Why Mothers are Special People

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Mothers are special people in our lives and families, aren’t they?

I think certain bonds are very strong and cannot be broken, and the bond of a child and a mother is one of them.

Many recent studies indicate how important a mother’s love is and how it helps a child grow.

More the love and care given to your kids – healthier and happier they will be later in life.

Parental love, especially motherly love, is a great source of better emotional stability that reduces the chances of psychological disorders and boosts the self-esteem, which improves the health of a child.

Today’s post is in honor of mothers and a tribute to my mother, who was the most special person in my life till she passed away a few years back due to cancer.

“God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers.”  ~Jewish Proverb

With Mother’s Day just round the corner I miss my mother more than ever and I know that just as my mother was special to me, your mother would be special to you. No one can ever take the place of a mother – isn’t it?

A mother’s love which is truly unconditional, her support that always remains with us – along with her forgiving nature makes her a very important person in our lives.

Motherhood is the most exciting, beautiful, painful, and difficult experience for any mother. I think you give it your best, yet you feel that you should have done better, or that there is something lacking.

Reasons Why Mothers are Special

Every one of us feels that our mothers are special to us and there could be many reasons for the way we feel. There are no words that can express a mother’s love, though I will try sharing a few things that make mothers so special.

“A mother understands what a child does not say.”  ~ Jewish proverb

1- Makes the most unique bond

There are some bonds in life that are irreplaceable – just like a mother-child bond. That strong bond is what often makes the mother feel the pain when the child falls and gets hurt, or spends sleepless nights comforting her child.

There is always a strong bond between the child and mother, which cannot be seen but is felt by both. Often time what the child feels or thinks the mother gets to know even without the child spelling it out.

I remember when I was young and if there was anything that I wanted or wished for, I don’t know how, but my mother was the first one to get to know of it. It was almost magical! I sure do miss my mom…

2- She is God’s best creation

Mothers are God’s best creations because of their enduring nature, their charm, their giving nature, their sacrificing, forgiving, and always putting others before themselves.

It’s only a mother’s love that is unconditional, totally selfless, and without any greed. Yes, fathers are equally important but it’s the mother who bears the child as they emerge from her body.

And she is the one who bares the pain and takes immense trouble to bring the child into this world and give life.

Not to mention those mothers who adopt or go in for surrogacy those are at par with mothers who give birth to their children.

Remembering my mother, I recollect her giving nature and how she would go all out to just share and donate things to the poor and needy. I wish I could be more like her. She was the best mother anyone could have.

3- Ability to Nurture

Nurture is inborn to a certain degree in mothers, which makes them so special. Even a small girl loves cuddling her doll or loves playing with babies, and this sense of nurture matures when she becomes a mother.

Those kids deprived of a mother’s nurture, the gentle speech, soft tones, the cuddling, hugs and kisses, sense a lack throughout their lives.

There’s even a special bond formed between a mother and daughter once the daughter herself becomes a mother. The mother is now known as the “Grandmother”, and she knows all that her daughter will undergo as a mother.

I remember the times when I was hugged, kissed, and cuddled, which made me feel so loved, secured, and protected. I have yet to learn to love my kids the way my mom and dad loved me, though I am trying. I realized the importance of my mother more after losing her, so value your moms while they are around.

4- An ardent encourager, appreciator, and protector

Mothers are so special I think because they joyfully encourage and appreciate anything and everything their child does.

I guess they are just so full of pride for the little achievements of their children, and can never stop talking or portraying their love for them.

Fathers are no less too, and often times it’s both, the mother and father who take pride and encourage their children to face the challenges and hardships and move ahead in life.

Most mothers are great protectors of their young, whether in the family of human beings or the family of animal kingdom as seen here. Mothers instinctively know when something good or bad happens with their child.

Remembering my mother, I clearly recall the time when I baked my first cake and it didn’t come out well and was half-cooked. My mom was so happy and proud of my achievement that she decorated and served the cake to everyone at home.
I can never forget what that moment did to me. My mother was a very special person in my life.

5- Instills values

Though a mother always loves her child but she doesn’t forget to instill gratitude and values nor does she forget to teach them all there is to learn about life.

She is the one who teaches them the right from wrong and good from bad, though of course some fathers also do equally well.

My mother was the most special person I knew because she inculcated some great values in me that have come a long way with me today. It’s because of her and my dad’s upbringing that I am an educated, independent woman today.

I remember when I was very small how I was taught to wish the elders. It took a lot of patience for my parents to get me around wishing everyone.
But those instilled values are what I still remember, and have done the same with my kids now. Mom I miss you and all your lessons taught.

