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Why You Should be Respecting the Elderly

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I was always taught to respect the elders – weren’t you?

But how many of you are really respecting the elderly people around you? What reasons do you have for not doing so?

I ask you because I’ve often seen many elders in the society not being treated well.

I’ve even heard of people not respecting the elderly – especially the young generation nowadays.

And that’s not all; even family members sometimes fail to spend family time with them, which saddens my heart.

I strongly feel that respect towards the elderly, their fortitude, wisdom, knowledge, and grace should be imbibed by us, though sadly it doesn’t happen.

There might be a few exceptions as I also don’t believe that growing old is a sign becoming wiser, but we shouldn’t show disrespect for seniors in any case – isn’t it?

If you come across an elder whom you don’t know, and if he/she isn’t able to prove his/her worth to you – it doesn’t mean that he/she doesn’t deserve your respect.

You need to assess the situation and understand the concept of respect and it’s relation to the elderly.

“We were taught to respect everyone, especially those who were older and wiser than we were from whom we could learn.” ~ BeNeca Ward

Meaning of Respecting the Elderly

Respect is the basic component of all cordial relations. If you understand the meaning of disrespect, you’d be able to understand respect better.

Disrespect is the denial of approval or recognition of another person. Many people don’t value the elders and treat them as worthless. But who’re these elders that we talk about?

An elder is someone who has retired and is usually over the age of sixty-five years, though this age may vary because different countries may have their own official age for retirement.

Showing respect to the elder’s means to be kind and considerate towards them and hearing them out, even if you really don’t agree with them.

It’s simply one human showing respect to another, irrespective of their age. But are you doing that? I know many of you do, but I’d like you to create awareness for those who don’t.

“Respect is what we owe; love, what we give.” ~ Philip James Bailey

Children respecting the elderly in the family

How is the State of Elders in Today’s World

Things are fast changing nowadays, and elders or grandparents don’t have much of a role in the family any longer. There is no one to listen to them, nor do their own children live near them.

Respect towards elders is fast declining in the society, and it’s sad but true that in many families they’re treated more like old furniture than part of a family.

Or else they are placed in old homes or nursing homes where they spend the rest of their life – lonely and forgotten.

However, it’s a different case if that’s done due to some medical condition that requires regular observation and treatment.

Personally, I still feel that even in such a case arrangements can be made at home so that elders don’t have to stay in such old age homes. No one likes to be at such a place, would you?

But there are some cultures and places around the world where the elderly are still treated with respect.

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In these countries and cultures the elders still hold the important position as the head of the family, share their wisdom, guide the youngsters, and pave the way for generations to come.

Speaking of which, the elder’s in my family play a major role in my life. Their love and concern for me and my family is foremost in their mind. Similarly, all of us also have a very high regard for them and all that they do for us.

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Why Respecting the Elderly Is Important

The elders need to be honored and respected for all that they’ve done for you and for the society in general.

Gratitude comes in many forms, and you can express it by way of love, kindness, and simply by respecting them – isn’t it?

The elderly were once young and strong. They worked hard to make a living and gave the best years of their lives to raise their children, by caring, protecting, and nurturing them.

Not to mention their contribution to the society, and how they worked hard so that the place or organization that they worked for, prospered.

Also, many of them fought for their country so that we might live. Their sacrifices cannot be forgotten.

I also need to mention that elders in the family have faced many challenges and raised grandchildren when their own children haven’t been around, which is all the more reason for respecting the elderly.

But now that they are in the golden years of their lives, isn’t it time that their children and society gives back to them a little of what all they did for us?

How can you do that, you might ask? Well, begin by just respecting the elderly for starters!

Elderly people need to be respected and it’s one way of making them feel special.

Just notice the way how their faces brighten up and their morale boosts up, when you respect them, listen to them, and express your love and kindness towards them.

“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” ~ Bryant H. McGill

It doesn’t cost you anything when you show respect towards elders, but see the pleasure it gives them. In return, you also feel happy by giving them happiness in their live.

Often times, senior citizens are treated with less respect and discriminated due to their age, appearance, race, gender, disability, and income. This may even lead to depression in the elderly.

