6 Negative Ways to Deal with Stress that You Should Avoid

And save yourself from more trouble!

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Stress can sometimes be frightening and frustrating. As a result, we are sometimes forced to resort to negative ways to deal with stress. These may offer some relief initially but then we’re caught in a vicious cycle. Thus, we form a bad habit of unhealthy ways to deal with stress that adversely affects our day to day life, making life more difficult. Here are a few bad ways to reduce stress that you should be careful to avoid. ~ Ed.


Don’t we all try to find ways to reduce stress? It’s because we all have stress in our lives, whether at home or at work.

I know you try hard not to let stress affect you, and would like to keep it at bay forever. However, it’s not possible always.

One theory suggests that you get stressed because you allow yourself to be under that negative condition. But you always have a choice – don’t you?

Positivity and optimism help counter, control, and conquer stressful situations. After all, mental and emotional stresses depend on your state of mind.

If you’ve a strong and stable mind, and positive strategies to support you, then you might save yourself from getting affected by stress.

But at times, in spite of being upbeat and positive, you still feel that you’re under stress.

In that case, you should remember that not all stress is bad. Some level of stress is sometimes necessary to make you move, and helps you to get the work done.

However, you do need to find a way to reduce stress if it goes beyond the required level.

If you try to lessen the stress in your lives with the bad ways, you get into more trouble. You risk forming bad habits and even get addicted, which makes matters worse.

All this might harm you directly or indirectly.

You might find the good and right ways of coping and dealing with stress everywhere, but here I’d like to mention some negative ways to deal with stress.

It’s an attempt so that you are aware of them, can recognize them, and know that you should avoid them.

“Stress should be a powerful driving force, not an obstacle.” ~ Bill Phillips

6 Negative Ways to Deal with Stress

Most of you unknowingly adopt the wrong ways to lower the stress levels. Some of these are even your natural coping mechanisms, if you’re pessimistic in your attitude.

girl biting her nail which is one of the ways to reduce stress


Also known as self-injury and self-mutilation, self-harm is a negative way of lessening deep stress or releasing emotional pain.

You feel better temporarily after harming yourself, but then the stress, along with more painful feelings, returns.

You’re then caught in a vicious cycle and keep hurting yourself – the behavior becomes addictive.

Some of the things people do in self-harm are banging their head, hitting themselves, cutting or burning their skin, not letting the wounds heal, swallowing toxic substances, and other weird things.

Did you know that even biting nails, peeling off your skin, clipping your nails with your teeth or fingers, are all lower forms of self-mutilation?

You might know them as signs of anxiety or nervousness, and there could be some other reasons too, but mostly you use these ways to beat the stress.

Now, most of you resort to some of these ways – don’t you? I confess that I sometimes bite my nails whenever I’m under pressure or stress. What about you?

Though even self-hitting and other forms of self-harm are generally non-suicidal acts, and the person performs them in secrecy, some of these weird ways can be harmful and fatal.

Are you or your known ones struggling with the problem of self-harm? If so, then you can find more helpful information in this online guide.

Self harm yields more pain than gain, and increases the stress levels instead of decreasing them. Self harm is a negative ways to deal with stress that you should never ever think of resorting to.

Girl with hair plucked from face which is one of the ways to reduce stress


As you can make out from the name – it is some sort of a maniac behavior. However, the people suffering from this impulse control disorder are normal people.

Although trichotrichalmania is considered to be a part of the ways of self-harm, I’m mentioning it separately as it is something that’s very visually apparent.

In fact, one of my relative suffered from trichotrichalmania and that is how I got to know more about this odd behavior.

In this disorder, people tend to have a compulsive urge to pull out their own hair mostly due to stress or depression.

I noticed my relative suddenly becoming bald. Her mother tried all kinds of treatment to restore what was diagnosed as hair fall or scalp infection.

But in reality, she was pulling out her own hair whenever she was alone, and she was not even conscious of what she was doing.

For her, it was a natural reaction and urge, and maybe that’s why she never gave much thought to it.

The doctor my relative went to showed them photographs of people suffering from trichotillomania, and they were unbelievable! We managed to see them too.

