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Life is precious and we need to make the best of it. No matter what happens, there’s always a time and reason to make a new beginning.

For me, everyday is a new beginning. However, it’s okay if sometimes we try to find occasions to make the new beginning and start a new life.

Most people prefer the New Year period to start afresh or make resolutions, and I did the same with my blog. Here’s my first post on the revamped blog as a toast to the spirit of new beginnings.

Tips for a New Beginning

You may face challenges in life as a person to make a new beginning in your relationship, friendship, marriage, and career.

All you need is the right attitude, a controlled mind, the belief in self, and faith in life. To begin with, you need to love your life and yourself – being ever hopeful for a better life.

Here are a few tips that will help you prepare yourself for a new life.

1. Forget. Whenever you want to start anew, you may need to take lessons from and make peace with the past.

No matter how bad things were, how hurt you were, or how many failures you met – you’ve to forget them. Learn from your mistakes, and forget about them – though remember to not repeat them.

2. Forgive. To release yourself from the bondage of your mistakes, guilt, wrongdoings, and tortures of other people, forgive yourself and others.

If possible, use the option of apologizing for your mistakes. This frees us from a negative bond and gives us the permission to move forward to start a new life.

3. Be Peaceful. A calm and composed mind helps us be peaceful and productive. Drop your tensions and don’t worry – that will only accumulate stress.

Learn mind control and meditation. You’ll be more happy and peaceful when you let go of things that you cannot control. You’re less burdened and can concentrate on working with life.

4. Accept. One more step to attain peace of mind and move forward is to accept the past because you cannot change it.

Accept yourself, your life and the circumstances, and try to make the best use of the resources at hand. Acceptance of a problem gives you something concrete to work on to correct your wrongdoings and change your life.

5. Understand. Know yourself better and try to understand other people and situations. Know your shortcomings and virtues, skills and abilities, interests and passion.

Try to understand the reality and, realistically find out what would it take for you to solve your life and make a new beginning. True solutions come with understanding.

6. Be Positive. Some of you might have faced and lived in negativity. Violence, anger, greed, bad addiction, lust, and guilt are some negativity that you need to convert to peace, compassion, gratitude, good habits, love, and self-respect.

Good and positive thoughts impact your actions. You can make a new beginning when you feel good about yourself.

7. Change. Be ready to stop doing what you’ve been doing if it needs to be changed, and start with something new without any fear, even if it amounts to changing your lifestyle.

Change may feel awkward and difficult in the start – it always is. But you need to push yourself to make it happen.

You cannot grow, evolve, or progress without embracing change in life. Find the change you need for the new start in life.

8. Focus. Choose a path, remain positive, have priorities, create a goal, and remain focused.

Don’t let negative thoughts and emotions from your past disturb or deter you. Remind yourself to be strong and determined because focus will help you achieve a good start to a new life.

9. Be Aware. Life is full of surprises. Opportunity may knock at your door anytime and you need to keep your eyes, ears, and mind open all the time.

When required, think of all possibilities, keep all options open, trust your instincts, and have faith in yourself. Trust that every moment has the potential to launch your life.

10. Take Risk. At every given moment you’ve many choices, and you choose one. The choice is always in YOUR hands.

Every moment you take risks. With time, learning, and practice you develop the wisdom and instincts to make the right choices. Always make the choice to cling with the right and good.

Take a chance if you have a gut feeling even if the odds are against you, at the same time; learn to say no when required.

11. Make Efforts. Keep trying and keep making efforts, none of them ever go waste. Develop an attitude to learn from every event, every person, every situation, and every failure. Treat everything as a blessing in disguise.

The more you try and give your best; more are your chances to make the right choice and to make a successful new beginning.

12. Expect the Best. No matter what, always have high expectations. Don’t compromise with something that you’ll not be happy with or something that you might regret later.

It doesn’t matter what you get as a result, but having made the best efforts to get the best in life should keep you happy and content.

Disassociate with your old self and never look back. Do that only to compare yourself and appreciate the change in your life.

There’s always a reason to live, to change, to improve, to better your life and be successful. Find that reason and make it your passion.

