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Shocking Facts About Infidelity In Marriages [Infographic]

What, where, who, and why of people cheating in a marraige

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Man hugging wife but loving another girl showing infidelity in marriage
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Infidelity in marriages is not something uncommon or unheard of. In fact, this is one of the harsh realities and dangers in a marriage.

Recently, there was a significant increase in the searches on Aha!NOW about “spouses having an affair”.

Husbands were searching for “how to tell if their wife was having an affair”. Similarly, wives were searching to know the “signs of their husbands having an affair”.

These searches give an idea of the high risk of betrayal or unfaithfulness in marriages and the fact that it is happening in most marriages around the world.

In this short pictorial post, I’ve compiled all the information you need to know about extramarital affairs, cheating, or infidelity.

Yes, I suggest you read it whether you are married or not because sooner or later you may face these shocking facts in your married life.

I wish it does not happen so to you – but only wishing will not do. You need to become aware of the causes and consequences of infidelity in a marriage.

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What is Infidelity

The dictionary meaning of infidelity is “the quality of being unfaithful”.

Being unfaithful in the context of relationships in a marriage is “having sexual relations with someone other than your husband or wife, or your boyfriend or girlfriend.”

Does that mean unfaithfulness is different from having an affair or cheating on the spouse?

Well, all these terms mean infidelity. Infidelity can be of many types – like emotional infidelity, financial infidelity, and the most common type, as we all know of, is sexual infidelity.

Sexual infidelity is adultery. It is defined as “Extramarital sex that willfully and maliciously interferes with marriage relations”.

Harleena has written a detailed post on affairs – why people have affairs and the signs that may tell you if your spouse is cheating on you. Do read it.

Why People Cheat and Have Affairs

A marriage is supposed to be a sacred relationship. However, the true fact is that it is just like any other human relationship that needs some vital ingredients to sustain and survive.

They are – Love, Understanding, Communication, and Kindness. (LUCK)

If you have this LUCK in your marriage, you’ll not be troubled by the stress and trauma of infidelity in your marriage.

Not all are as lucky in marriages and rather find their spouses cheating on them.

Here is an infographic that shows the results of a survey where men and women tell why they cheated in a relationship.

Survey result showing statements of people having cheated on their spouse

 

Do you believe people can cheat on their spouse for “no real reason”?

Here is the result of another survey on why spouses cheat on each other:

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Infographic showing why spouse cheat on each other

The results are surprising, isn’t it?

Men and women cheat even when they have a happy marriage. Somehow, there is something that weighs heavy on their minds and makes them cheat.

It is the spice in relationships for women and sex for men that stand out as the most common reasons for infidelity in marriages.

Okay, it is sex for women too. Here is a result from a survey done in UK:

Women in UK giving reasons why they cheat on their husbands

Infidelity happens, but it happens for a reason, isn’t it? But what are the forms of infidelity – let’s find out.

Recommended read – 10 Facts About Infidelity

What is Considered as Cheating

There are reasons why people are unfaithful in a marriage but what is it that you consider as being unfaithful?

Chart showing emotional and sexual cheating in infidelity

What is it that you consider as cheating in a relationship?

What have you come to experience or know the things that the cheaters do?

Good read – How To Become Best Friends With Your Spouse

What Do the Cheaters Do

Yes, they indulge in emotional affairs and have sex with other people.

But how do you make that out or what are the signs that they are cheating?

Husband, wife, and lover in a poster of things about infidelity

I cannot say about the reliability of these stats, but one thing is for sure that infidelity is on rampant in marriages today.

You can read a previous post on Aha!NOW about the signs of a cheating spouse.

Anybody can be a cheater. However, is there a specific type of people who indulge in adultery?

Must read – Why Does A Bad Marriage Happen

Who are more likely to Cheat

Some people by the nature of their job or occupation are more likely to cheat on their spouses.

They fall into the temptations or just can’t resist their desires. Though this can happen to anybody, and here is an infographic that brings up some shocking facts:

Infographic showing who cheats in marriage

Well, well. I do not buy all the info presented in this graphic, but there is one alarming fact that there is high probability the spouses would cheat if they know they would not be caught.

How do you overcome the temptations to commit adultery? It has to be through understanding and self-control. It’s all in the mind, is it?

It does not matter whether you qualify to be one of the following mentioned types of people; you can still control yourself and not indulge in infidelity in your marriage.

Pictorial diagram showing the people with these characteristics indulge in adultery

I told you these are some shocking facts, but I really don’t think this assessment can be generalized.

However, do you know that certain places have most numbers of infidelity cases?

Do read – Are You In Love Or Lust – Do You Know The Difference

Where Do People Cheat

People cheat anywhere and everywhere. Let’s start with the United States of America.

Map of USA showing places of most and least infidelity cases

These are the top 10 as well as the places of highest and lowest percentage of cheaters in America. This result is from the study of members of one American dating and social networking website.

Of course, you cannot treat this as an official or national statistics of the US. Moreover, the people of America do not quite accept adultery:

The people of US denounce infidelity as immoral.

But it is not only America.

Here is a result of a survey conducted by Statista:

Survey bar chart of most adulterous countries of the world

The United States is nowhere seen on this map. However, you will find cheaters in your city, and may be among your friend circle too.

One question that arises is that can having extramarital affairs be helpful in anyway?

Look at this part of an infographic:

Graphic showing man and woman saying infidelity helps

Do you really think so?

