Why You Matter Even If You Think You Don’t

How to know you matter and make a difference in the world

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This is a guest post by Ikechi Awazie, one of the gems of Aha!NOW. He wants to tell you why you matter to yourself, somebody else, to us, and to the world.

Have you ever thought about the reason why you matter?

It seems the world is so big. There are more than 7 billion people on earth.So how can you stand out? What do you have to offer? What do you have to contribute that matters?

You are properly struggling with this emotional pain; self-doubt, insecurity, fear of not belonging, feeling puny and being insignificant.

It is not your fault, and you most certainly are not alone.

We live in a society that enjoys picking on the minority or less worthy.

Sadly, many of us are living among these minority groups where the color of one’s skin, gender inequality, religious background and other norms, seems to be the measure in which some groups are marginalized by a society that values one idea over the other.

Now the world might not acknowledge your worthiness;your family and friends may not adequately communicate the importance of your existence in their lives, and you might feel you have nothing that matters.

However, the truth is that YOU MATTER and from the bottom of my heart, here are the reasons why.

Being YOU is What Makes The Difference

You are enough! Maybe you have no skills, no knowledge, and no riches.

Maybe you think that you are not good enough, smart enough, and not great or perfect at doing things.

But no matter the number of permutations and combinations plus genetic experiments, there is no one that can be like YOU. Why?

It is because you are valuable. You have an individual purpose that cannot be compared with others.

As long as you stop comparing yourself to others; as long as you stop doubting your endowed abilities, you will see that you are the amazing creation blessed with amazing blend of unique gifts; above your self-imposed limitation.

“No matter who you are, you can provide value. We each have an individual purpose. Always Believe in You.” ~ Brooke Griffin

A baby inside a gift box and a quote that you matter.

You Have a Gift That Others Need

There are people who get their problems solved just because of you.

If you did not exist, those people who need your help, would never be helped.

Without your presence, those people, who would have made their lives better will lose this opportunity forever.

You do matter in ways you never imagined.You can throw more light on a situation that no one else can possibly provide.

You cause a rippling effect just by giving a helping hand; just by taking a little action.

Your solution enables people to achieve a fulfilled life, and this spreads to their families and their entire generation until it becomes a legacy or philosophy.

Now, some people may not like you; some people might even detest you, and that is ok because you truly cannot please everyone.

However, those whom you have been called to make a difference and be of service will cherish your existence and your business.

“Never forget that you are one of a kind. Never forget that if there weren’t any need for you in all your uniqueness to be on this earth, you would not be here in the first place. And never forget, no matter how overwhelming life’s challenges and problems seem to be, that one person can make a difference in the world. In fact, it is always because of one person that all the changes that matter in the world come about. So be that one person.” ~  Buckminster Fuller

One girl sharing her story with another girl.

Your Voice Does Matter

Why would anyone decide to make the greatest impact in your life?

Why would anyone want to provide you with guidance, direction, and coaching – to enable you to achieve your goals and biggest desires?

I will tell you why.

It is because of their sincere belief in you. In words and action, they show you that you matter; they believe in your VOICE.

You do have a unique message and voice. This is what people know as a STORY.

Yes! Everyone does have a story, including you. No one can tell your story better than you.

Your story has the power to make a difference, to build up courage, to leave a mark, to make people overcome their limitations, and to make someone feel belonged.

The world is waiting for your life changing lessons. Your pain, conflict, heartache, and passion are challenges that can be turned into a life lesson and be shared with everyone.

Do you know that there are people who are listening to you and you have caught their attention? Think about this.

“The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.” ~ Neil Gaiman

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Your Presence Automatically Liberates Others

You do not have to be on the center stage to make a difference. The reason is simple;

There is somebody out there that is proud of you; thinking about you; cares about you; wants to talk to you; misses you; celebrates your success; wants to hug you; believes you are a blessing; admires your strength and courage; values your wisdom; treasures your spirit; can’t wait to see you; has faith in you and trusts you so much.

Your existence is a sparking light to so many people. There are people in your life that you inspire.