Respecting the elderly doesn’t mean just to limit it to love and kindness.

Instead, it is also about getting them involved in things that they’re capable of doing. This makes them feel respected that their contribution is valued.

An elderly woman looking for love and respect

Ways of Respecting the Elderly

There are many ways you can respect the elders in your life, but I’ll just mention a few of them here. You could always add more ways to showing respect towards elders.

  • Offer an elderly person your chair or seat if you see them standing while you are sitting.
  • Never talk disrespectfully to an elder. Talk directly to them, not around or about them.
  • Try to avoid arguing and quarreling with an elder.
  • When an elder is speaking, everyone else should remain silent and listen.
  • Seek the blessings of your elders before you start on anything new. Things like when you’re going to give an examination, interview, or getting married.
  • If an elderly person asks you something, or asks you to do something – answer to them, and do it happily.
  • If you see an elderly person not able to manage on their own in the street or market area, or anywhere – accompany them till they permit you to leave.
  • Don’t shout at an elder assuming that he/she is deaf or hard of hearing. Being old doesn’t mean they can’t hear. Similarly, if an elder has hearing problems, be considerate and gentle in talking.
  • While driving an elder, offer them the front seat or ask them where they’d like to sit first. Also, help them get in and out of the vehicle.
  • Always open the door for an elder and hold it till they pass through before closing it.
  • Avoid smoking and drinking in front of elders.
  • Seek the advice of your elders when you make important decisions of your life.
  • Take care of the elderly and avoid sending them to a nursing or old age home.
  • While talking to elderly people, find out their interests, get involved in talking to them, and show your interests in their talks. It makes them feel good that despite the age difference they share similar interests, even if you don’t.  Moreover, you never stop learning from them too.
  • Be patient and tolerant with elders. Chances are that as they age, they may become a little difficult to be around because they’re frustrated being dependent on others.
  • Remain compassionate and polite even if your attempts to engage with elders are met with anger, gruffness, or annoyance. Perhaps there are years of pain, frustration, and intolerance at the society or people that they use as a means to cope and protect themselves.
  • As they age, elderly people tend to repeat things. Be kind enough and hear them out.
  • If you see elders carrying groceries, offer to carry it instead. Or if they are sick, take care of them without feeling bad about doing so.
  • Don’t think that the elderly are worthless because they no longer have jobs. Instead, think of how much you can gain from their years of experience and wisdom. Also, how they contribute to a household and some grandparents even take care of their grandchildren.
  • Visit the elders in your family if they are living far, or spend time with them if they are nearby. It’s a great way of respecting the elderly in your family and making them feel loved and cared for.

Different cultures would have different ways of respecting the elderly, so a lot depends on how and what works your end.

Like in some cultures the young ones let the elders have food before them, stand up when any elder comes in the room, and don’t refer to them directly by their name.

However, in general the above mentioned ways to respect the elders are the very basic that may be working all over – aren’t they?

I would like you to read my post on how you can take care of elders >> 14 Ways to take Care of Elderly People, and I hope you like it too 🙂

“Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners.” ~ Laurence Sterne

Remember, what goes around, comes around. It’s the basic law of nature and karma.

So, when you instill gratitude, compassion and respect for the elderly in your kids, they too will treat you with love and similar feelings when you are old.

You as parents and caretakers are the role models for your children. If they hear you speak rudely to your elders or not show respect towards elders, there’s no way they will show respect to you or them.

Treating your elders with respect is a privilege, not a chore. Hug and kiss them more often, and let them know how much you appreciate and love them.

Remember, it’s not long before you too will become an elder and be in the same place as them. So, by respecting the elderly you’re only showing you care and understand their feelings.

“I could never love where I could not respect.” ~ Charlotte Elizabeth Aisse

Never forget how you will like to be treated, and treat the elderly people the same way. If you haven’t been respecting the elderly so far, it’s never too late to begin.

Any day is a new day to start 🙂

Over to you

Do you feel the elders in your society are really respected and treated the way they should be? If you have elders in your family, how do you show respect towards them? What do you do for respecting the elderly around you? Let us know in the comments below.

