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How to Rise Up Every Time You Fall

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Have you ever failed? If you’ve not, then did you at any time feel dejected or down and out?

I’m sure you must’ve faced situations in life where you felt like you cannot make it or you are no good.

Sometimes I also get such feelings – the fear of failure sets in my mind and it becomes difficult to overcome this mental block.

Have you ever experienced the same?

What do you do when you feel you cannot rise up after falling, or where you feel helpless and your efforts prove fruitless?

You begin to believe that you cannot ever rise up. Well, some of you even decide to quit. Isn’t it?

I’d say in such cases you need to take heart from the people who’ve been successful. And you need to make this as your motto: “Winners never quit and quitters never win.”

You may also find this earlier post of mine pretty useful:

>> How to Not Fear Failure

You’ll read all about failure and how to deal with it. Also, you’ll learn how you should treat your failures and convert them into stepping stones to success.

However, in this post, I want to emphasize on the fact that you also need to be smart, besides working hard to overcome failures.

The key to success and rising up lies in your preparation, hard work, belief in yourself, and being smart.

“Before anything else, preparation is the key to success.” ~ Alexander Graham Bell

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The Success Secret

The key to success is to keep trying without fail. I remember when I was small; my teacher narrated an example of an ant that would make uncountable attempts to climb a wall.

Eventually, it was successful. So, if an ant can do it, why can’t you?

This example stuck in my mind forever and each time when I’m unsuccessful, I get more charged up to find other ways to be successful.

Sometime ago, I was approached by a blogger who was just frustrated with her blog. No matter how hard she worked on her blog, it all proved to be ineffective.

What went wrong and what was she missing?

Probably, she did not really understand what it takes to be successful.

I told her a secret that I’ve often used in my own life, whether it is regarding blogging or facing other problems in life.

“Fall Seven Times, Stand Up Eight.” ~ Japanese proverb

a gambler showing his key to success an ace in sleeve

The Key to Success : Keep an ACE up Your Sleeve

I’ve seen movies where gamblers keep an ace up their sleeves and use it cleverly to win their game.

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Though I neither mean to promote gambling in anyway, nor encourage you to cheat, but I think we can draw an analogy because we sometimes play the role of a gambler in real life.

This is in context to taking calculated risks and daring to do things differently. And, being smart (without cheating) is essential to win the game of life.

So, how can you be smart and what’s the ace that you have up your sleeves like the tricky gamblers?

I won’t keep you guessing, so here’s the secret ACE:

A – Accept

C – Change

E – Explore

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” ~ Michael Jordan

Accept

The first step to solving any problem is to accept that there is a problem. Similarly, if you’ve been unsuccessful, you need to accept that fact rather than being defensive or getting into a denial mode.

Acceptance opens the door to improvement and chances of rectification of the problem that stand in your way to be successful.

If you could not be successful after trying to make all the efforts, it either means that you’re going wrong somewhere or you’re not competent enough, apart from other probable reasons.

You need a re-analysis or re-assessment, and then you need to accept your shortcomings. You’ve to come up with a plan to overcome these obstacles.

Remember, that if the river meets a boulder on its course – it doesn’t stop flowing. Instead, it changes its course – and the flow of the river carries on.

Similarly, if there’s something that you cannot achieve even after repeated attempts, then you need to change yourself or your approach.

Once you accept that your approach or way of dealing was wrong or ineffective, then only will you try to change or choose other better ways.

“There are two ways of meeting difficulties. You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself to meet them.” ~ Phyllis Bottome

Change

The solution may not require you to change yourself or your ways completely. But you need to do that in some ways, and you’ve to make efforts to know exactly in what ways.

You need to analyze the problem and your strategy. Try to use your logic and common sense to find a pattern of failure, if there’s any.

Spot out your bad habits that might be one of the causes of your downfall or failure. Make an effort to change your habits and adopt the good habits required to be successful.

You need to be dedicated, highly motivated and determined, besides being courageous and self-confident. If these qualities aren’t there or fully developed in you till now, then work on them.

Of course, you also might need to change your attitude – that makes a hell of a difference. You might need to change the ways of how you react to certain situations or things to be successful.

Changing your ways, methods or strategies might solve your problem. You need to be optimistic and keep trying out new things.

Change yourself to make yourself competent. If there are certain criterions of success that can be improved upon in order to be successful and to rise up, then you need to explore and learn them.

“It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure. ” ~ Joseph Campbell

Explore

Learning has no age and no end either. You need to keep exploring the opportunities that will help you to be successful. Knowledge is power – change your life with knowledge and experience.

