How to Express Love to Your Loved One

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Whether it is the first time you’re going to express love to your loved one or you do that on a regular basis, you know that love is special.

Love makes the world go round – but only when you express or show it. Often we take it for granted that your partner or loved one will understand your feelings.

But that doesn’t always happen.

You need to handle love with care. Your wrong actions or sometimes even the slightest of inaction can break or hurt the love.

If you want your loved one to understand your feelings and if you really love the person, you need to show it.

Love is a positive energy that makes us feel good when it is received or shared. If you want to feel good all the time, you should release this energy often by expressing your love.

The popular saying really holds true – “Love grows when it is shared.” Though you don’t have to expect love to return, but mostly it does.

When you express love, you make the other person also feel good. That person too, as a response, expresses love and you receive more of this positive healing energy.

Your loved ones could be anyone – your parents, siblings, offspring, friend, spouse, and of course, your lover.

You display your love in different ways to different people. The nature or type of your display of affection would also depend on the kind or degree of love between you and your loved one.

True or unconditional love doesn’t seek anything in return. The deep well of positive emotions in your heart replenishes itself and never runs out of love.

However, most interpersonal relationships are based on reciprocation. If you do something for somebody, you expect that person to do something for you.

In either case, you need to express love so your loved one can know and feel it. This saves him or her from doing any guesswork or avoids any misunderstanding.

How to Express Love

Expressing love is both, an art and a skill.

You might learn it from people around you, the media and other elements of the social environment that surround you. Yes, some people are born lovers too!

More so, different communities around the world sometimes have different ways to express love.

The easiest and the universal way is to tell the person in simple words – “I love you.” No matter what language you use, these golden words can convey your thoughts and feelings of love.

There are more ways to express your love, and I’ve mentioned some of them in my earlier post titled “Simple ways to be romantic on Valentine’s Day.”

Words are not the only way to express love to your loved one.

You can use any means to show your love in such a way that your loved one can understand your feeling or what you want to convey.

a red pendant with love written to express love to loved ones

10 Ways to Express Love

Lack of or absence of expressing love in a relationship makes it dull or lifeless.

It’s not only about the love in a marriage or a romantic relationship, but also the love in a family and other aspects of life that matter.

The expression of love creates confidence and security in any relationship.

Here are some common and special ways to let your loved ones know that you love them.


1. Saying the golden words

Every person starves to hear these magical words – I LOVE YOU (I can say I do!). They mean a whole world to some. Be open and use them often.

This expression of love is evergreen and effective – no matter how many times you say them. You use these words differently in different situations, and that is what makes them special every time.

You can say these words anywhere and at any time, but don’t make it so frequent and common that it loses its impact.

If you’re going to say it for the first time, remember there’s no special way to say it. Just be yourself and express your feelings naturally – at a comfortable place with minimum distractions.

The other person can feel your intentions, thoughts, and sincerity through your words and your voice. Speak while looking into the person’s eyes, which make the words more meaningful.

2. Tele-communicating

Sometimes it is not possible for you to be present face-to-face when you want to convey your feelings of love.

Since your loved one cannot look into your eyes and see your facial gestures, you need to convey all your feelings through your words.

You will have to express love through your voice when you talk on the phone, mobile, voice chat or Skype and make it as effective as possible.

Speak slowly with confidence and conviction.

Emphasize on the words that you strongly feel about, and give time for the other person to register and appreciate your words, and understand the feelings behind them.

You can call frequently during the day and directly tell your loved one how much you love or miss him or her.

3. Making love affirmations

Talk your heart out and express love in words, whenever and wherever possible. You need to reassure and affirm your love to your partner often.

Have loving conversations and talk about the good romantic times that you both have shared in the past or present.

You can share your feelings for each other even when you’re driving, shopping, or while waiting at the airport.

Speak positively and praise your partner or loved one. Tell your partner how much she or he means to you and pay compliments with genuine appreciation.

Have quality conversations. But at times, actions speak louder than words.