6- Works round the clock

Mothers are special because they work round the clock without any complaints to keep you happy. They curb their desires to fulfill yours and do everything for their family and children.

Even if your mother is a working mom, she still manages the job, her house, and does all your work without you having to say anything. Speaking of which, I’ve always seen my mom enjoy doing housework without any cribs.

I think it’s a mother’s love only that easily gives in to your tantrums and cranky behavior, because she knows you and your mood swings so well.

Yes, fathers also do work hard and earn a living for their family, but they don’t really have to work as much at home, though a few fathers do help in the kitchen and housework.

Remembering my mother, I reminisce the time she was teaching and how she used to reach home and head towards the kitchen, just to be in time to cook us a hot piping meal when we returned from school.
She never really had a breather, and I’ve always seen her working. Even the time when she was talking to us, she always had her hands working at something. Only special mothers like her could do so much for their kids.

7- Always a friend and confidante

Relationships change when a child grows up and becomes independent. However, according to recent studies, whatever a mother has to say and her role as a confidante and friend remains essential to teenagers.

When mothers begin understanding teenagers, it helps the teens to shun risky behavior and build their personalities. Yes, it’s not easy to talk with teens when at that age arguments are more common than communication, but yes, wait a while and things settle down.

I remember the time when I was a teenager and how I used to disagree with most things that my mom used to say. But my mother was my best friend and guided be right through those teen years with ease.
I am on that same path with my kids now and hope I succeed like her. I miss my mother and her guidance that would have helped me raise my kids better.

There’s a lot to say and be thankful for, but how do you thank the very person who brought you into this world? How do you thank someone for feeling hurt each time you fall, for sleepless nights, for sacrifices and compromises made, and for a lifetime of worry?

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” -Washington Irving

I wouldn’t say that fathers don’t have a role in raising kids, because I have seen how my father has looked after us after my mom. His motherly love speaks volumes and cannot be mentioned in a few words.

Similarly, there are many single parents who are doing a wonderful job of raising their kids all on their own, besides the hardships they face – hats-off to all those dedicated and committed fathers and mothers!

For me, being a mother has been the most challenging, yet rewarding experience. It’s said that a mother’s love begins at the very thought of conception and never ends even after death.

Being a mother myself I just hope and pray I can be a little like my mother and make her grandchildren proud.

I miss you mom…

“Your arms were always open when I needed a hug. Your heart understood when I needed a friend. Your gentle eyes were stern when I needed a lesson. Your strength and love has guided me and gave me wings to fly.” ~ Sarah Malin

Bonus for you

To all you wonderful mothers out there who are doing a commendable job, here are some wonderful tech gifts for mothers shared by my good friend Carolyn at her blog.

Remember that a mother loves at all times, even when she feels under-appreciated  exhausted, and overwhelmed. So reach out to your mother, value her and her presence, and make every day as good as Mother’s Day.

Here’s a special tribute to all mothers on this special day – thank you for doing so much for us all the time, we appreciate and love you for whoever and whatever you are.

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

Over to you

Do you feel mothers are special? What are you planning for Mother’s Day to make your mother feel special? If you are a mother or daughter, how have you dealt with motherhood or being a daughter? And if you are a son or father, in what ways do you feel mothers are special? Share in the comments below.



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  1. David

    May 11, 2012 at 7:03 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Thank you for another thoughtful post. You just reminded me that I need to call my mother.

    I think that with Mother’s day here we all need to take time to stop and consider again the importance of our mothers. Without mothers the world would be a very unhappy place.

    So congratulations and cheers to all the mothers around the world.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 11, 2012 at 7:12 pm

      Glad the post helped you remember to call your mother David!

      I’m sure she would be happy to hear from you.:)

      Yes indeed, Mother’s Day is a good time to think about all that our mothers do or have done for us, and how much they mean to us. I guess we need to learn to value or mothers on this day and every single day as well, because you can never tell about tomorrow. I miss my mom a great deal, and her loss is something that can never be replaced.

      Thanks so much for your kind wishes and nice that you stopped by. 🙂

    • David

      May 11, 2012 at 7:17 pm

      I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother.

      Perhaps remembering the happy times and all that she taught you will help. Pass on what you know. The more we learn from our mothers, as you said, the better off we are. My mother is now in 70s but she is very active in her community and I have a feeling that she will be around for a long time yet. I hope so anyway. We live far apart and the frequency that I will get to see her is much less now.

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        Harleena Singh

        May 11, 2012 at 7:29 pm

        My mothers memories are what keeps me going and I try instilling those very values in my kids that I learnt from my mom.