Keep finding new ways and be innovative in your approach. Remember that successful people are not different but they do things differently.

If you need to learn new skills to secure your chances of being successful then go ahead and learn them, even if it requires you to join some course or attend workshops.

There’s no better guide to being successful than your competitors and the one’s who’re on the top – “If they can do it, you too can.”

You don’t only have to adopt this motto, but get on to observing and analyzing them. Find out what they did, which you didn’t – to be successful.

It’s not necessary that what works for others will work for you, but you’ll surely get the basics right, and you can configure the details yourself thereafter.

How easy it is to solve a problem when you have a solved example of a similar problem before you – isn’t it?

In the same way, you’ve successful people before you who’ve most probably been on the same path as you. Treat them as the solved examples and solve your problems by learning from them.

Explore your inner self and the outer environment. Help yourself with all the information and tools that you find, which will help you craft your way to success.

You can create your life options for success. It’ll help you overcome the obstacles in life and achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself.

These are your keys to success that you can use anytime and anywhere. They’re ALWAYS in your hands.

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” ~ Herman Cain

If you’ve ever failed and need motivation, then watch this video and get inspired! Even if you haven’t, it will boost you up!

This is How Winners Are Made ~ YouTube Video

Don’t fear failures – treat them as opportunities for improvement and stepping stones to your success. Failure is your friend, if you know how to treat it well and learn from it.

Tides rise and fall.

You’ve similar tides in your life – it’s a natural process that helps you test and evolve yourself. Enjoy the roller coaster ride of your life with grace and dignity and never lose heart.

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” ~ Vivian Greene

Remember that every time you fall, you can rise up stronger. All you need to is to try and be smart every time.

Next time when you feel down and out, know that you’ve an ACE up your sleeve and you can use it anytime to try to win the game.

With the ACE approach, you can drop the thoughts of quitting and increase your chances of winning. I repeat – always keep this in your mind – winners never quit and quitters never win.

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” ~ Nelson Mandela

Over to you –

Did you face any down times in your life when you felt like quitting? What secret key to success did you use to overcome your fear of failure? Share your thoughts and views.

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  1. Jenn McKay

    August 30, 2015 at 8:22 am

    Hi Harleena! Another great post 🙂

    ACE is a great acronym for facing failure. I think the story of the ant is a wonderful visual. One thing I remember being told about change in respect to overcoming failure and achieving success, is that it takes bamboo five years of growing below ground before the shoots appear above ground.

    For me, one of the barriers of taking chances that may result in failure is the time it will take to get where I want to go if my first, second, third attempt does not work. But this hesitation of mine is resolved in the acceptance part of your solution! I have learned to accept, through the bamboo analogy, that things take time, and that it’s okay for things to take time. My capacity for patience with myself has grown exponentially over the last few years because of my focus on changing my perception of failure from a loss to that of stepping stones.

    What an inspiring post!!

    Jenn

  2. Ankur Agrawal

    August 30, 2014 at 11:17 am

    Hi Harleena,
    Every person feels down or blue at some moments in their life, the strongest thing that makes me stand is The INTENSE DESIRE TO GET GREAT THINGS OF LIFE. Whenever I feel down, I lay down on the floor in my terrace, look to the sky and think about the life, the things which I always desire. And that triggers a current of energy in me and makes me stand again.
    Success do comes when a person continues to persevere. As “You don’t fall off a bicycle, untill you stop paddling.”

  3. Dee Ann Rice

    July 31, 2013 at 9:46 am

    Harleena,

    I think the fear of failure paralyzes many people to the point that they are never successful and in reality always failures. That is so funny to say but I really believe it is true.

    In order to overcome failure we have to address our fears at our very core. We have to admit we have them, face them and then move past them.

    All of this leads to never quitting or giving up.

    Great post on failure and rising above it. I have been there and I hope that I am moving past it now.

    Thanks for a great post.

    Dee Ann

  4. Sonal Kalra

    July 17, 2013 at 3:22 pm

    As it is said most of the time that there is no shortcut to success and failures are the only learning tools that can possible take you in the right direction.

  5. Sam Adeyinka

    July 16, 2013 at 10:05 pm

    Absolutely resourceful! This is called “Indomitable Attitude”. What I learned; Accept, Change, and explore. This key are really important in our journey of success. The story of the ant is really elucidative! Thanks Harleena, you are the best!

