Why Is a Mother Child Bond So Special

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A picture of mother child bond of love

Like me, I’m sure you also agree that a mother child bond is one of the most precious relationships in a family.

This Mother’s Day is a great opportunity for reflecting on a mother’s love for her child.

I know most of you, including fathers and sons, can’t deny the bond between a mother and her child.

But do you know what makes this mother child bonding so special? According to me, it’s a mother’s love for her child. Wouldn’t you agree?

A mother’s role in child development is special because mothers feel with their hearts like no one else does in the family. Her love is selfless and true, I would say.

“The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.” ~ Honore de Balzac

The mother child bonding is so strongly cemented with mother’s love that the child continues to feel it even when he or she is living far apart.

As most of you know I lost my mother to cancer a few years ago. She was my pillar of strength, and though she isn’t here, yet she’s always deep within me and is my guardian angel. But I do miss her…

With Mother’s Day just round the corner, as it’s celebrated in most countries on 12th May, how could I not write about a mothers bond with her child – because I strongly believe and feel it too.

This post is dedicated to my mother and to all you mothers out there – because YOU are special. And even if you aren’t a mother, I’m sure you can relate to it because you all have or had a mother.

Let me share a touching story of a mother child bond that I’d read years back, but it’s still fresh in my memory.

Perhaps some of you might have read it too, but for those who haven’t, here is its summarization.

Story of a Mother Child Bond of Love

Tom’s mother had just one eye. He hated her because she was an embarrassment to him. To support the family, his mother cooked for students and teachers.

Tom remembers the day when during elementary school his mother had come over to say hello to him. He was embarrassed and thought – how could she do this to me?

He ignored her, gave her a hateful look, and ran out.

The next day at school one of his classmates started teasing him and said, “Hehe…your mom has only one eye!” Hearing this, Tom just wanted to bury himself.

Tom wanted his mom to disappear somewhere. He confronted her that day and said, “If you are only going to embarrass and make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?”

His mom didn’t respond, nor did he stop to think for a second about all that he’d said because he was in a bad temper. He was simply oblivious to her feelings.

Tom never really valued the mother child bond of love that most children do.

He wanted to move out of the house and have nothing to do with his mother. So, he studied really hard and got a chance to pursue his education in different cities.

Thereafter, Tom got married, bought a house of his own, had kids, and was happy with his comfortable life.

One day, the mother child bond of love compelled his mother to go and visit him. She hadn’t seen him in years, nor had she ever met her grandchildren.

When she stood by the door, Tom’s children laughed at her, apparently because she had only one eye.

Tom yelled at his mother for coming over uninvited. He screamed at her and said, “How dare you come over to my house and scare my kids! Get out of here! NOW!”

To this, his mother quietly replied, “Oh, I’m so sorry – I think I might’ve gotten the wrong address.” Saying this, she went away.

This mothers bond with her child was obviously much stronger, which the son didn’t value.

Few months later, Tom received a letter regarding a school reunion, and he decided to attend it. This required him to travel to the city where he grew up and where his mother lived.

After the reunion, just out of curiosity, Tom went to his old house – his mother’s cottage. There the neighbors told him that she had died a few days ago.

He didn’t shed a single tear – how could he as he never felt close to his mother. Nor did he ever value the mother child bond of love his mother had for him.

The neighbors handed Tom a letter that his mother wanted him to have. This is what was written within –

“My dear son,
I think of you always. I’m sorry that I came uninvited to your house and scared your kids.
I was happy when I heard you were coming over for the reunion, but I may not be able to get out of bed to meet you. I’m sorry to be a constant embarrassment to you in your growing years.
You see, when you were little, you had an accident and lost your eye. Being a mother, I couldn’t see you grow up with one eye. So, I gave you mine.
I never told you that because I didn’t want to make you feel guilty or obliged. I was always proud of my son who was able to see a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
Your mother.”

When I read this story, I felt sad and amazed at the same time. How did you like this story of a mothers bond with her child?

Did it move you as much as it moved me? Now, that’s what I would call a great example of a mother’s love for her child.

Lessons Learnt From the Story

A mother child bond remains powered by the mother’s love even if the child is not able to understand it. Mother’s do so much for their children, which the children only realize with time.

The special thing about a mother’s love is that it never ends, lessens, vanishes or fades away – even if there’s no reciprocation. That’s what I’d call another form of real true love – isn’t it?

This story of a mother child bond teaches us to value, love, and respect our parents because they are never going to be with us forever.

You might not know all that your mother sacrificed for you, because she might never talk of such things. But now it’s your turn to thank her for all that she’s undergone and done for you.

Here’s a lovely song for you that is sure to touch your heart, and I do hope you enjoy it. 🙂

A Mother’s Love’s A Blessing ~ Majella ~ You Tube Video

If you wish to read more about what makes your mother so important – don’t miss out this post >> Why Mothers Are Special People.