        Nice to know more about your mother and that’s remarkable if she’s still active at that age. God bless her and always keep her happy and healthy. The distances are sure a reason for less of meeting the ones we love, though am sure once in a while a surprise would make her day. 🙂

  2. Patti Hale

    May 11, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    Thanks for this lovely tribute to mothers!

    I agree with all you say about how special mothers are, including my own mother that I lost in 2000 and the mothers of my grandchildren, my daughter and daughter-in-law. I thank God for the opportunity I was given to be a mother and the special bond I have with my children. Good job!

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      Harleena Singh

      May 11, 2012 at 11:26 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Patti!

      Yes indeed, mothers are always special. Sorry to hear about the loss of your mom also, I guess we lose the ones we love the earliest – isn’t it? We are lucky to be mothers and have such wonderful kids, and I can’t wait to see what they have planned for Mother’s Day!

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  3. Bonnie Chomica

    May 12, 2012 at 5:18 am

    Such a touching post Harleena.

    I lost my mother when I was only 9 years old. But even though I’m fifty-something, her soul and nurturing are still with me.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 12, 2012 at 11:48 am

      Welcome to the blog Bonnie!

      Sorry to hear about your mothers loss, especially when you were that young, which must have left you completely shattered and broken. Yes indeed, even though my mom left me a few years back, but all that she taught me and her soul is always with me, just as it’s with you. I guess the ones we truly love, never leave us- they are always with us – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  4. Sylviane Nuccio

    May 12, 2012 at 6:29 am

    Hi Harleena,

    Very beautiful post, indeed. Some parts of it made me cry because of some things you mentioned are totally fitting my own mother who I love to death and miss so very much.

    There is nothing, nothing, like the love of a mother. I have never had and never will have someone loving me like my mother did.

    My mother was all about sacrificing anything about herself for her two kids. When I was little I used to say often, that I would have never wanted another mother. For me, anyway, my mother was the best and I never, ever understood anyone who didn’t love their mother as much as I did mine.

    When I was sick my mother was such an incomparable comfort for me that if I’m sick now as an adult I still wish that my mom was right here next to me, holding my head by the forehead if I’d throw up, just like she used to do when I was a child or even a young adult if I was sick in her presence.

    I will always remember when I was living in Paris on my own and being very sick with the flu, my mother took the TGV train form Lyon (350 miles) to Paris, at a phone call’s notice, just to assist me until I was better.

    Happy Mother’s Day, mama, I love you!

    Thank you for this and for all mothers out there 🙂

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      Harleena Singh

      May 12, 2012 at 12:04 pm

      Glad you liked the post Sylviane!

      Sorry to have brought tears to your eyes, but I guess those who have lost their moms would get a little emotional – just as I did, especially on days like Mother’s Day when we miss our moms so much.

      I ditto what you said – there is nothing like a mother’s love and no one can ever replace your own mother, nor really give you that kind of love. I did read your earlier comments in one of the blog posts here about how your mother sacrificed so much to raise both of you, which speaks volumes about her being a ‘giving’ mom, and doing things for her kids.

      Nice to know that we have many things in common where our mothers are concerned, or perhaps most mothers are like that. My mom also used to just drop everything and look after us, if any of used to fall sick. And she used to be worried sick till the time we were back on our feet- miss those days when someone used to look after us too.

      I guess all these very things, which may seem very small but the way they leave their impact on our heart and soul is what shows how great they actually are- makes mothers so special. And such things only mothers can do – no one else – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with everyone. Happy Mother’s Day too 🙂

  5. Azam

    May 12, 2012 at 9:34 am

    Hello Harleena!

    According to my knowledge there is no alternative to mother love. All successful people are because of their mother’s love. A mother’s love make the life of kids a paradise. A person who is successful in getting mother love is the richest person in the world.

    In hard times of life a mother is your best friend. No other relation is stronger than this relation.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 12, 2012 at 12:10 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Azam!

      Yes indeed, there’s nothing like a mothers love and it’s something that makes a world of a difference in a child’s life. Mothers love is unconditional and she is indeed your best friend if you let her be. There is nothing stronger than the bond between a mother and child I think.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  6. farouk

    May 12, 2012 at 3:13 pm

    Super like!

    Of course they are special : )
    I love my mom.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 12, 2012 at 3:17 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Farouk!

      Yes indeed, mothers are special and I think all of us love our moms – no one like them. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  7. Ilka Flood

    May 13, 2012 at 12:09 am

    Hi Harleena,

    What a beautiful post and tribute to your own mom! I couldn’t finish reading it with dry eyes and had to run for the Kleenex box. Having lost my mom to cancer just like you I feel the same pain of missing her although it has been almost 40 years now.