Be good, follow the right ways, and use the right means to start a new beginning in your life.

Over to you

These are some of my views on how to make a new beginning in life. Did you ever face a time requiring you to start life afresh? What did you do? Share your experiences with everybody.

 

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Harleena Singh is a positive thinker and a freelance writer. She loves to write inspiring and thought provoking posts on self-improvement, family, relationships, health, and other aspects of life. She's not another personal development guru, but just an average person with great life experiences. She's also a blogger, who loves to share her blogging knowledge and experiences. Network with her on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+..

62 Comments

  1. Sue Neal

    January 16, 2013 at 1:13 am

    Hi Harleena,

    I’ve enjoyed this post so much – I’m in the process of making a fairly major ‘new beginning’, as I retire from my day job in the spring, when I look forward to working full time online. In fact, my entire online adventure seems like a fresh start – I feel it’s giving me a whole new lease of life.

    All the points you make in this post ring true for me – particularly the ones about not looking back, taking risks, keeping on trying your best and, of course, ‘awareness’ – one of my all-time favourite books is Anthony de Mello’s Awareness, it’s so well-thumbed it’s almost falling to bits! I regard it as a life-long project – to ‘wake up’.

    This also brings to mind that famous prayer, which my father taught me, about having the serenity to accept the things you can’t change etc.

    Wonderfully inspirational thoughts for the start of the year, Harleena – thank you!

    Sue

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      Harleena Singh

      January 16, 2013 at 4:39 pm

      Hi Sue,

      I’m glad you like the post. I wish you all the best well in advance for a successful new beginning. Yes, the advantages of doing online work being at home are many, but at the same time it could become difficult if you do not discipline yourself. I’m sure you’re well aware of the pros and cons and would make all efforts to make the new life successful.

      Very true, ‘waking up’ requires a lifetime to many. I also talk of theory but the practical implementation and experience are really difficult. Having said that we also know, nothing in life comes easy.

      The prayer you mention is full of wisdom and very logical if you carefully analyze it. But most of us get stuck in the habit of ignoring the truth and find it difficult to make a new beginning. I hope these few tips in the post help someone somewhere.

      Thanks for taking out time and expressing your beautiful thoughts. :)

  2. Deone Higgs

    January 16, 2013 at 4:13 am

    You had to know I would love this post, Harleena! I’m all for new beginnings!

    It’s so easy, as humans, to get comfortable with a routine that works. As well as, those that don’t. Many figure, if it works, why mess it up. And if it doesn’t work, the fear of making a bigger mess can make us afraid to start anything new, out of fearing we might fail.

    However, I’ve come to learn that things are bound to go right, and sometimes horribly wrong. That doesn’t mean I should remain in a cycle or avoid growth and new experiences. It’s all about the adventure, right? :)

    You have listed some very great points here. I can truly relate to each one having been steps I applied to my own life. They most definitely work!

    What a great post to christen the new look of your blog! I’m loving the new look, BTW. It’s clean, fresh looking, and classy! Way to go! Glad to see you back in the swing of things, my friend. Thanks for the fantastic tips and reminders. :)

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      Harleena Singh

      January 16, 2013 at 5:03 pm

      Hi Deone!

      I’m glad you love the post. We’re all creatures of habit, isn’t it? And, I agree that changing a habit is much more difficult than changing your hairstyle. :D Stepping out of the comfortable zone is not easy, but that’s what a person needs to do to make a successful new beginning.

      Yes, life is all adventure – you need to find new ways. I read somewhere that successful people are not different but they do things differently. If you find that the cheese has moved, so you should too change yourself.

      You’ve shared some very wise thoughts and views and I know you’ve much more in store within. Thanks for stopping by; it’s always a pleasure to read your comments.

      I’m so happy that the blog’s new look is appreciated by many, but honestly I’m still in the process of fine tuning it to make it better. It’s good to be back in the blogging world with this post; thanks for the welcome, my friend. :)

  3. Brenda

    January 16, 2013 at 6:19 am

    Beautiful and well thought out post Harleena.

