5 Tips on How to Find Your Soulmate

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If you’re a single soul, then like so many others you too might yearn to know how to find your soulmate. But before you do that, you need to define your terms and clear your concepts.

What is a soul, and what is a soul mate?


Now, we’re not going to have a spiritual discussion here. Nor are we going to talk about religion.

We will simply define soul – as our true self. Soul is our essence that tells us who we really are. Soul is our inner identity. Soul is completeness.

Most of us do not understand our soul truly, and feel incomplete.

Soul is our total consciousness. Psychology is called the study of the psyche or soul, which is considered as the totality of the human mind, conscious and unconscious.

And for those who believe in God, soul is a part of God – a God-self.

Soul mate

When we say soulmate, we mean the other half of our soul. It resides in somebody else’s body. You feel that your soul is incomplete unless you’re united with the soul of the other person.

That person becomes your soulmate, the one who completes you. Finding  the soulmate is the process or discovery of your own true self and to be complete.

But in a world of billions of people, how to find your soulmate? How can I know if the other person is my soul mate?

According to one theory which many believe – we’re our own soul mates. If our soul is complete, we do not feel the need to look for the other half, or the soul mate.

If we try to complete our self through self-discovery, we’ll realize we’ve all the love in the universe within us – the spring of love and the fountain of happiness is within us.

We come to an understanding that we do not have to depend on any other person to feel the true love, to know the real love, and to experience the beauty of love.

However, it is not possible for everyone to achieve this state on one’s own. We then look for somebody who is like us, at our level, and in a state similar to us.

We help each other and work together to be complete. We see the mirror in the other person or the soulmate, which turns out to be a reflection of our own self.

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Tips to Find Your Soul Mate

There are some basic steps or tips that will guide you to know how to find your soulmate. First few steps are about preparing yourself before you set out for this most important discovery of your life.

1. Love Yourself

First and foremost, you need to love yourself. This is a pre-requisite if you want to find your soulmate, as it is all about love. If you cannot love your own self, you cannot love others.

If you love yourself, you’ll feel good about yourself and have confidence. You’ll have a positive outlook and attitude that will favor things and situations for you.

The law of attraction works here – you get what you do or expect. If you love yourself, there will be people who love you, and among them could be your soul mate.

However, if you don’t love yourself, you’re being negative and attract negativity.

With a negative feeling and outlook, you cannot expect positivity to embrace you, somebody to love you, and that you’ll find your soulmate.

2. Know Yourself

You need to understand yourself inside out. How can you expect to understand somebody else if you are not aware of your own self?

Know your likes, dislikes, interests, views, and values that you believe make you who you are. Finding your goal or purpose in life will also help you find a person with a similar mindset.

When you know yourself and search deep within your soul, you come to know what you lack in, and you look for those same things in another person.

Now you can clearly specify what you want to see in your soulmate – qualities, attributes, values, and so on.

You’ll have a clearer picture of how your soul mate looks like.

3. Increase the Chances

You might find your soulmate doing the things you like, have the same interests as yours, visit the same places that you like to, and listen to the same kind of music!

To increase the chances of you meeting your soul mate, you need to do what you like and be out there. Be actively involved in your life, meet people, and follow your interests and passion.

Your soul mate would be around you somewhere, so always keep your eyes and ears open. It can be a chance happening, but for that to happen you need to increase your chances.

Also, try to get more attractive, in terms of both body and mind. Mostly, we first get attracted by the looks – the physical appearance and the style.

However, your inner-self that lies deep within is what really makes you beautiful, which happens with your good thoughts, words, and acts. This has a great way of attracting your soul mate to you too!

4. Be Prepared

Remember in life, anything can happen at any time, and you need to always be prepared for that.

Opportunity may visit you anytime and anywhere. You can meet your soulmate even in the place and time you least expect.

If you feel your instincts and guts convey to you that he or she is your soul mate, or a bell rings in your mind and your heart misses a beat – don’t lose the opportunity.

But to be prepared you need to love yourself and know yourself. Be positive and always make the efforts. Have the patience too, as sometimes the reward comes late.

5. Believe in Yourself

Have faith in yourself that you’ll find what you look for. Wish for it from the bottom of your heart and then believe in it. Remember, there is somebody for everybody.

Be true to yourself, and look for love and not lust. For love is pure and has permanence, whereas lust is often deceiving and provides temporary pleasure.

In your life you might find many temptations and many people who might attract you, but not everybody can become your soul mate.

Your soul mate is the one who you feel you know for a long time. You have a complete understanding of  each other, and  cannot live without that person.

You have unconditional love and blind trust for your soul mate, and nothing else matters to you but the person’s soul, which makes your soul complete.

If you believe in yourself, you’ll know when that happens and you’ll recognize or find your soulmate. You’ll feel secure and comfortable.

I can write on length about love and soul mates. But for now, you can check out my other articles on love and romance.

Like everybody, you too might have different views and opinions. So, I want to hear your definition of a soul mate.

Over to you –

Do you believe in a soul mate? Do you think a person has only one soulmate? How did you find your soulmate? Share your tips and secrets to help people find their other half.

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  1. John

    2017-06-13 at 1:07 am

    I like how you pointed out that you’re more likely to find your soulmate by doing what you like and being out there. I feel like a lot of times, a soulmate shares the same common core values with you which is what helps your paths cross at some point. I’d imagine the only real way to truly find your soulmate though is to proactively search, and to be yourself while you search.

  2. Ngah Benoit

    2013-10-30 at 10:27 pm

    I think the Know yourself part is one of the most important parts we have to work on to be able to find our soulmate. If you don’t know yourself well, then you will think you need someone to make you happy when you can’t make yourself happy but as soon as you really know yourself, it will be much more easier to find someone who you can understand and build a successful relationship with. Thanks for the post Harleena

  3. Koundeenya

    2013-03-08 at 5:54 pm

    Brilliant, Harleena!

    For me, everything went so simple. I liked her. I told her that I do. We were schoolmates then (sigh). However, we were matured enough and we didn’t get into a relationship until the society thought we are mature enough.

    All the things you said about finding a soul mate are so true.

    Have a great weekend!

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-03-10 at 11:17 am

      Hi Koundeenya,

      Glad you liked the post and could relate to it. 🙂

      Ah…sounds pretty simple in your case. I guess being schoolmates must have been a great plus point too. Oh yes…I’m glad you waited till both of you were matured enough to get into a relationship. Perhaps in your case finding your soulmate was a cakewalk and that’s really nice to know. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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