  6. Samir

    July 16, 2013 at 2:41 pm

    Wow Harleena!

    You found a quote for everything I have ever thought about success and life in general 🙂
    When I saw this:
    “There are two ways of meeting difficulties. You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself to meet them.” ~ Phyllis Bottome

    I thought at least someone agrees with me.

    When I saw this:

    “It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure. ” ~ Joseph Campbell

    I thought – Hey! that’s what I was thinking a couple of days ago!

    When I came to this:

    “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” ~ Vivian Greene

    I started thinking something was weird!

    But the last quote from Nelson Mandela rid me of the notion of your mind-reading abilities 😛

    I consider success to be the ability to learn, not achieve something. The moment you stop learning, your life is worthless.

    Just think about it… We come across phenomena at every instant, but once the instant passes the only thing we have left is what we learnt.

    So, your life is the summation of all you have learnt!

    Thanks for the amazing post Harleena 🙂

  7. Gary Boardman

    July 15, 2013 at 9:00 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    This post is excellent. Every failure or setback is a lesson to help us succeed as Adrienne mentions we only fail if we quit.
    I like the quote “fall seven times , stand up eight”.

    It is important that we have goals and the correct attitude toward failure that gives us that persistence to keep on keeping on.
    As Thomas Edison was quoted “I have not failed, I have found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. These setbacks led him to find a way that did work by the process of elimination.

    This post will be an inspiration to many people for many years.
    Thank you for sharing.

    Gary

  8. Adrienne

    July 12, 2013 at 3:04 am

    I use to say that I’ve failed at a lot of things Harleena but then I kind of looked at it a different way.

    To me failing is only if I want something bad enough yet quit before I either figure it all out or on the brink of a breakthrough. Failing is just part of it so as long as we don’t quit we’ll continue to learn.

    I think that’s really the whole process and as you very nicely pointed out here in your post, we have to keep that ACE up our sleeves.

    Things change and even evolve so sometimes we quit something because we realize maybe it wasn’t right for us at that time, we just thought it was what we wanted.

    I love that video by the way, I’ve shared that one a few times myself and how appropriate for this post. By the way, I hope you were able to help that person with their blog and get them to understand exactly what it takes because you and I both know it’s so rewarding.

    Thanks so much for this wonderful advice and hope your week has been a good one.

    ~Adrienne

  9. Rupak

    July 11, 2013 at 11:48 am

    Hi Harleena!

    I was just going through your previously written articles and happen to pass by it. I do feel dejected when something seeming very easy for others become difficult for me. I feel inferior because I’m not able to stand by them. But I can pat on back that I never give up on anything easily. I think positive thinking can help a lot to reinvigorate the same zeal and enthusiasm one had before failings. Nice points to ponder at. Aesthetically summed up!!!!!!

  10. Theodore Nwangene

    July 10, 2013 at 7:35 am

    A very great and inspiring piece Harleena. I don’t always believe in failure. I know that failure do exist but, i always see it as success in disguise.

    That you failed at something doesn’t mean you’re a failure, it only means that you’ve not succeed yet and, its time to get right up and try again.

    So, i think the secrets is to always try and find that which motivates you and then, keep pushing and before you know it, success will be yours :).

    Thanks for sharing this with the community.

  11. Nate Leung

    July 10, 2013 at 5:19 am

    Hi Harleena,

    This is a great post, I agree its very important to rise above and don’t let failure bring you down. The only way one will succeed is to have the drive to do so. When you fall just pick yourself back up and try again. Keep up the good work this is an article everyone should read.

  12. Donna Merrill

    July 10, 2013 at 2:31 am

    Harleena,

    You have done it again. I’m inspired!!! I had to play that video twice because it was so encouraging.

    To me, failure doesn’t mean stop and do something else. Instead it means what did I do wrong? Or even what is going on inside of me that I need to fix.

    I strongly believe it is an ongoing process of learning. Now, I have recently purchased an IPhone after making so many excuses why I didn’t need one. But after hearing myself make those excuses a red flag went up in my head … Why? Answer: I just didn’t want to do another learning curve. So I went out and purchased one.

    Now don’t laugh, but I did take a course with Verizon (My carrier) in order to learn how to use this darn thing. Came home, tried to apply what I learned, but only learned half. So I went back and took the same course again. I won!

    From this, now I can do my banking, answer emails, and so much more as I download an app at a time and master it.

    Yes, I fail and fail over and over again, but when I do determination rises and I must conquer! I wasn’t always like this, but learned how to be.

