Why Mothers are Special People

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woman with baby on beach showing how mothers are special in a family

Mothers are special people in our lives and families, aren’t they?

I think certain bonds are very strong and cannot be broken, and the bond of a child and a mother is one of them.

Many recent studies indicate how important a mother’s love is and how it helps a child grow.

More the love and care given to your kids – healthier and happier they will be later in life.

Parental love, especially motherly love, is a great source of better emotional stability that reduces the chances of psychological disorders and boosts the self-esteem, which improves the health of a child.

Today’s post is in honor of mothers and a tribute to my mother, who was the most special person in my life till she passed away a few years back due to cancer.

“God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers.”  ~Jewish Proverb

With Mother’s Day just round the corner I miss my mother more than ever and I know that just as my mother was special to me, your mother would be special to you. No one can ever take the place of a mother – isn’t it?

A mother’s love which is truly unconditional, her support that always remains with us – along with her forgiving nature makes her a very important person in our lives.

Motherhood is the most exciting, beautiful, painful, and difficult experience for any mother. I think you give it your best, yet you feel that you should have done better, or that there is something lacking.

Reasons Why Mothers are Special

Every one of us feels that our mothers are special to us and there could be many reasons for the way we feel. There are no words that can express a mother’s love, though I will try sharing a few things that make mothers so special.

“A mother understands what a child does not say.”  ~ Jewish proverb

1- Makes the most unique bond

There are some bonds in life that are irreplaceable – just like a mother-child bond. That strong bond is what often makes the mother feel the pain when the child falls and gets hurt, or spends sleepless nights comforting her child.

There is always a strong bond between the child and mother, which cannot be seen but is felt by both. Often time what the child feels or thinks the mother gets to know even without the child spelling it out.

I remember when I was young and if there was anything that I wanted or wished for, I don’t know how, but my mother was the first one to get to know of it. It was almost magical! I sure do miss my mom…

2- She is God’s best creation

Mothers are God’s best creations because of their enduring nature, their charm, their giving nature, their sacrificing, forgiving, and always putting others before themselves.

It’s only a mother’s love that is unconditional, totally selfless, and without any greed. Yes, fathers are equally important but it’s the mother who bears the child as they emerge from her body.

And she is the one who bares the pain and takes immense trouble to bring the child into this world and give life.

Not to mention those mothers who adopt or go in for surrogacy those are at par with mothers who give birth to their children.

Remembering my mother, I recollect her giving nature and how she would go all out to just share and donate things to the poor and needy. I wish I could be more like her. She was the best mother anyone could have.

3- Ability to Nurture

Nurture is inborn to a certain degree in mothers, which makes them so special. Even a small girl loves cuddling her doll or loves playing with babies, and this sense of nurture matures when she becomes a mother.

Those kids deprived of a mother’s nurture, the gentle speech, soft tones, the cuddling, hugs and kisses, sense a lack throughout their lives.

There’s even a special bond formed between a mother and daughter once the daughter herself becomes a mother. The mother is now known as the “Grandmother”, and she knows all that her daughter will undergo as a mother.

I remember the times when I was hugged, kissed, and cuddled, which made me feel so loved, secured, and protected. I have yet to learn to love my kids the way my mom and dad loved me, though I am trying. I realized the importance of my mother more after losing her, so value your moms while they are around.

4- An ardent encourager, appreciator, and protector

Mothers are so special I think because they joyfully encourage and appreciate anything and everything their child does.

I guess they are just so full of pride for the little achievements of their children, and can never stop talking or portraying their love for them.

Fathers are no less too, and often times it’s both, the mother and father who take pride and encourage their children to face the challenges and hardships and move ahead in life.

Most mothers are great protectors of their young, whether in the family of human beings or the family of animal kingdom as seen here. Mothers instinctively know when something good or bad happens with their child.

Remembering my mother, I clearly recall the time when I baked my first cake and it didn’t come out well and was half-cooked. My mom was so happy and proud of my achievement that she decorated and served the cake to everyone at home.
I can never forget what that moment did to me. My mother was a very special person in my life.

5- Instills values

Though a mother always loves her child but she doesn’t forget to instill gratitude and values nor does she forget to teach them all there is to learn about life.