    Your mom did an excellent job of bringing you up and I can picture her in you. Don’t feel like you aren’t loving your kids like she did love you. It’s kind of a mom thing that we think we’re not giving enough love to our kids, but I’m sure your children don’t think so. You are doing a marvelous job, I’m sure.

    “The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom.” -Henry Ward Beecher

    Happy Mother’s Day!

    Ilka

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      Harleena Singh

      May 13, 2012 at 7:49 pm

      Glad you liked the post Ilka!

      Sorry if it brought tears to your eyes, which may have been because you lost your mom too and it does get us emotional. And no matter how much time it may have been since the loss of our dear ones, their memories remain ever so fresh in our hearts – isn’t it? I guess they must be happy by just knowing that we remember them fondly are try our very best to follow all that they have taught us. 🙂

      My mom raised me very well, in-fact both my dad and mom, though I am not a patch to her or my dad. I try to love and give as much as I can to my kids, but there always seems to be a feeling as if so something is lacking or the thought that could I do it better. Yet I know I have my moms blessings with me and somewhere from above she is guiding me.

      Thanks for those kinds words and the lovely quotes. It’s always a pleasure to have you over.

      Happy Mother’s day to you as well 🙂

  8. Jens P. Berget

    May 13, 2012 at 2:00 am

    Great post and perfect timing 🙂

    I highly agree that mothers are special people. I keep looking at my wife to try to understand why she’s so much closer to our young kids. To me, it’s all natural. I’ll get my share as the kids get older, but during the first years, nobody is closer to their kids than the mother 🙂

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      Harleena Singh

      May 13, 2012 at 7:55 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Jens!

      Mothers are indeed special to their kids and there can really be no one like them. Yes, as a father you must be doing your best, but when kids are young I think they are closer to the mother in most of the cases. Once they grow up the kids learn to balance out and divide their fondness for both, the father and mother.

      Thanks for stopping by and Happy Mother’s Day (for your wife and mom)! 🙂

  9. Jodi

    May 13, 2012 at 3:48 pm

    Harleena,
    Love number 4. (4- An ardent encourager, appreciator, and protector). This is the mother identity I would like to have! I think I do OK!
    Happy Mother’s Day to you!
    Love,
    Jodi

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      Harleena Singh

      May 13, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Jodi!

      Mothers are indeed special, and the way they encourage and appreciate their kids is amazing. I am sure you too must be having most of these qualities mentioned and your kids would proud of you.

      I remember my mom was always so full of praises for the smallest of our achievements, which was a huge boost to our self-esteem and confidence. That and so much more is what makes them so special- isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  10. Nikky44

    May 13, 2012 at 3:49 pm

    Mothers are just perfect, all of them are. They give the best they can, they love with all their heart, and serve with all their strength. Happy mother’s day!!

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      Harleena Singh

      May 13, 2012 at 8:27 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Nikky!

      Yes indeed, mothers are always perfect and I don’t think we can really become like our mothers, though we keep trying to get better every day. Their love is truly unconditional and there is nothing as compared to what they do for us. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by & Happy Mother’s Day to you as well 🙂

      • nikky44

        May 17, 2012 at 2:24 pm

        How I wish I could know what my mother would want to tell me today, how would she react, how would she help?

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          Harleena Singh

          May 17, 2012 at 4:58 pm

          Something to think about Nikky!

          I guess sometimes when they aren’t around you can sense things about them or feel their presence around you. For me, I just have to close my eyes and remember her fondly and I feel her presence, and I know she would be happy that I remember her fondly and try my best to follow all that she taught me. Perhaps you could try the same. 🙂

          Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  11. Vidya Sury

    May 13, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    Fabulous read, Harleena!

    Mothers are divine – and define us in such an all-encompassing way. Love your post with its quotes.

    Happy Mothers Day to you! Hugs!

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      Harleena Singh

      May 13, 2012 at 11:41 pm

      Glad you liked it Vidya!

      Yes indeed, mothers are divine and there’s nothing like a mothers love – isn’t it? Miss my mom and I know you miss yours too, though I think they would be happy knowing that we think of them fondly.

      Thanks for stopping by and Happy Mother’s Day to you as well 🙂

  12. Praveen Rajarao

    May 13, 2012 at 10:50 pm

    Harleena – Awesome post on a beautiful day for all mothers out there.

    I agree 100% with all your thoughts there and I am glad you wrote this up devoted to all of them.

    Great read as usual. Have a wonderful weekend.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 13, 2012 at 11:46 pm

      Glad you liked the post Praveen!

      Mothers are always special in the lives of their kids, and the amount of love, affection, and care that a mother gives to her children – I don’t think any one else can. Yes, fathers are wonderful too, but a mothers love will always remain a mothers love – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  13. Adrienne

    May 14, 2012 at 1:36 am

    Happy Mother’s Day Harleena!