Okay, let’s be honest and think of this – how much of time are you really able to spend with your mother, or how much do you listen to what she says?

I’m sorry if you lost your Mom just like me, but just as she’s with me – she’s also with you in spirit. I try to pay tribute to my mother by trying to be a good mother to my children.

For those of you who are fortunate to have your mothers with you, this Mother’s Day, gift and pamper your mother with all that you like, but don’t forget to gift her your time, which she will value most of all.

“A mother’s love’s a blessing, no matter where you roam.
Keep her while she’s living, you’ll miss her when she’s gone.
Love her as in childhood, though feeble, old and grey.
For you’ll never miss a mother’s love, till she’s buried beneath the clay.”
~ Thomas P. Keenan

So, if you who haven’t been able to reach out and connect with your mom,  or even dad for that matter – do so NOW! It’s never too late to show them you love and care for them.

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

Over to you

What makes your mother so special? Are you planning anything for Mother’s Day, or how are you going to make it a special one for your Mom? Why do you feel that a mother child bond is special in a family? Let me know in the comments below.

 

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  1. Mohinder Verma

    May 9, 2015 at 7:44 pm

    This entire post is remarkable and I have bookmarked this post to show to my family members due to some personal problems we are lacking the bond among all. Sorry to write my emotions here publicly but I am totally fed-up with the ongoing worst situation.

    However I am strong enough but all other are not as strong as me and that breaks me only.

    Thanks Harleena for sharing such a wonderful and heart touching post.

    Mohinder Paul Verma
    BloggingFunda – A Community of Bloggers

  2. jatin

    May 17, 2013 at 10:08 pm

    As much as i like your story and blog but i simply disagree with your views on mother’s love.

    My bio mother abandoned me when i was a kid and i was raised in an orphanage .
    I don’t think mother’s love is unconditional because of my personal life experiences.
    What i have learned “Any women can give birth but it takes a mother to raise her baby” and my bio mother don’t fit in this definition.
    She carried me for 9 months but abandoned me when i was a kid.

    The only person who has ever loved me unconditionally is my “Wife”.
    She is the only person who has ever loved me without judging me. I cannot walk ( paralyzed below down the waist due to accident some years ago) but she always remain with me.I told her to go away and don’t ruin her life with me but she never did.

    She take care of me without expecting anything in return and as much i loved her for it ,i feel guilty because i cannot return that same kind of love and support because of my physical disadvantages.
    She always say ” I don’t want anything but love from you”
    We are together for 15 years. She is a godly woman.And i don’t know how much i love her. Its indescribable

    I don’t know who my mother is nor i want to know.I hate her.

    I appreciate your blog but there are so many mothers who abandon their own kids daily like my mom .
    I hope you don’t take my post personally. I just wanted to tell you that even though i never got love from my mother but there is a person who means to me more than anyone in this world and that is my “Wife”.

  3. usha menon

    May 14, 2013 at 9:32 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I am a first time visitor to your site. I must say I am very much impressed by the story. Even though I had read it earlier, it brought tears in my eyes. Harleena I am a mother of two and grandmother of four teenage grand children. I can proudly say that my children and grand children are really adorable. They all love me. It is only their undiluted love which is keeping me alive. I had Breast cancer surgery ten years ago. Now I am in my late seventies, L enjoy every moment of my life because of loving care of my family. On mothers’ day they gifted me so many precious things including scents and lipsticks( they believe I must use them at even at this age)I was overwhelmed. God bless them.

    • Harleena Singh

      May 14, 2013 at 10:39 pm

      Welcome to the blog Usha!

      Sorry that the story moved you to tears, though my intention was only to create awareness about the mother child bond of love. I guess all of us had a touching moment reading the story 🙂

      Nice to know more about you and your family. Yes indeed, there can be nothing better than to love and be loved, and being with your own loved ones is truly a blessing- isn’t it?

      I strongly feel that it was the love of your dear ones that pulled you through breast cancer and is enjoy these golden years of your life. Oh yes…when we were kids, we also felt our grandma should use all the things she used to earlier – you never grown old unless you think you do 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with us. 🙂

  4. Harleena Singh

    May 12, 2013 at 10:23 pm

    Hi Mayura,

    Yes, I do miss my Mom most on this day, though I know she’s always with me and guiding me right through 🙂

    Such stories do touch us and make us feel more for our mothers because they do so much for us and love us unconditionally. Mothers bear a lot and the sacrifices they do for their kids cannot be compared to anyone, though sadly kids don’t value or realize these things till it’s much later in life or too late as in Tom’s case, who I wonder realized it at all or not.

    I know the mother child bond of love that both you and your Mom share is a beautiful one, and I’m sure your Mom must be so proud to have you as her son. Oh yes…mothers have to keep a check on their kids and discipline them too, which gets annoying for the children, though later they realize that it was all for their good – isn’t it?

