Have You Lost Your Mind

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Boy showing how to lose your mind

I hope you didn’t take the title to your heart, but do you know it’s possible to lose you mind?

Come to think of it, is your mind a thing or an object that you can conveniently drop off and pick up any time you like?

Your mind isn’t anything like your temper that you can lose any time, as I don’t think the mind is made up of emotions. Or is it?

But then people also say that you can be as you “make up your mind to be”. This signifies that you can create your own mind!

Some suggest that you should “change your mind” to change yourself or your life. It definitely implies that the form of the mind is moldable.

Besides losing your mind, there are other phrases like, to apply your mind, free your mind, bear in mind, and peace of mind that you frequently use in your daily life.

Interestingly, mind is being referred to differently in all of these phrases.

With so many adages and characteristics attributed, doesn’t the mind seem intriguing enough?

I must say that there’s surely something quite magical about the mind.

Having said all that, I think you’d like to know how to control your mind so you don’t lose it, so as to say.

Well, for that you need to try to understand your mind and unveil its magical power.

“Biology gives you a brain. Life turns it into a mind.” ~ Jeffrey Eugenides

Mystery of The Mind

People including philosophers, psychologists, and scientists differ in their definition and explanation of the mind.

Since it is actually a complex and controversial issue, I’m not going to deal with it in depth because there will still be a lot left uncovered. But let me try and explain it the best way I can.

Some consider the mind as a distinct and separate entity, whereas others regard it as a part of the body.

Further, some say that the mind is localized in the brain, while there are some who believe that it’s not assigned to any particular part of the body.

But one thing you can be sure of is that the mind is not the brain, and the brain is not the mind.

However, many people believe that the mind is surely connected and related to the brain in some ways.

What’s your view about the mind?

Generally, people relate the mind to their thoughts and opinions, which are generated from the brain.

On the other hand, some say that the mind is the “consciousness”. Well, consciousness is known as awareness or an alert cognitive state, and some term it as a state of mind.

Many religions have different views about mind and consciousness. Some of them also use the concepts of “soul” and “spirit” to define and differentiate them.

However, I want to be as simple as possible to define the mind, so you can know it better and learn how to control it too.

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” ~ Buddha

What is the Mind

Going by the present modern day assessment, Wikipedia defines mind as:

The set of cognitive faculties that enables consciousness, perception, thinking, judgement, and memory.”

In fact, some consider mind as the seat of the faculty of reason, which is responsible for one’s thoughts and feelings.

If so, then mind would be considered responsible for your intentions, desires, wants, and expectations. It may be defined as a way of thinking and an attitude or outlook of life.

Here’s another popular definition of the mind:

The collective conscious and unconscious processes in a sentient organism that direct and influence mental and physical behavior.

I do believe that the mind is also a collection of different processes of your brain and its form or state depends on the “Self”, which is again the core person that you are.

The mind is a complex process in itself that is in a state of flux, and it can be changed, controlled, and harnessed by yourself.

girls shows mind control on laptop

Actually, I’ll draw an analogy to understand brain, mind and the self.

Consider your brain as the computer (hardware), your mind as the program (software), and the Self as the operator (user).

The mind uses the processes of the brain to carry out various functions of the body as desired by the Self.

As part of its function, the mind also controls the senses.

And, because the senses are sometimes under the influence of external factors and conditions, they in turn impact the mind, and the functions of the body.

The mind is just like software, it has no physical existence. But, it cannot exist without the computer or the brain in the body.

However, the good thing is that you can re-program your mind, and it only requires some skill and effort. Once you do that, you can control your mind and bring it in your favor.

I understand there might be a difference of opinion about this topic and I’d love to know your thoughts and opinions in the comments.

“To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.” ~ Lao Tzu

What Happens When You Lose Your Mind

You feel that you lose your mind when you’re confused and troubled. You either lose touch with the reality of life, or aren’t able to cope with your unrealistic expectations or traumas.

You feel you’re entangled in the web of life, have no control over yourself, and are not able to find any way out.

You lose your mental balance because you lose faith in yourself and your abilities.

Since the mind is continually changing and is unstable in nature, it maintains a very delicate balance between the state of an organized and disorganized brain.

If you lose your mind or if it changes its focus, then various processes of the brain are affected, including perception, thinking, judging, and memory, which might lead to disorientation and disorganization.

Therefore, the personal output and efficiency will be adversely affected.

The person can become depressed, mentally ill, or start behaving in a silly or strange way if the mind loses its orientation and control for a long time.