People pluck out their complete eyebrows and eyelashes, and even hair from their arms! This is their sub-conscious way to reduce stress that eventually turns into a disorder.

If you observe your loved ones getting bald and if the hair growth is uneven, it is likely that the person is pulling the hair to seek interim relief from stress.

a woman drinking alcohol which is one of the ways to reduce stress


Resorting to alcohol is a common way to reduce stress. When you’re under the influence of alcohol, there are chemical changes in your brain that give you temporary relief from stress.

The brain actually sends signals to the body to slow down. Apart from this, drinking alcohol also increases the levels of dopamine, a hormone which is responsible for creating a pleasant feeling.

It is followed with a temporary feeling of relaxation and euphoria due to increase in the level of endorphins and serotonin, the hormones that relieve pain and generate a good feeling in the brain.

However, drinking excessive alcohol for long term leads to addiction, problems in life and relations, and severe irreparable damage to the body organs.

A stage comes when even after drinking a lot you’re not able to stimulate the relaxation hormones, however, you become so dependent on alcohol that you find it hard to part with.

You fall in the trap of addiction, and increase the stress levels instead of reducing them.

Drink in moderation. Resorting to alcohol as a stress relief measure is risking your life. Try to avoid it.

A girl drinking coffee which is one of the ways to reduce stress


Now, my inclusion of caffeine as one of the negative ways to deal with stress would come as a surprise to many. Why? Because like myself, I know many of you love your coffee – don’t you?

Do you know that caffeine is a regular drug?

It stimulates the central nervous system, improves concentration, increases wakefulness, and lessens stress and fatigue, which is good and helpful at times.

However, generally drinking more than three cups of coffee for long term causes harmful and unpleasant effects to your body. It may range from insomnia, irritability, upset stomach, and muscle tremors.

No wonder alcohol, caffeine, and even drugs and cigarettes help relieve stress to an extent. But their effect vanishes once the person stops drinking, taking drugs, or smoking.

Moreover, the person becomes addictive to these ways to reduce stress, and the substance abuse starts harming the body gradually behind the scenes.

Have caffeine, but within limits. Don’t use it as a stress buster because if you do so, you might unknowingly call hordes of other problems.

Woman holding bags after shopping spree as ways to reduce stress

Compulsive Spending & Emotional Eating

It is a good practice to care for yourself, and at times even pamper yourself to boost your spirits, raise your self-esteem levels and reduce the stress levels.

You can do so by shopping and gifting yourself once in a while, or splurging on high fat and high calorie food like ice-cream and junk food.

But like in most of the other cases, everything is good until it is in moderation. Things turn bad if you do them in excess and too often.

Emotionally troubled people, in an effort to try to find the way to reduce stress, begin to compulsively buy things for themselves to feel good.

They go on a shopping spree and even spend their money on things that they don’t need. Some even go to the extent of taking loans for this purpose, and eventually self-inflict financial stress in the long run.

With each purchase there’s an increase in the dopamine levels – the brain’s rewarding chemical. And when its effect vanishes then you try to repeat things to maintain your euphoric mood.

Similar thing happens with emotional eating.

Initially, eating acts as a good coping mechanism for stress. But if this way to reduce stress is resorted to every time, then there are negative health implications like excessive weight gain etc.

More so, if your diet comprises of junk food – while indulging in emotional eating, then it may lead to nutritional deficiencies, blood sugar imbalances, and further cause stress to your body and mind.

Whenever you feel you’re under stress, be on guard of overspending, and be aware of what and how much you eat. Don’t let these means become your regular ways to reduce stress.

A man watching porn on laptop as ways to reduce stress


It is a fact that for many people, mostly men, pornography is also a way to reduce stress.

This is because sexual stimulation lowers the cortisol levels, the stress hormone, and releases more of dopamine, the rewarding brain chemical.

Since porn is easily accessible, both men and women use it more often to fantasize and escape the reality of life.

However, with prolonged exposure it becomes an obsession, and porn addiction is one of the most difficult addictions to overcome.

Sex is not always the reason for porn addiction because for many it is a way to reduce stress and feel better.