    Ah…I thought you were home? Hope you are near by though, or perhaps left home for work. Yes, nothing can replace a mother’s love and the loving home where parents are there. Not missed her food even though you were away – that’s great! That’s all because she stores all those goodies for you and gives them when you return – so sweet. 🙂

    It’s all of these thoughts and feelings that matter, and even if they are small, they do touch our heart and make us feel loved – isn’t it? Absolutely! Mothers are special and so is their love for their children, which is totally selfless I feel – they are awesome! I miss mine…

    That’s right – just being with her and giving her your time, love, and attention is the best gift you can give her this Mother’s Day and any day in-fact, as it’s a sure way that will make her a happier person for sure. Yes, nowadays kids have their own life and remain busy in their routine work, and often neglect their parents or can’t find time for them. Parent never complain and are often understanding enough, but it’s our duty to ensure we make time for them.

    I miss my Mom too, and I know she is always with me. I just hope I can be a little like her to my kids too, that would be my biggest tribute to her as such. 🙂

    Thanks for stopping by leaving such a warm and lovely comment as always. Wishing you a very Happy Mother’s Day as well 🙂

  5. Mayura

    May 12, 2013 at 5:01 am

    Hi Harleena,

    Sorry to hear about your mother and I believe she always looking at you and guiding you dear 🙂 Mothers will never ever leave us.

    Beautiful post and indeed a touching story 🙂 I’ve heard it once before but everytime, it makes me feel about mother’s love. All the time I hear such stories, I wonder how come a person don’t feel his/her mother’s love. However in all such stories, mothers are very innocent and silent 🙂

    If you ask me, my mother and father are completely different characters. Mother is always been my heroine and the role model 🙂 I don’t think there’s any love I can compare with.

    Sometimes, mothers can be annoying 😀 lol… No, not at all. But that’s how a child feels when she always checking on his safety. I felt it too. But as I grow up, I got to know what’s it about.

    Leaving my home is killing me 🙂 Actually the best place to be is where my mother is Harleena. I think I used to feel that way due to her love. She never express it, but I feel it 🙂

    I was away from my home for few years due to my higher studies. But I come home at least once a week (I can’t miss my home :D). Can you believe that I’ve never missed any special food made by my mother though I was away for few years?

    She stores my portion about 4 – 5 days and serves when I’m back home. I mean, it’s not about food 😀 lol… But it just amaze me as she could share my portion among my siblings as I was not with them when she makes it. Sometimes need more effort to preserve some food. One simple example for her love 🙂 Simple things always matters.

    As you mentioned, though there is no reciprocation, she never ever give up on her children. Mothers are true givers 🙂 I know one thing for sure Harleena. Mothers sacrifice anything for their children no matter what. They are the ones existing in this World with super powers 🙂

    What’s the best I can do for my mother? I believe it’s being with her all the time Harleena. I’ve seen mothers living alone where they can’t see or reach their children. I know, they never blame their children either.

    My mother was with me all the time. I’m secretly happy ’cause she’s around me always. Like that, I believe she loves when I’m around her too 🙂 I hope you will agree there as a loving mother, but I know, you never expect it ’cause you value the happiness of your children.

    Happy Mother’s Day and have a wonderful weekend Harleena 🙂

    Cheers…

  6. Carolyn

    May 11, 2013 at 7:34 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Thanks for sharing this special gift with us on Mother’s Day. I know that you will be remembering and honoring your mom on Mother’s Day as you do every day!

    I also lost my mom, though it was when I was young. I feel, as you do, that she is still with me and is my guardian angel.

    About 10 years ago, my sister and I started following a Korean tradition of having the favorite meal of our mom’s on the anniversary of her death to honor her. Somehow, having her favorite dinner seems to bring a sense of peace to the day that was missing before.

    Having daughters of my own, I understand the true bond of the mother/child relationship. My mom told me before she died that I wouldn’t understand how much she loved me until I had children of my own. She was right. That bond is incredibly strong, as you said so eloquently here, Harleena!

    • Harleena Singh

      May 12, 2013 at 8:59 pm

      Hi Carolyn,

      Glad you liked this post, which I thought would be apt to share this Mother’s Day. Yes – I do miss my Mom that I’m sure you do too, today and everyday 🙂

      I know as we share the same feelings, though we are lucky to have our Dad’s with us. Our Mom’s are so much with us, and I do feel I get better by the day because she is around me – guiding me in more ways than one. So, all the more reason to thank her – isn’t it?

      That sounds like a nice tradition in honor of your Mom, and I guess such ways make us feel closer to the ones we’ve lost. We too have a small prayer ceremony at home on her death anniversary and remember her fondly.

      Oh yes…the mother child bond is something we now understand being mothers ourselves. But yes…there are moments I wish my Mom was around to really guide me as I know I would have been much better as a mother. Miss you ma…

      Thanks for sharing your feelings with us. Happy Mother’s Day to a wonderful Mom 🙂




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