    So Failure isn’t a stop sign at all, but a positive challenge.

    Awesome post!

    Donna

  13. Neamat Tawadrous

    July 9, 2013 at 9:00 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    Great post on how to rise up when we fall.

    Falling down or failing is inevitable in life. We are not always on the top of our game. Things do go wrong sometimes and not according to what we planned for it. It’s easy to stay motivated when everything’s going well. But our plans don’t always go smoothly.

    These days, I am going through some uncertainties in life with my business and the sickness of my little one and stress all around and I needed to read your post today as I was really feeling down with lots of other things contributing to my state of mind and believe me sometimes I consider giving up thinking maybe I am not meant to do this. But thanks for your words of wisdom which keep me going and pushing inspite of things not looking that optimistic. I loved the analogy of the river that keeps flowing even if a boulder got on its course.

    Thanks Harleena for an amazing post. You don’t know how much I needed to read this article. I will read it again and again. Very motivating. Have yourself a great week ahead.

    Be Blessed,

    Neamat

  14. Evelyn Lim

    July 9, 2013 at 8:26 am

    I like the ACE concept that you have described in great detail. You make it sound like it does not need to be that difficult. I recall the times when I had fallen. I had felt overwhelmed and wondered how I was going to pick myself up. Luckily, I have not given up after several times. I find that having supportive friends and community helps!

  15. Debbie

    July 9, 2013 at 4:36 am

    “Winners never quit and quitters never win.” This is so true. I love the ACE up your sleeve. And falling 7 time and getting up 8. And i have found that every time I get up i need to stand taller. The taller you stand the sooner you can touch your real potential.

    Thanks for all your great wisdom Harleena. It is always a pleasure.
    Debbie

  16. sherman smith

    July 9, 2013 at 4:09 am

    Hey Harleena,

    This is the story of my life LOL! I really like the Ace up the sleeve example, not that I’m a gambler or anything, but it definitely resonated with me.

    I got into the habit of the Acronym right after graduating high school. It was something that help me become better than the day before. It’s amazing how much you can accomplish when you’re not focusing why you can’t do something.

    It’s all about getting back into your vortex, and opening your mind to what options are out there. Once you figure it out, then take action. But failure is good because you find out ways not to do it. Having this mentality will definitely help propel you in life.

    Thanks for the great post!

  17. Jodi

    July 8, 2013 at 11:30 pm

    Sometimes we experience failure when we have too high expectations. Sometimes keep going is not what we need, but to be able to relax our expectations.

    xo
    Jodi

  18. Amandah

    July 8, 2013 at 10:17 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I think the universe is trying to tell me something because this is the third time I’ve heard/read the words, “accept,” “change,” and “explore.” 🙂

    I feel like quitting many times, mostly because I feel stuck in my life. I’m the type of person who likes to go, go, go. But lately I feel like I can’t move forward. When I try to o move forward, I get knocked backwards. Oh well… I’m learning to go with the flow.

    To me failures aren’t failures (it’s taken me a long time to come to this conclusion), instead they’re ways that don’t work. Keep trying until you find the answer. Or try something different.

  19. Brad Castro

    July 8, 2013 at 7:09 pm

    Hi Harleena –

    I really enjoyed your post and found it – for me personally – pretty timely.

    I was actually going to comment here yesterday but realized what I had to say would be too long for a comment (trust me) – so I turned it into a post.

    Thanks for the inspiration and a chance to be part of the conversation!

    (And great video clip, too.)

  20. Mayura

    July 8, 2013 at 7:02 pm

    Hi Harleena,

    I always love your analogies dear 😉 You were fond of such things since you were a kid? Or you loved puzzles? 😀 lol…

    Sometimes I feel accepting is the hardest part. But without accepting, we can’t focus on what to do next either. It’s trying to comfort ourselves. However we need to analyze what we have been doing even we fit in to the right path. Isn’t it? 🙂

    I’m familiar with failing in my life too 🙂 Especially when it comes to education. It hurts when no one believes you can make it. Feels rather alone and tend to quit too. But again, you can make the same thing to push yourself up too. It takes some courage. Well, I did it after failing several times 😉 That’s something that I can recall and feel proud of myself.

    The video is inspiring indeed Harleena 🙂 It reminds me of some inspiring moments I’ve experienced in my life too. Even some moments of movies 😉 True events can always drive me. Like your previous post did 🙂

    Have a successful week there Harleena 🙂

    Cheers…




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How to Rise Up Every Time You Fall

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