Parenting is one of the toughest jobs, and every parent realizes this fact over time.
No matter how well you have prepared yourself to be a good parent, you may fall for some of the parenting traps.
In such cases, you need to go back to the basics and re-educate yourself with the effective parenting tips that work.
There is no one parenting style or way of parenting.
You may choose or create your parenting method based on your specific family conditions and needs.
But there are certain tips of parenting that may be applicable in all circumstances and cultures.
To make your parenting effective, you need to read and cultivate the effective parenting habits.
It is good to learn from the experiences of others. This way you get to know what works for them, so you too can try them while parenting your children.
If you are not a parent yet, this information can be crucial for you. That’s because if you read it today, you are likely to retain the essence of effective parenting by the time you become a parent.
Enjoy this infographic, briefly followed by a few more parenting tips to help you get out of the parenting problems or traps.
Don’t fret because this is a short infographic post (very short by my standard!). 🙂
You saw for yourself how much parents can contribute to their kids’ success in life.
A little effort from the parents is all that is needed. Remember, doing the right things can bring happiness in the lives of your children.
If you remember your childhood days, you know it made you feel good when your parents behaved in the manner as described in this infographic.
Though the infographic caters for young children, the parenting tips, however, apply to older kids as well.
It’s your parenting habits and style that matter a lot, rather than the age of your children.
You need to evolve into a better parent, and give out more than what you receive. Isn’t parenting all about giving?
I wish I had more time to give my kid’s, and I keep working on making that aspect better. How about you?
It’s the duty and responsibility of every parent to give the best to their children. Here are some tips to be an effective parent, for young as well as older children.
An Overview of Contents
Effective Parenting Tips For Every Parent
Effective means something that works well and is capable of producing the intended result. I hope these parenting tips will help you become better parents.
1. Keep Communicating With Your Kids
In the infographic you saw that talking to small kids resulted in their better I.Q. and reading ability.
However, communication has got a bigger role to play, not only in the foundation years, but even in the teenage years and adulthood of your child.
Proper communication can prevent many conflicting situations and problems due to misunderstanding.
The more you talk to your kids, the more open they become with you. With our kid’s too, we keep talking to them to know about their daily activities.
Therefore, the number one tip for effective parenting is to keep the communication channels open with your kids.
2. Get Involved and Play Your Part
You can’t be an effective parent if you don’t carry out your parenting responsibilities.
You need to take out quality time to bond with your children. Know what they are doing and get involved in their life. There are no two ways about it.
I know we spent a lot of time with our kid’s when they were young, and even now when they are grown up, we don’t miss an opportunity to be together.
Develop a friendly relationship with your children and spend good time with them to help them with their life. This strategy is really going to be very effective.
3. Let Kids Have Fun and Be Themselves
Kids will be kids and they like to have fun. Create conditions for your kids to develop their own personalities and learn from their experiences.
As part of the quality family time, try letting your kids have the maximum fun.
This will create a better bond between you and your kids; it will help them get rid of their stress and tensions.
Do not try to impose your personality on your kids. They are your kids but not your property. They are individuals, and you will be a better parent if you help them be themselves.
This can be a little tricky, as you don’t know the thin line about when to have control and when to let go. So, balance out your parenting skills, and let them take over after a while.
4. Teach Your Child to Be Independent
Allowing kids to be themselves and being independent are two different aspects.
Make your kids self-reliant so they gain confidence and have high self-esteem. Help them make their own decision and guide them wherever necessary, without imposing yourself on them.
If you have a good rapport with your kids, making your kids self-independent will not take them away from you, but make your kids appreciate your parenting.
There comes an age, as it has with our kids, when we have started giving them the freedom to take decisions and make the choices in life. Of course, as parents, we are there to guide, not impose. 🙂
5. Be Positive and Encouraging
Refrain from criticizing your children, whether in front of people or otherwise. Negative talks will result in negative results.
Always use positive ways to deal with your kids, regarding any aspect.
I know sometimes it seems very difficult to follow this tip. But I keep reminding myself and stay positive with them.
As an effective parent, you need to be calm and patient while dealing with kids. Learn to encourage their positive behavior instead.
6. Put Limits and Be Consistent
Being positive does not mean that you become lenient and let your kids do anything they want. For effective parenting, you need to put limits, and that’s required..
You saw the infographic mentioning putting limits on the TV times; similarly you can put limits on the mobile and Internet usage time, and the timings for outings, if required.
We have house rules, which our kids know, if they break, they will be grounded or there will be limits put for them, so they are careful. With time, it becomes a habit with kids to play their part well.
You can certainly be flexible at times, but try to be consistent and maintain the imposed limits. Kids will try to test the boundaries, but you need to be firm as well as be friendly.
7. Give Reward and Love
Disciplining does not necessarily mean punishing. If needed, you can use various alternatives like time outs, taking away privileges, or use grounding.
It’s better to explain things and let kids understand the consequences.
The most effective parenting would be to catch your child being good by rewarding their good behavior and reinforcing the positives.
Praise, respect, and give compliments to your kids. You should express your unlimited and unconditional love to your children if you want to be an effective parent.
This is one aspect busy parents like myself, tend to forget, but it’s required! Believe me, praising your kids can boost their morale and gear them up to take the other challenges of life. Try it! 🙂
8. Set Yourself As An Example
And finally, what you do matters.
You are the role model for your children – they observe you and will always follow you and yours ways, consciously or subconsciously.
So, take care not to have arguments with your spouse in front of your children, nor abuse your spouse.
Instead, love, respect, demonstrate affection, and be happy in front of and with your kids.
Remember, your personality matters too.
Your kids want you to be special so that they can be proud of. Our kid’s want us to look our best always, and they are quick to follow in our footsteps, so we have to be careful all the time! 🙂
Therefore, ideally, the number one tip for effective parenting should be gearing up to be a special and unique person, for your kids.
There is a lot more you can do for being a good parent, but these tips should set the ball rolling.
I know it’s all not easy and you may face many problems parenting your kids.
But effective parenting is all about being persistent and patient.
So, keep practicing these tips of effective parenting, and you’ll be rewarded with a beautiful relationship with your child that is ever so precious!
In the end, I have this beautiful poem “Children Learn What They Live” by Dorothy Law Neite.
“If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
If a child learns to feel shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.”
So, note the way you treat your kids the next time and look up this poem. 🙂
All the best, and Happy Parenting. 🙂
Over To You –
As a parent, what are your good parenting habits? Share your effective parenting tips so others benefit from them. If you are not a parent yet, what do you feel are or were the best parenting skills of your parents? Share in the comments.
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