Rekindle Love in Marriage in 10 Practical Ways

How to re-cherish and revive your marriage

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couple hug each other to rekindle love in marriage

Have you observed that romance seems to fade away at some point in most marriages?

As discussed in my earlier post on why does a bad marriage happen, people have revealed that the physical intimacy couples once had decreases with time.

They also confessed that they no longer verbalize their love as much as they used to. Can you relate to such revelations and confessions?

Let’s be frank and honest here – most of you, including me, need to rekindle the love in our marriages because we all face the ups and downs in our relationships – don’t we?

Ever thought of how to rekindle love in marriage that was there once upon a time?

Since love is the bonding element and an essential aspect of a working marriage, you need to find ways to arouse the love again in your marriage.

You need to start romancing again like the old days to revive the love and passion, and to repair and strengthen your bond of marriage. Does it seem difficult?

Well, don’t worry because married couples can rekindle love in marriage that they might have lost over time in easy and practical ways, though it requires co-operation from both partners.

“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” ~ Tom Mullen

Ways to Rekindle Love in Marriage

Although there are many ways of rekindling love in a marriage, but I’m sharing just a few of them. While I’ve tried some of these restorative ways, some I still need to. They are –

1. Plan a date night

If you haven’t done it yet – start setting up date nights with your partner. You could take turns to plan the dates. Surprise each other with some activity to rekindle love in your marriage.

You don’t have to spend lots of money and buy expensive gifts. Remember, small things matter. So, even a candle light dinner in your backyard or in a quiet place can be a date night.

If life’s demands force both of you to put your marriage last in the list of your priorities, then there’s all the more reason to deliberately plan a date and make time for it.

You could plan to go out together once a week or once a fortnight, to just getaway.

Remember to have fun and be creative, just as you did and were before you got married. Bring back the love in your marriage – only you can do that and no one else.

2. Be attractive

Your partner didn’t marry you for your brain or wealth, but for what you’re and how you looked – isn’t it? You did get into a relationship because you both felt physically attracted towards each other.

So, it’s important to keep looking good for each other even after you are married – for years to come. I’ve always seen my parents as a living example, because they always lived for each other.

In most of the cases affairs and adultery takes place when one of the spouse stops taking care of themselves, and either becomes obese, and unattractive.

This makes the partner compare his or her spouse to another, outside their marriage.

Temptation works! So, it’s important that both the husband and wife should continue to look good for each other to rekindle love in marriage.

3. Don’t take your partner for granted – Tell your spouse you love him or her

I’m sure most of you are guilty of this one!

How many times do you express your love to your spouse? How many times do you really say those 3 magical words – I love you? Be honest! I forget so many times, I admit! How about you?

I think most couples take each other for granted and feel that once they are married, it’s alright not to keep telling each other how much I love you as it’s understood. How wrong can they be!

When you first dated, you couldn’t wait to spend time with each other, and looked forward to being with one another. You worked on your relationship – didn’t you?

This attention made your spouse feel loved and special.

You need to express your love more often to your spouse after marriage by telling them how much you love them. How can you do that? Here are a few simple ways –

  • Send them emails, or cards without any occasion – just to make them feel special.
  • Talk to them as often as you can, tell them you miss them and want to be with them.
  • Try messaging that, “I can’t wait to get home and be with you,” or “I’m thinking about you,” to your spouse during the day.
  • Or write love notes around the house that your spouse can find around the house like a romantic treasure hunt!
  • Discuss about your day, and ask about how their day was – this is something that most couples don’t do? Am I right?

It becomes all the more necessary to let your partner know you love them, every single day so that they feel assured, and it does feel good to hear these words too – doesn’t it?

Don’t fall into the trap and say, “I don’t have to tell him/her, he/she already knows, or I don’t have time to tell him/her I love them.” To tell your spouse you love him/her is the greatest gift you can give them.

So, if you haven’t been telling them that – go on and say it now, it’s never too late! Don’t let that spark fizzle off! Rekindle the love in your marriage by saying these magical words and watch the difference.

4. Don’t be snarky

If you’ve been criticizing or abusing each other in your relationship, then it’s likely to suffer and might even lead to a breakup.  Agreed everyone makes mistakes, but that doesn’t mean you behave the way you do!