4. Using performance

The most common ways to express love through performance is creating art, song, or dance.

Songs are inspiring and touch the heart as music directly reaches our soul. Find out what songs your loved one likes, and either play it or sing it for him or her.

Selecting a love song especially meant for your loved one and enjoying it together creates beautiful loving moments. This is possible even if you’re not face-to-face, but online.

Send your song request on the local radio station or music channel and ask your loved one to tune in and hear it.

If you have dancing skills then you can use it to convey your feelings in front of your loved one. Or, you can ask your partner to dance with you on a romantic number.

If you’re an artist, prepare a work of art for your loved one that you’re sure he or she would like. If possible, involve your loved one in the process.

Ah…though I am writing about this, I am not good in either of these, except for playing romantic numbers at times to distract my hubby’s attention!

5. Giving gifts

Giving gifts is what everybody likes to do as this way of expressing love turns out to be quicker and easier.

I am bad at this one though I’m working at it. I guess lack of time is the culprit here, though no excuses whatsoever!

It is best to know the preference and choice of your loved one before you set out to buy your gift. Since this is your token of love, you need to present it in a beautiful manner.

It’s not necessary to buy expensive gifts, as love is more valuable than money. It is the intention or thought that matters more than the gift to most people.

You can also do with inexpensive gifts, or with something made with your own hands. I personally feel that self-made things always have more value.

You can even gift a greeting card, buy a bouquet of pretty flowers, or gift a box of candy. Or make a note of something that your loved one liked while window shopping, and present it as a surprise gift.

6. Communicating through words

Wake up the poet in you and express your love by writing a poem. Let your feelings transform into words and flow in stanzas in awe of your loved one. (I can’t do this, but I know few who did!)

If you’re tech savvy then perhaps you’d like to use the SMS to send love messages to your lover. Or use the social networking to express your feelings through chat and sharing by beautiful images.

You can even write romantic emails, which can be either emails or the classic handwritten love letters that have their own charm.

I think most of you might have used these ways to express your love, and that includes me too!

7. Going out

Take your loved one on a date to a place of his or her liking. Or you can give a surprise by going to the place where you both met on your first date.

Go for a romantic movie, theatre, or even to watch any sport if it is of interest to your loved one. Take your lover for a long drive so you can be close and together for a long time.

Taking your loved one for a candle light dinner would be a very romantic idea, and it surely does work. It reminds me of my first candle light dinner and the romantic time we had.

8. Touching

Every person in love likes to be touched. You can use light touches to play with the fingers, stroke the hair, hold the hands, and even give a hug to express your love to your loved one.

A kiss on the cheek or forehead, and stroking the forehead with your hand shows your affection for the person.

If you feel your lover is ready for little physical closeness – a kiss on the lips is one way to express your love. However, be sure your lover is ready and willing too.

You can even let your lover know about your love through other ways like giving a romantic massage, or rubbing the back and relaxing him or her.

9. Helping out

Do things that your loved one would like and feel happy about. If you’re a boy, help out your partner in the kitchen and maybe cook the meal yourself, or at least, try to.

Surprise by doing things that are least expected of you. Clean the dishes, make bed tea, or prepare the breakfast for your lover and make her feel special. Do favors without asking.

If you are a girl then help him out in his work, ask him for tea or coffee, sort his things out, and don’t nag him! (I can see guys nodding here!)

Doing any unselfish act of kindness and sacrificing your personal desires to fulfill your partners need would make a deep impact and touch the heart.

10. Listening to your partner

At times, love is best expressed when you say or do nothing. You just let the eyes do the talking.

Give time to your loved one, and listen sincerely with all your heart and mind to whatever he or she wishes to talk about.

Show interest in what interests your loved one and respect his or her thoughts, views, and values. Listen to your partner’s problems, and give a shoulder to lean upon.

Love is all about sharing and caring. Show your affection in different and special ways doing unexpected things. Be a love teacher.

Appreciate your loved one or show affection in front of others, whisper romantic words in his or her ears, leave love notes in unexpected places, hold hands while walking, or give a surprise visit.

