How to Stop Rushing Through Life

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Have you ever had the feeling that you are always short of time? Ever felt you knew how to stop rushing through life and just be in the moment? You are not alone!

When was the last time you took a moment to enjoy your morning cup of tea or coffee? Or just sit with your spouse and start the day being with each other?

When was the last time you felt the falling rain on your face? When the last time you saw the dew drops that made you feel good?

When was the last time you really saw the beauty in nature and enjoyed being present to experience these simple things?

Have you ever tried slowing down and just taking a backseat to enjoy the little pleasures in life?

“We are always getting ready to live but never living.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Ever noticed how hurriedly the days seem to pass by, and you still feel there is so much left to be done. Doesn’t it always seem that there is so much to be done, yet less time do it all?

I have that feeling so often, and am always running against time because I am rushing through life, which I know I shouldn’t.

This post is a reminder for me, and all those who also feel that their days fall short to do all that they want to do.

I know I need to slow down and take things as they come, and make attempts to live in the moment. Do you?

What Does it Mean to Rush Through Life

Simply put, when you rush through life, you forget to live NOW.

It means you aren’t able to take out time to enjoy your mornings, instead, are always in a rush to go off to work.

It means not being able to enjoy what you like doing. You don’t appreciate things around you, nor the outdoor, and don’t spend time with your loved ones.

“Half our life is spent trying to find something to do with the time we have rushed through life trying to save.” ~ Will Rogers

Instead, what do people rushing through life do?

They are always working, connected to their laptops or PCs, or on their mobiles and iPhones.

Or they are checking their emails, blogging, commenting, multitasking, on social media, and keep working endlessly without a break! I am a lot like that – are you?

Such people just don’t wait to stop and think how and where life is heading. They don’t have the time. Are you such a person? If so, why are you always rushing through your life?

Why Are You Always Rushing Through Life

Let me ask you a few questions and tell me what your answers were in the comments – here they are.

  • Do you keep running from one task to another in an attempt to complete your never ending list of to-do things?
  • Do you hurry through your talks with your spouse, family, kids, or parents?
  • Are you always in a hurry to keep up with friends, whether they are online friends or the offline ones?
  • Do you face relationship problems when you aren’t able to devote the required time with your partner, because you are over-worked and lacking in time? Be true to yourself and answer this one!

Talking about the present, tell me how did you spend your day today?

Does your typical day start something like this – waking up, rushing through shower, getting the kids ready (if you have small kids), breakfast, if possible exercise, starting work – at home or driving to office, checking emails and social updates, meetings, doing real work, rushing through lunch, drive back home, watch TV, have dinner, and feeling flat off to bed late at night, only to wake up early morning again!

Your day might not be exactly like this, but I’m sure it must be quite similar.

Don’t you follow such a routine day in and day out, when suddenly one day you feel burnout? What happens then? You realize how many years have passed by just following this same monotonous life.

People nowadays are stressed, overworked, and over-scheduled because they are involved into a lot of things.

They have lots of work, and have to be part of communities, kids, family, social events, and other activities. Even ABC News reported how American’s are working longer hours than ever before.

“Men, for the sake of getting a living, forget to live.” ~ Margaret Fuller.

Haven’t you forgotten how to slow down and enjoy life? I think so, because of the hectic lifestyles you and me lead.

Coming to think of it, why the rush? Can’t things wait? Are there really things that need to be attended to straight away at the cost of other important things in your life? Think about it and let me know below.

So what do people like you and me do about it? We try to understand what happens when we rush through life.

What Happens When You Rush Through Life

When you rush through your life as it is, you miss out on the journey. You miss out on living in the present. You miss out on those precious moments of life.

Yes, you are all busy in your lives with lots to be done each day and no moment to spare. But it’s also important to set priorities in life and take life as it comes, instead of rushing through it.

You might feel something needs to be done right away, and at the cost of your family or other important tasks; you get down doing that particular thing. But was it that important after all?

Couldn’t it wait or be avoided?

You may make such a decision because you feel you have to. It’s almost like putting all the ingredients of a recipe together in a pot without realizing or tasting what you’re cooking!

You just follow the recipe exactly the way it was supposed to be followed, even when you know that a little more salt or less of pepper is what it needs.

Similarly, you don’t listen to your own body when you exercise or eat food, and tend to do things you’ve been doing since ages – don’t you?

You are afraid to try out new things because you feel that the old ones are tried and tested, and someone way back in time said that was the right way to do it all.

Or because you really don’t have the time to try something new and different – as you are forever rushing through life and don’t have the time to shape your own life yourself.

How about slowing down a little, taking risks, challenging what’s been done before, being a little wild, and letting everyone call you a little ‘crazy’?

“There is more to life than increasing its speed.” ~ Mohandas Gandhi.

Try out these ways to stop rushing through life and see the changed person you’d become.

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Ways to Stop Rushing Through Life

As I mentioned before, this post is also a reminder for me to take life a little slow and not really get caught up trying to do everything, all the time.

You know that stress is bad for you, yet you prefer staying up to date, or you fall behind. You try doing many things to work faster, yet you fall behind because lots of people are working smarter.

You feel you’d be slower than them if you don’t jump on the bandwagon. So, what do you do? You become mechanical – almost robotic!