That will only push your spouse further away from you, which makes it harder to feel close – leave alone get intimate or make love to each other.

Instead, do things that please your partner. Try to become best friends with your spouse.

Say words that make your spouse feel good, like – “You’re looking beautiful tonight” or show your gratitude by saying, “It’s so nice of you to have brought me this gift – I love it.” (even if you feel differently!)

According to research, happy couples make five times more positive than negative statements about each other – no wonder they have better sex too. I hope you appreciate and compliment your partners!

5. Touch more often

You won’t believe it, but a simple touch has great powers. So, touch often, and you can do that by simple things like holding hands when you walk or sit.

Simply take turns and hug each other, put your arms around each other, or wrap around each other when in bed at night. You can instantly feel the love and warmth with the touch.

Two good reasons for doing this – first, the spouse receiving your affection isn’t tempted to look for love elsewhere.

Second – the spouse giving the affection conveys to other spouse stealers that you are happily married – so stay away!

You can stop many affairs in a relationship and adultery from happening when you publicly express your affection towards your spouse.

By touching your spouse many times a day you acknowledge their presence, and it’s one way of showing them how much you love them. If you haven’t been doing it – get started now!

6. Rediscover sexual pleasures

Another way to rekindle love in marriage is to try different ways, position, and place of sex, instead of the same boring routine sex you might be having.

There’s an ancient Indian saying that connotes that don’t make love to different men or women, but make love to the same man or woman in different ways to keep the love alive in marriage and pacify the temptations of adultery.

The Internet is full of great ideas if you’ve run out of them. It doesn’t have to be just about sex, even kissing and fondling do wonders.

Fantasy sex is one aspect that can rekindle love in marriage and help the person deal with any unfulfilled sexual desires.

Such desires could tempt you or your spouse to seek resources outside the marriage if they are not attended to or resolved within your marriage and with your partner.

So, be the secret passionate lover that resides in your spouse’s heart and mind.

Try being more sensuous, sexy, and romantic with each other, and bring back the passions of fire that were there initially.

Married couple lying on ground and holding hands to express love

7. Make an effort to have fun together

You all lead busy lives, and while you are busy at work and rushing through life, your spouse might be busy handling the home front and kids. Such is life, and we all have to live it.

But that shouldn’t stop you from having your share of fun with each other because you need to create that time to bond with each other and get intimate.

You could try any of the following ways, or get creative and add more to this list –

  • Spend a night, just the two of you, in a motel. Get someone over to take care of the kids, or drop them over at your parents.
  • Dine out at your favorite restaurant, or just go to any joint to eat out.
  • Take a class together to learn something new like dance or new language.
  • Cook a romantic dinner for the two of you – as you would’ve before marriage.
  • Take a vacation and move out leaving all your work behind, just the two of you!

Remember, you need to do something out of the ordinary to make your boring and monotonous life, interesting and lively once again.

You need to rekindle love in marriage and bring back the passion that once was, if it’s not there now. Rediscover what excites you or your spouse and do those things. Become a love teacher once again!

Marriages that are successful are never boring. Got more ideas to share – let me know in the comments below!

8. Always keep your channels of communication open

Being couples, you need to keep talking and discussing things with each other. I see many couples stop doing this because they get so busy in their daily chores and work. What happens then?

The connectivity that once was seems to disappear. It happens with me many time when due to some reasons I cannot get across to my husband either because he is busy, or I am involved in work.

It seems like we are strangers living under the same roof, until we realize this fact and work towards creating that ‘us’ time, which is SO important in all marriages. Does it happen with you too?

You need to do things to emotionally connect once again with each other.

Some small things like, helping your spouse in the housework, getting kids reach for school, help in the garden, or just about anything that helps you connect and talk better with each other.

Don’t forget to tell your spouse what you like or don’t like romantically. Couples should express what they like, how they feel, and what they think their partner wants.

9. Break the rules – Do something unexpected or out of the ordinary

Most couples tend to lead a boring life or do things that are predictable. For example, you know what time your spouse will come home for dinner, so you have it all laid in time.

You know when he or she will leave, so your breakfast is on time, or you know when he or she will go to sleep, so you close the lights and sleep as well. But you don’t have to do that!