 

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  1. Meena

    March 5, 2014 at 7:41 pm

    your parents are the ones who brought you into the world, you should love and appreciate them as much as you can because one day they will be gone. But if disagreements has happened then try your best to be respectful and civil whilst your still living under their roof. Remember that some people have what it takes to be a mother and some people don’t, we’re all different. Also, your parents can act so annoying at times but they only do things to care and protect you !!

  2. JR Riel

    January 9, 2014 at 10:55 pm

    Hello Harleena,

    Wow, I can’t tell you how much I LOVED this post. Although I am an American, I was born and raised in Hawaii, in a traditional Hawaiian or Polynesian culture, where our elders are held with deep respect and high regard. I found it so refreshing to hear your viewpoints on why this is such an important thing to always keep doing. Through my travels around the world, I have learned, like you, that there are many different ways of showing respect to elders, depending on what culture you are in. But yes, the bottom line is that they are given respect, whichever way that translates to in whatever culture you find yourself in. They are the ones who came before us, without them, we would have no roots, no beginning, no soul, and no understanding of who we are and where we come from. Thanks again for this wonderful post!

  3. Cheryl Ragsdale

    October 6, 2013 at 8:14 am

    Hello Harleena,

    It’s interesting that you say “Don’t think that the elderly are worthless because they no longer have jobs.” What!? That’s a terrible attitude to have towards people. That made me sad to read that. I found a Facebook page created by a teenager who did the right thing (gave her seat up on the bus), but didn’t receive the right response (a simple thank you or acknowledgement) from an elder person (a stranger).

    For the most part, I agree that elders are to be respected. Just like in any other realm of life, if the elder in question is rude, then respect yourself by ending the conversation. You don’t have to stay around to hear rude comments. Especially if the person is a stranger. It’s a little different — more latitude is given — when the elder is closer to you.

    • Harleena Singh

      October 6, 2013 at 9:54 am

      Hi Cheryl,

      Welcome to my blog! Thanks for your views. Well, there are all kinds of people in the world. They think and act differently. You can never generalize a particular category of people as good or bad, and the same goes for the elderly or the young.

      Having said that, I’ve seen young people having bad attitude towards the elderly, and even the elderly having incorrect views about the young. While writing the post, I tried to consider and write about all the perspectives and you’ll notice that I’ve mentioned that there are exceptions even in case of respecting the elderly – may be not all deserve that. But then who decides that?

      For a child, the parent or person who stops them from doing the wrong thing is bad. Not only children, even the teenagers and young adults too sometimes behave this way. So, they may decide that the elders need not be respected. But when they grow up, they understand that if the parent was seemingly rude at the particular time or incident in the past, there was a reason for it, and it was for his or her own good.

      Think of it – can you define and decide about a person by observing one particular incident at a particular time in life? We keep changing and so do our thoughts and views. At the end we realize that it’s all about us – not matter how people or things are, what matters is what we make of ourselves.

      Sometimes we’ve bad experience and undergo bad times in life, and some elderly grow up to be cynical and prejudiced. It can happen to anybody of any age. I agree that the elderly lady in question should’ve been thankful to the teenager, but even if she didn’t, would you start being disrespectful to the elderly in general? The better option is to be understanding that our life experiences shape us – our thoughts and behaviors.

      You’re right in that the young can be courteous and respectful to end the conversation, or some may even chose to reply back – it all depends on the situation, reason, and the person. But we make a general rule about why we should be respecting the elderly because of what I’ve mentioned here and in the post in detail.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts as they spurred my own. Respect is so important in our lives, and it all starts with self-respect, and I hope you’ll agree. Thanks so much for this discussion as that adds value to the post. Have a happy and great Sunday!

    • Paul Deane

      September 29, 2017 at 10:23 pm

      That’s true you have a good point about not staying around to hear rude comments from an elderly person. Respect should have nothing to do with age. Respect should be about the content of someone’s character.

  4. Rebecca

    May 24, 2013 at 8:35 pm

    How we treat our elderly will probably reflects on how our children will treat us in the future when we are old. So if you wanted to be treated nicely and respectfully when you are older, you should try to treat your grandparents with respect today. They have cared for you, most probably your parents, too, and respect is the most inexpensive form of caring for your aging loved ones. Way cheaper than just any personal emergency responder or medical alert system.