    I love this post because I, like most people, believe that my Mom is very special. I’m so sorry yours isn’t here to celebrate this wonderful day with you.

    My Mom was a very strict disciplinarian. At the same time, we was very nurturing as well. I wasn’t as close to my my growing up as I was later in life. Over the years I became to appreciate all that she taught us the older I got.

    I’m not spending Mother’s Day with my Mom only because she doesn’t live in the same town and she doesn’t want me driving down to spend this day with her when I’ll be down there next Friday. I will be spending the weekend with her and taking her to her 70th high school reunion. The last Monday of the month is also her birthday so I intend to help her celebrate them all next weekend.

    Thank you for sharing this with us Harleena and Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there whether you have children or just animals. They love us just the same.

    ~Adrienne

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      Harleena Singh

      May 14, 2012 at 10:19 am

      Glad you loved the post Adrienne!

      Yes indeed, I think every mother is special and even though my mom isn’t around, but she’s always present in my heart and I feel her presence so often.

      I guess mothers have to be strict in order to discipline their kids, though the ensure they pamper us and teach us life’s lessons alongside too. I think you were closer to your dad in your initial years as I read on your blog, but I think after him your closeness to your mom must have increased. And this is what mostly happens- that we are closer to one parent when we our young and later the closeness for both parents develops. I was perhaps always close to my mom, though later the closeness for both became more – much more for my dad after my mom.

      It’s the feelings that really matter and as you are going to be with your mom next Friday for the weekend, and help her with her birthday celebrations and take her for the reunion, you are doing a great deal for your mom. Wishing her a very Happy Birthday in advance. 🙂

      Yes, I could never forget animals as they are also loving parents of their young ones, and as good as children for those who don’t have kids.

      Happy Mother’s Day and thanks so much for stopping by. It’s always a pleasure to have you over. 🙂

  14. Becca

    May 14, 2012 at 6:44 am

    Because of her unconditional love she is special..
    Happy Mother’s Day to all moms!

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      Harleena Singh

      May 14, 2012 at 10:26 am

      Indeed Becca!

      Mothers are special for their unconditional love and for so much more they do. I guess the words fall short when we want to express all that our mothers do for us – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and Happy Mother’s Day 🙂

  15. Shane

    May 14, 2012 at 3:19 pm

    A very powerful and touching post Harleena!

    For my mom, me and my sister took her out for a dinner. It may be a simple gesture, but it was nice to have a change in her daily routine.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 15, 2012 at 10:24 am

      Welcome to the blog Shane!

      Glad you found the post touching and powerful. I think your mom would be so happy that she had a wonderful change in her routine when her kids thought of her and took her out for dinner on Mother’s Day. There couldn’t be any better gift than spending quality time with her.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  16. John Ernest

    May 15, 2012 at 6:30 pm

    I’ve never really had the time to hand-make anything for my Mom. But I always give her presents to show how much she means to me. They are God’s best creation. The ones that God have given the ability to love unconditionally. No matter who we are, we always have mother that will love and support us.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 15, 2012 at 7:31 pm

      Welcome to the blog John!

      It really doesn’t matter if you haven’t hand-made things for your mom as there as so many other ways to show your mom how much she means to you. They are indeed God’s best creation, without which we would never exist.

      A mothers love is unconditional and she is always there with her kids no matter what – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  17. Anne

    May 15, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    Of course, mothers are very special.

    Sadly, mine was killed over 4 years ago. I think my mum found motherhood harder than I have. I have a natural motherly instinct and wanted to stay home and look after mine before they started school – which was exactly what I did.

    We have mother’s day in March here in the UK, so it’s always like having 2 mother’s day when my friends from other parts of the world are doing their tributes.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 16, 2012 at 5:46 pm

      Glad you could resonate with the post Anne!

      Yes indeed, mothers are special. Sorry to hear about the loss of your mother too, though I think she would be very proud of you and the way you have brought up your kids. I guess each mother is different and has her own way of looking after her kids – isn’t it? I was also like you and never really ventured out to work or did anything else till my kids were big enough to take care of themselves.

      I think we should celebrate Mother’s Day everyday by looking after our mothers or remembering them fondly if they are not with us, and by trying our best to follow their footsteps or the lessons they taught us.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  18. Barry Wells

    May 15, 2012 at 9:04 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I’m sorry to hear that you’ve lost your mum to cancer, my wife lost her’s as well and I know how sad she gets on Mothers day, birthdays, Christmas and other family times. I think you’ve done your mum proud with your post dedicated to her.

