Understanding the Role of the Father in Child Development
What could be the role of the father in child development, many would ask?
With Father’s Day just round the corner, I thought this would be the right time to share about it with you.
If you’re a parent, you very well know that parenting is a tough job. And to do it single-handedly is even tougher.
There are many single mothers who try to fill up the void created by the absence of fathers to fulfill the role of the father in child development.
However, there are married women too who try to do the same because the fathers in those families make no difference as they don’t realize the importance of their role.
But the scenario isn’t always all that bad because there are also many fathers who understand their importance and play the role of the father beautifully for the development of the child.
So, we’ve three kinds of families with different types of fathers, and any research will spot out the difference in the development of the child in each of these families.
This post is for all mothers, whether single or married, non-involved fathers, involved fathers, and even those young men who are about to or will become fathers in the near future.
Once aware and educated about the importance of being a father, every man can be a good father so that his children would be proud of him.
On Father’s Day, here’s my tribute to all wonderful fathers who make a difference to their children and their lives. It’s to tell them that they are ALL special.
“Fathers, like mothers, are not born. Men grow into fathers and fathering is a very important stage in their development.” ~ David Gottesman
Importance of a Father
Whether fathers realize it or not, but they’ve the potential to influence, develop, and make a difference in the life of their child.
That is why the role of the father in child development can never be underestimated.
Research studies reveal that the importance of a father, his love and contribution is as important as that of mother’s, in the complete development of the child.
It doesn’t mean that mother’s are no good! Many mothers, especially single mothers are raising their children and seeing to their overall development.
Mothers are special people, and their role is of utmost importance, but a father is no less. An involved father can take care of his children as well as a mother would do.
I know of many father’s who are single-handedly taking care of their children, and they are doing wonderfully – hats-off to them!
If you’ve read my earlier post about my father, you’d know how much he influenced my life. He has been my ideal and my hero, and I’ll always be grateful to him for all that he did, and still does for me.
After my mother passed away more than a decade back, he took up the dual responsibility of being a father as well as a mother with dedication and grace.
To date, he makes sure we’re on the path of progress and is always there whenever I need him as my pillar of strength – I love him 🙂
My father is important for me and made a difference in my life. I know the importance of a father. What about you?
As a father, do you play your role in your child’s development?
“It is a wise father that knows his own child.” ~ William Shakespeare
The Role of the Father in Child Development
No doubt the father’s role in child development has changed in the previous decades in many cultures and countries.
A father was once only supposed to be the bread winner, a protector, disciplinarian, and the undisputed authority or the head of family! However, things have changed with time.
Presently, just like a mother, a father too needs to play many roles for the proper development of his child and to be a better parent.
This increases his importance for the child, and in the family.
It has been proven that as a father, you have a direct impact on the healthy development and well-being of your child.
If you’re an involved father, you make a huge and significant difference in various aspects of your child’s character and personality, and foster his or her overall development.
“Nothing I’ve ever done has given me more joys and rewards than being a father to my children.” ~ Bill Cosby
The PERFECT Father
To be a father, you need to be an all-rounder. You need to do anything and know everything. Just kidding. 🙂
I shouldn’t pressurize you with so many requirements, but yes, the kids do have such high expectations from their father. Their father is their hero – their Superman!
Though it’s not easy and possible for anyone to be perfect, but you can surely adopt the PERFECT formula to play many roles of a father in your child’s development.
Here is the PERFECT father acronym created just for you wonderful fathers. 🙂
P – Protector
E – Educator
R – Role Model
F – Friend
E – Entertainer
C – Counselor
T – Trainer
Here’s the complete description of all the important roles that you as a father need to play for your child, because without these your child’s development is incomplete.
“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” ~ Sigmund Freud
As a father, you need to provide complete protection to your child – in the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects.
By doing so, you protect the body, mind, heart, and soul of the child from any harm or dangers.
Besides these securities as a father, you have to provide financial security and material support too.
You also need to let your child know that you’re there for him or her, anytime and anywhere so that he or she feels secure and fearless.
You might not realize it, but a child needs to feel secure from within and that’s where the importance of a father and his role comes in.
By playing the role of a protector, provider, and a nurturer, you fill the child with self-confidence, and feelings of security and stability that help create the right environment for the child’s development.
As a father you need to teach the right personal values and principles to your child.
You need to take care of the following –
- Impart the values as relevant to your family, society, and country so that it helps your child in personal and social development.
