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What Can You Learn From Grandparents

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Grandchildren love their grandparents. In fact, grandparents are their whole world. However, what’s so special in grandparents that children prefer them over their own parents? At least some of them do!

You must have guessed why I am writing about grandparents. Yes, the National Grandparents Day of United States is just round the corner.

People celebrate Grandparents Day all over the world on different dates, but this post was inspired by the previous post on Aha!NOW.

Halreena wrote a post on Teachers and Teachers Day. Not surprisingly, in their comments, many readers attributed their parents and grandparents as being their best teachers in life.

Now, aren’t grandparents really special people? They are better teachers and even better parents for many grandchildren.

Grandparents are more than that – read this post on the role of grandparents in the family to know what other aspects of life grandparents excel in and their role in our lives.

How can these “old” people still be as valuable as gold? I know you would say, why not, because “old is gold”!

If you are a grandparent and somebody tells you that you are old, you can reply saying you are Gold – old grandparents are more valuable than the real gold.

You see we humans are like wine – we get better with age, do you agree?

Grandparents are fully seasoned and grown adults, with highly developed hearts and a rich experienced life.

So, what can we learn from grandparents?

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Learning from Grandparents

I remember that I used to spend a good part of my annual summer holidays regularly at my grandparent’s place. I used to love it over there.

Those days spent with my grandparents are still vivid in my memory, as being one of the best periods in my life.

Why was it so? Well, I had the freedom to be as and what I wanted, I was given what I asked for, I was cared for and loved without being asked about anything, even if I made blunders.

Thank goodness for grandparents, as you get softer, kinder, and warmer treatments being with them.

Times have changed. I am a parent now. Looking back at those days, I don’t think I’m being with my children how my grandparents were with me.

I guess that happens with time as we change our roles. Most probably, I will become like my grandparents, and my children will become more like me.

Coming back to the focus of this post, mentioned below are some of the lessons I learned from my grandparents.

A Dozen Lessons of Life to Learn from Grandparents

Grandparent and grandchildren fishing together.

Be Good

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You will mostly find that grandparents are kind and compassionate. They are good, and that is the main reason why grandchildren like them.

In fact, if you are good, everybody will like you. Being good in your thoughts, words, and actions, will also make you feel good!

Be Content

My grandparents were cool and calm. They had all the patience in the world and were content with their life and belongings.

Probably, having limited desires and expectations bring you more happiness in life. Take life as it comes, don’t panic.

Be Yourself

Did your grandparents copy or impersonate someone else? No, they were originals, weren’t they?

After all the years, they knew that liking and loving yourself, and being yourself is the way to be confident and comfortable. Find the real you, from within.

Be Jovial

I bet that your grandparents were the most humorous people you met, they are fun to be with! Though not necessarily.

At least they know that being happy and making light of life’s events makes you less stressed, or enables you to cope with stress in life. More so, you can only enjoy the moments of life if you are happy.

Be Social

Probably you can say that most grandparents have more time to spare because they have completed their duties as parents and have ample time in hand now. So they get social in the real sense – getting involved in social or community activities and service.

Also, being social in terms of interaction help you remain connected, lively, and fresh in your heart and mind. Social would mean meeting friends and being with family, so always encourage family get together as those times are precious.

Be Giving

Of course, grandparents would not ever let you go empty-handed – they always have something to offer you, whether it is cookies, chocolates, or even hugs!

They give you their time, their shoulder for you to lean upon, their ears to listen to your talks and woes, and so much more. You’ll feel good living, if you’re giving – that’s the joy of giving.

Be Caring

Grandparents demonstrate the real way of caring, by being selfless love and understanding all our needs.

They know that the world out there is rough and tough, and you deserve consolation to lift your spirits up. Caring also creates bonds, faith, and loving relations.

Be Loving

Loving words rather than punishments work. How many grandparents do you see punishing their grandchildren in whatever ways? They know what it takes to develop an effective rapport – unconditional love.

This is one reason why grandchildren have absolute faith in their grandparents and confide in or prefer to seek support from them, rather than their own parents.

Be Inspiring

My grandfather told me tales of his hardships when I was young. Those talks directly embedded in my core, and I was inspired by his determination and passion in life. I saw my grandmother working hard and serving all others selflessly.

I subconsciously made up my mind to be like them. You too should live a life that can inspire others to follow you.