    I like to think we every relationship that ends, a new beginning starts. Whether it be are dating/marriage type relationship, career, retirement, etc. Or sometimes ones just needs to recreate themselves which can be a new beginning. I have done this many times in my past. Always wanting to change something about myself. Now, am I at a place where I can finally be happy.

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      Harleena Singh

      January 16, 2013 at 5:12 pm

      Hi Brenda,

      Glad you like the post. Yes, I too believe that life goes on, we keep learning and improving ourselves. With each relationship and experience you actually get to know and understand more about yourself. And then, as you say, it becomes easy to recreate yourself to bring about a change and a new beginning.

      Anybody loving change is mostly successful, and you too are. Wish you happiness all the time. Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts and experiences. :)

  4. Corina Ramos

    January 16, 2013 at 10:19 am

    Hello Harleena,

    Anyone who has described this as a beautiful post is right on. When I read the 10th step (Take Risk) I remembered how difficult it was for me to resign from my job. It was the fear of the unknown. I knew I had to leave but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. Three years later I made up my mind and just did it and that was the best decision I could have made. It’s like my grandmother would say, with every ending comes a new beginning.

    Your words are so inspirational and I thank you for sharing them with us.

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      Harleena Singh

      January 16, 2013 at 5:25 pm

      Hi Corina,

      Welcome to my blog! I’m so happy that you like the post. I’m glad you followed your instincts and did what was best for you. As per an ancient saying, there’s a time for everything, and yours did come when it was ripe. Your grandmother was right – the show goes on, and new beginnings keep happening.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views with everybody. :)

  5. Corinne Rodrigues

    January 16, 2013 at 2:33 pm

    Harleena – your website looks fabulous and you deserve all credit for it.

    This is the year for big changes for me – but mostly within and I know it’s not always going to be easy, but it will be totally worth the effort. I’m going to expect the best and celebrate each day, like you very rightly said.

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      Harleena Singh

      January 16, 2013 at 5:54 pm

      Hi Corinne,

      I’m so glad you like the new look, thanks for the appreciation. It’s the support of you and the entire community that motivated me to go for the big change, and I’m happy that I did.

      Yes, like in any sport, it’s not the winning but the sportsman spirit that counts, changes are never easy but, as you say, it’s the efforts that matter. You’re adopting the right strategy – enjoy and expect the best, always aim for the stars – you’ll at least land on the moon, or vice-versa. :)

      Wish you all the best and thanks for stopping by. :)

  6. Ken Pickard

    January 16, 2013 at 3:12 pm

    Harleena,

    I love new beginnings and this post is all wrapped up with great tips to set 2013 up the right way.

    I stopped at #5… “Understand. Know yourself better and try to understand other people and situations. Know your shortcomings and virtues, skills and abilities, interests and passion.

    Try to understand the reality and, realistically find out what would it take for you to solve your life and make a new beginning. True solutions come with understanding.”

    It seems the older we get the more we wish to understand ourselves and those we care about. It’s not about right or wrong as much as it is about the relationships we create.

    Ken Pickard
    The Network Dad

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      Harleena Singh

      January 16, 2013 at 10:26 pm

      Hi Ken, welcome to my blog!

      Ancient wise men said that all problems in life arise due to the fact that we do not understand ourselves well. If we’ve problems understanding ourselves, then we can hardly understand others. The result is that sometimes we’ve conflicts, misunderstandings, and fights to the extent that adversely impacts the relationships and career – which could even force us to look for a new beginning.

      An overall understanding brings peace and the real picture in focus that saves from lot of interpersonal problems. This is something that even the young should be doing and if they do develop the skill of understanding, I’m sure their lives will turn out to be much better.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your view on the topic. And, I’m glad you like the post. :)

  7. Mayura

    January 16, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Let’s toast for your revamped blog ;)

    HA… As I feel, new begining is always possible with the clear mind Harleena :) The points you were depicted here are wonderful enough to start fresh if someone struggles with something everyday. For me, a NEW YEAR is not always a NEW begining but a year to learn and acquire what I’m lack of :) A NEW theme while stepping onto the next level of everything.