Long-term porn addiction has the risk of endangering your relationship with your spouse. Relationships loose the trust and intimacy, and the partner feels disconnected.

Researches also indicate that people who engage in habitual porn suffer from a low grade depression, low self-esteem, and poor self-image in terms of masculinity. However, there are conflicting views on this issue.

Porn addiction that starts off as a simple way to reduce stress sometimes grows to derange the personalities of men and make them commit heinous crimes like rape, especially if they fall addict to violent pornography.

“Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” ~ Hans Selye

Wrapping Up

There are many other negative ways to deal with stress that people use knowingly or unknowingly like lashing out at other people, withdrawing from people and society, sleeping too much, procrastinating, or even not-eating.

Resorting to tranquilizers is not a good way to deal with stress either. Do not use them to cure anxiety or depression caused by stress for a long period as it is more addictive than alcohol.

These are all unhealthy means of seeking stress relief as either they don’t act on the root problem and have a temporary effect, or have a negative impact on your health.

The wrong ways of reducing stress can make you develop bad habits, live an imbalanced lifestyle, fill you with guilt, and further deteriorate your self-image and self-respect.

Except for self harm and trichotrichalmania, you may indulge in any of the ways to reduce stress mentioned in this post, but make sure you remain within limits and don’t get addicted. The choice is always in your hand. 🙂

“Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness.” ~ Richard Carlson

Over to you

Have you ever faced any wrong ways to cope with stress? Which were they and what did you do to avoid them? Do add more negative ways to deal with stress that one should avoid, if you know of any – in the comment below.

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  1. parul singh

    2018-05-03 at 11:43 am

    Hello Harleena,

    I read your article and found a new disorder Trichotrichalmania which I haven’t heard before.you are doing good to aware people about something which we are doing when we are stressed but we are not aware.
    keep it up and write a more informative article Like this.
    Thank you for this great informative article

  2. kuldeep dogra

    2018-05-01 at 5:40 pm

    This is a very useful article on unhealthy ways that to scale back stress that we must always avoid.
    ATQ me
    1.We should do Yoga/Exercise.
    2. spend more time with family and friends
    3.Try to find an activity you enjoy, such as walking, dancing, rock climbing or yoga.
    4 . Most Important sleep Well.

  3. swathi

    2018-04-21 at 11:14 am

    This was a wonderful article on bad ways to reduce stress that we should avoid.

    I just wanted to add my experiences with coffee. Like you and many others, I too enjoy coffee. However, from my own experiences there is a clear distinction between when I’ve drank coffee because I enjoy doing so, and am doing so with a friend for instance, compared to when I’m doing it because I’m under stress. When I’ve drank more coffee when I’ve been under pressure, although I thought it was helping, it really wasn’t because I was still tired and felt stressed.

  4. Eve Jones

    2018-04-06 at 11:11 am

    You have well quoted that ‘Our reaction to stress really matters’. As we can see, everyone is going through some kind of stress and depression and all are having similar kind of negative ways to deal with it. Although addictive ways might give temporary diversion to mind, it is very harmful to health later.

    According to me, the best way to deal with stress is taming our minds to be calm, no matter how adverse the situation is.

  5. Babu Prajapat

    2018-03-30 at 7:24 pm

    Happy you enjoyed this post and could identify with it.

    I concur with all that you specified about espresso. Despite the fact that I like some espresso and might have it with family or companions, however doing as such once in for a little while is not quite the same as being dependent on it. When we have it since we need to beat the pressure, it acts diversely on our bodies. As you said, it may give us impermanent alleviation yet from that point we are starting over. I don’t utilize it as stress reliever myself, and have only some tea or espresso toward the beginning of the day and one at night. I trust this post influences individuals to understand that there are better choices, as opposed to these awful approaches to diminish pressure.

  6. Rajitha

    2018-03-23 at 10:46 am

    This was a wonderful article on bad ways to reduce stress that we should avoid.

    I just wanted to add my experiences with coffee. Like you and many others, I too enjoy coffee. However, from my own experiences there is a clear distinction between when I’ve drank coffee because I enjoy doing so, and am doing so with a friend for instance, compared to when I’m doing it because I’m under stress. When I’ve drank more coffee when I’ve been under pressure, although I thought it was helping, it really wasn’t because I was still tired and felt stressed.