In the process, you forget to take care of your basic needs like sleep, proper diet, exercise, and fresh air. This is also a reason why you feel slow, unmotivated, unproductive, and restless. Sounds familiar?

“It is important from time to time to slow down, to go away by yourself, and simply be.” ~ Eileen Caddy

Here are some ways of stop rushing through life and enjoying it as it comes –

1- Slow down by doing less

Hard as it may sound, this is the first thing you need to do – slow down your pace by doing less. Focus on doing what’s really important, and leave the rest for later.

You also need to eat slow instead of gulping your food in because that way you don’t enjoy your food, nor feel the flavor and texture. You aren’t being mindful when you eat fast.

Similarly, drive slower and appreciate nature and your surroundings, instead of rushing through always.

Spend more family time, instead of just short-talking with your kids and family. Love slower, instead of hurrying up your act.

Simply put, just put your heart and mind when you do things. See the difference it makes to your life!

2- Plan your day and make your list

Planning out your day makes you less stressed for accomplishing your work because you know what you have to do for the rest of the day. You learn how to manage your time well this way.

Don’t make a long list or else you might feel overwhelmed and stretched far again. Make sure what you plan are small and achievable goals for the day.

Scientific studies have shown that those who spend less time at their office or work, and more time relaxing – are more effective and productive.

Take short breaks between work to stretch your body, close your eyes, breathe, which can reduce the pace with which you deal with the rest of the day.

Also, remain organized in your work place by removing all that you don’t need so you don’t rush through when you need something.

You will be less hurried, more productive, and happier when your physical work spaces are clutter-free.

3- Do one thing at one time

Learn to let go of multi-tasking and concentrating on doing just one thing at a time.

That’s because when you multi-task, you don’t enjoy what you do as you try doing many things together.

If you are working, keep your TV, phones and emails OFF, and when you are watching TV or spending time with your loved ones – keep work away.

This one’s again a reminder for me too, though I remain focused in what I do but still need to get better in this area.

4- Balance out your day

Life is all about making the right choices and balancing things out. Take out a little time from your busy schedule to work, play, relax, and be with your family and loved ones.

Focus on people and be there when you are present with them. Don’t talk to them while talking on your mobiles or working.

That way you are there, but your mind is on things you need to do. You might listen, but you’re really thinking about yourself and what you want. Just shut off the world when you connect with those who matter.

Maintain your friendships and relationships because life is also about family and friends, and taking out time for them. Perhaps over the weekend, if you don’t have the time during the week.

5- Take out time for yourself

Take out a few minutes a day for yourself too. Even 15 minutes a day to go within and just enjoy the fact that you are doing great and loving your life is a good way to find peace within yourself.

How can you find this quiet time for yourself?

By turning off the TV, cell phone, computer, and all your work, and just doing something that you like or want to do.

It’s good to sometimes enjoy life’s simple luxuries and pamper yourself. Here are some ways to take out some ‘me’ time, though you can add a lot more to it –

  • Share a chocolate with your loved ones
  • Enjoy a new hairdo or makeover
  • Read a good book
  • Listen to music
  • Meditate
  • Yoga
  • Spend time with your pet – I do, with my dog 🙂
  • Take up a hobby daily
  • Play with your kids
  • Spend time with your spouse
  • De-stress and completely relax at least once a week
  • Go out and enjoy nature. Try hiking, fishing, boating, and sightseeing if you love the outdoors
  • Take a stroll, and if you know the benefits of walking – walk through and explore different paths
  • Or anything else that makes you feel good

Notice the small things in life that you wouldn’t otherwise. You can find them when you are away from your work or doing something you love doing.

What fun it would be to have such a ‘me’ time. You could just wear what you feel like, eat, drink, and make merry all day long.

Of course, without any Internet, or laptop – this means no social media too! Ah…I wait for that day!

6- Learn to give up on one thing

There’s a lot to be done, isn’t there? I feel like that so often. But can I really do more than I’m actually doing? I don’t think so because I am stretching myself quite far already. How can I or you change that?

That can be done by trying to give up just on one thing from your schedule.

If you visit social networks thrice a day, make it twice. If you visit 10 blogs daily, cut then down to 7 or 8. If you go to the gym daily, make it 5 days a week.

Small differences in your lifestyle will change your life.

When you reschedule your time like this, you’d find more time to relax and recoup. So, learn to schedule less and do more with the time you have.

7- Don’t procrastinate

Some people procrastinate their work time, which causes them to push their work to be done later. What time do they take out to do such work? They use their relaxation or entertainment or the ‘me’ time.

Instead, do the work you planned for the day, so that your time remains yours and you end it feeling satisfied. More so, you’ll not fell stressed or guilty of leaving work pending for later.

8- Learn to say no

Some of you might be having a problem saying no or refusing favors asked of you. Even though you don’t want to disappoint your friends, you need to prioritize and refuse them from time to time.

Just be honest as your friends will understand, especially if you can’t attend a get-together, event, function, hangout, or any such thing. Remember, it all comes down to managing your time yourself.

9- Finding joy and living in the moment

There is a lot of joy in each day, provided you look for it.

It could be a new flower blooming in your garden, a toothless grin from a 90 year old, kids cooking a meal for you, or just about anything that make you happy.

Learn to appreciate these precious moments life puts forth you. Go with the flow and do just what needs to be done. Take each day as it comes – as if it were the last.