    “If your parents are tech savvy, then a mobile phone would be ideal, or then a website update every 2-3 hours would keep you less worried too.” Well, there is a huge collection of devices suited for the elderly that needs no “tech savvy”-ness involve. Take for example the 5star responder, Just5, and something from Samsung too. Choosing the best phones or devices for your elderly is not as hard as we think. All in all, this is a highly useful and very informative post. Thanks Harleena for this great content.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 26, 2013 at 7:04 pm

      Hi Rebecca,

      Absolutely! And our kids watch every move we make or how we deal with our elders, so we need to be very careful of our words and actions 🙂

      All our elders want from us is love, care, respect, and understanding, which I think these aren’t some things we can’t give them. Even if we don’t take it that way, we should be respecting the elderly because we want our kids to respect us, we should just be doing it out of the honor we have for them, or their age and the years of experience they have.

      I agree with you there – with tech changing so fast nowadays, there are many devices we get where our seniors don’t even need to be all that tech savvy. However, you’d be surprised to know with how much interest some of the elders take up to the new gadgets, mobiles, computers and things, because they are still keen to learn something new. More so, they have all the free time now as compared to their earlier years that were spent looking after their kids and working.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  5. Mayura

    May 18, 2013 at 10:00 am

    Hi Harleena,

    Needless to say, I’m really believe in it 🙂 It may be how I grew up, but I believe not only elders but everyone need to be respected. You don’t give it, you won’t earn it 🙂

    I know, that some elders might be annoying and not the way we like them to be. May be we are not the way they like us to be either 😀 lol… Lack of communication.

    As I feel, this is one aspect of a story Harleena 🙂 Elders may expecting respect but they may not consider giving it. Children mostly follows what their elders do rather than what they ask them to do, no? I think that’s where it all begins. If someone don’t learn to respect elders in first 10 – 15 years in his life, I doubt if he does it later on.

    Once I was amazed by seeing a friend being disrespectful to his grandmother as his parents work overseas. I’ve asked about it from him, and he replied “Why should I be afraid of her?”. Respecting is being afraid? Once misconception I used to hear a lot Halreena.

    Gosh… Blooming old houses and nursing homes. I’ve read and watched numerous interviews conducted with elders living in old houses and when they were asked about their children, they become emotional. May be they weren’t caring their children much earlier, but never left ’em after all. How fair is it to keep parents away from their lives after all?

    However what goes around comes around Harleena 🙂 I’ve seen it a lot, no matter what. Once a drunken father finally becomes a good person, but it’s too late sometimes and spend rest of his life in an old house.

    I agree that people nowadays losing control easily due to lack of patience. I think there’s a duty for parents and elders to guide children by setting as example. It’s sad to talk about some elders as they are giving wrong impression for children too.

    Further, I strongly believe the media is doing this for new generation with commercialized World Harleena. Sadly, they fall for it. Then believe that’s the right thing to do and what their parents teach them to do were outdated.

    You have a wonderful weekend with your family over there Harleena 🙂

    Cheers…

    • Harleena Singh

      May 19, 2013 at 8:02 pm

      Hi Mayura,

      Of course, I already know how much you believe in respecting the elderly 🙂

      Yes, it’s not only the elders, but everyone who deserves to be respected, and the more you give the more you get too, though you should respect the elders selflessly and not to get respect in return. But yes, when you show respect to your elders, your children see you do that and would respect you when you reach that age too.

      Oh yes…some elders are like that, and so are we as you mentioned. Nevertheless, we should still respect them for their age and years of experience, and simply for the fact that they are older than us.

      Elders too should change their way of thinking and respect their juniors or anyone for that matter, but with some elders its tough to reason or tough to change their ways because they have become used to a certain way of living and thinking. But I agree with you, that they should at least try themselves to change and get better if nothing else.

      You raised a good point about whether respecting is being afraid, which is not the case. Just as in the case of your friend, and his feeling that he wouldn’t respect his grandmother because he’s not afraid of her, which I feel he said because his parents aren’t around or he’s not afraid of them either.