    I think forgiveness is the key for peaceful mind and understand people and situations well dear. Mostly jealousy and such bad feelings makes our mind dirty and spend our efforts in weong way. There could be situations where we can’t forgive some monstors, but I think we don’t need to involve with the evil, no? :)

    I’m planning to make more efforts in this year than before and work smartly :) Further needs to embrace risk like a friend. I’m doing it and continue to do so.

    With all the expectations and good intentions, let’s go forward at least by step by step Harleena :) Wishing you all the best with your NEW changes dear.

    Have a wonderful week there Harleena :)

    Cheers…

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      Harleena Singh

      January 16, 2013 at 10:48 pm

      Hi Mayura!

      Of course, without a clear and open mind you cannot make much headway. Mind is one of the key factors that have the potential to make or destroy life. Periodic self-assessment really helps those who believe in change and improvement.

      Oh yes, the vices consume too much of our good energy and resources that could instead help us better our quality of life. Forgiving isn’t easy, but it’s the best way to free our mind of negativity.

      Thank you for your appreciation and good wishes for the blog, and I’m sure with the positive attitude you will certainly have a successful new beginning.

      Thank for stopping by and presenting your views.:)

  8. Hiten

    January 16, 2013 at 4:29 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    This was an amazing post! I read it twice, because it was very timely for some emotions I’ve been experiencing in my life. I’m at a stage in my life where the direction I’m going in may be changed totally.

    I could really appreciate the point you made about risks. I’ve been taking many risks and this has made me slightly nervous about what will happen. Your post has inspired me to continue doing what I’ve set out to.

    As you said, when we take risks at the start, it may seem like the odds are against us. However, each risk is actually learning and we become competent over time.

    Thank you very much, my friend.

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 1:10 pm

      Hi Hiten,

      Thank you for appreciating the post. I’m glad you like it and could relate to it.

      One of my friends who run business told me that in her trade one has to take risks to progress and grow. Most of the successful businesses started with taking risks, though they may be calculated risks, but a risk is a risk after all.

      I believe one should follow the instincts and do what your heart says provided its consequences are bearable and do not hurt anybody.

      I wish you all the best in the new beginnings of your life.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. :)

  9. Lisa

    January 16, 2013 at 4:44 pm

    Great topic Harleena, I think the biggest hurdle to starting a new life is taking risks and getting over the fears. I always think “What’s the worst that can happen?” It usually springs me into action.
    Forgiveness is key to move on as well. You can’t go ahead if you are stuck in the past.

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 1:14 pm

      Hi Lisa,

      You’re absolutely right. It’s the fear of the unknown and failure that stops us taking steps to new beginnings which sometimes require taking risks.

      You adopt a positive strategy towards risks in life. Thank you for sharing your views. :)

  10. Amandah

    January 16, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    Glad to see the website is up and running. :)

    Regarding Point #12 – Expect the Best… I’ve heard some ‘experts’ within the self-help/personal development area tell people not to have high expectations because if you have high expectations that no one can live up to, you’ll be disappointed. I guess there’s some truth to this. But I personally won’t lower my expectations, especially when it comes to dating. For example, I won’t date an alcoholic or drug addict. I’ve had to put up with addiction in my family when I was growing up, and I won’t put up with it as an adult.

    When I was pursuing my Master of Science degree at IWU, we had an exercise in “compromise.” The end result was that compromising doesn’t work because one person always feels as if they’ve lost and the other person gained. We then had to come up with a “Win-Win” situation so that everyone was satisfied. The lesson taught me to look for “Win-Win” situations instead of “compromising with something that I won’t be happy with or may regret later.”

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 1:30 pm

      Hi Amandah,

      You’re right – we should aim for a “Win-Win” situation. Compromise can be a fallback option, but you would want to win if given a choice. So you need to give the best while expecting the best. That would keep you motivated, energized and you’ll be assured subconsciously that you’ll get appropriate reward for your efforts.