Try doing something unexpected, and unpredictable. Surprise your spouse by dressing differently, having something unexpected laid out when he or she returns from work – that it wows him or her.

Anything works as long as it rekindles the love in your marriage.

10. Be what your spouse wants you to be

Every person has an image of how their ideal partner should be. Try to get into the mind of your spouse and know what he or she fantasizes about.

You can even talk, walk, and dress like what your spouse dreams of his or her ideal partner or lover.

This may require you to do things that are unusual for you, but doing so brings happiness to your spouse, and that’s what really matters in a marriage – isn’t it?

By doing so, you keep the fires or passion burning alive and rekindle love in marriage once again. I liked The Passion Plan that helps rekindle love in marriage and would help you bond better.

“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.” ~ Elizabeth Barrett Browning

husband and wife clink juice glasses and share happy moments

How You Can Rekindle Love in Marriage

If you know things aren’t going right in your marriage, or you feel unhappy in your marriage – do something about it. Remember, marriage is like fire, if you don’t stoke the fire, it will go out.

You need to keep the fire and passion in your marriage alive by talking and being with each other, making time for romance, without any ifs and buts.

All of us have to work hard for a living, but isn’t your family and marriage the very reason for you to work so hard? You cannot neglect one for the other, instead, balance out your time to devote to both.

That’s why I’m taking a break, which I always do at this time of the year – it’s our annual summer vacation trip and we all are traveling as a family.

I’m sure this break would help me plan on rekindling the love in my marriage as well as spending quality time with my family. How about you – when are you taking your break?

Thus, if I don’t respond to comments immediately, or am a little late in visiting your blogs and sharing your posts, I’m sure you’d understand why 🙂

“Grow old along with me. The best is yet to be.” ~ Robert Browning

If there are problems in your marriage, talk them out and commit to change what’s in your hands. Focus on the positive goals and limit the complaints.

Remember, that learning how to rekindle a marriage is about recollecting the little things you used to do when you were in a relationship, or when you had just got married. You need to get back right there.

I strongly feel that the love between married couples rarely disappears. Instead, the feeling of love just hides behind the feelings of anger, abandonment, neglect, resentment, and loneliness.

You can rekindle love in marriage if you are willing to do the work – are you? Then what are you waiting for – go ahead and tell your spouse how much you love him or her 🙂

Over to you

Do you feel the love in your marriage is missing or seems to have fizzled off? What ways would you suggest to rekindle love in marriage and bond better with your spouse? Share in the comments below.

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  1. ian

    February 27, 2016 at 6:50 pm

    Hi Harleena, thank you for the amazing advice. I just wish I had seen it sooner as my wife has just told me she wants a separation.
    We have agreed to give it a few months and see how we feel then. It is possible that we may start going on dates and seeing how it goes.
    In the meantime, do you have any suggestions of what I can do and say to make it more likely she will be more responsive to my advances when the time comes? I dont want to mess things up again because I dont do or say the right things. Many thanks in advance for any advice you can give to me and anyone else in my situation

  2. Vernon Layne

    November 15, 2014 at 4:31 am

    Hi Harleena,

    I think all of these are great and would definitely rekindle love in marriage. Date night is huge for me and my wife. We have a date whenever we can because of the swing shift I work. Sometimes it’s no more than going to the book store together.

    The next on our list would be what we call “The Touch.” We started doing that before we were married. Sometimes when I see she’s not having a good day and instead of offering her solutions, I just give her a gentle touch to let her know I’m there for her.And she does the same for me.

    Great tips for marriage!

  3. Robert Pierce

    February 27, 2014 at 5:07 am

    Very good article. My wife and I became into this situation and I didn’t realize what I was doing wrong over the years. I have done everything you describe (before I found your article) and it might have been too late. It has had zero affect on her feelings. The feelings are gone. Perhaps she is blocking them. We are currently separated so she can “figure herself out and see what she wants” but this article is dead on. Guys, do these things on a daily basis before it is too late.

  4. Sharky Liu

    June 11, 2013 at 9:22 pm

    Hello Harlena,

    Yes I agree that it is important to stay attractive even after marriage. Take time to take care of our physical appearance and not become obese or unattractive. I know this is kinda hard to do especially when the couple have children but I’m sure it’s achievable. For women, maybe you can go to a salon at least once or twice a month. Pamper yourselves ladies. And for us guys, well I think a weekly visit to the gym will do us good.

