I wonder if your family is as important to you as mine is to me.
Well, you are the best person to judge your own family. All I can say is, though your family is your own personal matter, this is an important question for you to consider.
With this question, two more questions that come to my mind are, first, why should your family be important to you? Secondly, what should you do to make your family feel important?
Further, if you think that your family is really the most special thing for you, what are you doing for it?
Most people think that it’s the family that matters most in their life. And many people, even knowing this, do nothing about it. They just take it for granted, which is not right.
Through today’s post I wish to make you aware that if your family IS important to you, then you need to make sincere efforts to take care of it.
What is a Family
The word “family” is a very broad term. It holds a larger meaning than the conventional family that consists of only parents and their children.
A family also includes an extended family, or a foster family, or people who are like family to you even if not related by blood or marriage.
Even if you’re not married, you might still have a family consisting of your immediate family members or close friends who are almost like a family.
You might or might not have a feeling of belonging and attachment to any or all of these families. But generally, family is the one to which you feel you belong to and where you feel at home.
A family is your safe den, your recharge point, your caring and motivational center, and your identity.
Read on to know more reasons that will make you realize that your family is important.
“You have a lifetime to work, but children are only young once.” ~ Polish Proverb
Why Should Your Family be Important to You
If something is important to you, you naturally start taking care of it. Caring for your family can benefit you. Let’s logically analyze this.
You care for your wife and children. They care about each other, including you, which make all of you care for one another. This caring network helps develop a strong family bond, trust, and positive vibes.
Strong family ties mean dependability and understanding among one another. This results in the development of love among the family members, and reduces the chances of having family conflicts.
Love in the family gives you the emotional support that helps overcome many other hurdles in life, and helps your grow as a person.
A strong and loving family gives you a sense of security, satisfaction, peace, and happiness. It gives a feeling of being cared and loved.
It all happens when you prioritize your family in your life.
Aren’t these reasons good enough to prove that your family should be important to you?
Let’s use an analogy to understand the importance of a family. I’m sure you all are aware of the banking process.
Your family is like an account in the bank of life. With every investment you make in your family, your bank or life balance increases and you become richer, in terms of happiness.
On the other hand, if you do not make the investment, the bank balance or happiness does not increase. Moreover, it can even decrease with the reduction of your investment.
With every family investment you make, which should be unconditional in nature, there are returns in the form of love, care, and respect from all the family members, especially the children.
Of course, there might be some exceptional cases where even your best efforts do not yield immediate fruits, but that shouldn’t stop you from keep trying.
Children are your future long-term deposits, and you need to invest in them fully, not for the sake of getting anything in return, but for their better future.
Inculcating values, like instilling gratitude, and filling them up with your love helps them grow into loving and successful individuals.
Watch this video and see a meaningful message for your family.
My Most Important Message to You: Be Family Centered!
HeatherMadder ~ You Tube Video
Do not get scared by a family centered life, as that does not take away your individuality or freedom.
Also, being a family guy or girl in a modern family doesn’t mean that you’ve to be unprofessional and slacken in your work. Being a family person not only brightens up your family life but also sharpens your work life.
You feel better, loved, secure, supported, and have a greater motivation to progress and excel in your job.
In my analogy, I kept referring to “investment.” And you too probably wonder what that would be. Read on to know that.
“Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing.” ~ Jim Rohn
What Should You Do for Your Family
If you want to make your family important or more precious than your other tasks, as I said earlier, you need to make some unconditional investments.
The term investment used here does not relate to money. And it is not something that you purposely seek any returns from. It is an unconditional giving that you do.
This investment is of devoting your time and love. There are many other factors that help make your family feel special and important.
However, family time and family love are the two essentials ingredients. And by including them in your family life, you can make your family feel special.
“It’s all about quality of life and finding a happy balance between work and friends and family.” ~ Philip Green
Give Quality Family Time to Your Family
The only gift you can give your family is the gift of your time, which holds more meaning to them than any kind of materialistic gifts.
You need to devote time for your family, which you can carve out from your busy schedule either on a daily basis or over the weekends.
For example, once in a week you can decide that you are going to spend an hour with your family. Make sure that during this time you do no other work – no office calls, no work related meetings – nothing.
Just be present with your family whole-heartedly, without any kind of thoughts other than that of your family.
Involve yourself or start family bonding activities, plan a get together, and other family time activities. Your children will love this, and value and respect you more.
Check out my other posts Why family time is important, How to make quality family time, and 3 ways to create family bonding time, to know more about how you can make family time and what you should do to make your family feel important.
There may be cases of exception where people cannot give dedicated time to their family because of the nature of their work or job.
In such cases, where your physical presence is not possible, you can send cards and gifts, or call often to talk to your family members. This reduces the distance and shows that you’re concerned and emotionally involved.
On the contrary, if you do not show your involvement through emotional or other means and ways, it might seem as if your family is not important to you. You wouldn’t want that to happen, would you?
“Everybody today seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater developments and greater riches and so on, so that children have very little time for their parents. Parents have very little time for each other, and in the home begins the disruption of peace of the world.” ~ Mother Teresa
Express Your Love to Your Family
We all appreciate and need love in our lives. Mostly it is thought of in context to boyfriends, girlfriends, or spouses.
There are many designated days to express love to your dear ones such as Valentine’s Day. But do you express your love for your family, which includes your children and other immediate family members?
If your family really matters and is important to you; you need to show or prove it by expressing your feelings and love for your family.
Paying a compliment, helping around, giving a hug or kiss, and even forgiving a wrong deed are some of the ways to show your love for your family.
Expressing love to your children is so necessary and important. Love and emotions deeply impact a child’s psyche and development, including his or her thinking and behavior, and so the personality.
Children grow intellectually or emotionally in a loving family; as mentioned in this news report that describes the research proving it.
If you do not express love in the family, chances are that the children will suffer from emotional problems. The lack of love might damage their emotional and intellectual development, or delay their emotional maturity.
If you give love to your family, the family members would count on you and come to you in times of their difficulty, need, or just to share things with you.
Your children too would trust you and confide in you, and you may become their friend more than just a parent. You might even help prevent them from taking wrong decisions or going on a wrong path.
It is also essential that parents in a family should love each other and let their children see and know of it.
Children not only feel secure seeing loving parents but they also try to imbibe the loving nature into their personal lives.
You can use any occasion to shower your love to those who matter most in your life – especially your family.
Tell your children that you love them, and you can do so even on Valentines’ Day! Here’s my post about how to spend Valentine’s Day with your family.
I’ve another video for you about how to express your love to your family.
Creating a Successful Family – Express your Love ~ 5minParenting ~ Dailymotion Video
“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” ~ Richard Bach
If your family is important to you, which it should be, then you need to cater it with your family time and family love. You have to give your family a preference, and you’ll always find it in your heart and mind.
Your prioritization will make your family feel very special, and your active involvement will mean a lot to your wife and children.
Express your love, love your family, and have a great time together. Always remember that your family is important, so always keep it as your priority.
Over to you –
How important is your family to you? What do you do to make your family feel special? Do you benefit by prioritizing your family? How do you express your love to your family? Share in the comments below.
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Posted on: August 17th, 2012
Last Updated on: March 17th, 2015