Be Non-judgmental

I know that my grandparents never judged their grandchildren, nor even themselves when it came to grand parenting.

I guess that is the reason they were always relaxed, because they had no regrets or guilt about being bad in their job. They just took everything in their stride and moved on.

Be Wise

With knowledge and experience, you become more mature. You don’t let your ego create hurdles. Grandparents know that situations pass, darkness isn’t forever and children too will change with time.

Instead of reacting negatively and confronting, they prefer to reason and are understanding. Wisdom settles all your worries.

Be a Visionary

Grandparents understand the force and speed of time, and know that their grandchildren will grow out soon. They know life is short, so they should live fully, make the best of every moment, and make up with others.

Forgive, forget, and forge ahead to the future is their mantra. Each happy moment in the present will create a pool of happiness in the future.

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Grandchild standing with grandmother

Our grandparents teach us much more. They are the epitome of leading an enriched life, the ones who live the life as it should be lived. Grandparents are said to lay the foundation for the next generation.

You can read more about what you can learn from your grandparents from around the web, here and here.

I understand that not all of these qualities can be attributed to all grandparents because individual differences are always there, and people have varied learning experiences in life.

However, most grandparents know better than the young ones to live life the right way.

You need to take these lessons from their life and graft them into your life, without waiting to become  a grandparent yourself to learn them.

It’s wise and being smart to learn from the failures, success, and the lessons of life of others and save yourself from wasting time learning them and making mistakes. However, that way of learning also has its own advantages.

I’ll leave that for some other post and end this post here by thanking my grandparents, and all the grandparents and seniors around the world for imparting beautiful lessons of life and being our life teachers.

Celebrate this Grandparents Day by giving all the love and respect to your grandparents.

It’s time to giveback and show them what you learned about life from them. That will be the best gift they will love – give them your time, listen to them, share their memories, show that you care, and let them know that they are loved.

On another note, Harleena is taking the children to meet their grandfather as he nears his 75th birthday and will be back on 15th September. I am sure he is going to be a happy grandfather to be with his grandkids.

Wishing ALL of you a very Happy Grandparents Day, well in advance. 🙂

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Share Your Thoughts –

What did you learn from your grandparents? How did you spend your time with them? What have you planned for them for this Grandparents Day?

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  1. Abhishek Suneri

    April 14, 2016 at 1:37 pm

    Hi Vinay,

    You have written your heart in the post.

    Grandparents are wonders of children world. I agree with you that we can always learn something new from our parents be it compassion, be jovial, visionary, content or anything.

    Your observation of their giving nature is true to life, they always have something to offer as a token of their love.

    Great post.

  2. Bo Tipton

    February 5, 2015 at 11:53 pm

    Great post and reading it brought back a lot of memories. I was blessed with not only having Grandparents in my life but also getting to know some of my great-grandparents.
    It was amazing listening to there stories of when they first saw a car, first used a telephone, got electricity and so much more. I was able to hear first hand accounts of a changing world while feeling loved and safe.
    Now I am a grandfather of 12 and realize that the wisdom that grandparents have, comes from having more opportunities to make mistakes and hopefully learn from them.
    In the family and culture that I come from our grandparents and elders are still very much cherished. More than gold! So much is lost each time we lose one of them.
    Anyway great post and I enjoyed reading it.

  3. Lisa

    September 22, 2014 at 3:14 am

    Harleena, I was very close to my grandparents – my grandmother was my best friend. They passed when I was 17. And I still miss them today. I learned so much from them and felt unconditionally loved. There was nothing like that relationship.
    I still think of them often and make cookies my grandmother taught me and crochet which I learned from her.
    Now I’ve become one and still don’t believe it. I will soon as I’ll be visiting her. I hope I can be at least 1/2 the grandmother mine was to me.

  4. Kaustav Banerjee

    September 20, 2014 at 5:49 pm

    Fantastic post Sir. Grandparents are always the first friends we have. Even our parents can never share the delight and trust that we share with our grand parents. Our first worthy achievement or our first failure, we can share it all without any hesitation with our grand parents. They are always kind and forgiving. Their love is immense and their patience is tremendous.

  5. Minakshi Srivastava

    September 12, 2014 at 5:32 pm

    Hello Vinay sir,

    The relationship between Grandparents and Grandchildren is such a wonderful bond.We always more heartly attached with grandparents in compare to parents.

