This is a guest post by Yatin Khulbe, who was the runner-up of the February GEMS leaderboard. He is a self-development blogger and writes about how to be yourself. In this post, he reveals the easy ways to do so.
How does it feel when you are not able to express your true desires?
When was the last time that you had an inner chat?
How many times do you curse your present life?
All these questions create a web of doubts from where we are not able to come out in a proper manner.
In this phase, a person detaches from the real identity due to repeated cycles of negative thinking.
In short, are you happy with yourself?
This simple question carves out our real identity. If we are connecting with ourselves, we can sip the lovely flavors of life.
Life is not complex. It is made complex.
The good news is that all the things are temporary. It depends on us whether to inflate or deflate the circumstances.
If you are not happy with the current setup, stand up and re-design the whole structure by connecting with your true voice.
Let us understand the meaning of ‘being yourself’ by this conversation between four friends who are meeting after a long time
First friend: I am earning well, but I am not happy with my present routine.
Second friend: I am not earning well, and I am not happy with my present routine.
Third friend: I am not earning well, but I am happy with my present routine.
Fourth friend: I am earning well, and I am happy with my present routine.
Who is living a satisfactory life? Ya, you guessed it right.
The third and the fourth friend are living life on their own terms. Rather than thinking about money, the third friend is focusing on the present routine.
After some time, he will definitely catch up with the fourth friend without putting too much effort.
‘To be yourself’ is all about living life on your own terms. For these people, money and fame are always behind happiness. Without happiness, there is no meaning in life.
Just be YOU – Your Own Navigation. Create your own path to map out the journey.
While discovering our own trip, we understand the exact position and plan the journey in a happy manner.
How to be Yourself in Nine Simple Ways
There’s a lot of stress out there, and to handle it, you just need to believe in yourself; always go back to the person that you know you are, and don’t let anybody tell you any different, because everyone’s special and everyone’s awesome. ~ McKayla Maroney
1. Everybody is gifted with a unique twist
We do not realize that we all are blessed with special features. At the physical level, we all have a framework of 206 bones.
However, mentally, we all are designed with a unique twist. So, appreciate your wonderful presence by connecting with your inner child.
Don’t criticize yourself. Your special characteristics deserve more than this on any day. Never create an opening for someone else to make you feel inferior.
Each of us looks at the same condition from a distinctive point of view. So, there is no need to control your true emotions because you have a unique voice.
The terms superior and inferior look good in the dictionary only. They have no significance in the practical world.
We create boundaries for ourselves only. Step out of this mental trap and enjoy life in your own way.
To be yourself, believe that you’re special!
2. Mix confidence with authority
Why are you attracted towards some people? What is the basic ingredient behind their magnetic appeal?
It is the lovely combination of confidence and authority. With self-confidence, we create a never ending bond with our real passion.
If we have faith in ourselves, we can easily develop lovely connections with others also. As the charity begins at home, confidence begins at our inner home.
With authority, nobody dares to mess with you. Everybody thinks twice before questioning your work.
With this deadly combination, our personality comes out in a vibrant manner.
So, do your work with full command and belief to discover your magnetic appeal.
To be yourself, believe in yourself.
When I get logical, and I don’t trust my instincts – that’s when I get in trouble. ~ Angelina Jolie
3. Don’t cover your mad elements
When you start with your real journey, some people make awkward faces. Your budding idea looks illogical.
They might laugh at your madness. Instead of getting depressed, turn your face to the bright side.
Today, they are laughing at your madness. Tomorrow, you will laugh at their ignorance. Things balance out each other.
I love Newton’s third law: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Your action will definitely create an equal and opposite reaction from others.
So, do not waste your time in listening to people’s reaction because you cannot stop them. Just focus on your mad elements to realize your real happiness.
People are temporary, but your true identity is with you forever.
To be yourself, trust your instincts!
4. What are you searching outside
Be yourself to realize the beauty of your inner treasure. The good news is that there is no shortage of resources.
The bad news is that we are not creating a demand for them. We need to fill this gap between demand and supply to achieve happiness in our life.
Before searching outside, devote your time towards your inner assistance. So, detach from all external noise to embrace the real inner voice.