      You respect because you feel like respecting and honoring your elders for all that they’ve done for you, especially when they are your own elders. Isn’t your friend attached or thankful to his grandmother for all that she’s done for him? And he doesn’t feel like respecting her for doing that, besides the age? Or perhaps he has no feelings for her, which could be another reason, and his parents too couldn’t have instilled these values in him as they live overseas – there could be so many reasons.

      I agree with you there, and when I saw them too, it moved my heart as to how parents just desert their own parents and elders and leave them in such nursing homes – don’t they have any feelings or emotions for them? Yes, some do it because they feel their elders are better taken care of in such places or better medical facilities exist there, though speaking of myself, I’d have made arrangements to keep them home, with me, and cater to all the medical facilities at home too.

      We forget to place ourselves in their shoes – would we like going to spend the rest of our life in a nursing home? Would we like to live in such an isolated and lonely life, especially in the tail end of our lives? I don’t think so, then why send our elders there? I’m glad this hasn’t picked up much in our countries as yet, though people do tend to get influenced by others and it just might be something more working people would go in for in the near future.

      Yes, it’s a combined responsibility of both, parents and their children to ensure that the right values are instilled and followed by setting an example. However, sometimes when parents aren’t really how they ought to be when they are young towards their children, the kids also turn against them. I’ve seen a lot of such cases too. But keep all those thoughts aside, especially when they grow old and dependent on you. Why keep such feelings within you, and perhaps when you change towards your parents, they might also realize their mistake and become good towards you.

      Karma does matter, and how and what you do, will come onto you too, sooner or later. So, play your part and always be and do good, even if you haven’t been done good to – you lose nothing, but will gain much 🙂

      I’ve no idea about the media etc., and all I know is if you have an inner conscious, you will not go by what others tell you, instead, do what your heart tells you, which can never go wrong.

      Thanks for stopping by and for your lovely contribution, as always, to the post. Have a lovely weekend as well. 🙂

  6. anis

    May 18, 2013 at 3:53 am

    I think we must respect the elderly and listen to them carefully because they have more experience than us in life so we have a lot to learn from them, they are weak tough and we should take care of them as well, they are the ones, that took care of us when we were childs
    thanks for sharing this awesome post!

    • Harleena Singh

      May 19, 2013 at 2:23 am

      Hi Anis,

      Absolutely! If for nothing else, we can at least respect them for their years of wisdom and experience, and give them credit for know more than us as they have seen more of life than we have.

      We tend to forget that or elders were the ones who raised us too, and we too are going to be in that place one day. There IS a lot we can learn from them, provided we are willing to spend time and listen to what they have to say – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  7. Shalu Sharma

    May 17, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    Respecting the elderly is our ethical duty. We all will be beoming old one day and if we don’t then what can we really expect from our youngsters. They will learn the same thing. Hence it is our duty to be respectful towards the elderly. They have played their part in society and its now turn to relax. I love the classic ways your have outlined for respecting the elderly.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 19, 2013 at 2:19 am

      Hi Shalu,

      It sure is, yet some people refuse to understand this simple face. Yes indeed, we need to think how we would feel if we aren’t respected when we grow old and aren’t respected.

      It all does start from the way you instill the values in your children and teach them about respecting the elderly. They too see you respect your elders, and will do the same.

      They have done their bit and some are even doing their best for the society today, and the least we can do on our part is show some love and respect towards them. I hope the youngsters get this message, and those also who aren’t showing the due respect.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂

  8. Dana

    May 17, 2013 at 8:54 am

    Hi Harleena,

    My first time here 🙂

    It’s interesting timing that I came across this post. I had recently finished reading “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle and he discusses the elderly in the last chapter.

    The way I interpreted his message was that the elderly were simply at a place in their lives where the spiritual dimension had room to express itself through them. Without the need to identify with form, they are at a place of accepting the simplicity of being and that in ancient cultures, they were often respected and admired for their wisdom.

    Today I’m not sure we really pay much attention to respect in general, let alone toward the elderly. Respect involves being aware of the impact we have on others and the world around us. I believe we’re on the verge of asking the right questions – but it will take being a little less busy and a little more conscious.
    Beautiful article!