    My mum means so much to me and is the person that showed me how to be strong mentally and face whatever gets in our way with a positive outlook, which is hard at times but needed 😉

    My wife is a great mum to our kids and I see more and more the work she puts in to help them. Not only with day to day life but how that help/encouragement/support has helped develop our kids into sensible adults.

    Mothers the world over are priceless 🙂

    Thanks Harleena,
    Barry

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      Harleena Singh

      May 16, 2012 at 6:09 pm

      Nice that you could relate to the post Barry!

      I think the loss of our loved ones is something none of us can really get over, and it’s the special occasions like Christmas, birthdays, or Mother’s Day (if it’s our mother) that remind us all the more of them. And all you can really do to remember them fondly is remember the good times shared with them and use all the lessons taught in your life now – isn’t it?

      I read about your parents in the earlier comments, and it was all because of the hardships your mom faced being a single parent that helped raise all of you so well, which made you what you are today. Hats-off to such courageous and giving mothers.

      I’m sure your wife is as wonderful a parent as you, because you are no less when it comes to looking after your kids. I guess the efforts from both parents is what’s needed to make the kids turn into sensible adults, and all they need is lots of love and our constant support, encouragement, and guidance.

      I ditto that – mothers ARE priceless. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with everyone. It’s always a pleasure to have you over. 🙂

  19. Deeone Higgs

    May 15, 2012 at 10:20 pm

    I couldn’t agree with you more, Harleena!

    Each of these are beautiful reasons, indeed, as to why mother’s ROCK! 🙂

    When I lost my own a little over year and a half ago, I also realized something else about mothers. They are our biggest cheering section, and when they’re living, we look for their approval and celebration on our greatest successes and achievements. No one will toot our horn like our mothers does, will they? 😀

    Although, I still have people cheering me on and encouraging me along this life journey; I miss my mother’s the most. I know with all that I’ve done this far, and all that I’m yet to do; my mother would have really had a field day on my behalf by now. Nonetheless, I still feel the joy I know she’s feeling every single day. It’s that feeling that keeps me going and wanting to do even more.

    That, I believe, is the power our mothers possess. Even if they don’t live near us or still here with us in their human form, we know the bond with them can never be broken. They are with us always.

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful message with us. 🙂

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      Harleena Singh

      May 16, 2012 at 6:37 pm

      Glad you agree Deeone!

      I like that – yes- mothers ROCK 🙂

      I know how close you were to your mother and her loss must have shaken you. Yes indeed, they are the ones who bring that smile on our face, and they are the ones who encourage, motivate, and inspire us to keep moving ahead and trying out new things. Fathers too are great here, though mothers tend to overlook the problems in her child, and is always supportive – isn’t it?

      No one can really take the place of a mother or all that she does for us. Even though other people come into our lives but it’s never really the same. But your mom would surely be proud of your achievements and the pace with which you are going ahead, had she been around. I guess even if she’s not here, she is seeing you from above and knows you are doing well. You have her blessings for sure dear friend. 🙂

      I guess that though we lose our loved ones and miss their presence physically, they never leave us and are always around and with us.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with everyone. 🙂

  20. Dr Linda Hamilton

    May 16, 2012 at 5:42 pm

    Mothers are so very special… thank you for your touching post Harleena.

    I think Mothers sacrifice so much of themselves being Mums, and they do it unconditionally, not expecting a thing in return. This Mother’s Day I thanked my Mother for sacrificing so much to bring us up with love and adventure… and then shared it with the world for everyone to see how wonderful she truly is in my letter to her.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 16, 2012 at 9:43 pm

      Welcome to the blog Linda!

      Glad you liked the post, and yes, mothers are always special because of all that they do and who they are. They are always giving and sacrificing themselves for us without asking for anything in return, which is what makes them so-so special.

      The letter is a very beautiful tribute to your mother and I’m sure she would be happy reading it. I guess small things matter and if you can convey your feelings towards your mother and let her know how much you value her- there can be a no better gift for her on this special day.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  21. Annie Andre

    May 16, 2012 at 7:40 pm

    Harleena,

    This was a very special post. My mother passed away when I was 5 years old and I always had this void. Looking back, my dad was great, but I didn’t have anyone to brush my hair, paint my fingernails, eat ice cream out on the back porch and nurture me.

    I never realized it until I had my own children and started to give them all the things I wished I had growing up.

    I sometimes wonder what my children think of me and hope that I’m doing a good job. Time will tell. This past mothers day I was on a cruise and it was amazing. It’s good to be a mom.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 16, 2012 at 9:55 pm

      Glad you liked the post Annie!

      Sorry to hear that you lost your mother at that young an age, though I’m glad your dad was there to fill the void. But yes, all those girlish things and the love that a mother can only give must have been really missing.