Be mindful of whatever you do at the moment. Yes, your mind races towards thing that need to be done, or thoughts about the past – bring yourself back to the live in the present moment.

Do whatever you do, with love. Like when you are cooking, instead of rushing through it and thinking it to be a boring chore that you want to end quickly, really get involved.

Enjoy the aroma, the spices, the sizzle, the sensation of chopping the vegetables, or tasting the food when it’s done. You’ll learn to take each task as an enjoyable one, provided you think positively about it.

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Change what’s in your power, and leave the rest – just let it GO! You can’t change people, or things, but you can change the way you react to them.

Most importantly, when you find yourself rushing through life and stressed out, stop and just breathe – then take a few more deep breaths. Notice how the stress reduces.

That’s because you focus on breathing, and pull yourself back to the present. You slow down your pace. Try doing it right now and feel the difference. 🙂

“When you calm your body & your emotions, you restore yourself, and restore peace to the world around you.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Although I write about this, I know my hubby would say that I don’t follow this one! That’s because I love to plan and execute my day or else I really can’t work efficiently. More so, when I plan it reduces my anxiety.

I don’t like sudden changes, but I understand that life happens, plans change, and sometimes things are out of your control.

You need to accept life and adapt to the changes that take place. So, I am slowly learning to do all these things too. How about you? 🙂

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Imagine a world where everyone slowed down a little – the drivers, housewives, businessmen, and motorcyclists. For starters – there would be fewer accidents and so much more time to connect!

When you jump from one task to another and forget what you just did, or which direction you just came from, you lose awareness of everything around you, thus lose to live in the moment.

You create a vicious cycle for yourself where you find yourself running after time. And as you hurry, you make mistakes, achieve little, and take much more time doing the things that need to be done.

Sounds familiar? Is that how you become sometimes? So, what can you do about it?

Slow down, and resist the very thought of rushing through.

Step into the present; be aware, alert, and conscious. When you are focused, you can make better choices and feel much more in control.

Remember, when you slow down and enjoy life, your will reduce the stress and tension that comes across in your work, family, and relationship. It would give you immense happiness and satisfaction.

So, stop rushing through life, because in doing so, you are missing out on a lot of things that matter.

“You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.” ~ Walter Hagen

I value my Dad’s words when he said that life isn’t a 100 meter race, it’s a marathon – you need to run long not fast. For that, you need to be like the tortoise – be slow, be steady, and win the race!

Are you ready for changing your life for the better? Let’s make an attempt to win this long race together 🙂

Over to you

When was the last time you lived in the moment? Why are you always rushed for time? What ways would you suggest to stop rushing through life and enjoy it? Share in the comments below.

 

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  1. Jaco Alberts

    October 27, 2015 at 2:15 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I really enjoyed reading this post and I can identify with many of the points that you are highlighting here!

    Talking about multi tasking….many people strive to be able to do multi tasking, yet I recently watched an interview with neuro scientist dr. Caroline Leaf, where it was mentioned that multi tasking is actually not such a good practice. The brain is designed to be focused on one thing at a time and therefore it is better to focus on one activity to achieve better results.

    I also appreciate the point you made about us not being able to change people or things, but we can choose how we respond to them. That is exactly what its all about, isn’t it? Its about the way we respond.

    Thank you for sharing, Harleena.

    Have a great day,

    Jaco.

  2. Nermeen

    August 5, 2013 at 9:49 pm

    Wow I love your article. You reminded me to stop and take a break. You are right, we spend most our times rushing through life without enjoying the beauty of the current moment. I will surely start adopting these tips. Thanks for the awesome article.

  3. Gaz

    June 13, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    Harleena what a great subject… I think its so important to realise that we should take every minute as a blessing and not trying to wish our lives away….wish it was nearly time for my holiday…. wish it was home time… wish it was weeekend …. just appreciate today and every minute in today for today:o))

    • Harleena Singh

      June 13, 2013 at 11:49 pm

      Welcome to the blog Gaz!

      Glad you liked this subject of discussion today 🙂

      I agree with you, we do need to appreciate the passing moments and make the most of what we have in time, and just stop rushing through life and live in the present.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  4. Tony Khuon

    June 4, 2013 at 11:50 pm

    Love the advice here. I\’ve definitely been guilty of rushing through life in the past. One technique I use to get control of this impulse is the Pomodoro Technique, 25 minutes of focused work with a 5 minute break. Combined with a highly pared down to-do list, doing Pomodoros forces me to take breaks periodically and not overschedule my time. Thanks for the great post, Harleena!

  5. Hemangi R. vyas

    May 31, 2013 at 7:06 pm

    This sentiment or thought, call it what you will has been so succinctly and beautifully encapsulated by William Henry Davies in his poem “What is this life if full of care, We have no time to stand and stare…”

    Yes, today it is all about rush and advancement in technology has only added to it. Somehow making people think on auto that everything has to be done immediately without planning out without prioritizing. There is this mad dash and urgency to do everything and meet some common deadline for all the things the necessity of which may not even exist except in our minds.

    I mentioned the technological advancement; however Davies wrote these words way back in 1911 and the irony of it all is that Davies spent part of his life as a tramp. The sentiment expressed by Davies in his poem is shared by the quotes mentioned in the blog and again these were thoughts of great minds of the 19th century. During that time and era we would think that comparatively there wouldn’t have been so much rush and mad dash for everything as is today. However there were other factors and basic everyday concerns that made people focus on making a living rather than be able to live a life. The time world was being built. Every age has its concerns.