    • Harleena Singh

      June 11, 2013 at 11:16 pm

      Hi Sharky,

      It sure is, though for some people as they age, it’s alright to accept each other as they are, so it all depends from partners to partners. 🙂

      I agree, it is achievable even when we have kids, though most people stop taking care of themselves and put on weight. However, I think that their spouses, in most of the cases, accept them as they are – don’t they? I guess with age and maturity the appearances don’t matter much to many, while for others it does. Oh yes…visiting the salon or parlor should never stop as that’s mainly to tone your skin and yourself, which anyone can do. Even men and women, both should maintain themselves, by exercises and walks, even if they can’t reduce the weight at times. Doing that much in itself is a great achievement I’d say.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂

  5. Mary Stephenson

    June 8, 2013 at 7:22 am

    Hi Harleena

    Ah, so you are getting a lot of feedback on #10…I do get exactly what you are saying and it is sometimes needed.

    It will be 47 years in July…that seems like a heck of a long time! There have been times that I would have wanted to walk out but didn’t have anywhere to go other than leave the country and go back home. That was not an option I wanted to do, so I stuck it out through the tough times and it does take work. It is never happily ever after.

    Probably what kept us together other than me having no good alternative, was that he was always more in love with me than I was with him. (No secret to either of us.) But what we did do was become really good friends. We are each others cheerleader and this is a big key into making the marriage work.

    I think many quit so easily when things get tough, because they never dreamed it would at times hurt. We are all human and we make stupid mistakes and are inconsiderate at times and even self-centered at times also. It must be difficult for someone to really love us all the time.

    Not having the same likes and dreams can cause a lot of friction in a relationship. We both love cats, want to move to the country, love crafts, love to window shop or go to trinket shops, hate sports, like a lot of the same TV programs, we both like most of the same food. Don\’t have many disagreements, we go for a walk everyday, he helps with the dishes and yard work. We grocery shop together. If I need him to help me or take me somewhere he is eager to do so.

    Sure we could work some on your list, and I mean really work some on your list. But it is work to keep a marriage alive.

    Great post.

    Mary

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 11:03 pm

      Hi Mary,

      Yes indeed, the last point surely is getting a lot of feedback – and am glad you could relate to it 🙂

      Your marriage is an absolute example for all of us because it’s not easy being married for that long nowadays when some marriages don’t even last for more than a few days. You would be the best person to guide us all and throw more light on this matter.

      I agree with your there – we all sometime or the other have those ‘walk-out’ phases when the going gets tough – but we don’t. We stay through it all and cope with things. We learn to manage our relationships and work to get things better in our marriages – but as you mentioned, it does take a LOT of effort, work, and most importantly – will-power to make things work, isn’t it?

      That’s wonderful indeed to know that he loved you more, and eventually it is your friendship and being together that really makes it all work. You are SO right – we are all humans and we all commit mistakes, but to accept each other for as and who they are is what really matters. Sadly though, this is where most marriages crumble because the acceptance isn’t there.

      Absolutely! Not having similar likes or dislikes can be another reason for the drift, though there are many marriages that carry on with no similarities in either of their interests – I wonder how they manage though. I loved your list, which shows that it’s not all about the likes or dislikes, but about how you do things together and that’s all that matters to keep you bonded and connected I think.

      Ah…I don’t think you need to really work on anything from this list as you are way beyond and managing beautifully to keep your marriage so alive and fresh. Yes, you are working towards and making an effort that is showing results.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your pearls of wisdom with us. 🙂

  6. Janet Stephenson

    June 7, 2013 at 9:18 pm

    Beautiful and timely post, Harleena!

    When I was married, we could have used these tips before we grew so far apart that we couldn’t remember why we married each other in the first place.

    I have often felt that complacency is the biggest danger to married couples – your guide helps to overcome that, even if you’re in the midst of apathy toward your partner.

    Have fun with your hubby – he certainly is lucky to have a partner who is committed to keeping things fresh!

    Janet

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 10:43 pm

      Welcome to the blog Janet – nice to have you over 🙂

      Ah…I wish you could’ve used these tips when you needed them the most. I guess some things aren’t just meant to be, and perhaps there is a time for everything too – isn’t there?

