Why Is a Mother Child Bond So Special
Like me, I’m sure you also agree that a mother child bond is one of the most precious relationships in a family.
This Mother’s Day is a great opportunity for reflecting on a mother’s love for her child.
I know most of you, including fathers and sons, can’t deny the bond between a mother and her child.
But do you know what makes this mother child bonding so special? According to me, it’s a mother’s love for her child. Wouldn’t you agree?
A mother’s role in child development is special because mothers feel with their hearts like no one else does in the family. Her love is selfless and true, I would say.
“The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.” ~ Honore de Balzac
The mother child bonding is so strongly cemented with the mother’s love that the child continues to feel it even when he or she is living far apart.
As most of you know I lost my mother to cancer a few years ago. She was my pillar of strength, and though she isn’t here, yet she’s always deep within me and is my guardian angel. But I do miss her…
With Mother’s Day just round the corner, as it’s celebrated in most countries on 12th May, how could I not write about a mother’s bond with her child – because I strongly believe and feel it too.
This post is dedicated to my mother and to all you mothers out there – because YOU are special. And even if you aren’t a mother, I’m sure you can relate to it because you all have or had a mother.
Let me share a touching story of a mother child bond that I’d read years back, but it’s still fresh in my memory.
Perhaps some of you might have read it too, but for those who haven’t, here is its summarization.
Story of a Mother Child Bond of Love
Tom’s mother had just one eye. He hated her because she was an embarrassment to him. To support the family, his mother cooked for students and teachers.
Tom remembers the day when during elementary school his mother had come over to say hello to him. He was embarrassed and thought – how could she do this to me?
He ignored her, gave her a hateful look, and ran out.
The next day at school one of his classmates started teasing him and said, “Hehe…your mom has only one eye!” Hearing this, Tom just wanted to bury himself.
Tom wanted his mom to disappear somewhere. He confronted her that day and said, “If you are only going to embarrass and make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?”
His mom didn’t respond, nor did he stop to think for a second about all that he’d said because he was in a bad temper. He was simply oblivious to her feelings.
Tom never really valued the mother child bond of love that most children do.
He wanted to move out of the house and have nothing to do with his mother. So, he studied really hard and got a chance to pursue his education in different cities.
Thereafter, Tom got married, bought a house of his own, had kids, and was happy with his comfortable life.
One day, the mother child bond of love compelled his mother to go and visit him. She hadn’t seen him in years, nor had she ever met her grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, Tom’s children laughed at her, apparently because she had only one eye.
Tom yelled at his mother for coming over uninvited. He screamed at her and said, “How dare you come over to my house and scare my kids! Get out of here! NOW!”
To this, his mother quietly replied, “Oh, I’m so sorry – I think I might’ve gotten the wrong address.” Saying this, she went away.
This mother’s bond with her child was obviously much stronger, which the son didn’t value.
A few months later, Tom received a letter regarding a school reunion, and he decided to attend it. This required him to travel to the city where he grew up and where his mother lived.
After the reunion, just out of curiosity, Tom went to his old house – his mother’s cottage. There the neighbors told him that she had died a few days ago.
He didn’t shed a single tear – how could he as he never felt close to his mother. Nor did he ever value the mother child bond of love his mother had for him.
The neighbors handed Tom a letter that his mother wanted him to have. This is what was written within –
“My dear son,
I think of you always. I’m sorry that I came uninvited to your house and scared your kids.
I was happy when I heard you were coming over for the reunion, but I may not be able to get out of bed to meet you. I’m sorry to be a constant embarrassment to you in your growing years.
You see, when you were little, you had an accident and lost your eye. Being a mother, I couldn’t see you grow up with one eye. So, I gave you mine.
I never told you that because I didn’t want to make you feel guilty or obliged. I was always proud of my son who was able to see a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
When I read this story, I felt sad and amazed at the same time. How did you like this story of a mother’s bond with her child?
Did it move you as much as it moved me? Now, that’s what I would call a great example of a mother’s love for her child.
Lessons Learnt From the Story
A mother child bond remains powered by the mother’s love even if the child is not able to understand it. Mothers do so much for their children, which the children only realize with time.
The special thing about a mother’s love is that it never ends, lessens, vanishes, or fades away – even if there’s no reciprocation. That’s what I’d call another form of real true love – isn’t it?
This story of a mother child bond teaches us to value, love, and respect our parents because they are never going to be with us forever.
You might not know all that your mother sacrificed for you, because she might never talk of such things. But now it’s your turn to thank her for all that she’s undergone and done for you.
Here’s a lovely song for you that is sure to touch your heart, and I do hope you enjoy it. 🙂
A Mother’s Love’s A Blessing ~ Majella ~ YouTube Video
If you wish to read more about what makes your mother so important – don’t miss out on this post >> Why Mothers Are Special People.
Okay, let’s be honest and think of this – how much of time are you really able to spend with your mother, or how much do you listen to what she says?
I’m sorry if you lost your Mom just like me, but just as she’s with me – she’s also with you in spirit. I try to pay tribute to my mother by trying to be a good mother to my children.
For those of you who are fortunate to have your mothers with you, this Mother’s Day, gift and pamper your mother with all that you like, but don’t forget to gift her your time, which she will value most of all.
“A mother’s love’s a blessing, no matter where you roam.
Keep her while she’s living, you’ll miss her when she’s gone.
Love her as in childhood, though feeble, old and grey.
For you’ll never miss a mother’s love, till she’s buried beneath the clay.”
~ Thomas P. Keenan
So, if you who haven’t been able to reach out and connect with your mom, or even dad for that matter – do so NOW! It’s never too late to show them you love and care for them.
Happy Mother’s Day everyone!
Over to you –
What makes your mother so special? Are you planning anything for Mother’s Day, or how are you going to make it a special one for your Mom? Why do you feel that a mother child bond is special in a family? Let me know in the comments below.
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