“There are people in your life that you inspire…People that see all your best qualities… People who want to be more like you… People who don’t understand how you can’t see all this yourself… Try seeing yourself as they do… See yourself for the amazing creation that you are…” ~ simonboylan

A man in the center spreading light to people around.

You are Influential and the Change Which the World So Desires

Ever wondered what a football match would be without the fans.

Ever wondered how a presidential speech would turn out without the people of the nation.

Ever wondered what a cause would be without supporters.

Ever wondered how celebrities would come to be without celebrators.

Ever wondered how like-minded individuals would exist without YOU.

You are an influence, whether you believe it or not. You are the change because your small encounters do matter.

The moments that you create are what make the world a better place.

As you teach others your passionate skill sets the goal.

As you set a good example and show others positivity in a negative world.

As you show others your determination and doggedness to success by taking advantage of failure.

As you let your light shine, you unconsciously give light to others to become thought provoking leaders, professional champions, peace makers, renewed activist, creative personalities, renowned business men, awesome mothers, wonderful fathers and revolutionaries.

Let’s not forget that you are also changing your world by applying your wisdom to tackle the world’s problems.

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is only one that ever has.” ~ Margaret Mead.

One bulb is different from other many bulbs and stands out

You Can Make A Difference

Yes! You want to help; you have a cause that will benefit people.

You might be an introvert; you might not have enough skill. You might not have the resources.

You may not have the charisma of leadership. You might not even know what you are doing, but there is something inside you that is so powerful.

You have an inner voice to propel you to action, which is the greatest currency in the world.

It is this action that defines your impact.

It is this action that makes you step away from the things you love, which gives you comfort and forges you towards giving support to humanity.

It is this action that enables you to make a difference and become an inspiration, even though your journey is full of uncertainties.

“Anyone who thinks that they are too small to make a difference has never tried to fall asleep with a mosquito in the room.” ~ Christine Todd Whitman

The Most Powerful and Happiest Truth is That You Matter.

Now, you do know that you matter. Never let anyone make you feel otherwise.

I would like you to reach out to someone and let them know that they matter. Remember that a word is enough to make a difference.

Over To You –

In your own words, I will like you to share why do you matter. If you still believe that you are not significant and don’t matter in this world, I will love you to share that as well in the comments.

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(Read the earlier guest post by Ikechi Awazie – 5 Destructive Ways To See Yourself As You Truly Are)



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  1. saki H

    April 27, 2015 at 11:11 pm

    Hi Ikechi ,

    Really very interesting matter to read. As i am new joine on this site.

    Its first blog read and its just wonderful.

    Morever i needed such boost for me as i am going through bad phase.

    It uplifted my confidence level..

    Thank you

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 28, 2015 at 6:05 am

      Hi Saki

      Welcome to ABC. I am glad that you were inspired by this post.

      Feel free to have fun in this community. Hope to see you again soon.

      Thank you for a lovely comment. Have a wonderful week.

    • Harleena Singh

      July 3, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Welcome to the blog Saki 🙂

      Sorry for the late reply, though I am glad you visited the blog and could take away something of value from Ikechi’s post. I hope your bad phase is over now, and if there is anything we can help you with, do let us know.

      Thanks for stopping by, we appreciate it 🙂

  2. Carol Amato

    April 25, 2015 at 9:59 pm

    Hello, Ikechi and Harleena,

    Awesome guest article, Ikechi, so happy to see you here at Harleena’s place!!

    You have most definitely have, my friend, created a beautiful article that is motivational and inspiring – well done!

    Because I’m a Christian and believe in the principles of the Bible, I believe every single individual on the face of the earth has tremendous value, whether they realize it or not.

    It is definitely a shame when someone doesn’t realize their worth, and I’ve tried to encourage others in this regard.

    I come across a lot of people that have a low self-esteem, and low self-worth, and it’s a sad situation. I’m sharing your article out so as to encourage folks with this extremely important message.

    Yes, “Your Voice Does Matter” – love this takeaway. 🙂

    Thanks so much for sharing, and I hope you have a fabulous weekend.