She is the one who teaches them the right from wrong and good from bad, though of course some fathers also do equally well.

My mother was the most special person I knew because she inculcated some great values in me that have come a long way with me today. It’s because of her and my dad’s upbringing that I am an educated, independent woman today.

I remember when I was very small how I was taught to wish the elders. It took a lot of patience for my parents to get me around wishing everyone.
But those instilled values are what I still remember, and have done the same with my kids now. Mom I miss you and all your lessons taught.

6- Works round the clock

Mothers are special because they work round the clock without any complaints to keep you happy. They curb their desires to fulfill yours and do everything for their family and children.

Even if your mother is a working mom, she still manages the job, her house, and does all your work without you having to say anything. Speaking of which, I’ve always seen my mom enjoy doing housework without any cribs.

I think it’s a mother’s love only that easily gives in to your tantrums and cranky behavior, because she knows you and your mood swings so well.

Yes, fathers also do work hard and earn a living for their family, but they don’t really have to work as much at home, though a few fathers do help in the kitchen and housework.

Remembering my mother, I reminisce the time she was teaching and how she used to reach home and head towards the kitchen, just to be in time to cook us a hot piping meal when we returned from school.
She never really had a breather, and I’ve always seen her working. Even the time when she was talking to us, she always had her hands working at something. Only special mothers like her could do so much for their kids.

7- Always a friend and confidante

Relationships change when a child grows up and becomes independent. However, according to recent studies, whatever a mother has to say and her role as a confidante and friend remains essential to teenagers.

When mothers begin understanding teenagers, it helps the teens to shun risky behavior and build their personalities. Yes, it’s not easy to talk with teens when at that age arguments are more common than communication, but yes, wait a while and things settle down.

I remember the time when I was a teenager and how I used to disagree with most things that my mom used to say. But my mother was my best friend and guided be right through those teen years with ease.
I am on that same path with my kids now and hope I succeed like her. I miss my mother and her guidance that would have helped me raise my kids better.

There’s a lot to say and be thankful for, but how do you thank the very person who brought you into this world? How do you thank someone for feeling hurt each time you fall, for sleepless nights, for sacrifices and compromises made, and for a lifetime of worry?

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” -Washington Irving

I wouldn’t say that fathers don’t have a role in raising kids, because I have seen how my father has looked after us after my mom. His motherly love speaks volumes and cannot be mentioned in a few words.

Similarly, there are many single parents who are doing a wonderful job of raising their kids all on their own, besides the hardships they face – hats-off to all those dedicated and committed fathers and mothers!

For me, being a mother has been the most challenging, yet rewarding experience. It’s said that a mother’s love begins at the very thought of conception and never ends even after death.

Being a mother myself I just hope and pray I can be a little like my mother and make her grandchildren proud.

I miss you mom…

“Your arms were always open when I needed a hug. Your heart understood when I needed a friend. Your gentle eyes were stern when I needed a lesson. Your strength and love has guided me and gave me wings to fly.” ~ Sarah Malin

Bonus for you

To all you wonderful mothers out there who are doing a commendable job, here are some wonderful tech gifts for mothers shared by my good friend Carolyn at her blog.

Remember that a mother loves at all times, even when she feels under-appreciated  exhausted, and overwhelmed. So reach out to your mother, value her and her presence, and make every day as good as Mother’s Day.

Here’s a special tribute to all mothers on this special day – thank you for doing so much for us all the time, we appreciate and love you for whoever and whatever you are.

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

Over to you

Do you feel mothers are special? What are you planning for Mother’s Day to make your mother feel special? If you are a mother or daughter, how have you dealt with motherhood or being a daughter? And if you are a son or father, in what ways do you feel mothers are special? Share in the comments below.



