Finding Peace Within Yourself

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a Buddhist monk meditating near a river bank to find peace within himself

Do you think finding peace within yourself is difficult? If you are like me, who often thinks about how to find inner peace, then today’s short post might interest you.

Many people think that finding peace within us often takes a long time.

With most of us leading busy lives, it’s hardly possible to find time for our family and dear ones, let alone the time find inner peace.

However, both are myths and not true. You can search for peace within yourself easily and in no time, though you need to work for it and want it too.

Let me try to explain about how you can find peace within yourself from this short story that I had recently read.

“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.” ~ Peace Pilgrim

A Story About Finding Peace Within

Buddha was once travelling from one town to the other with some of his followers. While travelling, they happened to pass a lake.

They stopped a while and Buddha told one of his followers, “I am feeling thirsty. Please fetch me some water from that lake.”

The follower went up to the lake. He noticed that some people were washing their clothes in the water. And at that moment a bullock cart started crossing the shallow lake, thus turning the water very muddy.

The follower thought, “How can I give this dirty water to Buddha to drink!” So, he returned to Buddha and said, “The lake water is very muddy, and not suitable to drink.”

After sometime, Buddha again asked the same follower to go back to the lake and bring him some water to drink. The follower went back, and this time he found that the water was crystal clear.

The mud had settled down and the water looked clean and good enough to drink. So, he collected some water and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then at the follower and said, “Look what you did to make the water clean. You let the water be…and the mud settled down on its own, and you got clean and clear water.”

He further told his follower, “Your mind is also like the water. When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time and it will settle down on its own. You don’t have to do anything, nor put in any efforts to calm it down. It is effortless and it will happen on its own.”

“First keep the peace within yourself, then you can also bring peace to others.” ~ Thomas Kempis

Lesson Learnt From the Story to Find Peace Within

If you try to recollect as to what Buddha said – he said, “It is effortless.” Similarly, having peace of mind is not a strenuous process. Instead, it is an effortless process.

So, don’t look for external things and ways to find peace that exists within you. Whenever you are in a disturbed state of mind, just relax and try to be at peace.

Give yourself some time. Spare a few minutes or more, or even a few hours or days, depending upon the turmoil in your mind.

Pull out your mind from all engagements and let it rest from the turmoil. Eventually the disturbance will fade or settle, and very soon you will find yourself in a peaceful state.

When there is peace within you, it permeates to the outside too. It spreads all over, around you, and in the environment. It affects people, such that they also start feeling that peace and grace.

“Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

May peace be with you!

Over to you

What do you do to find peace within yourself? Do you think it is easy or tough to find peace? Share stories and views about finding peace within yourself in the comments below.


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  1. Magda

    2014-04-11 at 3:19 pm

    Finding inner peace allowed me to control stress and more rationally manage my time. No problem now find a moment for your family. live slow!

  2. Bryan McDonald

    2013-07-27 at 5:29 pm

    The statement about letting the mind calm, just like the water, was key for me in this story.

    So many times I try to work on an unsettled mind and feel very ineffective but when I have patience and let my mind calm, I become more effective.

    Even though I already “knew” this, reading your story was a validation to continue to focus on things this way

  3. Dr Dhires

    2013-03-22 at 7:48 pm

    Hi Harleena…

    Another great sharing…finding peace within yourself is extremely fruitful to combat today’s stress & strain-full situation faced by every one in their daily life due irrespective of age,sex & socioeconomic status.I think main cause of this stress & strain is due to increasing our modernity & trend to lead a very much luxurious life by the influence of external stimuli through all sorts of media,corporates & other influential things…

    Being a Buddhist in religious view I feel proud for mentioning Buddha’s story in connection with above.Buddha always emphasized on inner peace because only through this approach you can obtained “Nirvana”~ultimate freedom- Nirvana is achieved after a long process of committed application to the path of purification (Pali: Vissudhimagga) taught by the Buddha. The Buddha explained that the disciplined way of life he recommended to his students (dhamma-vinaya) is a gradual training extending often over a number of years. To be committed to this path already requires that a seed of wisdom is present in the individual. This wisdom becomes manifest in the experience of awakening (bodhi). Attaining nibbāna, in either the current or some future birth, depends on effort, and is not pre-determined.Nirvana is the result of following the Noble Eightfold Path.

    Best way to obtained Inner Peace is possible through – “Vipassana” Meditation.Vipassana, which means to see things as they really are, is one of India’s most ancient techniques of meditation. It was rediscovered by Gotama Buddha more than 2500 years ago and was taught by him as a universal remedy for universal ills, i.e., an Art Of Living.

    This non-sectarian technique aims for the total eradication of mental impurities and the resultant highest happiness of full liberation. Healing, not merely the curing of diseases, but the essential healing of human suffering, is its purpose.

    Vipassana is a way of self-transformation through self-observation. It focuses on the deep interconnection between mind and body, which can be experienced directly by disciplined attention to the physical sensations that form the life of the body, and that continuously interconnect and condition the life of the mind. It is this observation-based, self-exploratory journey to the common root of mind and body that dissolves mental impurity, resulting in a balanced mind full of love and compassion.