      I do hope this post helps people overcome their problems in their marriages and relationships. Oh yes…I sure intend rekindling the love in my marriage by trying out most of these ways myself, more so, because we are going for a family holiday 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  7. Karen Jolly

    June 7, 2013 at 7:56 pm

    Harleena – what fantastic points! I’ve been married 31 years now (where did the years go!) and everyone of these points is SO important. Keeping the spark in your love life is a vital piece of who we are – it’s easy to get lazy and fall into ruts. But if we want a wonderful relationship it takes putting the love spark into it every day – it’s not work…it’s pure JOY!

    xoxo
    Karen

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 10:31 pm

      Hi Karen,

      Nice to know that you liked these points shared on how to rekindle love in marriage 🙂

      Wow! 31 years, just like a few others who have been married that long – commendable indeed, especially when you have marriages breaking every second day. Yes indeed, it’s so easy to fall into the daily rut of life and get carried away with other things that come in-between couples. I agree, it shouldn’t be us trying to work at our relationships, but we should be happy to put back the spark into it on a daily basis, though it’s rare in most cases I guess.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  8. Vishnu

    June 7, 2013 at 10:13 am

    Your blogs are awesome, your topic are very interesting, i am a geeker , i don’t know much about relationship love and all ,but i enjoy your blog because it help me in understanding relationship.

    i also have some personal question that i want to discuss with you.

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 10:20 pm

      Hi Vishnu,

      Thank you for your kind words of appreciation, and it’s nice to know that you enjoy my posts here 🙂

      I do hope that you gather more knowledge from these posts that would help you in your relationships and marriage later in life.

      Please feel free to ask anything you wish to, and if I can, I’d surely try and help you.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂

  9. Adrienne

    June 7, 2013 at 7:35 am

    We need to call you the “Love Doctor” Harleena. You always give such wonderful advice when it comes to love and relationships. Rekindling the love in a marriage is a topic I’m sure a lot of couples need to absorb.

    I went to Nashville a few weeks ago to my nephews high school graduation as you know and an old friend was there. She informed me that she and her husband of 38 years were divorcing. That made me so sad that couples aren’t willing to do the work to make the marriage work. That’s a long time together with kids and grandkids to call it quits. Of course in their case like a lot of couples, he strayed outside the marriage and she was past the point of even caring anymore. I can’t say what I’d do in that type of situation but I would not tolerate cheating at all.

    Luckily for me I don’t need any of this advice so at least that’s a good thing.

    Appreciate you sharing this wonderful topic and I only wish most couples didn’t need to read this. Unfortunately there are probably more that do then don’t.

    Hope you’re still enjoying yourself.

    ~Adrienne

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 10:16 pm

      Hi Adrienne,

      Ah…Love Doctor! That’s a nice compliment I must say, though I feel I learn a lot many things every single day about my marriage and relationships – so I myself am still a student 🙂

      Yes indeed, I think this post on how to rekindle love in marriage is something most people could relate to, and I loved to hear all they had to say, which was quite similar to what I shared because each one is either already following these way or they are learning more about how to work on their marriage, and these tips would help them rekindle the love that might have faded with time.

      Yes, being married for 38 years is a long time indeed, and then to think of a divorce when you have kids and grand kids – it’s all too sad. I wish they would instead worked things out, so that their remaining years would be spent together because it’s more at an older age that you need each other.

      Ah…straying out of marriage is a major reason why couples split, and if he did that while they were together, she has her valid reasons I guess. Or if he strayed because of their problems, then she needs to realize this fact and they both need to make an effort to make things work. But it all comes down to IF they are really ready to rekindle love in marriage at all or not.

      You surely are lucky to be away and free from all of these things. I also hope and pray most couples don’t need to go through these way, but being married myself I know we all need to go through this list once in a while and bring back that love.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views. I sure am having a nice time with my Dad presently, before we head towards the hills for another few days, when I might not have any access to the Internet – the real get-away 🙂

  10. Bren

    June 7, 2013 at 4:57 am

    Hi Harleena!