    • Harleena Singh

      May 19, 2013 at 2:13 am

      Welcome to the blog Dana!

      That surely does sound like a nice co-incidence, and perhaps that’s the reason you landed here at the right time 🙂

      I so agree with what you interpreted, and I think you explained that beautifully here. I’m sure you must have enjoyed reading such a wonderful book too.

      Yes indeed, respect seems to have lost it’s meaning today, which is what’s rather saddening. We do need to change ourselves and start respecting the elderly if we aren’t doing that already, and as you mentioned – be a little more conscious and less busy can help, provided we are willing to take that step.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  9. Manickam Vijayabanu

    May 17, 2013 at 8:05 am

    Harleena,

    Another emotional subject from you. You touch our heart. Absolutely the elderly age is awesome period and we need to respect a lot.
    I always love to discuss and share my love with elderly person and truly an awesome feeling. Either our parents or grandparents…There are huge life learning curve to learn which can only transform by them. 🙂

    We need to respect them and share our warmth love at this age and that’s priceless. Thanks for sharing the great article Harleena. 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      May 19, 2013 at 1:46 am

      Hi Manickam,

      It sure is an emotional subject because I feel strongly about it, and am glad it touched your heart in some way as well. 🙂

      Feelings and emotions need to expressed and shown I feel, and if you love and respect an elder let them know you do! Nothing can brighten their day better than knowing that you care.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts 🙂

  10. B k chowla

    May 17, 2013 at 7:03 am

    This is where what we call ” SANSKAR” comes into play.
    If the children have been brought up with values of life……this topic would never have come up

    • Harleena Singh

      May 18, 2013 at 9:59 pm

      Hi BK,

      Absolutely! And those are what make or break a man as they say – isn’t it? I wish such were the case, but seeing the changing trend in society, I thought it best to make those people a little aware who aren’t respecting the elderly.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  11. bbrian017

    May 17, 2013 at 2:00 am

    Hello Harleena,

    When I’m out in public I’m always opening doors or respecting the elders. In fact I always thought I would go into that career but it seems marketing has got a hold of me,

    • Harleena Singh

      May 18, 2013 at 9:36 pm

      Hi Brian – good to see you after long 🙂

      That’s very nice indeed, and am sure even when you aren’t out in public and at home with your elders, you’d be doing the very same things. I guess it all comes down to what we have been taught and how we learn to respect the elderly.

      Ah…I wonder where you’d been had you taken up that as a career! Perhaps what has to happen is always predestined, and it happens – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂

  12. Ahsan

    May 16, 2013 at 11:11 pm

    If you respect the elders, others will look at you in a different but in a respected too. An advice from elderly person works as a tonic for the younger. But I see now a days young generation are not showing proper respect. They think they know everything.

    Respect to the elders are decreasing day by day in Europe. It gives bad signal to a society. But I am lucky to say that still in Asia there are good sign of respect to the elders.

    You added some good points which we must show to the elders. Hope we’ll follow the advice until our death. So our next generation will learn from it

    • Harleena Singh

      May 18, 2013 at 9:04 pm

      Hi Ahsan,

      Yes indeed, you will be respected if you respect your elders. More so, your children will learn the way of respecting the elderly when they see you do it, which will make them respect you now, and also when you age – isn’t it?

      That IS the saddest part of all. Some youngsters tend to think they know everything, or want to have their way and say in everything, and don’t bother about the feelings of the elders around them. Some elders are just treated as if they don’t exist, which saddens me a lot. Yes – such things are happening more in other countries, though we are still lucky that we aren’t affected all that much as yet.

      I also hope these ways help people in some ways and they realize what they are missing out on.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  13. Hiten

    May 16, 2013 at 10:03 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    What a brilliant post on such an important topic!

    My opinion is that we really should help the elderly like we would children. Two age groups are the most vulnerable, which are the elderly and kids. Hence, we should do all we can to help the elderly, respect them and cherish the time we have with them.

    The most elderly person in my family is my Nan. She is 93 and is absolutely magical. Her memory is still very good and I love visiting her. I think people that age are closer to God and this just emanates out of them.