      I guess because you never had the things you wished for that you could share with your mom, you made sure your kids had them. And I’m sure your kids would be proud of having such a wonderful and doting mother. 🙂

      Wonderful to know that you celebrated Mother’s Day on a cruise! Must have felt really nice to be with your family and being a mom to them on this special day.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  22. Joanne Cipressi

    May 17, 2012 at 2:00 am

    Harleena,

    What a beautiful post!! I appreciate how you share some of the special moments that you have experienced with your mother. I can tell that she is so alive within your heart.

    I never had a special bond with my mother, but my children and I share a special, close bond that is extremely special to all of us. Being a mother is a special gift that should always be cherished. It is amazing how much love and care we have within us for our children. I am amazed every day when I see how much patience, love and compassion I can have for my girls and how much they grow and change before my eyes–true miracles!

    Hugs to you Harleena! 🙂

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      Harleena Singh

      May 17, 2012 at 10:43 am

      Glad you liked the post Joanne!

      There is so much to share about all that I’ve learnt from my parents that it’s impossible to pen everything down, though I do try to share what best I remember and what would help the readers of the blog. And yes, she is forever within my heart and soul – very alive. 🙂

      I keep reading about your closeness with your kids on your blog, which is wonderful indeed. They must be so proud of you and would cherish these memories and moments that you spend with them. They are truly blessed to have such a loving, caring, and compassionate mother.

      Thanks for stopping by. It’s always a pleasure to have you over. 🙂

  23. Nischala

    May 17, 2012 at 3:37 pm

    Harleena – Beautiful post! Really well written!

    I guess words sometimes fall short to capture the role, importance and difference your MOM makes your life. For mothers day, I also wrote a post on what it means to be a mother – I think you will like it.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 17, 2012 at 5:42 pm

      Welcome to the blog Nischala!

      Glad you liked the post, and yes words are never really enough to express the feelings or convey all that we want to at times. Mothers are so very special in our lives and their absence or loss is something that create a void. I read your post on mothers and it surely was wonderful, a nice tribute to all mothers. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  24. Pete Goumas

    May 17, 2012 at 4:40 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    It’s a very touchy post. Nobody in this world can love you as much as a mom can. It’s a most precious gift of God to all of us who have their mom in their lives. Well, it’s quite interesting to know that mother’s love also effect child’s psyhology or self-esteem.

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      Harleena Singh

      May 17, 2012 at 5:11 pm

      Glad you liked the post Pete!

      I guess being an emotional person, sometimes I do write touchy posts, especially when I miss my mom whom I lost some years back. Yes indeed, mothers are priceless and no one can love us the way they do. And there can be nothing as compared to a mothers love too – isn’t it?

      Children who don’t get enough of their mother’s love do lack confidence, self-esteem, and it does effect the child’s psychology too, which just proves that mothers have such an important role and impact in the lives of their children.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  25. Pauline

    May 17, 2012 at 7:04 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I found your post very moving as I lost my mom about 15 years ago now and I miss her all the time. Thanks for sharing, hope you have a great day.

    Pauline

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      Harleena Singh

      May 17, 2012 at 7:19 pm

      Welcome to the blog Pauline!

      Glad you found the post moving, though I’ sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. I guess losing any loved one is painful, and the time does seem to stand still when we remember them fondly – isn’t it? I think when we remember them fondly and try following all that they taught us, we may be able to make them happy, wherever they are. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  26. Terry Conti

    May 18, 2012 at 7:29 am

    Hi Harleena,

    You are so right there are no words that can truly explain a mother’s love. The best we can do to explain it is unconditional love.

    Things in your life happen, you meet a whole bunch of people, you lose a whole bunch of people, the tides of life pass but mom is always there and will always be there.

    I believe dads are equally the same but just like you can’t explain love fully because it’s not something you put in one hand and then the other and weigh it. Dad’s certainly are involved and we love them both dearly with all our being our heats and soul but mom is mom.

    Terry Conti

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      Harleena Singh

      May 18, 2012 at 9:10 am

      Welcome to the blog Terry!

      Glad you could resonate with the post, and yes, we always do fall short of words when we express a mothers love – it’s so vast and priceless.

      Yes indeed, people come into our lives and they leave, and life carries on. But we have that wonderful feeling that no matter who goes or comes, mom is always going to be there, though sadly this doesn’t always happen. Some of us don’t really value the presence of our parents in our lives while they are still around, and realize the loss after they leave us.