    I think we all hit rough patches here and there but most importantly, we need to know how to continue through those rough patches and continue to grow. It’s happened in my relationship and I work at trying to make it better while the hubs does nothing. I’m sure a lot of marriages are like that to an extent, one realizes there’s an issue and tries to work on it while the other stays in denial.

    However, I still believe you can overcome and rekindle some of what was lost. I believe a couple needs to have the ups and downs in order to grow stronger in a relationship, that is, IF the couple just doesn’t take the easy way out and end the relationship.

    Awesome post Harleena. I’m so glad I bookmarked it so I could come back, reread, and comment.

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 10:03 pm

      Hi Bren,

      You are absolutely right! Which marriage doesn’t have problems, and which couple doesn’t go through the ups and downs of life? But what matters most is that you overcome those challenges by staying together and working things out. Yes, if things are out of hand, it’s a different matter, otherwise – talk out and resolve issues, rather than taking the easier way out of parting way.

      I can well understand what you mean. Yes, sometimes the efforts to make things work are only one-sided, which I feel is only half the effort to make a marriage or any relationship work. And in most of such cases the trying can sometimes become tiring at the end of the day, when a person might just give it all up. Oh yes…a lot of marriages are like that for sure 🙂

      I agree with you there that things aren’t lost if you feel there are things lacking in your marriage, or if it’s not like good old times. You always have an option of rekindling the love in your marriage and make it work for you – the choice is always in your hands at the end of the day. Yes, we do need the co-operation of our partner also or it gets tough.

      Oh yes…the spice in life remains when you have a little up and down in your relationship because that’s what develops a deeper understanding of each other at the end of the day.

      Thanks for stopping by and adding more value to the post. I’m so glad you bookmarked it and came back again – I appreciate that. 🙂

  11. Anna

    June 7, 2013 at 12:20 am

    Awesome blog post!

    I must say you are right on point. I have been married for 32 years and what is written here is much needed advice! Too many marriage our failing when all that is needed is to rekindle it.

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 10:01 pm

      Hi Anna,

      Glad you liked these tips on how to rekindle love in marriage. 🙂

      Nice to hear that you’ve been married that long, which I feel is a great achievement. I guess you’d be the right person to throw more light on this subject and guide the rest of us. Yes indeed, marriages need to be rekindled first before taking the easier option of ending them – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  12. Anne

    June 6, 2013 at 11:51 pm

    Well said, Harleena.

    These are very good points for rekindling love in marriage. It’s so easy to become complacent when the kids, the mortgage, the bills etc come between you. We always have to remember our love for our partner and never take them for granted.

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 9:16 pm

      Hi Anne,

      Nice to know that you could relate to these ways to rekindle love in marriage 🙂

      Absolutely! It’s mostly these other small things that come in-between the love a couple shares, and all of this happens so slowly that one really can’t make out how it starts having an affect on your relationship and marriage.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂

  13. Barry Wells

    June 6, 2013 at 10:25 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    These are fantastic tips that every married person should read.

    It’s my 24th wedding anniversary in August and we’re happier now than we’ve ever been.

    It hasn’t always been that way and I did once ask for a divorce (in temper), we’ve had our rough patches and worked through them. A big step in doing so was that I realised that even though I had lots of “friends” it was always my wife that was there for me when I fell over, (had problems).

    It was always my wife that was by my side, helping me over whatever issue i was facing at the time and my fair weather friends were no-where to be seen.

    Since then I’ve shown her how much she really means to me and tell her how much I love her on a regular basis.

    We TALK to each other now and make decisions between us.

    I try my hardest to never take her for granted and always offer to help her whenever I can.

    I’ve also left the notes everywhere and they go down well 🙂

    Thanks Harleena, hope you’re well.
    Barry

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 9:08 pm

      Hi Barry,

      Glad you liked these tips and could relate to it. 🙂

      That’s awesome indeed! Being married for 24 years is a great achievement I think, and congratulations for reaching this stage in an age where every second person is finding reasons to separate or part ways.

      I agree with you there – there are ups and downs in all relationships, but we don’t just break bonds because of those. Instead, we have to learn to work our way around with deeper love and understanding, if they aren’t. Yes indeed, no matter how many family and friend’s we might have, it’s always our spouses that we go back to and they are the ones always there supporting us through thick or thin. Sadly though, few of us really appreciate this fact and often tend to take them for granted.