After developing strong connections, you will definitely get clear answers.
If we are not valuing your inner treasure, nobody will understand your real worth. Understand your inner strength to shine like a gem.
To be yourself, you need to dive inside.
To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment. ~ Eckhart Tolle
5. Don’t create. Just discover
Did Portuguese explorer Vasco Da Gama discover or creat India? He is credited with discovering India.
It was not created because the land was already there. In a similar manner, we need to discover our real identity.
There is no need to waste time in creating the ‘real you’. Your land is hidden behind all the smoke of arrogance, stress, and hopelessness.
Wake up and make up all missing links of your life. Strip off all fake covers to discover the true route.
Expose all the suppressed corners to hug your real fragrance. There is no need to suffocate your real self.
Nobody will do it for you. You are the Vasco Da Gamma of your life.
To be yourself, you need to know yourself.
6. Do everything with ease
Whenever I see a piece of modern art, I am completely mesmerized by the simple brushstrokes.
These strokes speak the language of effortlessness. They convey the mastery of the painter over the topic.
We also need to analyze life in simple terms. Instead of complicating things, master your journey by connecting simple dots.
Happiness lies in small and easy things. When we put more effort, we disturb the flow of the work.
Don’t be hard on yourself. Life is not about competition only. Don’t think too much because you will get nothing in return except stress.
So, brush the canvas of your life with ease.
To be yourself, just be simple.
Be original; don’t be scared of being bold! ~ Ed Sheeran
7. Don’t live someone else’s life
Suppose you follow someone from your field. Due to invaluable information, you develop a blind connection with this person.
There is no harm in listening and gaining some advice, but don’t try to copy other’s life.
While getting trapped by their gorgeous and happy lifestyle, don’t forget their starting struggle period.
Stop living other’s dreams and start taking responsibilities. Never compare your life with others.
We just need to recognize and appreciate our real talent. In order to live a happy and fulfilled life, build your own dreams.
Life is too short to live someone else’s life. Never forget that you are the rockstar of your own life.
To be yourself, be original.
8. Dance like a free spirit
Move beyond all explanations to enjoy the lovely ride. Enjoy the present moment to suck the creative juices within.
There is no need to please anybody. Don’t think about other’s opinions.
Close your eyes and visualize yourself like a bird gliding in the vast sky with no boundaries.
Sky is your perfect playground for performing all the acts that make you feel happy and satisfied.
Develop your own vision and forget about all tensions. Dance like a free spirit and enjoy your true passion.
Don’t get upset due to rough circumstances. Leave behind all those things that disturb the melody of the song of your life.
To be yourself, just be in the moment.
Believe in yourself, take on your challenges, dig deep within yourself to conquer fears. Never let anyone bring you down. You got to keep going. ~ Chantal Sutherland
9. Accept your fears
Whenever we start a new task, there is always hesitation. At that moment, we are bombarded with lots of questions.
As we are not able to answer all the questions, as our mind creates different level of fears.
Remember one thing in your life: fear is natural.
So, what do we need to do? There is no need to hide your fears. When we try to suppress something, it comes up again with more intensity.
Everyone goes through this stage. Simply, have the courage to bring them in broad daylight.
Don’t forget to highlight them in the beginning to live a happy and peaceful life. By suppression, you create a smoky atmosphere for your future.
Instead of giving any protection, release all fears to let them die a natural death.
To be yourself, be fearless.
In a nutshell –
– As everybody is gifted with a unique talent, don’t doubt your true potential.
– Apply the deadly combination of confidence and authority to develop trust and command over your work.
– Expose all mad elements to experiment with your life in a crazy manner.
– Instead of searching outside, enjoy the abundant inner supply.
– As your true path is already created, discover it by stripping all fake covers.
– Understand the power of simplicity. Don’t relate complexity with more output.
– Don’t compare your unique dreams with others.
– Dance like a free spirit to enjoy every moment of life.
– Have the courage to accept your fear and do not suppress it.
Over to you –
Are you happy with your present life? How do you define ‘being yourself’ in your own way? Share some experiences about your life’s journey in the comments.
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Posted on: March 12th, 2015
Last Updated on: December 19th, 2016