      Dads are equally wonderful and it takes both the parents love, care, and attention in raising a healthy family. But, moms are and will always be moms I guess. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  27. Elena Anne

    May 18, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    This post really made my day Harleena. 🙂

    No matter how many times I get into a fight with my mother, I really can’t stand not to patch things up between us. She’s my number 1 best friend. 🙂

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      Harleena Singh

      September 18, 2012 at 11:23 am

      I’m glad you liked the post Elena!

      I’m so sorry I somehow missed your comment, and I apologize for not replying in time.

      You’ve an exclusive relationship with your mother, and I wish you two continue to be great friends!

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  28. Sue Neal

    March 10, 2013 at 3:59 am

    This post’s a wonderful tribute to your Mum, Harleena – and I’m sure you’re more like her than you give yourself credit for.

    It sounds to me as if you certainly did appreciate her while she was alive and that you’ve learned enough from her to be a pretty incredible mother yourself – I don’t think your kids have anything to worry about on that score. Not just from this post, but from your writing elsewhere on this blog, I strongly suspect you’re an amazing, loving Mum and that your kids are lucky to have you.

    I, too, was fortunate to have a lovely Mum – she’d had a very tough, difficult childhood and she was absolutely determined that her own kids were going to have a better time. Her only fault was that she spoilt us rotten. She was a very special lady and I miss her.

    Thanks for a lovely, warm-hearted post, Harleena – and I hope you have a fantastic Mother’s Day!

    Sue

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      Harleena Singh

      March 10, 2013 at 10:59 am

      Hi Sue,

      Glad you liked the post, and yes – such posts always remind me of my Mom and for all the other mothers who are doing so well raising their kids. 🙂

      I wish I were more like her, though I do try to remember all that she taught me and try my best to inculcate those values and lessons in my kid’s. However, I can never be like her – she was the real woman of substance and I still have a long way to go before I become a little like her. Thanks for your words of appreciation Sue, but I feel I lack in a lot of areas – though I try my best to get better by the day – so I would say when I write about parenting on the blog, it teaches me as it reminds me to get better too.

      Nice to know about your Mom, and she surely sounds like a woman with great strength and will power. Even though she has a difficult and tough childhood, she made sure she gave all the comforts to her kids, and I guess what we might call as spoiling – was actually her love for you all. That’s why mothers are special people – aren’t they?

      Thanks for stopping-by, and a Happy Mother’s Day to you too. I know we miss our Moms, but I strongly feel they are always with us, as our guardian angels 🙂

  29. Ahsan

    May 12, 2013 at 6:45 pm

    Hello Harleena,

    Another great post on mother. Mother is definitely the best gift of kids. He whoever lost his mother in childhood is the most unluckiest person in the world. Mother knows her kids best. Mother knows everything by just seeing your face. We don’t need to express. it is the mother who sacrifice everything just to make happy her kids.

    On this special day, we need to celebrate our mom. Here is a Mother’s Day special poem:

    When you feel you are alone in the crowd,
    When you think No.1 can understand you,
    When your love is rejected by others,
    & when you hate your Life,
    Just close your eyes, & see, her face who loves you
    more than any 1 else,
    who care for you in loneliness,
    & dies when you cry.
    She is no 1, but your sweet loving mother 🙂

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      Harleena Singh

      May 12, 2013 at 8:05 pm

      Hi Ahsan,

      Glad you liked the post on why mothers are special people, which they really are 🙂

      I agree, and such a loss no one can replace. You’re right, a mother always knows what her child is undergoing, without her child having to mention anything to her at all. That’s another reason why they are so special.

      That is such a lovely poem, and thank you for sharing it with us on this special day 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. Wishing you a very Happy Mother’s Day as well 🙂

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    Dr. Arpita Jain

    January 3, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    Hi Mrs. Harleena,

    I see that this post was written long back, but unfortunately I got to read it just today, and how emotional and teary I got reading this. I always took my mom for granted thinking that its her duty to make me feel happy and fulfill all my needs. And now when I am mom myself, I can understand my mother much better and can now appreciate how much she did for me and how little that appeared to me then.
    I totally agree that Moms would always be the most special person in everyone’s life and no one can replace a Mom, no matter how so ever close he or she might be to you.
    I am what I am today because of my mom…Thanks for reminding me that in such a sweet way 🙂

  31. Howard Benoit

    January 24, 2016 at 5:05 am

    Hi,
    If someone were to tell me,that God is a women[Mother] it would be easy to belive,yes you’re right a mother’s love and bond,is one that us men well never understand,like we don’t understand God.It’s a Love beyond Love.I’m 68,and I love my mom more evey day,she live within me,she’s just there,just can’t get rid of her,and how lucky I am.
    Please excuise my French,my grammar is not the best,but my love for my mom is thank, HOWARD BENOIT




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