    The scientific laws that operate one’s thoughts, feelings, judgements and sensations become clear. Through direct experience, the nature of how one grows or regresses, how one produces suffering or frees oneself from suffering is understood. Life becomes characterized by increased awareness, non-delusion, self-control and peace.

    I hope my sharing will be fruitful for those people who really like to obtain peace within along with your wise article.Regards.

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-03-27 at 10:49 am

      Hi Dhires,

      I’m glad you like the post. Thanks for informing and educating us all about Buddha and Buddhism. The Noble Eightfold Path if followed will surely lead to a quality life.

      I’ve heard of Vipassana and it is a way of achieving mindfulness, which is essential to achieve inner peace and happiness.

      The mind, if purified and uncluttered, helps us to be, our true self. Vipassana is definitely a practice helpful to all, irrespective of any religion or personal beliefs.

      Thanks for sharing this information with all the readers. 🙂

  4. Harleena Singh

    2013-01-15 at 10:14 pm

    Glad you liked the post Justin!

    Yes indeed, not all days are good ones or the kind we would like to remember, and you aren’t alone when you mention such days because they come in everyone’s lives. And something or the other causes stress and affects our day.

    What matters most at such times is to make best use of the time you have in hand to de-stress yourself and make you peaceful. Walks, exercises, gym etc, or even meditation are wonderful ways of finding peace within yourself.

    Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  5. Justin Musiker

    2013-01-15 at 8:30 pm

    Great post Harleena,

    Some days there is just so much stress and chaos that we sometimes have negative thoughts and alters our perspective, which greatly affects our attitude and productivity for the day. I like to take walks, sit on the beach, or go to the gym, which gets my mind clear, and I believe creates chemicals internally that make us feel naturally better.

  6. Harleena Singh

    2013-01-12 at 10:54 am

    That would be wonderful Koundeenya because there’s so much to learn from his teachings!

    Nice to know that you have finally found peace and are more happier and content than before. I guess all of us have our ups and downs, and those not so good days or the bad ones – yet we learn to come out strong – don’t we?

    I guess once we schedule our time for doing things and have a set aim or goal, things do take shape and they bring us much peace and joy too. If you are able to submit your assignments much ahead of time – then you are surely on the right track!

    Ah…nice to know that you love reading, something that I used to do years back – just caught up with other things nowadays. That’s one sure thing that helps you grow and learn. Meditation is mainly done to calm you down and take you within, and yes – initially there will be many distractions and your mind too will wander all over. However, after a few days of practice, you will begin enjoying it. So, I suggest that you keep trying to meditate because it does have it’s benefits. 🙂

    Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  7. Koundeenya

    2013-01-11 at 4:36 pm


    This is really an inspiring post. I really loved the story of Buddha. I actually have bought one of the books about his preachings, but never got a chance to read it. I think, I should do it.

    For me, peace is something that has been with me since the last few months. These days, I stopped frustating for useless and priceless things and I started doing something that triggers me up. I mostly either sit writing something or desinging a graphic (I am a student of Visual Communication, so I always have plenty of such assignments to be done and I’m submitting them, on or before the deadline.

    I actually love reading too. Most of my time, I keep reading random blogs and I stumble a lot. I have been thinking of meditating in my leisure time but whenever I sit down, something distracts me.


  8. Jena Isle

    2012-10-14 at 7:00 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I’m happy to read that we have similar topics about health. I also believe that you can only find true peace when it starts from within. Healing through inner peace.

    Your post is so thorough that one feels she can put to practice the important lesson learned. Your story is very simple but has a profound message. Great minds always put aside time to meditate to allow the mud to settle in one’s mind. I can mention one quotation related to this:

    “An un-meditated life is worth nothing.”

    Thanks for this.

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-10-16 at 8:45 pm

      Glad to know that we share similar interests too Jena!

      Yes indeed, peace should always begin with finding it within yourself first, and then looking for it in others or around us.

      Nice to know that you liked this simple story shared, which was intended to make people think and take back a lesson learnt too. Sometimes such stories make us reflect on our lives and the way we need to change – isn’t it?

      Even if don’t meditate or aren’t used to doing so, just sitting still and thinking deep within can help, though if one can meditate – nothing like it. That has it’s own benefits too. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  9. Nikky44

    2012-10-14 at 6:12 am

    I loved this story!! What a great lesson!
    Thank you!!

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-10-14 at 1:19 pm

      Glad you enjoyed the story Nikky!

      I too love stories that give us something to take back home. I’m glad you found it of value. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  10. Praveen Rajarao

    2012-10-03 at 11:13 pm

    Yes, it is really important to find peace within oneself….very well explained and the story about Buddha is illustrative enough to drive the point home.

    But then, it may not be so “effortless” for simple souls like me 🙂 Will take some real focus and patience to drive away the ill-natured thoughts to keep the peace of mind. What do you say?

    • Harleena Singh

      2012-10-03 at 11:54 pm

      Glad you could relate to the post Praveen!

      I think what most of us seek is to find inner peace within ourselves, though each of us tries to do so through various ways.

      It surely isn’t easy, but it’s tough either, if we only learn to let go and let be. Just let the mind calm down like the muddy water for things to really become crystal clear. It does work, though you need to try it out and want to do so too. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by. Always nice to have you over. 🙂

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