    There is a similar thread running across centuries in the way we chose to live or approach life and this is because we always let ourselves be more affected with life’s concerns but never by life’s beauty.

    ~ Hemangi

  6. Angela McCall

    May 30, 2013 at 1:56 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Yes…yes…yes…YES!!!!! the answer is YES I feel rushed all the time. These past few weeks I did. Had a wedding to go to, shopping for the wedding, practice singing for the wedding, babysat my daughter’s baby, cook, clean the kitchen, clean the floor, I’m EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!! Because of all these little trivial things, my work is behind schedule. I thought 4 weeks ago I was 3 weeks ahead. It’s amazing when suddenly the wind just blew me away on another direction…WHOA!!!!!!!

    And so a consistent schedule is a MUST.

    They said that the BUSIEST person in the world is the MOST organize person in the world. And so I started to write my TO DO list again. Not on my computer. Not on my iPhone. But the old fashion way — pen and paper!!! Where I can read ’em on my desk. Cross out the ones I’ve done. Starred the HIGHEST priority. And so forth. I think so far TIME isn’t my best friend.

    I always give my daughter & husband my first choice when it comes to spending time with family. But many times my daughter will come over and ask me, “Mom, you wanna go shopping with me?” And since she doesn’t see me go to a 9-5 job, she prolly think I can jump out of the office anytime of the day and do all the FUN things with her. And though I don’t mind doing this…I found myself being behind when we do this like 3x in a row. Monday…Tuesday…Wednesday… I wanna help her coz I know she doesn’t get a break from her baby. But then many times I end up jeopardizing my own health.

    Migraine. Headache. Stress.

    I see myself catching up my work past midnight. Still here I am reading blogs after 1:00 to 3:00 in the morning!!! Sometimes till 5:00 and I see the light on my window…”Hey!!! I forgot to sleep!!!” And soooooo lately TIME and SCHEDULE aren’t my best friends. Again this is the Time Management, what you are talking about.

    I’d say my time is very inconsistent these past few weeks. And that’s prolly why I have been depressed about so many things in my mind. Bad for my health. Bad for my mind. So many negative things creep in, it’s not fun at all. Anyway, I am just blabbing here. It feels good to get this out of my chest. Thanks for touching this subject.

    You definitely caught my attention on this topic. So far I am still waiting my husband to get out of the hospital, since he work on PM shift. And I wish you have a great weekend.

    Angela

  7. Vijesh

    May 30, 2013 at 12:20 am

    Hi Harleena,

    These days life has taken a new course or I mean to say is a new direction, previously people had love for each other and the quest to get a job or work for the family was all within a time frame. People had all things sufficiently to crater the needs of their family. But now it is not the same, if we have to get our daily food then we need to work work and work.

    To spend time with our loved ones has become so desert, as this competitive world has drove their children to residential type of colleges and as soon as they finish their studies TOFEL GRE and go abroad and where is the time for parents to spend with their children?

    I have personally met many parents who say next I am going to put my child in residential college because they should get IIT or Medicine but no parent said that I want to let my child take his or her favorite route. One of my student very brilliant girl she topped the school said I am not interested in studies I feel like taking rest but I cannot as my father want more out of me. I couldn’t suggest anything I said if you want to settle well then you need to study so study as per your fathers wish. Even before the results were out many parents joined their children in various colleges. This June 10th they are going to start their college life.

    I really don’t know how to figure out to stop this rushing time. Your tips were cool like spending time with our pet, go for walk, listen to music spend time with your spouse but I hardly find people who do these, I think I should at least do those things now and then. I believe if at all money is self sufficient then we can enjoy the pleasures of life else 9 to 5 job and the same routine what you have mentioned in the post morning till we go to bed in the night. Sometimes pressure was so high I felt like if this could be the last day of my life or if it is the end of the world how good but still one more day comes and we have to live no option.

    Should change the way society thinks…
    Thanks for a touching post Harleena…

  8. Amandah

    May 29, 2013 at 6:57 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Thanks for letting me know that you need a teacher for Transcendental Meditation, at least for the early stage. I read that it’s best to have a teacher, but I was skeptical. Now I know it’s important. 🙂

    *I’m glad to be back too! I don’t know what happened because I was receiving your blog posts, but then they stopped appearing in my inbox. I resigned up and your newsletter was in my inbox this morning. 😉 I have a lot of reading to do.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 29, 2013 at 7:15 pm

      That’s what they recommend because they give you certain ‘mantras’ that are based on your personality, age etc. (for those who believe in it). Thought their training program carries on for a longer period, you could opt for the shorter one – just for this one main reason. How to practice etc. you can learn more of that from their main website too.

      I’m sorry about that, I guess I have been trying different services, some worked, some didn’t do that well. I too wasn’t all that regular with the newsletter, till I made up my mind to re-start it all over again. I wonder if you have these posts coming to you through RSS (till end of June at least it’s there, then that too closes – so I’m on the look out for a better option). Yes, lots to catch up with 🙂

      Take care, and have a nice day ahead 🙂

  9. Amandah

    May 29, 2013 at 5:42 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    The last time I lived in the moment was when I lived in Arizona.

