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8 Effective Parenting Tips That Work

Know how to be an effective parent by learning the tips of good parenting

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Parenting is one of the toughest jobs, and every parent realizes this fact over time.

No matter how well you have prepared yourself to be a good parent, you may fall for some of the parenting traps.

In such cases, you need to go back to the basics and re-educate yourself with the effective parenting tips that work.

There is no one parenting style or way of parenting.

You may choose or create your parenting method based on your specific family conditions and needs.

But there are certain tips of parenting that may be applicable in all circumstances and cultures.

To make your parenting effective, you need to read and cultivate the effective parenting habits.

It is good to learn from the experiences of others. This way you get to know what works for them, so you too can try them while parenting your children.

If you are not a parent yet, this information can be crucial for you. That’s because if you read it today, you are  likely to retain the essence of effective parenting by the time you become a parent.

Enjoy this infographic, briefly followed by a few more parenting tips to help you get out of the parenting problems or traps.

Don’t fret because this is a short infographic post (very short by my standard!). 🙂

Read more about the effective parenting styles here.

Infographic describing the tips for effective parenting.Credit: ECED

You saw for yourself how much parents can contribute to their kids’ success in life.

A little effort from the parents is all that is needed. Remember, doing the right things can bring happiness in the lives of your children.

If you remember your childhood days, you know it made you feel good when your parents behaved in the manner as described in this infographic.

Though the infographic caters for young children, the parenting tips, however, apply to older kids as well.

It’s your parenting habits and style that matter a lot, rather than the age of your children.

You need to evolve into a better parent, and give out more than what you receive. Isn’t parenting all about giving?

I wish I had more time to give my kid’s, and I keep working on making that aspect better. How about you?

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It’s the duty and responsibility of every parent to give the best to their children. Here are some tips to be an effective parent, for young as well as older children.

Read this post if you want to know what it takes to be a better parent.

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Effective Parenting Tips For Every Parent

Effective means something that works well and is capable of producing the intended result. I hope these parenting tips will help you become better parents.

1. Keep Communicating With Your Kids

In the infographic you saw that talking to small kids resulted in their better I.Q. and reading ability.

However, communication has got a bigger role to play, not only in the foundation years, but even in the teenage years and adulthood of your child.

Proper communication can prevent many conflicting situations and problems due to misunderstanding.

The more you talk to your kids, the more open they become with you. With our kid’s too, we keep talking to them to know about their daily activities.

Therefore, the number one tip for effective parenting is to keep the communication channels open with your kids.

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2. Get Involved and Play Your Part

You can’t be an effective parent if you don’t carry out your parenting responsibilities.

You need to take out quality time to bond with your children. Know what they are doing and get involved in their life. There are no two ways about it.

I know we spent a lot of time with our kid’s when they were young, and even now when they are grown up, we don’t miss an opportunity to be together.

Develop a friendly relationship with your children and spend good time with them to help them with their life. This strategy is really going to be very effective.

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3. Let Kids Have Fun and Be Themselves

Kids will be kids and they like to have fun. Create conditions for your kids to develop their own personalities and learn from their experiences.

As part of the quality family time, try letting your kids have the maximum fun.

This will create a better bond between you and your kids; it will help them get rid of their stress and tensions.

Do not try to impose your personality on your kids. They are your kids but not your property. They are individuals, and you will be a better parent if you help them be themselves.

This can be a little tricky, as you don’t know the thin line about when to have control and when to let go. So, balance out your parenting skills, and let them take over after a while.

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4. Teach Your Child to Be Independent

Allowing kids to be themselves and being independent are two different aspects.

Make your kids self-reliant so they gain confidence and have high self-esteem. Help them make their own decision and guide them wherever necessary, without imposing yourself on them.

If you have a good rapport with your kids, making your kids self-independent will not take them away from you, but make your kids appreciate your parenting.

There comes an age, as it has with our kids, when we have started giving them the freedom to take decisions and make the choices in life. Of course, as parents, we are there to guide, not impose. 🙂

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5. Be Positive and Encouraging

Refrain from criticizing your children, whether in front of people or otherwise. Negative talks will result in negative results.

Always use positive ways to deal with your kids, regarding any aspect.

I know sometimes it seems very difficult to follow this tip. But I keep reminding myself and stay positive with them.

As an effective parent, you need to be calm and patient while dealing with kids. Learn to encourage their positive behavior instead.

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6. Put Limits and Be Consistent

Being positive does not mean that you become lenient and let your kids do anything they want. For effective parenting, you need to put limits, and that’s required..

You saw the infographic mentioning putting limits on the TV times; similarly you can put limits on the mobile and Internet usage time, and the timings for outings, if required.