    Take Care,
    – Carol

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 28, 2015 at 6:03 am

      Hi Carol

      Thank you so much for such words of wisdom and encouragement which gives me strength to keep spreading the word. 🙂

      You are right that every individual matters in this world. No matter how we feel about ourselves, there is a message in us that has the ability to make a difference; only if we stand up to our calling without fear.

      Thank you again for your kind words. Have a wonderful week.

    • Harleena Singh

      July 3, 2015 at 10:57 am

      Hi Carol,

      Another late reply, sorry! I guess I’m making good use of my blogging break now 🙂

      You are right about Ikechi’s guest post, which is inspirational indeed as it makes us realize that we do matter, every one of us.

      Most people lack self esteem or feel low about themselves due to various reasons. I guess they surely need to read this post and feel good about themselves. Each one is awesome, isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by, we appreciate it 🙂

  3. Ikechi Awazie

    April 25, 2015 at 7:36 am

    Hi Anoop

    Thank you for the kind words. I am glad you liked the topic and all thanks goes to Vinay and Harleena for their support

    I am glad you agree that we each have an individual purpose to fulfill and God has made so that our roles will fit so perfectly well based on His will.

    Thank you for sharing your insight. Have a wonderful week.

  4. Anoop Gupta

    April 23, 2015 at 10:38 pm

    Hi Ikechi

    The topic that you have chosen for the post is just great. Everybody can correlate with it.

    You are right each one of us has come to earth with an individual purpose. God has created role for all of us which fits in very well in his overall scheme of things on this earth. So let’s play the game of life with complete team spirit.

    Thanks a lot for sharing your wonderful thoughts. Have a nice weekend.

  5. Hema Unnoop

    April 18, 2015 at 1:30 pm

    Hello Ikechie,

    You’re an inspiration. I want to firstly congratulate you on your guest post. It’s an achievement in itself. Secondly, great title choice. I’m sure every single person who reads this will feel really good about themselves. There’s so much depth to every sentence in this post.

    We do matter indeed. Everyone of us. As you mentioned we forget the gifts that we have. We have been placed on this earth with a purpose. We simply have to find it and share it with the world. But this gets hard for so many out there as there is this temptation to compare…”Oh he/she is too good…How am I ever going to surpass them?” If we get rid of such attitude we sure will be able to see our true potential.

    Of course I do matter:) I matter because I know that I have so much more to offer to the world which I haven’t given yet. I still have to create awareness around so issues I care for and I know people will listen to me. I’m here to make a difference. That’s why I matter:)

    Oh that feels so good Ikechie.

    Thank you for such a lovely post. You’re Awesome:)

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 29, 2015 at 11:56 am

      Hi Hema

      Sorry I was son late to respond such a wonderful comment. I am pondering why I have not responded.

      Thank younger such kind words. I am humbled by your kind words. You are so right that we do matter. We are unique in our purpose and our gifts which is why each and everyone is important.

      I also agree that it is sad that we compare ourselves even when we know that we are unique. I am glad that you were inspired by this post and yes you do matter.

      Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Have a nice week.

  6. Ikechi Awazie

    April 17, 2015 at 8:04 am

    Hi Linda

    What a great quote by Oscor Wilde and it is so true. I remember this quote too.

    Thank you and I am glad that you were inspired by this post. I can relate to what you have said. Sometimes in trying to help everyone, we can make ourselves seem irrelevant but we matter; we are important.

    Meditation does help so much. Like you have mentioned, it helps to make us aware of our inner selves. Thank you for sharing your insight.

    Have a wonderful week.

  7. linda schrier

    April 17, 2015 at 2:08 am

    Hi Ikechi,

    Beautiful post. Each of us are different and you brought that to light. Oscor Wilde once said “be yourself; everybody else is already taken”. I love that saying and it is so true.

    You bought light to everything a person can be or could become. So many of us put ourselves on the back burner because we’re to busy taking care of everybody else. Each one of us has so much to offer if we would just stop, take a minute and think about the real person we are inside. Meditation is a great way to get in touch with our inner selves.