  7. Carol Newlands

    2015-07-23 at 11:31 am

    If we could only break up with stress, leave it on a corner and live a stress-free life. They say that alcohol can help you forget all your problems but when you wake up in the morning it’s still there waiting for you to solve it. You can’t run away from it instead change the way you deal with them.

  8. Kimsea Sok

    2015-06-03 at 6:38 pm

    Heleena, how are you doing…?

    It seem for long time that I quite your community blog. Today, I went through twitter and I found you tweet because you ready in my blogger list.

    Thanks for sharing, here…! It was a helpful tips for me. You know..? I got a problem with my wife, the person who I really lvoe her. We divorced almost 3 years, but I seem like yersterday to me..

    Every problem always in my mind, and it build the image of stress and pressure. However, now I could fight with those.., I think that I’m ready to move on.

    But somtime it is not really. I could sleep for whole night, and I woke up and work with blogging.

    I found that what you said here is right, Alchohol can help us to relax the stress but it all the time. Um…, I’d admit that I drink beer almost every night because I want to sleep easier.

    However, even I could sleep but I don’t that it is the best solution because my brain seem not fresh in the more next day..

    I love swimming sometimes I think that it help me for relax stress and pressure. You know..? When I feel like so stress and pressure, I swim deeply into the water till I almost cann’t paiten and I to breath.

    Then, I out of the water for breaths. I feel like lelax because the feeling like you was born again…

    Thanks, I lvoe this topic..

  9. Karthik

    2014-01-07 at 5:40 pm

    Maam,I need your help. I am stressed. I have a tendency to get attracted to porn. I do not have porn addiction right now.But I used to have it some time before. I have coped with it. But now, when I am completely stressed I feel like to watch it. I have lost my job as my company went under loss. Also , in the same period, my ex bumped co-incidently and my current left me, thinking I still have feelings for my ex, which is not true. Her marriage got fixed, now and she cannot comeback to me.All my close ones are bussy right now. The worst thing is that, my parents got to know about my ex, and they have lost trust over me. They think I am a characterless guy due to my past. This is hurting me the most. I do not know what to do. I did not cheat anybody. neither my ex(when we were in relationship), nor my recent one.My ex got married six years back. But even after her marriage, she kept telling everybody that I was like her husband(she was just girl friend. We were not legally married). I do not know how to handle this. Please help.

  10. Sana

    2013-06-21 at 4:21 pm

    Hello Harleena

    According to my research one is victim of stress because of one’s negative attitude but sometimes this stress can be cause of optimistic behavior when one do its experiment and get stress free life.

    From your post it seems that you are adept in clinical psychology.

  11. Arleen

    2013-06-15 at 4:10 am

    Isn’t it interesting how we deal with stress in an abusive way to our bodies. When I am in a stressful situation I try to walk away from the situation and think about it. We allow stress to consume us. I am now doing acupuncture and learning meditation, both are helping to cope with stress. I will also start knitting. Boy can I knock out a pattern in no time because the stress level makes me knit faster. After awhile, I start to enjoy what I am doing and let it go what is stressing me out. I am also learning that if I can’t fix it, accept it and move on.

  12. Siddhartha Sinha

    2013-06-15 at 12:56 am

    Hi Harleena,

    After reading this blogpost I came to know what are the various ways that could could reduce stress. I would one more that items like cigarette, Coffee would initially help in reducing stress but not in long run infact it is going to harm your health.

    Siddhartha SInha

  13. Vijesh

    2013-06-13 at 7:13 am

    Hi Harleena,

    wonderful information again. Hurting oneself, banging head, burning skin, not letting wounds heel, cutting with blades etc are harmful activities and I personally know few people who do these things. In my class whenever children keep biting their nails I warn them not to do because I know it is a bad habit. But in this article I came to know that it is a lower form of self-mutilation, whatever it is I am happy I don’t allow it in my class.

    Hearing this tongue twister for the first time Tri…mania and I Google for pictures and they are so terrible to watch. I wonder how people would love to pull their hair all by themselves, I think in subconscious state they won’t have the pain. I felt bit awful reading this symptom.