    By the way my grandparents is not alive but their wishes, blessings and love always alive with me.

    Thanks for sharing this wonderful article with us.

    Regards,
    Minakshi Srivastava

  6. Kumar Gauraw

    September 11, 2014 at 7:14 pm

    Hi Vinay,

    First of all, thank you for sharing these wonderful lessons. I am sure these are something awesome to learn whether we learn from Grandparents or not.

    Now, the reason I say that is because I didn’t have grandparentss. I didn’t see them. I just heard about them.

    But then, I learnt all these from my parents who have been a great role model of honesty, integrity and standing for what’s right.

    Thank you very much and appreciate you for sharing these for those who still have time to appreciate the fact that their grandparents can teach these awesome lessons.

  7. Dr. Diana

    September 11, 2014 at 1:46 am

    Hi Vinay,

    Really so nice post indeed 🙂

    I have learned so many good things from my grandparents. I love and miss them so much 🙁 .

    I really appreciate this great article which is dedicated to all our grandparents.

    Regards
    Dr. Diana Hardy

  8. Neamat Tawadrous

    September 10, 2014 at 10:43 pm

    Hi Harleena and Vinay,

    Great Post Vinay and a great tribute to grandparents. I wish all the grandparents out there a very happy one.

    Unfortunately, my grandparents from both sides died early on. From my father’s side, I never got to see them. From my mother’s side they passed away early before I get a chance to learn anything from them.

    My parents and my husband’s parents also passed away very early and my kids will also not have the chance to learn from them. So unfortunate but this is life.

    Thanks for sharing this great post, it is very emotional to read it and I feel so sad that my kids will not have their blessing.

    Happy 75th birthday to your father Harleena and I hope you enjoy your stay with your father.

    Be Blessed,

    Neamat

  9. Adrienne

    September 10, 2014 at 10:32 pm

    Hi Vinay,

    What a wonderful post and I remember my grandparents. They have all passed on years ago, over 25 to be exact.

    I lost my Dad’s father when I was three years old so I don’t remember him at all. My Dad’s Mom lived to be 98 years old and we use to visit her yearly in the country. She lived on a farm about 8 hours from us. She wasn’t a very loving woman, not that she didn’t love us but we had to watch how we acted and stuff around her. We still had fun visiting because we were raised in the city so the country life was a blast plus we got to spend time with our cousins.

    My Mom’s parents passed away the same year, actually three months apart. My granddad was 90 and my grandmother was 87. They were always very loving to all of use but I’ll be honest with you Vinay, none of my grandparents taught me any type of lesson in life. We just enjoyed their company and loved visiting. There was always a big house full of family when we went to our grandparents house.

    Thanks for helping me remember them all. I can’t believe they’ve been gone for so long now but I love them all.

    ~Adrienne

  10. donna merrill

    September 10, 2014 at 6:10 am

    Hi Vinay,

    I grew up with both sets of grandparents. One set lived nearby, and the other in the downstairs apartment. I can tell you I learned so much and cherished them all.

    My grandmother became my idol and still is. She was spunky and full of life. She was the “life of the party” with great social skills and always was there for her family and neighbors. When I was growing up I could always count on her as a good friend.

    Now, I’m a step-grandparent, and carry those things to my grand children. I sing old songs to them, like my grandmother did for me. I teach them old simple games like my grandparents taught me.

    I have the pleasure to take them out of this fast paced world, and show them how to have fun with no toys at all. But most of all, although I live far away from them, the eldest 8 year old will call me and tell me her “secrets.”

    Yes, grandparents play a huge role in life. It is difficult these days when our kids live miles away, but we can reach out as grandparents and be on a chat with them.

    Thanks for honoring grandparents!

    -Donna

  11. Joy Healey

    September 10, 2014 at 2:59 am

    Hi Vinay and Harleena

    I had a much-love Nana and Gangy, my Mum’s parents. Sadly my Dad’s parents died to early for me to know them.

    Nana practically brought me up, because of my Mum and Dad’s business. And all my holidays were taken with them. So they were very special to me.

    I’ve recently become a Nan myself, so look forward to implementing as many of your excellent list as possible.

    Thanks for the check-list!

    Hope Harleena’s visit is brilliant.

    Joy




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