We have house rules, which our kids know, if they break, they will be grounded or there will be limits put for them, so they are careful. With time, it becomes a habit with kids to play their part well.

You can certainly be flexible at times, but try to be consistent and maintain the imposed limits. Kids will try to test the boundaries, but you need to be firm as well as be friendly.

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7. Give Reward and Love

Disciplining does not necessarily mean punishing. If needed, you can use various alternatives like time outs, taking away privileges, or use grounding.

It’s better to explain things and let kids understand the consequences.

The most effective parenting would be to catch your child being good by rewarding their good behavior and reinforcing the positives.

Praise, respect, and give compliments to your kids. You should express your unlimited and unconditional love to your children if you want to be an effective parent.

This is one aspect busy parents like myself, tend to forget, but it’s required! Believe me, praising your kids can boost their morale and gear them up to take the other challenges of life. Try it! 🙂

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8. Set Yourself As An Example

And finally, what you do matters.

You are the role model for your children – they observe you and will always follow you and yours ways, consciously or subconsciously.

So, take care not to have arguments with your spouse in front of your children, nor abuse your spouse.

Instead, love, respect, demonstrate affection, and be happy in front of and with your kids.

Remember, your personality matters too.

Your kids want you to be special so that they can be proud of. Our kid’s want us to look our best always, and they are quick to follow in our footsteps, so we have to be careful all the time! 🙂

Therefore, ideally, the number one tip for effective parenting should be gearing up to be a special and unique person, for your kids.

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Parents using effective parenting tips by happily playing with their child.

There is a lot more you can do for being a good parent, but these tips should set the ball rolling.

I know it’s all not easy and you may face many problems parenting your kids.

But effective parenting is all about being persistent and patient.

Keep your temper under control, and don’t get on that train! Anger and impatience, lack of time and involvement, and no love or bonding can create irreparable damage.

So, keep practicing these tips of effective parenting, and you’ll be rewarded with a beautiful relationship with your child that is ever so precious!

In the end, I have this beautiful poem “Children Learn What They Live” by Dorothy Law Neite.

“If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.

If a child learns to feel shame, he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement he learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.”

So, note the way you treat your kids the next time and look up this poem. 🙂

All the best, and Happy Parenting. 🙂

Over To You –

As a parent, what are your good parenting habits? Share your effective parenting tips so others benefit from them. If you are not a parent yet, what do you feel are or were the best parenting skills of your parents? Share in the comments.

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  1. Sabrina Lily

    June 6, 2017 at 5:07 pm

    Thank you for this fantastic article. As a parent, I strongly agree that to teach children how to behave and act accordingly is by setting ourselves as an example. All the tips and suggestions in this article are helpful for both guardians and parents especially nowadays that the internet is very much accessible.
    Communication is also critical to prevent misunderstandings. The more we get angry and disappointed with our children’s bad behavior, the more we are losing control over their emotions and temper. Although there are instances that grandparents or other relatives would spoil them, we must make sure that we are clear with the house rules.
    Instead of just the one who do the talking, we also need to be good listeners and observers. The children might get intimidated or scared even with our gestures and stares. While we have different parenting styles and methods, the tips you shared with us are possible and doable. I am glad that you take time compiling them and writing all of them here.
    They say that it takes a village to raise a child and we know how true it is. But we are tough parents so I know we can do it. Keep the faith moms and dads!

  2. Barnali Mazumdar

    July 7, 2015 at 6:21 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Thank you so much for your useful parenting tips. I totally agree with you. To bring up a child, we have to be always accepting them as they are. Sometimes they do things exactly the way they should be done, that time we have to appreciate them, sometimes they make mistakes, and we have to forgive them and help them learn from it.

  3. Aarti Khanna

    May 30, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    Nice article Harleena Singh! It’s true that parenting children can be enormously rewarding and fulfilling – but also exhausting and challenging. As a parent I always try to improve my children’s behavior by spending time with them individually every day, giving them the positive attention and emotional connection they need.

  4. Moses

    May 26, 2015 at 10:35 am

    Nice one. Thanks Harleena. They are all great tips to follow

  5. Rachel Wolany

    May 11, 2015 at 2:12 pm

    Hey Harleena – great post. And the play time is essential I agree. But what I have seen time and time again, is parents join in with the kids and children lap up the parents attention and enjoy it so much. Then the parent takes over and becomes the boss. If a parent is going to play with kids, play – don’t become the organiser or the rule maker. When you change hats from parents to play mate, you take your kids to so many places they would never have gone with their imaginations. And that is what quality time is. Hats off to parents – it is the hardest 24 hour job for a lifetime title one could ever choose. I think you have your little miracles on loan and what you put into them is what they will put into the world. Decision making is a key skill in these years. If you can instil decision making skills into your child, by the time they reach their teens they will be a lot better equipped to handle peer group pressure. Deciding for themselves rather than just going with the flow which is dangerous at that age. Anyway I will stop going on, I just really enjoyed you post and it sparked a chat.