    Alcohol as usual its bad and its addiction will leave an impact on personal life and family. This is to be avoided for better health and long life.

    Coffee as you said is a drug as I am a Chemistry student I have read about it in my college. These drugs are good up to a level but increased or prolonged intake will lead to some problems as you have mentioned. Drinking coffee in a minimum quantity is advisable.

    Ha ha I am hearing this for first time about going for shopping can lower stress. I never heard of anyone who relieve there stress by doing excessive shopping, I would try to see if i could get such examples in my neighborhood.

    Porn its a bad way to lower the stress and the best way to come out of it is to keep ourselves engaged in some works which we love. This is having a harmful effect in youth and I agree even married people to watch it in order to lower their stress which really disturbs their married life, spouse will be disturbed by this kind of behaviors.

    Whenever I feel stressed I prefer sleeping or watching TV, sometimes I call my friend and go for a walk. Else I would talk with my parents, if I had been married may be a kiss or hug would lower my stress.

    Thanks for the article Harleena…
    Your facts always teach something and make me to think sometimes…

  14. Suhas Naik

    2013-06-12 at 5:21 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I always appreciate your ability to reach to the extreme depth of a topic. In most of the cases one would have actually written about ways to reduce stress but a fact is that people in stress need advise on the things they must not do. This article is handy in such cases.

    Because this article deals with the kind of stress that people generally have, this is a good read for everyone. I do bite nails and I am not able to get away of this habit. A fact is that I generally do not need to cut my nails to maintain them. However this is to moderate extent and whenever ever I feel kind of stress I try to divert my mind to something else.

    Few practices mentioned here are really unknown to me. I would never think of this and this article is adding to my information. Thanks for sharing.

  15. Rahul

    2013-06-12 at 9:25 am

    I think I use some of these ways quite frequently. Will try to avoid them from now on….

  16. Chery Schmidt

    2013-06-12 at 9:07 am

    Hi Harleena!

    Self Harm.. I guess I never really thought about this as a way to relieve stress, I would have never though nail biting as self harm and NO I do not bite my nails. I do file them when I am stressed though Not a bad thing Right? I can spend and hour doing so.

    When I am stressed I like to turn up the music and dance, I have been doing a lot of dancing lately HEHE

    Great Tips on what to avoid.. Thanks for sharing.. Chery 🙂

  17. Sylviane Nuccio

    2013-06-12 at 4:07 am

    Hi Harleena,

    I’m glad I finally made it here, because this subject is very interesting, indeed.

    I had never heard of the name trichotrichalmania, and I’m not sure I’ve heard of cases of people puling their hair, but I heard of birds pulling their feathers for the exact same reason – stress.

    I have an online friend who has a parrot that used to be abused and even though is now loved and cared for he is still pulling all his feathers out except for his head.

    As your post describes it well, uncontrolled stress can do a lot of damage to our body and mind. It’s very important that we do our best to prevent and control stress.

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-15 at 12:42 am

      Hi Sylviane,

      Glad you found this post interesting, and nice that you made it here too 🙂

      You’re not alone, because I too learnt of trichotrichalmania only when we had a problem within our family member and when the doctor diagnosed it as such. It was an eye-opener for all of us.

      Ah…I didn’t know of birds pulling their feathers due to stress! I guess they too undergo stress, don’t they? I feel bad for that poor parrot and perhaps being caged, unhappy, and abused are the reason for such a behavior. Glad that it’s not in the same situation now.

      We do need to find ways to avoid such stresses that harm us in more ways than one to lead better lives.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  18. Dwayne Castle

    2013-06-11 at 11:25 pm

    Harleena, great challenge to evaluate other negative behaviors. 1)Deny my faith. When I am stressed, I used to forget about my core beliefs but now I call upon my God and He helps me through and gives me peace. 2) Isolation. When I used to become stressed, it was far too easy for me to isolate myself from those who care for me instead of finding a trusted friend to share with. 3) Entertainment. Television or any other distraction to not remind me of the stress I’m facing. The problem the cause of the the stress doesn’t go away, but is compounded because I’ve wasted time in addressing the issue.