    I am rushed for time when I have a lot on my plate. It makes me anxious, as if I won’t be able to complete everything.

    One way I want to stop rushing through life is to learn about transcendental meditation. I’m researching it and have signed up for a newsletter about it. I haven’t meditated in a while, and I keep hearing how great transcendental meditation is.

    I’m willing to try anything if it will improve my quality of life.

    Have a great day!

    • Harleena Singh

      May 29, 2013 at 6:43 pm

      Hi Amandah – nice to have you back 🙂

      Ah..you are surely not alone to feel that way. Tough for me to think when I lived that ways too 🙂

      That’s what exactly happens. We all have our own share of work to do, and with time work only tends to increase, which does make us anxious because we find it tough to fit it all within those same 24 hours we had earlier. We can’t do everything, nor can we be everywhere, and if we try to – it all gets too overwhelming.

      Oh…good you are trying out Transcendental Meditation, because I used to do that too, though been a while since I practiced it. Yes, you do need a teacher for the initial days, but it is the best one I liked too. My Dad started me off with it, and he’s reached the Siddhi stage now with time – sure has it’s plus points.

      I agree with you there – anything that improves the quality of life should be tried. I guess that’s one good way to stop rushing through life 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by, and have a nice day as well 🙂

  10. Enstine Muki

    May 29, 2013 at 11:56 am

    You caught almost everyone of us in this Harleena.

    But I must say right now, as I read this post, I’m living 😉 I’m home with family – my wife and daughter and just here reading this post with me. After this comment, I’m going to publish the winners of my most recent contest on my blog. Then I’ll be off the computer to catch some more fun with my family.

    Yes! I used to be stupidly rushing through life but early this year, I made Wednesdays my days off to be with family and relax, and it’s been an exciting experience throughout.

    This post is not only good but also exciting. Why because you brought out a problem, showed how this problem affects us and then gave a solution to the problem. That’s what I call exciting blog post.

    Thanks for confirming my Wednesdays 😉

    • Harleena Singh

      May 29, 2013 at 1:53 pm

      Hi Enstine,

      Ah…I too am caught into this one, though am learning to take hold of things now 🙂

      That’s so nice to know that you are home with your family, and I’m sure you must be creating the right balance between work and family, or else it becomes all too much to handle. I know you have learnt to stop rushing through life now 😉

      So, today was a Wednesday, and you were here, or perhaps after this post your day off starts – I like that. I think everyone needs a complete day off to unwind ourselves, and each time I think of doing that myself, I just get caught up in something or the other – back into it all. Seriously need a get-away break now!

      Nice to know that you could relate so well with this post. Yes, I face the very same problems and was sure might be in the same boat, so one can relate well that ways. And those solutions are reminders for me too, so when I write about them – I’m reminded doubly to follow them 😉 But yes, it all does come down to managing your time and striking the right balance so that nothing or no one suffers – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post. Hope you have a lovely day off with your loved ones 🙂

  11. I. C. Daniel

    May 29, 2013 at 4:25 am

    It feel like rushing but for me is not. Working hard couple of days without pause, just eat and work and sleep and than work… eat and blah blah blah

    Considering like an stupid plan but to stand out from the crowd we have to work harder that them to get noticed. Our efforts will never fail in this way.

    Best regards from I. C. Daniel

    • Harleena Singh

      May 29, 2013 at 12:25 pm

      Hi Daniel,

      It’s nice if you feel the way you do, in-fact I’d say you are very lucky to not feel rushed as compared to most of us.

      Yes, that’s what most of us do, work eat, sleep and this routine carries on endlessly till, either we fall sick, or just get burned out and leave off everything. Very few are able to carry on, which they do, provided they learn how to manage their time well enough. It all does come down to time-management – isn’t it?

      Working hard or should it be working smart? Either ways, a combination of the two, where you can find time for yourself and your loved ones is what we all need to do. We need to balance things out at all fronts and stop rushing through life to live happily.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  12. Dwayne Castle

    May 24, 2013 at 7:10 pm

    Harleena,

    It’s funny I just had a discussion (okay, argument) with my wife about this. Not necessarily the “rushing” aspect of things but my poor time management. If I added up the time it would take to do all of the tasks I have committed to (or that she has committed me to), I could be done easily.

    However, your number 7 (don’t procrastinate) gets me. Telling a procrastinator to not procrastinate is almost like telling someone suffering from depression to cheer up. It is a real struggle. I don’t want to do those things. I want to do the fun stuff, the good stuff, the stuff that matters. I don’t enjoy doing household chores, I want to solve the worlds problems. I want to write. I want to pastor. But I can’t do that until the dishes are done. So I rebel, and shoot myself in the foot and waste time doing everything else but what I need to do. I really need to grow up and get hold of myself.

    Thanks for the post (and the space to vent). Now, dishes await.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 26, 2013 at 6:52 pm

      Hi Dwayne,

      Sounds like a good co-incidence 🙂

      Ah…I also have few such talks with my hubby about time management and we keep trying to tell each other how best we can, or need to manage our time and share things to be done between the two of us, just like most couples.

      I liked what you said about procrastination, and this is exactly what happens with those who procrastinate because they really don’t come to know that they are doing it, while the other person who isn’t a procrastinator can get quite frustrated!