      I do not deny that at times the “Expect the best” attitude may hurt or disappoint some who do not achieve what they aimed for – these people should first learn to be positive and be ready to accept the results, and have the spirit to appreciate their own efforts irrespective of the result. I believe if you do not have high expectations, you might not have the drive or motivation enough to make that extra effort needed to win. When you play a sport, you play to win, and even if you lose you have the sportsperson spirit to take it in your stride and try better next time.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and views. :)

  11. Sapna

    January 16, 2013 at 7:50 pm

    HI Harleena

    Congratulations for this new look of your blog, I am really impressed.

    I have started working on setting my priorties right, which you pointed in one of your earlier post, which has really helped me getting focussed as well and if I am able to maintain the consistency and if that becomes a habit then I will know I’m on right track.

    I am taking baby steps for each of the task on which I have to work, in order to avoid getting overwhelmed.

    Also I am not expecting too much but whatever will happen will surely bring the overall improvement.

    Thanks for sharing this and Have a great week.

    Sapna

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 1:42 pm

      Hi Sapna,

      I’m glad that you like the new look of the blog.

      I feel happy that my posts were able to help you in any way to improve and evolve. You’re following the right way and methods to do that and I’m sure you’ll be able to achieve a successful new beginning.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and experiences. :)

  12. Shalu Sharma

    January 16, 2013 at 9:25 pm

    Good tips on how to start a new life.

    Most people do not start something new perhaps because they like to stay in their comfort zone. For instance, I sometimes have business ideas but never do anything about it. Perhaps of the fear of change, fear of failure and fear of taking new risks.

    Interestingly, there are some risk takers who take risks and find themselves moving forwards, perhaps its in their genes, who knows.

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      Hi Shalu,

      I’m glad you like the tips as mentioned in the post.

      You’re right about the comfort zone. You’ve mentioned some valid reasons why we’re not able to initiate and implement into practice what we think and intend to do. But there are more aspects like the lack of conviction, will, and drive, whose absence brings us lethargy and inactivity.

      Yes, there are people who believe in themselves so much that they are ready to take risks without any fear. Such an attitude might be a hereditary gift, but I believe it is more because of the effort the person makes.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views. :)

  13. Jodi Heal Now and Forever

    January 16, 2013 at 9:58 pm

    I really connect with “focus”. Sometimes there is many little things to remember and each means so much to someone. I know if I focus even when I am in the flow, I can get to tons of these, without getting stressed. It makes life much easier! BTW, I love the newness! It looks great! Simple and clean!

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 4:34 pm

      Hi Jodi,

      Thanks for liking the new look of the blog.

      Yes, focus is very important in anything you do. It’s good to know that you use it to a great extent to make your life easier.

      Glad you stopped by and shared your thoughts. :)

  14. Debbie

    January 16, 2013 at 11:28 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I do like the new look of your blog. New beginning, I believe you have about covered everything.

    To me everyday is a new beginning. This is what I always try to remember, “I take the time to enjoy everyday as it comes. I glance into the future of tomorrow, but let it be for I am in today. I have learned from the past so I refuse to return, for I am in today.”

    Thank you for sharing a wonderful post, it is a great beginning for a great new look for your blog.

    Debbie

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 4:46 pm

      Hi Debbie,

      I’m so happy that you also like the revamped blog. It feels good to know that my efforts paid off.

      That’s what I think too – Everyday is a new beginning! I start my day with renewed energy and motivation even if yesterday had been sad or bad. It’s a beautiful quote you mentioned – I believe present or today is what matters because here what we do becomes our past.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing such good thoughts with all of us. :)

  15. Sylviane Nuccio

    January 17, 2013 at 12:21 am

    Hi Harleena,

    I love all those 12 steps to help us make changes, but my favorite is actually the last one. Expect the best.

    So many people both consciously and subconsciously actually expect the worst instead. For many people it’s actually almost a struggle or at least something new to them to be able to expect the BEST and to have HIGH EXPECTATIONS, but from what I know, we get what we expect more time than not, so that’s realy important to know that and practice it.

    Glad to see you post again on your new look blog :)

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 4:58 pm

      Hi Sylviane,

      Yes, I totally agree with you. There are more chances that you’ll get what you expect rather than what you do not expect. You get what you focus on. Hadn’t I worked on revamping my blog expecting the best, it wouldn’t have been what it is now and I’m so happy that everybody likes the new look, including you. Thank you so much. Though there’s lot more to do on the blog and the best is yet to come.

