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The number one thing my clients say that they want more of in their lives is to feel more peace.
Believe it or not, your natural state is one of peace. It is your birthright.
No matter how broken you feel, how much trauma you’ve experienced, or what situation you find yourself in, you can learn to live in a state of perpetual peace.
It is possible to discover lasting peace.
What Does it Mean to Feel Peaceful
Essentially it means “untroubled by suffering, conflict, agitation or commotion.”
It’s simple….inner peace occurs when we know how to live in harmony with the way things are.
I have come to realize that the true definition of success is directly related to how much peace you feel in your life.
If you lined up three different people and asked them what success means to them, you would most likely get three different answers.
One might believe that having lots of money and power defines success. Another might feel that finding their soul mate and having a big family means success. And the third might say that becoming a nun and living in a monastery is the definition of success.
All three of these answers have one thing in common. They are all examples of outer circumstance. In other words, they all require things to happen a certain way in order for success to be felt.
Let’s look at the second example of success. Let’s say this man finds his “soulmate” and has one young child with the intention of having several more.
They start the process of conceiving their next child but find out that some rare medical condition will prevent them from having anymore children. He begins to slip into a deep depression because his idea of what it means to be a “success” is no longer viable.
He can’t seem to let go of the belief that his mind has fantasized about for so long about what success means to him.
The depression he falls into distances him from his wife to the degree that she files for divorce.
Now that he has lost who he believed to be his “soulmate” his whole world becomes shattered. As time passes, he comes to re-evaluate everything in his life and starts on a path of self-discovery.
Because his mind is in such a state of misery, he’s forced to seek out tools that help him to get in touch with his true nature. He begins to awaken to the fact that nothing outside of himself can ever bring true success and happiness.
Everything is subject to change. Everything is ultimately impermanent and cannot bring lasting fulfillment.
He begins to understand that the one stable and permanent thing he can rely on in his life is his own sense of well-being and inner peace.
You see, no matter if you’re rich or poor. Whether you’re living in a mansion on a tropical island or in a tiny, rundown apartment in Detroit, your state of being… your inner peace is your only true measure of success.
During my travels over the last few years, I have witnessed people who seemingly have nothing, embody the most peace I have ever come across. They seem undaunted by challenges and revel in what little they have.
The kindness and generosity these “poor” folks I had the privilege of connecting with exuding, seems to be the recipe for their happiness.
Learning from great teachers like this, I realized that when we stop arguing with our circumstances, and we stop allowing our judgments and opinions to color what is happening, our natural state of peace can emerge.
Ultimately, circumstances don’t matter, the state of being does.
How is inner peace achieved
This is the age old question. But perhaps it’s the wrong question to be asking.
You see, peace isn’t something that you need to achieve. It is something that is already present within you, underneath the veil of what your mind is telling you. It’s underneath your confusion and suffering.
Your inner peace simply needs to be uncovered. It is a loyal ally, lying dormant, waiting to be reinstated.
So, are you ready to hear the one Universal Law that will begin to reinstate your peace no matter what is happening in your life?
The universe is always on your side.
It’s just that simple. The universe is benevolent. Without fail, it provides everything you need in order to grow and evolve. You are here to experience exactly what you need for your soul’s evolution.
Every person in your life, every situation and circumstance you find yourself in is here to teach you.
Our compulsive minds always want to judge and qualify our experiences as either “good” or “bad.” The mind is compelled to come to conclusions about nearly everything that happens.
When we can step out of the temptation to believe what our minds are telling us, we can clearly see that life is simply happening. That everything that occurs is essentially neutral. There really is no “good” or “bad” other than what our minds are telling us.
It is up to us whether or not we fall victim to our minds, allowing our peace to be disturbed.
The best decision you can make for yourself in order to feel true peace and freedom is to decide that the universe is always, always on your side.
3 Tools to Discover Lasting Peace in Life
Here are three tools that can help re-calibrate your state of being.