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  1. Howard Benoit

    January 24, 2016 at 5:05 am

    Hi,
    If someone were to tell me,that God is a women[Mother] it would be easy to belive,yes you’re right a mother’s love and bond,is one that us men well never understand,like we don’t understand God.It’s a Love beyond Love.I’m 68,and I love my mom more evey day,she live within me,she’s just there,just can’t get rid of her,and how lucky I am.
    Please excuise my French,my grammar is not the best,but my love for my mom is thank, HOWARD BENOIT

  2. Dr. Arpita Jain

    January 3, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    Hi Mrs. Harleena,

    I see that this post was written long back, but unfortunately I got to read it just today, and how emotional and teary I got reading this. I always took my mom for granted thinking that its her duty to make me feel happy and fulfill all my needs. And now when I am mom myself, I can understand my mother much better and can now appreciate how much she did for me and how little that appeared to me then.
    I totally agree that Moms would always be the most special person in everyone’s life and no one can replace a Mom, no matter how so ever close he or she might be to you.
    I am what I am today because of my mom…Thanks for reminding me that in such a sweet way 🙂

  3. Ahsan

    May 12, 2013 at 6:45 pm

    Hello Harleena,

    Another great post on mother. Mother is definitely the best gift of kids. He whoever lost his mother in childhood is the most unluckiest person in the world. Mother knows her kids best. Mother knows everything by just seeing your face. We don’t need to express. it is the mother who sacrifice everything just to make happy her kids.

    On this special day, we need to celebrate our mom. Here is a Mother’s Day special poem:

    When you feel you are alone in the crowd,
    When you think No.1 can understand you,
    When your love is rejected by others,
    & when you hate your Life,
    Just close your eyes, & see, her face who loves you
    more than any 1 else,
    who care for you in loneliness,
    & dies when you cry.
    She is no 1, but your sweet loving mother 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      May 12, 2013 at 8:05 pm

      Hi Ahsan,

      Glad you liked the post on why mothers are special people, which they really are 🙂

      I agree, and such a loss no one can replace. You’re right, a mother always knows what her child is undergoing, without her child having to mention anything to her at all. That’s another reason why they are so special.

      That is such a lovely poem, and thank you for sharing it with us on this special day 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. Wishing you a very Happy Mother’s Day as well 🙂

  4. Sue Neal

    March 10, 2013 at 3:59 am

    This post’s a wonderful tribute to your Mum, Harleena – and I’m sure you’re more like her than you give yourself credit for.

    It sounds to me as if you certainly did appreciate her while she was alive and that you’ve learned enough from her to be a pretty incredible mother yourself – I don’t think your kids have anything to worry about on that score. Not just from this post, but from your writing elsewhere on this blog, I strongly suspect you’re an amazing, loving Mum and that your kids are lucky to have you.

    I, too, was fortunate to have a lovely Mum – she’d had a very tough, difficult childhood and she was absolutely determined that her own kids were going to have a better time. Her only fault was that she spoilt us rotten. She was a very special lady and I miss her.

    Thanks for a lovely, warm-hearted post, Harleena – and I hope you have a fantastic Mother’s Day!

    Sue

    • Harleena Singh

      March 10, 2013 at 10:59 am

      Hi Sue,

      Glad you liked the post, and yes – such posts always remind me of my Mom and for all the other mothers who are doing so well raising their kids. 🙂

      I wish I were more like her, though I do try to remember all that she taught me and try my best to inculcate those values and lessons in my kid’s. However, I can never be like her – she was the real woman of substance and I still have a long way to go before I become a little like her. Thanks for your words of appreciation Sue, but I feel I lack in a lot of areas – though I try my best to get better by the day – so I would say when I write about parenting on the blog, it teaches me as it reminds me to get better too.

      Nice to know about your Mom, and she surely sounds like a woman with great strength and will power. Even though she has a difficult and tough childhood, she made sure she gave all the comforts to her kids, and I guess what we might call as spoiling – was actually her love for you all. That’s why mothers are special people – aren’t they?

      Thanks for stopping-by, and a Happy Mother’s Day to you too. I know we miss our Moms, but I strongly feel they are always with us, as our guardian angels 🙂

  5. Elena Anne

    May 18, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    This post really made my day Harleena. 🙂

    No matter how many times I get into a fight with my mother, I really can’t stand not to patch things up between us. She’s my number 1 best friend. 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      September 18, 2012 at 11:23 am

      I’m glad you liked the post Elena!

      I’m so sorry I somehow missed your comment, and I apologize for not replying in time.

      You’ve an exclusive relationship with your mother, and I wish you two continue to be great friends!

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂




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Why Mothers are Special People

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