      It’s so nice to see you talk so fondly about your wife, which again very few husbands really would do openly. I’m sure she would appreciate you so much if she saw how you felt about her, though I’m sure you must be leaving no stone unturned to express your feelings towards her.

      Ah…a husband who is always ready to help and doesn’t take her for granted would be every wife’s dream, and I’m glad my hubby falls in that category too. Love notes work well too, though been a long time since we used them ourselves.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences with us 🙂

  14. Cathy Taughinbaugh

    June 6, 2013 at 9:20 pm

    Great suggestions here Harleena.

    I like No. 8- Always keep your channels of communication open. When you communicate in a clear way, it is much easier to work through any issues that might come up. Your list is a keeper for anyone looking to have a happy marriage. Take care.

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 8:39 pm

      Hi Cathy – nice to have you back 🙂

      Absolutely! I think if couples don’t talk or communicate, they can’t really proceed further in their relationship tips because they won’t be able to express their feelings and emotions, which are so important in any relationship. I do hope these way to rekindle love in marriage help people in more ways than one.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views with us 🙂

  15. Hiten

    June 6, 2013 at 3:21 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    What a wonderful post and it has given me some amazing advice for what to do to ensure I rekindle love in my marriage, once I do get married.

    I’ve also bookmarked this one for future reference (I have quite few of your posts bookmarked for the future!) for when I’m married.

    You summed it up brilliantly when you said that the love is always there between husband and wife. However, it can get hidden by the layers of unhelpful emotions, which arise when the couple forget to do, or neglect to do the things you described in your post such as making time for each other, looking good, touching, communicating etc.

    Have a wonderful break with your family, Harleena! You really do deserve a good break. I’ll probably take a holiday in September or October.

    Take care and catch up with you soon. 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      June 9, 2013 at 8:30 pm

      Hi Hiten,

      Nice to know that you could relate so well to the post 🙂

      I’m sure you’d keep your marriage life and fresh and wouldn’t have to use these ways to rekindle love in marriage.

      That’s so sweet of you to have bookmarked the posts on marriage, and I do hope they help you whenever your time comes, which I hope is soon 🙂

      Oh yes…love always remains I strongly feel, but it does get camouflaged with the little problems spouses face. Some partners can’t take it all up and give up too soon, while others live it through thick and thin, which is how it should be. I think everything can work out well enough if both partners spend time in loving and understanding each other better, and the ways mentioned here are a few ways they can easily do that.

      Thank you so much Hiten, and I sure am having a nice time with my Dad presently, before heading for another small break to the hills when I think I will have no access to the Internet – the real get-away 🙂

      Ah…September and October are nice months with a lovely weather our end too. Hope you have a nice break that time, which I feel you too need.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  16. Annie Andre

    June 6, 2013 at 3:01 pm

    Such practical advice Harleena but so many of us don’t even follow the simple tactics to keep your marriage on fire. Myself included. One of the things I insist on with my husband is to have a date night every week. All the rest seems to fall into place.

    • Harleena Singh

      June 7, 2013 at 2:48 am

      Hi Annie,

      Yes indeed – though these are such easy and simple ways to rekindle love in marriage, how many of us really make the effort to reconnect with each other? Like you and so many others, it includes me too 🙂

      I agree with you – if we can manage a get-away time together or a date night, everything WILL fall into place on it’s own. I just wish that happens, though we have to make an effort to make things work – isn’t it?

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the post 🙂

  17. Martina Mariu

    June 6, 2013 at 5:18 am

    Such powerful tips Harleena, as always – Date night is a great one as well as making time to have fun together (I guess these kind of overlap?) I also like the one about keeping communication lines open for sure!

    Thanks for sharing…

    • Harleena Singh

      June 7, 2013 at 2:43 am

      Hi Martina,

      Glad you liked these tips to rekindle love in marriage 🙂

      Yes, date nights work well and if you can manage to have fun during such times it’s great, or else taking a break or get-away is a nice way to bring back the good times in your relationship.

      Communication is of course vital in any marriage or relationship, without which nothing really works.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views 🙂




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Rekindle Love in Marriage in 10 Practical Ways

by Harleena Singh time to read: 10 min