1. Practice Loving What Is
Start looking at everything that is happening in your life as a gift. Whether your mind approves of it or not, doesn’t matter. While your mind will be tempted to argue with a reality it doesn’t like; this will create further suffering. Might as well make a commitment to accept what’s happening and find a way to love it.
As you become aware of the principle that everyone and every situation is here to teach you something valuable for your process of evolution, you will begin to develop gratitude for it.
As you practice responding to all situations with gratitude, love, and neutrality, life won’t feel challenging because you’re no longer “challenging” life. The same “hard” lessons that have been repeating in your life will begin to diminish.
Contemplate that everything and everyone that comes into your life is here to teach you. Life is like an ongoing spiritual retreat. It presents us opportunities by bringing the people, circumstances, and environments into our lives that teach us what we need to learn.
Life is showing us that by loving what is, we can be at peace. It’s providing opportunities to love whatever comes into our life no matter how uncomfortable it is.
By responding to life with radical acceptance and self-love, we’re showing life that no matter what, our joy cannot be destroyed. Everything you experience is designed for your soul to grow and evolve.
Unless and until you decide to respond differently to situations in your life, the same lessons will be provided over and over again. The situations and faces might change, but they will be different variations of the same lessons.
Negative reactions to these lessons such as avoidance, denial, anger, irritation or shame will continue the cycle of the same lessons. However, responding with the courage to face the lessons with gratitude will ultimately transform them.
The “challenging” lessons that keep showing up in our lives eventually become irrelevant once we learn to respond to them with an open and patient heart.
In other words, once we don’t view them as “challenging” they become obsolete.This is the great irony of life.
2. Stop Blaming Others
Retrain your victim mind. Start taking responsibility for everything that happens in your life.
Once you start realizing that you are creating your life with every thought you think, the choice you make and action you take, you begin developing more awareness and discernment.
You create more opportunities to consciously choose your reality, rather than feeling victimized by it. Blaming others for how you feel diminishes your power and enhances a feeling of helplessness.
Living in a state of victimhood keeps you stuck in a cycle of negativity and frustration, disconnecting you from your very own creative life force. It blinds you from the love, magic, and opportunities being laid at your feet.
The energy that it takes to blame someone else can be used to create a reality that you love instead. It’s not about blaming yourself either. It’s about understanding your role in everything that you experience so that you can feel more empowered in your life.
Start paying attention to your patterns of thoughts, language, and conversations you have throughout the day and start reframing them into something empowering and positive.
For example, “I am here to learn from how others treat me. They are placed in my life for the sole purpose of teaching me something. What can I learn from this person? How can I transform my hurt into something positive and empowering for myself and the world?
3. Start saying “Thank You.”
This is also very simple to incorporate into your day. Say “thank you” to everyone…..especially those you feel most hurt or irritated by.
You can do this silently within your mind. When you notice that your mind is spending time in victimhood and is upset around a particular person or situation, snap yourself out of the negative drain train, and simply say “thank you for helping me.”
This is another powerful way to re-train yourself on a cellular level. Practicing saying “thank you” will ignite two positive effects.
First, it will transform your negative view of the person as it begins to reveal that the universe has placed them here intentionally for the benefit of growing you. Second, your nervous system will begin to relax. When you start to see everything as a gift, your mind and body will respond as it relaxes into a state of trust that the universe is always conspiring for your greatest good.
These tools have proven over and over again to be invaluable for my clients and me.
Wrapping It Up
Whenever you find yourself straying from your peace, practice these tools and remind yourself of the Universal Law. Tell yourself, “The universe is always on my side.”
You are always being supported in the best way possible. It may not always look the way your mind would like it to, that’s for sure.
Your journey of awakening is designed for your soul’s ultimate success and won’t look like anyone else’s journey. It’s crafted just for you.
Start trusting in this Universal Law. Trust in the process of your awakening and unveil the peace that is lying dormant within you; discover lasting peace.
Enjoy the journey back to yourself.
Over to you –
How do you bring yourself back to peace? We would all love to hear your thoughts and tips in the comments below.