Show your concern and consideration when your loved one needs it. Offer to help and even go to the extents to make your partner comfortable.

Doing something for your lover’s family or parents would make a mark in your lover’s heart, and make him or her love you more.

There can be many more ways to express love to your loved ones though I just shared a few in this post.

Over to you –

Do you think it is necessary to express love? Do you know how to express love to your loved one? Which of the above ways to express love do you use? With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, how are you going to express your love to your loved one?

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  1. Saurabh Tiwari

    2016-02-11 at 8:14 pm

    HI Harleena Ma,am

    I am Visiting here after receiving your email regarding this Post.

    What to say Just Mind blowing post. Actually I want read this type of post after my Marriage.

    This Post Indeed made my day as well as my valentine day.

    Thank you

  2. Maelynn Cortez

    2015-06-03 at 5:14 am

    Hello Harleena,

    I love reading this post, especially the Ten Ways to express love. I love expressing love both in verbal and nonverbal ways. It is also one way of showing who we are and giving importance to our love ones and friends. Great article.

  3. Andersan j

    2014-05-31 at 11:58 am

    Hi Harleena,

    i really excited 🙂 🙂 after reading this article,by the way i need your suggestion for my dilemma ,i had fallen in love with my beloved one around 3 years but i never told the word “i love you” to her ,but we are talking/chat over the phone still now even in midnight ,she exhibits her care on me ,besides i’m also exhibits my care on her , will it love ??? what i have to do ??? whether i need to say my love to her or she will understand me ??? please clear this dilemma 🙁 🙁

  4. Philip V Ariel

    2013-11-29 at 10:26 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    A Very timely post.

    These days in many areas this magical word is missing and many do not even know how to express it lovingly 🙂
    Indeed this is a wonderful post to such people, surely they can pick up some points/tips from here. 🙂

    Some of the things mentioned here I am doing it but very sad to say the majority of them are miserably missing from my life, I am sure this will really look into some of it or let me say, will surely help me to put it into practice in the coming days, This post indeed made my day,
    Thanks for sharing
    Keep informed

  5. kuldeep

    2013-09-03 at 4:47 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I think its important to tell other peoples about your feelings, and the list you have provided is a great way to tell others about your feelings.
    One must express its feelings to others and those are the true golden words (I LOVE YOU ).

  6. Kaustav Banerjee

    2013-08-30 at 1:58 pm

    Hello Mam,

    I love to read articles on various niches and enjoy them. Your article here on relationship is really motivating and provides very good teaching. Loved to read it. 🙂

  7. Ashi

    2013-07-30 at 12:21 am

    Hi Harleen Ma’m

    Well I think girls are more practical these days. No matter how handsome you are they would rather choose a person who has money. I have seen many real life example. Since I am a college students. Girls wants their partner to have good bank balance, iPhone or 40k phone in hands, good car and if he is not good looking it is ok.

    Well I am not pointing any particular person . But this is my personal experience and seen girls that way.
    Still there is true love but nowadays it is very rare.

    BTW thanks for the update. I hope it will help some real love birds . God Bless us everyone
    Regards 🙂

  8. Matthew Denos

    2013-06-03 at 2:58 pm

    Hello Harleena,

    You have covered the topic extensively. Actions speak more than words. Helping your loved one when in need, listening to what they say, being there to support them when they go through important times–all speak louder than saying “I love you”. I recently gave a gift to a loved one as a hint of how I feel about her.

  9. Atish Ranjan

    2013-04-08 at 10:49 pm

    However I usually don’t read these kind of posts on relationships 😛 but sometimes It feels different when I read something apart from tech, blogging and SEO stuffs.

    I have not much idea about expressing love but I think non-verbal ways seems more romantic. expression and performance can do better than that of words.

    Nice post Harleena.

  10. Sarah Park

    2013-02-16 at 5:41 pm

    Before I go to sleep, I always say the magic word to my partner and kids. This will always remind them that I love them no matter how tough our day may be.

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