      Ah…I can so well relate to that because I get a lot of those kind of feelings too at times, but then when I know I’m committed to my readers and this blog, or that I have deadlines to meet – I just put away all thoughts of doing what I really want to do, and get down to work that I have to do. I see no other option thereafter. There is a lot of difference between what we want to do and what we have to do, and somewhere along the line we need to balance the two and move on with life – isn’t it?

      Your wife’s lucky as you help her with the household chores I’d say, though we have a part time helper who takes care of the dishes and cleaning part at least, other than that we’ve kind of divided what each one does, which also includes our kids and talking or taking care of them. So, it’s actually a matter of getting used to doing what you have to do, and it’s better to do those tasks as soon as you can, so that they are done and over with, which gives you time to do what you feel like doing, rather than taking them as chores or procrastinating them and then hearing from our spouses 🙂

      You are always welcome to vent and rant and just talk your heart out, and you know that. And don’t take those dishes as a daily chore, just take them as things that you have to do, and once you do that, you’d start doing them much earlier, quicker, and even have time for your work.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with us. 🙂

  13. Mayura

    May 24, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I think as I started working, it made me rush through the days 😉 You know, I thought of finishing off work ASAP to do my blogging stuff. But it didn’t work out. My girly said I don’t remember anything when I work 😀 And you were suggesting not to work hard too. Hmm… I feel I’ve did a lot of work in a day back then when I did blogging and freelancing more, though I’ve been working hard at work.

    Anyway as you noticed recently, I was bit off from work and hanging out with friends and loved ones too. Now I do work too and more active on other activities. Today we are having a religious holiday here and I’ve been helping to decorate home and create lanters while I’m following my work schedule, though I’m bit late to comment on blogs. But worth it 🙂

    Yeah Harleena, we need to stop and think for a moment what we really doing 🙂 Else we just following the race blindly. Isn’t it? I thought what everyone said lately. I’ve got food for thoughts from your earlier time management posts and some other readings.

    I admit that I used to procrastinate. Donna gave me some advises when I told about it in a comment and now I’m happy to say that I’m not what I used to be 😉 Applying what I read and heard always brought me few step ahead from where I’ve been.

    I feel if we enjoying our moments and live in ’em without missing responsibilities, time management is working for us Harleena 🙂 I still believe sometimes we need to do hard work for good, but we should know when to and when not to, isn’t it? 🙂 I agree, it’s confusing, but observing and inspecting changes will help find the ’causes and will lead to alternatives.

    Finally, I feel now get to know more about balancing while doing more work and enjoying life 🙂

    You have a wonderful weekend ahead with your family Harleena 🙂

    Cheers…

    • Harleena Singh

      May 26, 2013 at 6:29 pm

      Hi Mayura,

      You’re not alone to feel that way 🙂

      When we are working and have a lot to accomplish it does look like we have to rush up things or then we might tend to leave off some work along the way, if there is lots to catch up with in a limited time period.

      I can well understand your busy state nowadays, and to do all that you are doing, along with blogging isn’t easy either. I surely don’t blame your girly for thinking the way she does. This happens with me sometimes too and my kids and hubby say the same thing when I overwork or have deadlines to meet.

      Yes, perhaps you were working harder earlier, but may be that time you didn’t have a family or your girly around, who are also people who need your attention, and you really cannot ignore them – isn’t it?

      I did notice that and I liked the little change of scenario for you, or perhaps this post came at the right time to make you realize to stop rushing through life and take it a little easy 😉

      I think it all comes down to time management and how we learn to divide our time for a little of everything. Yes, work is always priority and should be done as soon as possible, but if other things also need your attention, then a little time needs to be given here and there too.

      Nice to know about the religious holiday and your participation in it, which I’m sure your parents would appreciate and value too. Yes, blog commenting IS actually the thing that takes a chunk of my time too, and now that I’ve started taking things a little slow, I noticed I’m using my weekend for commenting on my old posts at my blog. But there is no other time other than this, and I think as the comments increase, the amount of time you spend on each one does take your time, whether you like it or not. Unless of course, you and me become like those people who reply in 1 or 2 lines, which I don’t think we can ever do, no matter how much of our time goes into it – isn’t it?

      I agree, we are just following what others do, or we try to race with others and in the meantime we don’t realize how and where our life is heading. Each person is different, and what suits them and how their lives are, we cannot compare, nor ever be like them. I see many bloggers do a lot of things, but if I start doing all of that – where is the time I’d ever have with my family or kids or hubby.

      Something or the other we have to let go, and choosing that is what we call prioritizing and making the right choice from the many at hand. Even if we don’t want to, we have to because it’s not really possible to be all over and do everything. Yes, some people do that, but then either they don’t have families to take care of, or they aren’t committed to anyone, or then they are doing so much not knowing the health issues that they might face some day. It all comes down to the choices we make – doesn’t it?

      I’m so glad if these posts you read here and at other blogs can help you in some ways, because I do know from experience what I face, and I like to share it here so that anyone in a similar situation might take a note. It’s nice to see the overwhelming comments on this post as people could so well relate to it as they are in a similar situation, or then have learnt to go through it.