- Teach your child to face the world, and learn to be happy in life.
- Teach your child to be disciplined and well-mannered.
- Teach them the way they should carry themselves so it’s conducive to their development.
- Use your authority, but effectively, so that it has positive consequences. More than punishments, you need to reward good behavior.
By playing the role of an educator, the father creates feelings of self-worth in the child that motivates the child to develop himself or herself.
As a mother or a father you’re always under observation, and your children watch you ALL the time.
They make a mental note of all you say and do. So, you need to be careful of what you talk, and how you act and behave.
As a father, you need to maintain your composure, be responsible, and model yourself exactly as what you’d want your child to do.
The role of the father in child development helps the child to take the right path and destination.
As a father, a healthy friendship with your child helps you and your child to stay away from a lot of trouble. By being a friend, you’ve better chances of preventing your child from going astray.
You’ve to set boundaries so that your child doesn’t take you for granted and continues to respect you.
At the same time, your child should be comfortable to share his or her feelings, experiences and thoughts with you.
Your child shouldn’t feel hesitant to ask or disclose things, which only happens once you bond and connect with him or her.
By playing the role of a friend, you can guide your child in the right direction and help create a positive and encouraging environment at home.
Being a father doesn’t mean that you always have to be strict, or be a disciplinarian. Fathers should be fun to be with. They need to be loving, and should learn to be enjoy being with their kids and family.
Fathers are usually more involved than mothers in physical play that requires more of energy.
As a father, you should be a good playmate to your child, and indirectly encourage his or her social and emotional growth.
While playing, not only does a child build muscle, flexibility, fitness, and better mind-body coordination, but a child also learns about following rules, being independent, sportspersonship, and the spirit of perseverance among other things.
Celebrating, entertaining, and playing also help you develop a good rapport with your child as a father.
So your child also opens up, share things, and builds an emotional bond with you.
The role of the father in child development as an entertainer helps the child to develop freely and motivates him or her to reach greater heights.
As a father, besides being a friend to your child, you also need to be his or her counselor, philosopher, and guide.
You need to –
- Tell your child all about life that you’ve learnt yourself.
- Be able to sense if something’s wrong with your child, or know if he or she needs any kind of help.
- Talk with your child and direct him or her to make the right choices, and take the right path in life. Gain the trust and faith of your child so that they seek your help when in need.
- Be the problem solver for your child.
- Teach the problem solving skills to your child so that he or she can deal with the obstacles to his or her growth and development.
As a father, you’re your child’s coach – a life coach that takes care and responsibility of training the child to face all problems in life and solve them on the go.
You teach your child how to make decisions and act on them, so as to make the child responsible, self-reliant and ready to face the challenges of life.
Your job as a trainer is to impart all skills and techniques so that your child can excel in life.
While playing the role of a trainer, you also act as a coach, and teach your child to have discipline in all aspects of life. After all, discipline and hard work are important components of success in life.
These values and skills definitely help foster the true and complete development of the child.
The role of the father in child development IS important.
As a father, I hope you, and all existing or would-be fathers realize their own importance and what difference they can make directly to their child, and indirectly to the world.
All a father needs to do is love his child unconditionally. A good father-child bonding results in better intellectual, mental, and emotional development of the child.
A well-developed child will spread positivity, carry the light of peace and success to the next generation, and help make the world a better place.
“Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a Dad.” ~ Unknown
Mothers and fathers have their own styles of parenting and roles to play. They’re different yet important, and it’s best when they raise their kids together.
A father cannot completely take the mothers place, nor can a mother cannot completely replace the father herself.
Importance of a father or a mother in a family cannot be denied. I can vouch for that as I’ve seen my father, and now I see my husband who is yet another wonderful father to our children.
Your child needs both, the father and the mother in his or her life. If you are single, doesn’t matter – you have the goodness of both parents within you.
Here is a lovely song and video that I’d like to dedicate to my father, and I’m sure many others would like to do the same.
Teresa James ~ Dad, You’re My Hero – Tribute from a daughter to her father ~ YouTube Video
“The greatest gift I ever had came from God; I call him Dad!” ~ Unknown
Wishing all of you a very Happy Father’s Day!
Over to you –
As a mother, do you think that fathers play an important role in the family? If you’re a single mother, have you ever felt the absence of the role of the father in child development? Being a father, how do you evaluate and associate yourself with the PERFECT roles of the father? For unmarried men – what lessons do you take away from this post? Do share in the comments.
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