      Thank you for stopping by and sharing your views. :)

  16. Lori Gosselin

    January 17, 2013 at 2:01 am

    It’s not exactly starting over but as I’ve been discussing on my porch, it’s a reevaluation of what gives my life meaning. Wait – yes, it is like starting over. But as you pointed out, this happens many times in the course of a normal life.I just have to roll with the punches. (literally in this case ;-( I like points 8 and 12 in that regard.
    :-)
    Lori

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 5:08 pm

      Hi Lori,

      I believe everyday is a new beginning – at the end of the day you sit and evaluate how the day had been and what you were able to accomplish and what not – whether you’re able to make your life meaningful. Then, you start the new day afresh and anew taking on from where you left and taking a refined course to evolve further.

      Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. :)

  17. Ilka Flood

    January 17, 2013 at 3:05 am

    Hi Harleena,

    I had quite a few “new beginnings” in my life actually. I don’t have a problem starting anew. It’s not so easy however when you are married and have a family because your life is not your own anymore.

    I loved it when we were in the military however, because every 3 or 4 years we got to move. That meant cleaning out all the clutter, move to a new city, state. New environment, new surroundings, new house…oh, I really miss it, lol.

    Thanks for the great tips you are giving above! They are very helpful.

    Cheers,

    Ilka

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 5:24 pm

      Hi Ilka,

      I can totally relate to what you mention. Taking care of the family and managing the home takes so much of your time that you do not get time for yourself. You’ve had an exciting life, with a new beginning every 3-4 years. I too had the same experience when my father was in the army. I guess our experience has made us love change more than others.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. :)

  18. Carolyn

    January 17, 2013 at 3:29 am

    Hi Harleena,

    What a wonderful way to illustrate new beginnings, with a wonderful redesign. Love the new look!

    You’re right, the first step in new beginnings is to forgive the past that is behind you. Too often people neglect that step so they aren’t really starting fresh.
    So many people are fearful of change but you have illustrated well the steps that people should take to begin anew!

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 6:01 pm

      Hi Carolyn,

      It makes no sense to take extra baggage with you in the journey of life when you can do with little. You’ve to settle scores and leave behind what is not required, so you forgive, forget, and move on.

      You’re right in that people don’t start fresh unless they take that first step. Change is an adventure and not everybody likes it.

      Thanks for loving and liking the new look of the blog, indeed it’s a special new beginning for me. I’m glad you stopped by and shared your thoughts. :)

  19. Betsy / Zen Mama

    January 17, 2013 at 6:11 am

    Love your list Harleena! All your tips are great but I especially like Be Positive and Expect The Best.
    And I love your new look. Happy New Year!

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 6:05 pm

      Hi Betsy,

      I’m glad you like the post and the new look of the blog as well.
      I wish you’ve a successful new beginning this New Year. Thanks for stopping by. :)

  20. Robin Hallett

    January 17, 2013 at 7:59 pm

    HI Harleena,

    I always read your comments over on Adrienne’s blog! Just wanted to say hi and love your vibe. This was a FAB post, and I wanted to say this is my year to be fearless, and embrace myself in a bigger way!

    Hugs, Robin

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 6:10 pm

      Hi Robin,

      Welcome to my blog! I’m glad you like the post.

      I wish you all the success in your endeavor – this year is surely going to be different and better. Thanks for stopping by. :)

  21. Lisa

    January 17, 2013 at 8:11 pm

    Sometimes we need encouragement just like this to make the changes we need in our lives becomes a success, Harleena. Thank you so much for your encouragement. I recently moved across the world. Talk about huge change. It has given me so much to be thankful for and so may new challenges to strengthen me as an individual.

    I know there are times when I just want someone to hold my hand through changes. Their nearness propels me forward. A Life Coach can be that person. I love the opportunity to walk with people from where they are to where they want to be.

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 6:15 pm

      Hi Lisa,

      I’m happy if my post could provide you with encouragement. Change is not always scary as feared to be, and I’m glad you took it positively.