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-15 at 12:13 am

      Hi Dwayne,

      Nice to hear your ways to reduce stress 🙂

      He always does have great powers to reduce our stress levels, but only if we turn to Him. Ah…do you feel that isolation helps you to reduce stress? I guess it does work with some people and once they are alright, they are back to square one too. Oh yes…entertainment of any kind that keeps the mind away from other thoughts and worries keeps us stress-free. No worries – you can become stress-less once again 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂

      • Dwayne Castle

        2013-06-17 at 1:01 pm

        Hi Harleena… In answer to your question and to clarify, isolation is a horrible way to reduce stress. Unfortunately its exactly what many people do. We tend to stay away from the very people who could help us to “sort it all out.” Entertainment is a also a bad way to handle stress oftentimes. Ignoring problems, burying our head in the sand (or television) doesn’t address the root causes of the stress.

  19. Neamat Tawadrous

    2013-06-11 at 10:08 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    What a great and interesting post!

    My reaction to stress differs, sometimes I lash at someone, other times I overeat, other times I do not eat but the obvious and regular habit for me when I am stressed is biting my gums. It may sound strange, but that’s what I do sometimes until bleeding. I pay attention now though as I always used to have swollen gums.

    The best relief for me when I am stressed out is go for a walk with one of my kids or with my husband. When I come back and shower I feel so relaxed and recharged.

    Thanks Harleena for sharing these great advices. Have a great week ahead.

    Be Blessed,


    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-12 at 12:09 am

      Hi Nemat,

      Glad you liked the post 🙂

      Ah…I can well relate to that, and I think most of us have a mixture of some of these kinds of ways to reduce stress in all of us, though we need to avoid or keep a check on them – isn’t it? Biting gums…that’s something new I’m hearing! Hope it doesn’t hurt you though because if it bleeds it’s kind of a self-harm I think. Oh yes…besides the swollen gums it might even be hurting when you must be eating for a few days till the gums heal. I’m glad you take care of things now.

      I agree with you there, walks are therapeutic indeed, and I enjoy mine with my hubby too, though lately haven’t been on my regular ones. I guess walks charge us up to take up the whole day ahead with full swing.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with all of us. Have a nice week ahead as well 🙂

  20. Adrienne

    2013-06-11 at 9:45 pm

    Oh Harleena, those definitely are bad ways for reducing stress although I know that at times I probably haven’t made the best decisions either when things aren’t going well.

    For me I would eat, I’m an emotional eater. There was only one time though that I turned to alcohol but trust me it was the light stuff. People would have laughed if I told them I only drank wine coolers. The real hard stuff ya know but I’m not a big drinker.

    Now for me those were very very very long times ago and I’ve since then really learn how to handle stress better. I will still turn to food at times because it just gets my mind off my problems at that time. We all know though that it’s not a healthy step to take.

    Wake up call everyone, wake up call.

    Thanks for this post as always Harleena because you help us become better people.


    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-11 at 11:04 pm

      Hi Adrienne,

      Yes indeed, while these wrong ways to reduce stress do exist and most of us might even be making some of them, but if we get to know of it all and are able to do it within limits, we are still alright.

      Ah…I think you’re a little like Sue who also mentioned that she tends to be an emotional eater, somewhat like me, and a little of alcohol, which I haven’t ever had. I guess people take these to be stress relievers but don’t realize the after effects it might have on their health.

      Yes, I can understand what you mean when you say that, though if we sometimes turn towards food to relieve our stress, I think that should be alright. After all, we all need something to lessen our stress levels even though just temporarily.

      Oh yes…I do hope this post is a wake up call for those who aren’t following the right ways to reducing their stresses.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with all of us 🙂

  21. Sue Neal

    2013-06-11 at 4:30 pm

    Hi Harleena – great advice, as usual!

    I’ve been through some very stressful times in the past – at one point I resorted to comfort eating, and put on loads of weight, and there have also been times when I’ve had more alcohol than was probably good for me. I now eat a pretty healthy diet and drink very moderately and feel much better for it.

    I think one of the best de-stressers is fresh air and exercise – I find going for a walk or a jog can really help me to relax and lift my mood if I’m feeling a bit down.