  6. Makary

    April 22, 2015 at 9:16 pm

    HI

    Great tips to follow.
    As father of 5 years old girl I will say it is very easy and enjoying process ….
    Your child grow and only you can give her good tips,and help her. During last 5 years we always try to go ways to present and now I will say it was worth of.

  7. Lee

    April 15, 2015 at 2:35 pm

    Dear Harleena,

    What an awesome post with infographic!

    Parenting of today is no longer just about providing basic needs like food, clothes and shelter for our kids but also about nurturing and enriching them to be someone better than who we are.

    Thanks & Regards,
    Lee

    • Harleena Singh

      April 16, 2015 at 10:46 am

      Welcome to the blog Lee 🙂

      Glad you liked the infographic and post 🙂

      Absolutely! Those are the very basics that every parent needs to provide, but parenting nowadays has gone much beyond. I guess that’s why there are parenting skills that every parent must learn from whatever sources they can, isn’t it? Anything to make our kids good humans.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views with us 🙂

      BTW – Do add your Gravatar or profile picture, would be nice to see who we are talking to – just a friendly suggestion 🙂

      • Lee

        April 16, 2015 at 1:22 pm

        Thanks for your friendly suggestion!

        I have also added you in my twitter following list.

        • Harleena Singh

          April 16, 2015 at 2:44 pm

          You are most welcome – hmm…better, though I still don’t see the real YOU 🙂

          Following you on Twitter too – nice to connect with you 🙂

  8. Dennis Seymour

    April 11, 2015 at 1:10 pm

    I cant wait to actually put these things to use!!!!!!!

    Im so excited! I do read to my daughter every other day 10 minutes or so. Usually a Dr seuss book lol

    she seems to enjoy it…i think!! 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      April 16, 2015 at 10:43 am

      Hi Dennis,

      Lol…I am glad to hear that, and don’t worry – you’d be putting ALL of these to use and much more! Just wait for a while till your little one grows up 🙂

      I am sure you daughter would be loving those 10 minutes of hearing you read to her – would be good if you could take out time daily though. You know kids love to spend time with their parents, the bond just gets better with time.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with us 🙂

  9. Yatin Khulbe

    April 10, 2015 at 9:07 am

    Hi Harleena Mam
    What a wonderful infographic. I simply love the details of the poster. As I am not a parent ;-). I will share my views as a son. I am blessed to have such parents.
    It’s true that every parent wants his/her child to excel in life. But, in this process, parents must give ample space to children. Every child is born with unique qualities. And, that quality is not restricted to academics only. By talking, we can solve lots of problems. The problem is not with the children, the problem is with the lack of interaction. Due to generation gap, Kids are not comfortable talking to their parents

    I completely agree with your TV point. Children must devote less time on TV. But, I have seen the kids of working parents indulge in TV watching only. Instead of watching TV, kids should indulge in art and craft activities.

    I have seen parents forcing their child to work hard by giving examples of other student’s report card. We must direct all our negative energies towards positive building only.
    Thanks for providing this wonderful information.

    • Harleena Singh

      April 16, 2015 at 10:39 am

      Hi Yatin,

      Glad you liked the infographic and post, even though you aren’t a parent yet, but yes, as a son you can relate 🙂

      Well said – the space is essential, though it comes a little later in life, once they are ending their teens and stepping into adulthood and it’s time to venture into the real outside world. I guess before that, it’s all a training and disciplining phase, which most kids realize, but only once they grow up.

      Absolutely! The problem lies in the lack of communication, and this happens in any relationship, whether between a parent and child, between couples, or even your clients and bosses. I wish more people would realize this fact and understand that ALL problems can be resolved, only if you talk!

      I don’t think the generation gap is all that much between parents and their kids, unless the age difference is really too much. I think if both sides make the effort, such a gap can easily be taken care of.

      Agree with you there – spending time in creative activities or hobbies is better than on spending time watching TV. Working parents somehow find less time with their kids, and feel by allowing them to watch TV, they can fill the gap, but it works adversely.

      Comparing other kids to yours is the worst thing parents can do because each child is unique. Kids have their own capacities, and as parents, you need to appreciate their little of efforts.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post 🙂




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8 Effective Parenting Tips That Work

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