make the mistake of thinking that happiness is something that happens to us, but actually we have a lot of choice in the matter too.
    I live with MS and also with infertility. So those are things in my life that are not how I would have chosen them to be. I always say that although we often can’t choose what happens to us, we can choose how we respond to it. I find that empowering. I seek every good thing that I can find, so that the tough things don’t take over.
    Having a sense of humour seems pretty essential to me. When we laugh it does release happiness, for ourselves and for others. I think that anyone who puts into practise your list, will have lots of effective ways to find more opportunities and energy to be happy. It was good to read this today. This is my first time on your blog. I’ll come back again soon. Hope you’re having a good weekend!

  3. Sanjay Sajeev

    2014-08-21 at 3:37 pm

    Hai, Harleena singh. Great post. I had been looking for this sort of articles for a long time. It is so inspirational. The important thing is that these 40 steps are simple, but not easy. My happiness are stay focused, effective thing and act.
    I would like to share a story with you.
    “An ancient Indian sage was teaching his disciples the art of archery. He put a wooden bird as the target and asked his disciples to aim at the eye of the bird. The first disciple was asked to describe what he saw. He said, “I see the trees, the branches, the leaves, the sky, the bird and its eye.”
    The sage asked this disciple to wait. Then he asked the second disciple the same question and he replied, ” I only see the eye of the bird.” The sage said, ” Very good. Now shoot.” The arrow went straight and hit the eye of the bird.”

  4. Surya Tejaswini

    2014-04-26 at 12:51 pm

    Lovely article. You just made my day .As i was on a crappy day looking for some sort of good artucle to read i started browisng an finally found one amazing artiucle for a life time. Take a bow… :). It is truly cool and awesome.

    For me happiness is :
    1. Being myself
    2. Falling in love wid myself each day
    3. Eat what ever i wan to
    4. Live like there is no tomorrow
    5. Having self respect
    6. Never cheat
    7. Never lie
    8.Be financially independent
    9.Help oders
    10. Love all
    And finaly ” i me myself and thats my story”……..:)

    • Harleena Singh

      2014-04-26 at 2:34 pm

      Welcome to my blog Surya!

      Well, thank you for your kind words and I’m glad you liked this list of ways to be happy in life 🙂

      Yes indeed, at the end of the day if we can live life to the fullest, do what we want and be what we want to be, what more would we like. Love your list too!

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing yours thoughts with us 🙂

      BTW – It would be nice if you can use a Gravatar so that we know who we are talking to – just a friendly suggestion 🙂

  5. Shameem

    2013-04-01 at 11:04 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Happiness is most needed one in everyone life.I enjoyed reading your post with list of 40 things thanks for sharing the wonderful points which i have missed some in my life.

    • Harleena Singh

      2014-04-26 at 2:30 pm

      Hi Shameem – sorry to have missed out on your comment 🙂

      Absolutely! It IS what we all want in life, isn’t it? Glad you liked the list of ways to be happy in life and I hope you can use them too.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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