      Yes, I agree a life coach can help you see the path and take the right direction, but you need to walk on your own. I wish you all the success in the journey of life. Thanks for stopping by. :)

  22. B k chowla

    January 17, 2013 at 8:14 pm

    I wont go about point wise reply. For me,reading every post of yours is an experience .
    Mazaa Aa Gaya

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 6:17 pm

      Hi BK,

      You’re awesome! Thanks for liking my posts and contributing your thoughts as well.
      Thanks for stopping by. :)

  23. Adrienne

    January 18, 2013 at 1:17 am

    Hi Harleena,

    Well I love new beginnings. I think that anyone at any age at any time can start new. I also believe that if people have been in a certain rut then they can use a new year as the perfect time to start fresh.

    Everything can be turned around if we chose. Just what you shared here such as forgiving, understanding, changing, taking risks, etc. are all a part of it. It took me a long time to truly learn how to forgive and that it really was hurting me more then anyone else.

    I like the new look but I like the other look too. I say you do whatever you feel is best and we’re all just so darn excited for you.

    Thank you Harleena for sharing this and here is to new beginnings.

    ~Adrienne

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 6:28 pm

      Hi Adrienne,

      I agree with you – you can start anew anytime. Yup, New Year is the right time to change as then you can literally say it’s a new year in your life.

      Funny that you talk about “choice” and I didn’t notice that earlier because my new post is on the choice we make when we’re stressed. And I absolutely agree with you when you say “Everything can be turned around if we chose.”

      You’re right – when you forgive you realize you’ve been hurting yourself all the time and forgiving is a liberating experience.

      I’m glad you like the new look – I had to have some change, for the better. Thank you for stopping by and I wish you too have a great new beginning this New Year. :)

  24. Barbara Charles

    January 18, 2013 at 8:51 am

    Harleena,

    Such great words of wisdom and wonderful advice. Words to live by all year long, not just at the beginning of the year. If there is one that I feel is critical to life is forgiveness and to be at peace. Two of my hardest challenges. So thanks for reminding me of the things we need to do to live a well balanced life. Thanks so much.

    Barbara

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 6:34 pm

      Hi Barbara,

      Welcome to my blog! I’m glad you like the post, and I agree it is relevant to every single day of our life.

      Forgiveness and peace have a special relationship – you cannot be at peace unless you forgive. I wish you all the best to take up your challenges and have a new beginning in your life.

      Thanks for stopping by, look to see you around more. :)

  25. Viola Tam

    January 18, 2013 at 4:10 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    A new beginning may sound daunting for many people. However, looking through what you have suggested, it is not that scary, is it?

    I absolutely love the ‘forget and forgive’ part. Unless we are really at peace inside, we would not be ‘in the flow’. What we focus on, we get more of it. Why focus on the past when we can have the future to look forward to?

    Thank you for this insightful blog!

    Viola the Business Mum

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 6:45 pm

      Hi Viola,

      New beginnings are so wonderful. You get a feeling like when you view the sunrise – you feel rejuvenated and fresh, so light and at peace.

      How true and so right it is when you say – What we focus on, we get more of it. We should always expect for a positive and peaceful future.

      I’m glad you stopped by and shared your beautiful thoughts. :)

  26. Vidya Sury

    January 18, 2013 at 7:54 pm

    A new beginning is always something to look forward to, however small, as it brings on a healthy rush of adrenalin and the desire to make things work, make changes.

    :-) I can see how busy you’ve been. Congratulations on a great job! May you prosper in every way you wish for!

    Each day is a brand new day that can never be rewound. I am cherishing the little things that make up the big things! Happiness to you, Harleena!

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      Harleena Singh

      January 19, 2013 at 8:10 pm

      Hi Vidya,

      Definitely, New Year is very exciting and full of hopes. So is a new beginning. We’ve similar thoughts as I too believe in living day by day treating each day as a new beginning. And life is all about the little things and the small moments that really give us happiness.