    Wonderful post!

    You have an awesome day and weekend ahead,

    Linda

  8. Maketta

    April 16, 2015 at 12:38 am

    Hello Ikechi,

    This is a wonderful and uplifting post. We live in a world where we are bombarded with so much negativity, especially by the media. No one should be made to feel that they don’t matter because we all do. We are all unique and we all bring something to this world. It is said that no one is alike not even twins. That tells us something right there. That means no one is like you. We shouldn’t want to be anything but ourselves. Thanks for sharing this with us! I really enjoyed reading it!

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 17, 2015 at 7:50 am

      Hi Maketta

      Thank you for the kind words. I agree with you and such a sad thing to happen to a beautiful world. I do wonder why there is so much negativity and why the media encourages such too but nevertheless, we all can make a difference to the world.

      Each and everyone is unique with an individual purpose that will make the world a better place. Thank you for sharing your insight.

  9. Ikechi Awazie

    April 15, 2015 at 9:28 am

    Hi Jens

    I so much agree with you. The greatest fulfillment in life is not how much we receive but how much we are willing to give.

    There are so much benefits in inspiring others. There are people who really need our direction and experience to help them overcome their challenges.

    Thank you for sharing your insight. Have a nice week.

  10. Jens-Petter Berget

    April 14, 2015 at 8:28 pm

    Hi Ikechi

    Very interesting topic and your post is awesome. I absolutely agree, we all matter because each of us are unique. One thing I believe most of us should focus more on is how we inspire others, not just how successful we are alone, but by doing things that’ll help others to do remarkable things.

  11. Ikechi Awazie

    April 14, 2015 at 9:40 am

    Hi Carolyn

    I don’t think I am aware of Janet and I have not come across her blog but from the way you described her, I do know that she really is an inspiration. I am curious to know why she left the blogging world

    The HASH TAG #youmatter is so powerful. Such words will always carry so much power because it says the truth that we all matter. Each of everyday of our life is what makes the difference in this world. As you mentioned, we take ourselves for granted while history shows us how we defined change in this world.

    Thank you for such a lovely comment. Have a wonderful week.

  12. Carolyn Nicander Mohr

    April 14, 2015 at 1:27 am

    Hi Ikechi, What a wonderful and uplifting post! You’re right, people do matter and are truly unique. So often we take ourselves and others for granted but we really should appreciate the uniqueness of ourselves and others.

    Your posts reminds me of one of my favorite bloggers, Janet Callaway, who isn’t in the blogging world any more, but had wonderful blogs and tweets using the hashtag #youmatter. So simple, yet so powerful.

    I will be sharing this widely in the hope that your inspiration continues to lift up others.

  13. Nanda Rahmanius

    April 13, 2015 at 2:26 pm

    Hi Ikechi,

    Glad to see you here. This is really a motivating post! 🙂

    Actually I am very sure that every human being in this world has something that will be useful to others. I believe that every person has unique characteristics that would be useful for nature and other people.

    There is no single human being useless. If they had been born into this world, then they are matter. They are the ones who will bring change to the world leading to a better state. 😉

    Thanks for sharing this great post with us, Ikechi.
    I will start to share it right now. Have a nice day for you!

    ~Nanda

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 14, 2015 at 9:36 am

      Hi Nanda

      So brilliantly said; I love your words and you are right. We do matter and have the power to change the world. This world is ours and each of our actions can make a difference even if it seems insignificant.

      As long as we value our nature, we will pass on this fire to others. Thank you for sharing your insight and I am humbled by your kind words.

      Have a wonderful week.

  14. Ikechi Awazie

    April 12, 2015 at 5:25 am

    Hi Nikshep

    Glad to see your comment and I am glad that this post made a difference for you.

    You are right about victim mentality. I for one have seen how self doubt have robbed people of their ability to make a difference because they feel that they don’t matter.

    Thanks for the lovely comment and have a wonderful weekend.

  15. Lorraine Reguly

    April 12, 2015 at 12:55 am

    Wow. You totally nailed it in this post, Ikechi!