    My other main stress-busters have fur and a leg at each corner – I think research has shown that owning a pet can be very good for your blood pressure and general well-being. Mine occasionally CAUSE me stress when they’re sick or misbehaving, but on balance I would prescribe a dog for anyone in need of stress relief. Ideally a big dog that needs lots of exercise, because then they’ll help you keep fit too 🙂

    Cats are good too, but you can’t take them for a walk 😉


    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-11 at 8:52 pm

      Hi Sue,

      Glad you liked these ways to reduce stress that none of us should follow 🙂

      Ah…you’re not alone because there was a time when I was in the same boat too. Weight gain and stress are related, and so is lack of sleep so as to mention. I guess sometimes even when we know of it all, we aren’t really able to find the right solution for the problems we face – isn’t it? Sometimes the solution lies right in-front of our eyes, but we can’t see it because we are so bound down by the daily rut of life and everyday chores. Nice to know that you took hold of things before they got the better of you 😉

      Your’e absolutely right – walks or jogs are great stress busters, and they elevate the mood too, which takes care for the rest of the day. Oh yes…pets are known to lower your blood pressure and stress levels, and I sure am glad I have a dog who is always around ready to give his love to us. Lol…giving us stress – that’s a good one, but I know what you mean and they do that at times. However, they are generally good and playful otherwise and I’m glad my kids are around to take care of them partially, at least for the time being till they are home. I have an aunt who has 2 huge dogs, and she DOES keep fit in the real sense because of the running around she’s to do with them. Yes, cats are very different I think, though perhaps not as emotive perhaps as dogs. I wouldn’t know much about them because I’ve always had dogs right from the day I was born, and it’s somehow carried on with me even when my kids were born – one after the other. Runs in the family 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with us 🙂

      • Sue Neal

        2013-06-12 at 2:19 am

        Ah – great to know you’re a fellow dog-lover, Harleena – they certainly make life more interesting and fun, I think – lovely for kids to grow up with dogs around 🙂


        • Harleena Singh

          2013-06-12 at 11:31 am

          I love dogs, Sue, and I’m glad even my kids take after me. They do make your lives much more livelier and lessen the stress levels. My younger one is too attached to him, and they both share a very close bond with each other. 🙂

          Thanks once again 🙂

  22. Jodi

    2013-06-11 at 3:32 pm

    I indulge in sugar when I am stressed but I am trying to only do so in moderation. Plus I watch TV. (I am talking 3 hours a week, so it is not excessive) but I love to watch a light comedy when I am stressed. My son, bites his fingers. I don’t know if it is stress or habit or both. But it makes me crazy! Thanks for this post. Sorry I always miss your posts. I depended on email notifications so when you went to newsletter I have to remember to check ahanow myself every few days. Love you still!

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-11 at 8:03 pm

      Hi Jodi,

      Ah…I do that sometimes too, though not because of stress I think but just to hike up my energy levels, and chocolates do the trick there 🙂

      3 hrs of TV is hardly anything at all. I do listen to TV more than watch it while working, though not writing, as then I really want everything to be very quiet. If your son’s biting his fingers because of stress or tension, perhaps of exams, then I guess a little of such behavior is seen in most kids too, but it shouldn’t become a habit or he’d have a tough time dealing with it later in life.

      Regarding missing the posts, well, RSS is going regularly when any post is published, so perhaps if you subscribe through it, you’d be notified as soon as a new post is published, which is every Tuesday and Friday (if my Internet connections play up!). The email notification was closed since I shifted to AWeber at the beginning of the year.

      But there are weekly newsletters with the information of the posts published in the previous recent days going out, so if you wish, you can even subscribe to them – those are sure to stay.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts with us 🙂

      • Jodi

        2013-06-11 at 10:17 pm

        I do have you on my yahoo RSS feed but it is not what I am used to. I’d have to check that just as I check your site. We always go to what we are familiar with. I am just letting you know that I still enjoy your post even though I am not there right away to read them!