I am sure the ones who have had a severed or broken marriage because of infidelity will never agree to this.

But I’ve heard that involving yourself in spicy activities outside your marriage can make your marriage more interesting and sexy.

Do YOU think cheating can actually help save a marriage?

Well, the American Association for Family and Marriage Therapy (AAMFT) does think so and you can read about it here.

Good read – 5 Simple Ways To Save Your Marriage

Wrapping It Up

I cannot come to any conclusion, but I’d go with the general opinion that infidelity in marriages should be a total no-no.

I personally detest and disapprove of any idea that would encourage adultery or cheating in a relationship.

I do accept that it is the default nature of human beings to be unfaithful. That is why we need to have sacred vows and rituals in a marriage.

Mostly, both men and women look outside for what they miss in their marriage – whether it is sex or emotional security.

Men generally tend to have affairs that are sexual in nature, while women look for affection and romance.

It is also a fact that infidelity is the most common reason for divorce.

If you do not have these reasons for your adulterous adventures, then you may be having the “cheating genes” running in the family.

Whatever it is, I believe you can strengthen your marriage with love, understanding, communication, and kindness.

Also be forgiving, be committed, be in control of yourself, and fulfill each other’s needs and demands.

Suggested read – 12 Surprising Facts About Cheating

Over To You –

Why do you think people cheat in a marriage? What else do you consider as cheating? Do you approve of infidelity? Do you think extramarital affairs can be helpful n a marriage?

Photo Credit: FreeDigitalPhotos.net

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  1. Atish Ranjan

    January 4, 2016 at 2:54 am

    Vinay,

    Awesome post indeed! There are so much data you have put in the form of infographs. Looking at these, I can say a few reasons may be true, and a few seem to be wrong.

    I loved the way this blog post has been structured.

  2. Larry Frank

    December 8, 2015 at 6:11 pm

    Hello Vinay, It’s being a while I came here, due to some stuffs I had to fix, I had to stop my blog for sometime, now I believe I can start blogging all again.
    nice article you’ve got here, the infographics are awesome, I’m not married yet nor am I thinking of getting married anytime soon, but I’m sure this will be of help to those of them who are married.
    Thanks for sharing and do have a wonderful day ahead.

  3. sneha

    October 1, 2015 at 10:35 pm

    Hey Vinay.. Its really inspiring one..It’s very informative and saddening to see the stats. I know of a friend who cheated on his wife because according to him “she’s stupid” and said she wouldn’t know. He always underestimated his wife until she discovered his dirty secrets and left him. Well deserved. I don’t approve of infidelity and never support it even if it’s a friend or family. Honestly, I believe people should give themselves time before getting married.However.,Article sounds Awesome and it is Good Post About Marriage and Amazing Sharing keep up it.

  4. Ankit

    September 30, 2015 at 10:42 am

    As per me, life is all about patience and self-confidence. These are the main reasons behind infidelity

  5. Asad Maqsood Awan

    August 27, 2015 at 12:25 pm

    I think if you are tempted to cheat, it’s because as the stats showed, something is not being fulfilled in your current relationship. And it’s time to practice getting your LUCK on with your partner.

  6. Vall Sakova

    July 25, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    Great infographics explaining human behavior and psychological reactions in cases of infidelity in marriage. I think that whenever infidelity happens both parties in a relationship are to blame. The coin always has two sides.

  7. sherill

    May 22, 2015 at 2:14 pm

    Hi this is great and truly informative, I loved the infographics. Thanks so much for sharing. Great Post!

  8. Kingshuk Chattaraj

    May 20, 2015 at 8:52 pm

    Good informative post. The topic really generates much interest. How my question is “Are women less inclined towards sexual gratification than men?” This might be the common belief but I do not subscribe to this.

  9. Hema Unnoop

    May 19, 2015 at 2:58 pm

    Hello Vinay,

    First of all. Your infographics are truly impres. I can see a lot of time and care has gone into this post as the previous posts.Incredible!

    Coming to the post. It’s very informative and saddening to see the stats. I know of a friend who cheated on his wife because according to him “she’s stupid” and said she wouldn’t know. He always underestimated his wife until she discovered his dirty secrets and left him. Well deserved. I don’t approve of infidelity and never support it even if it’s a friend or family. Honestly, I believe people should give themselves time before getting married.

    Here in Australia, many get married after being together for more than 8 years. I guess this gives ample time to get to know one’s partner, behaviors and flirtatious manners. Although staying together for this long and getting married at a later stage doesn’t guarantee fidelity but atleast one will think twice or more before committing adultery.

    Thank you for this thought provoking post. Wish you a great week:)

  10. Carol Amato

    May 17, 2015 at 7:58 am

    Hello, Vinay and Harleena,

    Wow, this is so very sad to me. 🙁 I know it is running rampant in the society that we live, but it’s just sad.

    The standards of morality have definitely dropped as time goes by and keeps getting worse. If we live by the standard we expect ourselves to be treated, it would all be so much better, don’t you think?

    People seem to be in denial that this behavior is wrong. The infographic is very telling, and I appreciate you sharing that. It’s definitely a wake up call for many, and makes me appreciate my husband oh so much more.

    Thanks for sharing this important message. Will be tweeting it out. Hope you have a wonderful weekend with your family. You’re a wonderful example to all. 🙂

    Take Care,
    – Carol




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Shocking Facts About Infidelity In Marriages [Infographic]

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