    Unfortunately, in the UK, I get a feeling (a much generalised one), that there are many families who don’t care about the elders in their family as much as they could. I think a lot of people would benefit from reading this post. You are so right about the point you made about elderly people really feeling respected when we’ve been patient and listened to them. You can just see the delight on their faces!

    Thank you.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 18, 2013 at 8:50 pm

      Hi Hiten,

      Glad you liked the post, and yes, I also thought it IS an important, though often neglected topic 🙂

      I totally second your views on that one, and it is the kids and elders who are most vulnerable and the least respected as well. I guess the age factor plays a major role as people tend to take kids to be either too small to understand, or the elders too old to bother. They don’t realize the feelings and sentiments both have – isn’t it?

      Nice to know more about your Nan, and 93 is such a lovely age to be in, reminds me of my Grandmother too, though she never lived that long. Yes, they have a magical aura around them giving us a heavenly feeling too.

      That’s exactly how people are getting all over the world, though perhaps it might be more in the UK as you mentioned. I’m glad that parents instill the values of respecting the elderly in our country, and most of the younger lots do follow it up too. However, there are always a few exceptions, and one is seeing the change that’s come about with time. I do hope and pray that those who forget to respect their elders realize what they are missing out, and it’s never too late to start – isn’t it?

      All they need is a little bit of you time, attention, patience, care, love, and understanding, which isn’t much I’m sure. Yes, that delight on their face when they feel respected and heard to is matchless. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and adding so much more to the post. 🙂

  14. Adrienne

    May 16, 2013 at 9:52 pm

    This subject is near and dear to my heart Harleena. I can’t imagine who would ever mistreat an elder let alone children or animals. Okay, some people are just cruel.

    When I left corporate America I interviewed at two different places just wanting to try something different. Be someplace I thought I could make a difference. One of them was in an assisted living facility and I actually got the job. The problem was that it was too far for me to drive and the hours were late, which I liked, but the money wasn’t worth the time or gas it took me to get there.

    I really wanted that job because I got to spend time with some of the people who lived there and they were such lovely people. They were going to assign me to the Alzheimer wing because I’m so bubbly and outgoing they felt my personality would fit good because it’s important to keep their minds alert. I was really kind of sad about it to be honest with you but had I taken that job I wouldn’t be here so I guess it worked out for the best.

    Now some people can’t understand why I would want my Mom living next door. I guess some people don’t have a good relationship with their parents but I definitely do and I enjoy her company. I know someday I’ll be longing for that so I enjoy her while I’m here.

    I totally have respect not only for the elders but for people in general and it’s sad that you have to actually teach people how to do the same but if that’s something that can be learned and applied then I’m all for it.

    Great post Harleena and thank you for sharing.

    ~Adrienne

    • Harleena Singh

      May 18, 2013 at 8:31 pm

      Hi Adrienne,

      Nice to know that this is something you can so well relate to 🙂

      Yes, some people ARE cruel and we see so many of those kinds around – don’t we?

      It’s good to know about your experience, and I wonder how it would have been or what path you might have taken had you joined that job. But yes, certain things aren’t just meant to be, or they don’t work out the way they should for various reasons.

      I’m so sure that had they assigned you to the Alzheimer wing, the elderly there would have gotten so much better just by being with you because of the lovely personality you have 🙂

      Absolutely! She should be near you all the time. In-fact, had she really been willing, I think you would’ve wanted her to live with you. I also just can’t imagine how people cannot understand the importance of loving and being with their parents or respecting the elderly – these are such basic things to be done!

      I agree with you there – respect should be shown to everyone, though often times it’s the elder lots who aren’t given the respect they deserve, for whatever reasons people might have. I wish they wouldn’t think this way. I guess because they don’t and I do notice it, so I thought to write about it and make them a little aware as to how they can get better.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post. Have a lovely weekend – with your Mom 🙂

  15. emran

    May 16, 2013 at 7:39 pm

    A wonderful post and it is social matter. Really, we should respect our elders.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 17, 2013 at 1:23 pm

      Welcome to the blog Emran!

      Glad you liked this post on respecting the elderly. Oh yes – we should be respecting our elders – no matter what. 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂




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Why You Should be Respecting the Elderly

by Harleena Singh time to read: 8 min