      Yes indeed, time management IS the key factor. While work is important for everyone, but to decide when to start it and when to stop is what makes a lot of difference. That’s why we see people working from a 9 to 5 job, work only during those hours, and are paid, and those companies survive well too because they have set timings for things. My hubby often tells me we too should apply that to our lives and close everything after a fixed time to spend in doing other things beside work. I’m thinking of implementing and trying out this way too, but for that I know I’ve to cut down on things that I feel I can and that they won’t make much of a difference to my life, and all of us have such unnecessary things we often do that we can cut back on – don’t we?

      We all need to balance out our lives, and just let those precious life’s moments pass us by, only to realize years later when we grow old what all we have missed in life. Take each day as it comes, work and live it to the fullest, set your work and family time, do things that are important first, and let go of those that are beyond your control, or take them up when you have a little free time (the key things to sum it all up!)

      Thanks for stopping by and adding value to the post by your wonderful comment, as always. Have a lovely weekend too because I know you also need one 🙂

  14. B K chowla

    May 24, 2013 at 9:20 am

    What you have said applies to most of us.Frankly,I am very busy and someone asked me,busy with what? I dont know.
    I think the world is becoming too competitive and materialistic.To be in the rat race and succeed one forgets athe art of living

    • Harleena Singh

      May 24, 2013 at 6:54 pm

      Hi BK,

      Oh yes – and that includes me too 🙂

      Ah…we all are busy – all the time! If I ask my kids for something – they too are busy, so it’s kind of become the norm nowadays. We forget to live in the moment when we rush through our busy lives, only to realize years later what a mistake it all was.

      I hope this post helps people realize that they still have time to stop and smell the roses, only if they make that sincere effort to change themselves.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views with us. 🙂

  15. Adrienne

    May 24, 2013 at 3:02 am

    Hi Harleena,

    You sure have the conversations going here don’t you!

    Okay, I don’t think I rush through life although I still don’t think there are enough hours in the day. I have learned some time back to slow down and smell the roses. Of course you happen to know why too! Yep, I don’t take life for granted and I don’t worry about things that are out of my control. I live in the present moment for the most part and just enjoy each day as it’s presented to me.

    Rushing around does no good and who needs the worry and stress. It will get done when it gets done. Now I’m “trying” to create my product but I’m still in the writing everything down phase, thinking how I’m going to put this all together, getting the right title, etc. but you know what! I might not be on the schedule I had hoped but I also am not going to feel rushed about it either. It will get done when it’s suppose to.

    Thanks for having a wake up call for many because I know so many people just seem to be going on just one speed and that’s very very fast.

    Great share Harleena so now we just have to get everyone to take your fabulous advice.

    ~Adrienne

    • Harleena Singh

      May 24, 2013 at 6:50 pm

      Hi Adrienne,

      Absolutely! I guess this post struck a chord with all those who need to stop rushing through life and learn to take it easy 🙂

      I agree with you there – it does seem like time always falls short, though I’m glad to hear you aren’t the kind to really rush through your life. Yes indeed, you’ve been on the path most of us are travelling on, so you do realize the importance of taking out the time to smell the roses. Living in the moment and enjoying each day as it comes is the key.

      However, when we tend to get lost in work and want to achieve more than we possibly can, we face problems in all spheres of life. Just as you mentioned, rushing through and worrying for things that are out of our control has no meaning, as it just adds to your stress levels and creates health issues. I so agree with you that things will happen when their time comes. You or me trying to rush them through leads to nowhere.

      I can understand what you mentioned about your product and I’m glad you are taking your time getting it all together. It surely is something we are all looking forward to now, and wish you the best with it.

      I do hope this post reminds people who are rushing through their lives, to slow down and take life as it comes. Yes, do your best without losing out on life’s precious moments, which once pass – never return.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post 🙂

  16. Hiten

    May 23, 2013 at 9:35 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    This was wonderful post and the advice you shared is something we can all learn from, myself including.

    As I was reading your post, it made me remember of certain books I’ve read on spirituality and my own experience of what happens when we’re constantly doing things and rushing on in life. If one has kids, families and dependents then certainly one has to do activities to help them. However, it is when we get caught up in work-related activities and create so much attachment to the thoughts of how we need to do more, that we create problems for ourselves. I really am beginning to see through direct experience that when I want to do more, and make more plans for the future, it is in those moments that I know I’m not satisfied with the present moment, when in fact all there is, is the present moment.

    Thank you.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 24, 2013 at 6:26 pm

      Hi Hiten,

      Nice to know that you could resonate with the post so well 🙂

      Ah…I should’ve guessed that you’d know about all of this from the number of books you read – and write of course!

      Yes indeed, things get tougher if you have a family and kids, besides work to manage because you are answerable to them before anything or anyone else.

      You nailed it right there when you said that we tend to get caught up with work and the thought of how we need to do more, which creates problems for us. Because once we start we never know when to stop!

      Yes indeed, we often tend to spend time thinking and planning much ahead in time, or dwell in the past memories, and in turn forget to live in the present, which just seems to be slipping away faster than we know. I hope this post makes people slow down a little in their lives and live in the NOW.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post 🙂

  17. Sylviane Nuccio

    May 23, 2013 at 8:37 pm

    Hi Harlenna,

    I have to say that I’m a little bit of both. I am rushing every day of my life, but I also take the time to slow down at some point each day as well, for my own sanity.