  23. Cathy Taughinbaugh

    2013-06-11 at 9:01 am

    Hi Harleena,

    Stress can cause so many negative behaviors. I haven’t heard about Trichotrichalmania before, so interesting to know more about that disorder. Alcoholism and some of the other addictions certainly can be stressed based when we use these outlets to make ourselves feel better. To cross that line to become an alcoholic or drug addict, your brain is wired a little differently to be vulnerable to the disease of addiction. Sometimes people appear to be alcoholics and yet they can be heavy drinkers with similar behaviors, yet they are capable of stopping their heavy drinking. Complicated, but certainly neither are good. Thanks for sharing. Great information!

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-11 at 1:10 pm

      Hi Cathy,

      It sure can, though surprisingly most people don’t know about it. Ah…Trichotrichalmania was new to me too, and an eye-opener that we learnt about only when we faced such a problem with our relative. Or else, one doesn’t come to know of such disorders.

      Yes indeed, if the other addictions are carried on for long or if we think they are relieving our stress, we are wrong as they can cause us more harm than we can imagine. I agree with you there, though both, alcoholics and heavy drinkers do cross their limits as they don’t realize what they are heading for – yet feel they drink to relieve stress. I guess the choice always lies in their hands at the end of the day – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  24. Donna Merrill

    2013-06-11 at 5:12 am


    This is wonderful! I am glad you brought some of these things to people’s attention. Lots of folks don’t realize that nail biting comes under “self harm” I used to be a nail biter a long time ago, but quit that one habit.

    I must say I do have a coffee addiction. I do realize that it causes so much harm. I just can’t shake it yet! When under stress, I go for coffee. But I’m quite mindful about it. I’ve cut down a lot, but those stressful days, I do allow myself to buzz. The irony is I know that it has an opposite reaction that causes more stress! Grrrrr


    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-11 at 1:00 pm

      Hi Donna,

      I’d been reading a lot about how and what all people do to reduce stress, but rarely does anyone write about the bad ways to reduce stress that some people follow.

      Yes, nail biting and hair pulling are things that people do when they are stressed, though don’t realize the harm is does to their bodies.

      I agree, most of us are coffee addicts but if we know of it’s side effects and have it in moderation we are safe. I’m glad I just have a cup of either tea or coffee in the morning, and one in the evening. Yes, when stressed or when we want to keep awake, we do feel that coffee will do the trick and it might, though just temporarily, but after that what happens – we all know. Perhaps choosing lemonade or some juice or even green or lemon tea is a better option. I guess trying it out might help us in the long run 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts 🙂

  25. Hiten

    2013-06-10 at 9:57 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    This was a wonderful article on bad ways to reduce stress that we should avoid.

    I just wanted to add my experiences with coffee. Like you and many others, I too enjoy coffee. However, from my own experiences there is a clear distinction between when I’ve drank coffee because I enjoy doing so, and am doing so with a friend for instance, compared to when I’m doing it because I’m under stress. When I’ve drank more coffee when I’ve been under pressure, although I thought it was helping, it really wasn’t because I was still tired and felt stressed. These days I don’t drink coffee at all as a stress reliever, because of the unpleasant feelings associated with doing so.

    Thank you.

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-10 at 11:14 pm

      Hi Hiten,

      Glad you liked this post and could relate to it. 🙂

      I agree with all that you mentioned about coffee. Even though I like my cup of coffee and might have it with family or friends, but doing so once in awhile is different from being addicted to it. When we have it because we want to overcome the stress, it acts differently on our bodies. As you mentioned, it might provide us temporary relief but thereafter we are back to square one. I don’t use it as stress reliever myself, and have just a cup of tea or coffee in the morning and one in the evening. I hope this post makes people realize that there are better alternatives, rather than these bad ways to reduce stress.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  26. ARPAN

    2013-06-10 at 4:57 pm

    Thank’s for very interestng and creative list….

    Hopefully i m only addict of Caffine from this list ……
    After reading this post i will surely readuce the number of cups of coffeee….

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-06-11 at 12:45 pm

      Hi Arpan,

      Glad you liked this list of ways to reduce stress that we shouldn’t follow 🙂

      I guess everything in moderation is alright, and if you can change a few things, it would be better for you in the long run.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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