Simple Steps to Finding Happiness in Life

“If you want to be happy, be.”- Leo Tolstoy Are we really happy? What does it mean to…
people expressing joy on finding happiness in life
“If you want to be happy, be.”- Leo Tolstoy
Are we really happy? What does it mean to find happiness in life? We all have our mood swings and days when we feel unhappy due to various reasons. We are not able to carry on living in that unhappy state for long, thus try to find happiness. Mentioned below are simple steps to finding happiness in life.

1-Find Happiness Within Yourself

Nothing can bring you happiness but yourself.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson.

As quoted above, no one other than you yourself holds the key to finding happiness in life. How you handle your happiness is your responsibility, and you should not blame others or circumstances if you are not happy.

2-Be Grateful

Realize and count your blessings. Appreciate and acknowledge that there are many things we should be grateful for, though we often choose to forget or ignore them.

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t   have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”- Frederick Keonig.

Remember, everything in life happens for a reason, and that is what makes you stronger.

3-Do Not Compare

Stop comparing yourself with others, whom you feel are happier than you, as you would only feel frustrated or envious of their happiness. You can never say what others are undergoing, nor can others judge your situation, its each one to their own. Just be your best, and happiness would quietly come and sit on your shoulder.

4-Learn to Give

We tend to think that we would be happier when we receive things, whereas the truth is we are happier when we give, which though difficult to accept, but is an essential key to finding happiness in life.

The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”- Mark Twain.

Lend a helping hand to someone in need, which could be a friend, family member, stranger, or donate to any kind of charity.

5-Spend Time With Your Near Ones

Spend quality time with your loved ones, as time is something that money cannot buy. Find happiness in life by valuing relationships that give more happiness, than any other materialistic things in the world.

There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.”- George Sand.

6-Meditate and Look Within

Seek inner happiness and peace, by introspecting within or meditating. When we are disturbed, praying or meditating helps us clear our thoughts and mind. Slow down your pace; take some quiet time out from the day for soul searching, to listen to what your heart says.

7-Learn To Let Go

Just let go of things beyond your control and learn to focus on the things that are under your control.  Trying to change things beyond your control will only frustrate and disturb you further.

There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”- Epictetus

To find happiness in life you need to change yourself, your own behavior or outlook towards life, rather than trying to change the other person or the circumstances.

8-Forgive and Forget

To forgive is human, to forget divine..”- James Grand.

Finding happiness in life can be so much easier if you learn to forgive others and yourself. Forget their past mistakes, and forgive them. If you have committed mistakes in the past, forgive yourself and release the burden.

9-Know Yourself

Accept and admit your weaknesses to yourself. You maybe cheating on your partner, or have a bad temper- admit and accept it. There are many things beyond your control, accept those, and admit or face up to the wrong things you are doing, and make amends to find happiness  in life.


To know the true reality of yourself, you must be aware not only of your conscious thoughts, but also of your unconscious prejudices, bias and habits.”

10-Share a Smile

There are times when we may not be happy, but share a smile still, as you never know another person may need it more, and may find happiness in your smile.

If someone is too tired to give you a smile, leave one of you own, because no one needs a smile as much as those who have non to give.

Though I don’t say I apply all these simple steps to finding happiness in life, but yes, I do try and follow most of them, and they do work! So go ahead, try them out, and find the true meaning of living a happy life !


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  1. Hello Mam
    Now a day we are getting very busy in out life. We Even don’t have time to stay happy but you discussed that how can we be happy.
    Helping other also gives us a great plessure.
    Wonderful blog post 🙂

  2. A wonderful book that I just finished reading also discusses these points. Letting Go Get in the Flow by Faith Davis is a how-to guide to creating an easier, happier and more peaceful life. It is a journey of eight steps that explains how we can increase flow, a gentle, loving, and powerful force that can guide us through life.

    1. Welcome to the blog Mary!

      Nice to know more about the book and all that it contains. I guess reading such books would make us live a much happier and content life. There is surely great joy in reading wonderful books like the one you mentioned, isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  3. This is a great list, Harleena.

    The problem- at least in my case- is that I know them implicitly…but, when things tip the other way, it’s just as easy to forget them. Maybe we need those google glasses that will flash that list before our eyes when it senses our rising blood pressure :-)… Or, to spend 1/2 hour each morning affirming them, hoping they’ll take hold and be forefront all day…

    1. Hi Roy,

      Glad you liked the list 🙂

      Yes, I agree with you there, and sometimes things are easier said than done. Lol…Google glasses is a good idea!

      Thanks for stopping by this old post and reviving it back. Have a nice weekend 🙂

  4. You said it all when you said that happiness can be found within. I heard once that people can give us pleasure, but for happiness it is an inside job. Thank you for a wonderful post.

    1. Absolutely Ann!

      I think we all want to be happy but some of us find excuses or reasons not to be so. I guess the answer to finding happiness lies within us, we just need to realize this and simply be happy!

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  5. Dear Harleena,

    Phenomenal tips! We know them deep inside our subconcious but need a life coach like you to keep on reminding us as we lose our sensibility in the jungle of humanity. Meditation appeals to me tremendously, but I feel one needs a guru for picking up this craft. I keep cocentrating on my breath, but my mind strays on other thoughts. One needs simple practical tips on how not to let the mind wander..


    1. Welcome to the blog Sudip!

      Glad you liked the tips and could relate to the post. Though I am not a professional life coach, but it sounds appealing and I take it as a compliment!

      Meditation is indeed wonderful, and something that has many benefits if practiced in the right way. Controlling the mind from wandering is indeed tough, though if you are able to meditate, it does take care of that as well. Perhaps you would soon see a post on meditation on the blog 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  6. Happiness is truly the essence of how you are living and yes, you just touch upon the right elements!

    My mother always told me that learn to be happy with what you have right now; there is really no other way. She said that once you don’t find happiness and feel happy with what you have right now, you will never be able to be happy with what you have later on or what you hope to achieve.

    Gratitude is the first step towards it all. Be thankful, be humble, be accepting and be open to what is there and see the world smile at you if you are ready to smile at it!

    Harleen, I am so glad I am getting to read so much of your wonderful work. You are a beautiful writer! 🙂

    1. Glad you could relate to the post Hajra!

      Happiness is your state of mind and how you relate to it. Lol…I think our parents are quite similar at imparting life’s lessons to us 🙂

      My parents always told me the same things, learn to be happy with what you have, value what you have and find happiness within that! If you can’t find happiness now, you will always remain unhappy even when there are reasons to be happy! However, no matter how hard I try to pass this on to my kids, the generation nowadays prefers to have their own reason for being unhappy and don’t just settle for such words of wisdom!!

      You are absolutely right about being grateful, humble, thankful, and compassionate as well. You need to find reasons to be happy with whatever you have in your life, rather than looking at what to don’t have and feeling unhappy.

      Ah…thanks so much for those kind words, am glad you are liking the posts and are able to relate to them.

      Thanks so much for stopping by and adding more value to the post.:)

      1. Maybe our parents are related! 😉 LOL!

        Yes, seems like we have a lot of values imparted to us as common!

        1. Lol…may be 🙂

          Yes, after reading your comments and knowing more about you, I too feel that the values imparted to us by are parents are common indeed!

          Glad we met, and thanks for stopping by. 🙂

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