    Taking the time to live in the moment is very important, because the moment is when we “live” we don’t live in the past or the future. A lot of people live by default totally forgetting about this fact. That’s sad, but many people spend a life time not living, ever, in the moment.

    Thank you for reminding us to do this, Harleena, as it can improve our way of life greatly!

    • Harleena Singh

      May 24, 2013 at 6:11 pm

      Hi Sylviane,

      That’s interesting to be a blend of both 🙂

      Yes, we all need to stop rushing through life and take breaks in-between or else it can all get overwhelming at times.

      I agree with you there – we should live in the moment not in the past or future, though we come across so many people who dwell in their past or think much ahead into their future and in the process, forget to live in the present.

      I hope this post is a reminder for all such people to appreciate and value what they have with them, rather than run after what they don’t.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views with us. 🙂

  18. Oluwaseun Babajide

    May 23, 2013 at 6:58 pm

    Harleena,

    These are useful tips on how to stop rushing through life. I am currently working on #8 – Learn to say no. This is something I find very difficult, letting some people down. After carefully reading this, I have learnt that it all comes down to managing my own time.

    Thanks for the share.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 24, 2013 at 5:38 pm

      Hi Seun,

      Nice to know that you found these tips useful 🙂

      Ah…that’s a good point to start from I’d say. If we can learn to say ‘no’, we can save so much of time to do things that we really want to do because we would be taking up those on a priority basis – isn’t it?

      I agree that it’s not easy as we feel we are letting people down or hurting their feelings, but just as I was mentioning in an earlier comment, I deny doing their work that very moment, though readily do it during the weekend or when I have time for it. This gives me time to focus and complete what I need to get done first.

      Oh yes…it is all the time management game and how we learn to handle things that need our attention first.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts with us. 🙂

  19. Lisa

    May 23, 2013 at 6:49 pm

    Dear Harleena

    I love this article! Many years ago I realized that I did exactly that, always rushing through life. Never truly experiencing the moments that I was in!

    I did some personal development on mindfulness and life changed! What a big difference when you live and truly embrace each moment. Being present in the moment also makes me feel like I have more time.

    Thank you again – it’s a great topic and I hope many people will get some value from it.

    Have a great day!
    Lisa

    • Harleena Singh

      May 24, 2013 at 5:33 pm

      Welcome to the blog Lisa!

      Glad you liked the post, and it’s nice to know that you’ve been through the phase – so you understand that there’s no point in rushing through life. 🙂

      I agree with you there. A change in the way we think, our attitude, and lifestyle is what we all need to start experiencing and taking life as it comes. It surely does give us more time at hand to do things with more focus and concentration.

      I also hope this topic about how we all need to stop rushing through life helps people slow their pace and learn to live in the present.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  20. Vivek

    May 23, 2013 at 11:51 am

    Hi Harleena,

    This post is really interesting. Well, this is life & everyone is Rushing Through their Life. Everyone wants to be aware, no one wants to be back ford. Life is going to change on day by day. There is much competition in life & just for competition there is Rushing on every platform. People are more & opportunities are less, so it’s also a big reason for Rushing but your tips are really appreciable. These are best & great tips to top Rushing Through Life.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 24, 2013 at 11:18 am

      Welcome to the blog Vivek!

      Glad to know that you liked the post. 🙂

      Yes, most of us are rushing through life, without really realizing all that we are missing along the way. I agree that there is a lot of competition all over that makes it all the more tough for us to keep up with things, but will you win the race even if you run so fast? Won’t there be several others running much ahead of you each time? I guess what matters most is learning to keep your pace that you know you can handle and enjoy the journey 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  21. Sherman Smith

    May 23, 2013 at 11:04 am

    Great post Harleena,

    Some people call me crazy and not being real, but I’m living the life the best way I can now which is to my liking. But I do have those spurts of getting busy which I can enjoy. And sometimes I get business to the point to where I forget which way is up LOL.

    But for the most part I try to take advantage of exercise, dancing, going for walks, listening to music, playing my instruments, reading a good book at starbucks and so on and so forth. Life can get hectic if you let it. But one thing is for sure, when you actually slow down and clear your mind, you become more intelligent. At least from my experience. Example, If I don’t practice piano for a week, I can come back stronger. I do believe this is the case for anyone.

    But your dad is right. Life isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. So why not be like the tortoise and win the race. Enjoy the journey. You’ll have less regrets when you do!

    Thanks for sharing!

    • Harleena Singh

      May 24, 2013 at 11:00 am

      Hi Sherman,

      Glad you liked the post 🙂

      I would say you are indeed lucky to live the life you wanted and wished for – though wondering how do people think that your’e crazy!

      I guess getting busy and involved in work is part of our lives, but what matters most is that we know how to get away too – isn’t it?

      Ah…you are already doing everything to pep you your life! Yes, as you rightly mentioned – life can always get hectic if you let it and don’t take such get-away breaks.

      I agree with you there and that happens because when you slow down, you learn to focus on doing just one thing at a time, instead of multi-tasking, which instead diverts your attention on so many things at a given time.

      My dads words of wisdom come from his many years of experience, and I do value those a great deal. I do plan to keep going in my shell off and on like the tortoise and enjoying the slow journey, instead of the racing ahead like the hare – win or no win, does it really matter if we come to think of it 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post 🙂




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How to Stop Rushing Through Life

by Harleena Singh time to read: 13 min