      Yes, revamping the blog took much of my time and I’m glad you like it. I wish you’ve a great year ahead as well. Thanks for stopping by. :)

  27. sally brown

    January 20, 2013 at 12:29 am

    Hi Leena,

    This is an amazing article. I remember when I had a really tough year, my mom had died and I was in the midst of a horrible and scary divorce. It was right after Christmas and I was talking to my son. He said to make ‘a new-life tree’. He then explained to get one of the reduced little (12″) trees that has little tiny decorations on it, and to make it a new starting point. I did it (about 9 years ago now), and my ‘new life tree’ is about 4 1/2 feet tall (needs to be replanted again).

    Your post reminded me of this and what a wonder feeling it was to have that tree to start my new life. Thanks for sharing. sally

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      Harleena Singh

      January 21, 2013 at 1:00 pm

      Hi Sally,

      I’m glad you like the article and could relate to it.

      I’m sorry you had to go through such sorrow and hard times. However, it was very sweet of your son to suggest making a ‘new life tree.’ Wherever he got the idea from, he knew it would help you. That’s a good way of re-purposing your life and you can now have a new beginning with the replanting of the same plant.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing a part of your life story. :)

  28. Koundeenya

    January 27, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    Hello Harleena,

    Taking risks! I always love this (though I don’t take it much). But this year, I don’t know whether to call it a risk; but, I’m preparing myself to start a new online business (which of course, has some little investment). I am really expecting a lot from it.
    Risk always makes life interesting and once we overcome, the pleasure and joy we get, are just infinite.

    Thanks for such an inspiring article.

    Regards

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      Harleena Singh

      June 11, 2013 at 12:18 am

      Hi Koundeenya,

      Glad to know that you could relate to the post :)

      Yes indeed, not all of us can take risks, though we all need to do so once in a while if we want to try out new things. Just like your new online business, if you hadn’t taken the risk, perhaps you wouldn’t have known if it was working for you at all or not. I wish you the best with it.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views with us :)

  29. Kevin Martin

    January 28, 2013 at 4:12 am

    Staying positive works really well and it goes a long way.

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      Harleena Singh

      June 11, 2013 at 12:20 am

      Hi Kevin,

      Yes indeed, nothing can be better than remaining positive and thinking positive too – helps in the long run.

      Thanks for stopping by :)

  30. Sebastian Aiden Daniels

    June 10, 2013 at 10:59 pm

    I think forgiving yourself and then moving on from your past self is a key to moving forward and starting anew. Yes learn from your past, but don’t hold onto it forever. It does no one any good to carry the burdens of the past with you forever.

    I think focus is extremely important, at least for me it is. I tend to get excited and go all in with something, but when the results don’t turn up right away I get frustrated. I have gotten better about it and I am focused for the long term on my goals. Thank you for the post. Always a good refresher to remember these things : D.

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      Harleena Singh

      June 11, 2013 at 12:26 am

      Hi Sebastian,

      Absolutely! If you don’t move on in life, you just stay there very stagnant and that really doesn’t work, nor does it help you grow as a person. Learning from the past is essential, but then you need to let go of it and move ahead.

      I agree, focus is important – in anything we do. I can understand what you mean, and perhaps you’re still young so frustration does set in when things don’t turn your way. But if you take those failures or trials as stepping stones to your success and making them a learning experience, things will look better and brighter for you.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views :)

  31. Kalina Slavkova

    August 13, 2013 at 8:18 am

    Wonderful post, Harleena!

    I’m enjoying exploring the many different areas on your blog, and I’m thrilled I stumbled on this post :) It’s extremely inspiring to someone who will be off to college in one week. I’m reminding myself that I should just go forth with an open mind and be rooted in myself. That’s that. These 12 short and sweet tips will help me through this big change.

    Thank you for the amazing writing you publish! I hope you had a marvelous day!

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      Harleena Singh

      August 13, 2013 at 8:12 pm

      Hi Kalina,

      Glad you liked this post and are enjoying exploring the other posts on my blog :)

      Ah…I didn’t know you are still studying, and if you are able to manage a blog as well, that is wonderful indeed! Oh yes…just moving on and making a new beginning in life is what works best, especially if you are really determined – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views with us. I wish you all the best in your new journey too. :)

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