“Count your rainbows, not your thunderstorms.” ~Alyssa Knight
Why is happiness so hard to hold on to?
When you’re happy life’s so light, deliciously bright, you could honestly dance all night.
You feel you’re skipping through your day – laughing, loving, living so light!
You feel you can take life on and come out victorious. Watch out world, here I come, ready or not!
But then happiness is so easily torn from your fingers without warning.
And life is so heavy, your sky so thunderous, all you can do is just stumble through the day.
Over the years there were times when stumbling through the day was more than I could do. There were family rows with me caught in the middle, financial headaches that were more like migraines, redundancy, bad news about friends and plenty more.
The sun definitely wasn’t shining on me.
In those dark times, I used to dream of being able to summon up happiness in life at will – of having a magic recipe to blow those gloomy rain clouds way over the horizon and to fill my sky with rainbows.
But life has a funny way of showing us the answer at the most unexpected times.
In those times I began to notice, I sat staring at my hands a lot. Blankly looking in despair, almost as though I thought there should be an answer staring back at me. As if my hands held special powers and if I looked long enough I’d find that I could shoot rainbows of happiness out of my fingertips.
And you know, I can. And so can you.
Just when I felt I’d hit the bottom of the well and all the water had long dried up, I realized that happiness in life doesn’t evaporate, it doesn’t disappear; it’s right there with us. It’s a part of us.
Imagine if you could reach out with your hands and touch happiness again.
Sure tough times would come along again, but you’d be prepared. You’d have a way to get back to happy. To reach out and touch happiness in life again whenever you wanted.
Your hands are your happy place. They still hold the memories of your rainbows, of your happiness.
Best Ways to Bring Happiness in Life
Here’s how to remember your rainbows. It’s all about knowing and remembering what you are:
1. Remember How Loveable You Are
Take a trip back to one of those special times your mom or dad wrapped their hand around your little fingers. Be happy that you were born from love.
2. Be Confident You’re Charismatic
Remember those early friendships, sticky hands holding yours, grabbing you to join in the game. Delight that your friends can’t imagine playing the game of life without you.
3. Realize How Tenacious You Are
That day you first sat on a bicycle, grasping the handlebars, no balance, no direction. Still, you aced the challenge. I remember back to that when I feel down that I’ll never get the hang of something new.
4. Know How Smart You Are
That certificate you held, which showed all your hard work had paid off. Be happy that you’re plenty smart enough to make life all you want it to be.
5. Appreciate How Irresistible You Are
Remember the rush of holding hands with your first love. Not every relationship lasts forever but be joyful that your irresistibility has already been proven.
6. Understand How Loyal You Are
That time you dropped everything for a friend so you could be there to put your arm around them. Remember how you made them feel. Be glad that your loyalty is a huge part of who you are.
7. Treasure How Independent You Are
Recapture the freedom you felt the day you drove a motorcycle or car alone for the first time. Delight in knowing that whatever your situation your independence is still your decision.
8. Be Enamored With How Loving You Are
Think of the warmth and sense of peace you share with your dog, cat or other pet as you cuddle them. It makes me so happy I could burst knowing the enormous capacity to love and build trust we all have.
9. Delight In How Easily Pleased You Are
Recall that day in the sweetshop, sticky treats in your hand, so full of glee. Be glad that simple pleasures still excite you – this is one of my favorite happiness boosts.
10. Realize How Significant You Are
Relive the oh-so-recent time your son or daughter hugged the life out of you or your friend wrapped their arms tightly around you. Be ecstatic that others’ lives are better purely because you’re a part of them.
11. Be Assured Of How Decisive You Are
Remember that time you pressed the ‘yes’ button on that big purchase. Be confident that when it’s important to you, decisive is your middle name. I get the biggest happiness kick out of knowing I’ve already proven I can make decisions when they really count.
12. Applaud How Generous You Are
You know the sound of coins dropping into a donation tin, even when you already had plans for that money in your pocket? Well, so does the person who benefited from your generosity. Be happy that you spread happiness whenever you can.
13. Relish How Considerate You Are
Picture the smile you received when you automatically held the door open for the person behind you or gave up your seat. Be happy that your considerate nature spreads joy wherever you go.
14. Savor How Creative You Are
Relive the delight you felt in holding up the finished picture you’d painted or the craft piece you’d created that now illuminates your home so beautifully. Be happy that your creativity can brighten up each day. I run my fingers round the frame of my paintings for a joy boost time and again.
15. Be Thrilled At How Approachable You Are
Think back to the time a co-worker or stranger suddenly just opened up to you. Be happy that you make others feel good just by being yourself.
16. Bask In How Self-Reliant You Are
You’ll never forget the excitement of turning the key in the door of your first apartment. Be happy that you can look after yourself in life. This whips me back to happy when my inner critic is telling me mean lies.
17. Be Enthused By How Brave You Are
Oh, that day you put your hand up for that job promotion, which took enormous courage.
Be happy that you’re gutsy enough to succeed just the way you want to. It makes me smile to physically put my hand up whenever I see an opportunity.
18. Whoop At How Grateful You Are
When you counted your blessings on your fingers, you went round both hands several times, didn’t you? Be delighted that you’ve found the happiness boost that being thankful brings. I’ve worked through my fingers many times and found that life looks instantly brighter.
19. Be Enthralled By How Compassionate You Are
That time you helped a stranger who had fallen over or a co-worker struggling with a task. You could have walked on by, but you stopped. Be happy that you make others feel good by showing genuine concern.
20. Giggle At How Hilarious You Are
Recall that time when you involuntarily clasped your hand over your mouth to stifle your laughter. Be happy that you can laugh at yourself and the crazy events that bump into your day.
21. Value How Imaginative You Are
Think back to that entry you wrote in your journal, the one where you detailed your next exciting goal – hey, maybe that’s already become a reality. Be happy that your dreams can become a reality exactly because you can picture just how incredible it will be. I indulge my imagination at every possible opportunity for a total happiness boost.
22. Love How Selfless You Are
That little gift you bought to say ‘you’re special’ or the time you did extra chores to save someone you love the effort at the end of their long day, oh wow. Have you any idea how much those little thoughtful acts meant to the other person. Be happy that your natural selflessness makes someone else’s happiness happen.
23. Take Heart Over How Resilient You Are
You remember when you opened that message that said ‘No thanks, on this occasion, someone else got the job.’ Be happy that you’re tougher than the disappointments life will throw your way. I’ve gotten myself back to happy remembering this many times after hearing a door close.
24. Cheer How Quietly Confident You Are
Remember how wholeheartedly you clapped to applaud your colleague when they had the chance to shine. Be happy that you’re confident enough not to need always to be center stage.
25. Trust In How Optimistic You Are
Take your mind back to that fifth job application you carefully filled out with all the positivity and enthusiasm you put into the first. Be happy that your positive, can-do attitude is a huge part of who you are.
Count your rainbows, not your thunderstorms.
Life’s going to throw some stormy weather your way.
Some days are going to seem like hurricane season, leaving you reeling and battered.
And you’ll curse the thunderstorms.
Instead, reach out and remember all the times happiness happened right there in your hands.
All the good times you were blessed to have and hold.
And paint your sky with rainbows again.
Be happy that you’ve already been so happy. And will be again.
Over To You –
Do you find your happiness can disappear in a moment? How do you find your way back to happiness in life? Please share your tips and thoughts in the comments below.
Posted on: December 19th, 2016
Last Updated on: December 19th, 2016