    I’m sure this post will raise the self-esteem of EVERYONE who reads it!

    It reminds me of the post I wrote for Sylviane Nuccio, too, a few weeks ago. I opened up about my past, my rape, and how I moved forward despite the negativity in my life.

    Leading by example is a great motivator.

    If others can see how you have risen, they will move their lives forward, too.

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 13, 2015 at 5:23 am

      Hi Lorraine

      Thank you Lorraine. I am humbled by your kind words

      Yes I did read that post and I was so inspired because you overcame all challenges and you are an inspiration not only to the world but in the blogosphere. You decided to give light to others.

      Love your last statement. If others see how you have risen, then they will rise up to the challenge and move forward. Thanks for the word of wisdom. Have a swell week.

  16. Maxwell Ivey

    April 11, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    hi ikechi; what a wonderful post. we are so lucky to be part of this community and receive such wisdom on a regular basis. i have gone through this whole process in my own life over the last eight or nine months. I’ve gone from i’m not special to i’m not an an inspiration people won’t want to hear my story to knowing that i inspire people just by being and doing every day and that people need to hear my story. they tell me this all the time I often hear if max can do it then what is my excuse. and i wouldn’t have gotten here without many great friends like you and harleena and vinay and the rest of my online family drumming it into my head that i do effect people’s lives. loved the quote about the mosquito. thanks for sharing my friend. xoxo max

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 12, 2015 at 5:58 am

      Hi Max

      So great to see you

      I had you in mind when I was writing this post. You have really showed a lot of people that they do matter by using your gifts to light their darkness.

      When I wrote sub title that You can make a difference. I was reminded about your awesome book. You know most people feel they are worthless because they feel they have nothing to offer. This is not true because we have something in us that is powerful; you revealed this me by making a difference despite your situation.

      Thanks for sharing your insight and being an inspiration. Have a wonderful week.

      • Maxwell Ivey

        April 12, 2015 at 6:36 am

        hi ikechi; funny how you were thinking of me when you wrote it and i was wondering if i had some influence on that section as i was reading it. 🙂 that’s the kind of connection we can make even over the net if we are open to it. am happy to inspire people wherever i can. just last week i inspired the jahova’s witnesses. 🙂 never let an opportunity go by. now i’m learning about using my new iPhone and had to put off a few of my own deadlines because there is a bit of a learning curve with it. so i’ve decided to be kind to myself and i know my readers will understand. thanks again. you really did write an important post. Its the kind that people need to hear more often. you have a great weekend, max

  17. Barbara Charles

    April 11, 2015 at 9:22 pm

    Hi Ikechi,

    This is an important article as many people experience unworthy thoughts due to all the items you’ve mentioned in your post. It can range from color to non-education and many others. Great post for as you were able to clearly spell out why eah and everyone of us is worth it.

    Great job.
    Barbara

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 12, 2015 at 5:54 am

      Hi Barbara

      Thank you for the words of wisdom. Like you have so mentioned, people are struggling with being significant because they have been labelled and lied to about their nature.

      This post will definitely let them know that they matter beyond what they can imagine.

      Thanks again for the compliment. Have a splendid weekend.

  18. Yvonne I. Wilson

    April 11, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    Hi Ikechi

    I find this post to be very inspirational and encouraging. The quotes are spot on as well.

    So many today do not think that they matter or have something to offer in this life to others simply because of their past experience where they were made to feel insignificant or worthless. It takes courage and grace to reach the depths of where these persons find themselves and to help them back up on their feet again. I think you have done so in this article.

    Everyone matters! Everyone have something to offer no matter how small or unimportant that it may seem. Have a great weekend.

    • Ikechi Awazie

      April 12, 2015 at 5:43 am

      Hi Yvonne

      So good to see you here Yvonne.

      I am surprised that so many people feel that they don’t matter to humanity but I can relate to their situation.

      The struggle of trying to be revelant is as a result of the fact that the world has tried to define our existence but the world was made for the man and not man for the world. So we do matter whether we believe it or not.

      Thank you for the kind words. Have a splendid weekend. 🙂






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