It is said that losing your mind is close to becoming crazy.  You might do some one-odd crazy act but that doesn’t really make you lose it. 🙂

However, sometimes people use the term “lose your mind” to mean that you should drop off all your worries and tensions, forget yourself, and just enjoy life!

“You can chain me, you can torture me, you can even destroy this body, but you will never imprison my mind.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

How to be Yourself and Never Lose Your Mind

Well, it isn’t difficult to remain sane and be yourself.

All it takes is to follow certain principles in life and have requisite qualities in yourself.

• Believe in yourself

• Accept yourself

• Think Positive

• Don’t be judgmental

• Validate before you accept

• Be realistic in expectations

• Think before acting

• Have patience

• Motivate yourself

• Educate and change yourself

• Be focused

• Be fearless and stress free

• Control your mood and temper

• Let go!

This is only a part of the magic potion your need to get hold of yourself.

>> Transform Your Life to Be Happy in 17 Simple Steps

I’d suggest you read the above post and know all these points in detail.

One thing that will help you live a happy life is to get control of your mind, because that alone will take care of most of the above mentioned qualities.

Sometime you need not control your mind, especially if you’re a creative person or involved in a creative process. But you still need to define its limits.

However, as it is, controlling the mind does not mean that you stop living freely and make your life dull.

It’s about making optimum use of yourself and your life, and back it up with the power of your mind.

“A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.” ~ Wayne Dyer

What Is the Need to Control Your Mind

Your mind is quite powerful, whether you control it or even otherwise. It has the capability to learn and develop on its own.

The mind feeds itself with all the internal and external information you directly or indirectly provide it with.

Even a little child has a mind of his or her own. The child gets deeply associated and involved with the developing mind, and begins to believe and obey it.

If ever asked, the child says he or she will do what the mind says. Not to mention, the adults also do that!

In most of the cases, your mind loves to indulge in the senses, derive pleasure, make least efforts, resist change, and remain in a state of inertia.

This is the state when you can say that your mind is working on its own, and rules over YOU. And we make the mistake of equating and identifying mind with the “Self”.

It’s a lot like the situation where you’re the President of your country, but the government doesn’t obey you and prefers working on its own whims and fancies.

Can such a government or a person ruled by the mind ever be successful? I don’t think so.

To be happy and successful, you need to control your mind like an ideal operator. You need to keep it within limits and make it obey your orders, and work as per your instructions.

horse jockey shows how to control your mind

The mind is like a wild horse. It is very powerful, but to use that power, you got to tame it. Control it with the reins, and teach it to be calm and silent.

Don’t let the mind take you for a ride, instead put a saddle on it and ride it towards the direction you want to go.

Remember that great saints and people have blamed an uncontrolled mind for the sufferings in your life.

“All problems are illusions of the mind.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

You’ll never lose your mind if you’ve control over it. You’ll always remain sane, oriented, and organized if you know the techniques to control your mind.

The mind is not bad or useless. It performs useful functions that are essential for your day-to-day living as well as to be successful.

It just has a wild nature and likes to be free and uncontrolled, and makes you do the wrong things.

All you need to do is educate your mind continuously and constantly.

Make your mind your best friend, and you will never fail to achieve happiness and success.

In my future posts about the mind, you’ll know how to do that.

Till then, don’t lose your mind and keep it intact. 🙂

“Most people believe the mind to be a mirror, more or less accurately reflecting the world outside them, not realizing on the contrary that the mind is itself the principal element of creation.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore

Over to You –

How would you define the mind? What could make you lose your mind? Why do you think you need to control your mind? Share your thoughts in the comments.


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  1. BK

    2013-08-30 at 4:28 pm

    Very interesting read of the mind. I believe that the world is a reflection of our minds; we put out what we are thinking. And it is a very fertile garden which would reap whatever we sow and thus it is very important to know what we are sowing everyday, which are our thoughts: positive or negative, good or bad, the mind will take it all. We must choose carefully because as William Ernest Henley wrote in his poem, ” … I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” It all starts with the thoughts in our mind.

  2. Jodi

    2013-08-26 at 7:03 pm

    I lose my mind everyday and it is my process to find it again! LOL!

  3. Viola Tam

    2013-08-26 at 5:19 am

    Hi Harleena,

    This is an interesting read. I was attracted to the topic as some of my friends may thought that I have lost my mind! Just joking! I am talking about I have been so willing to give up some of my favourite activities for the longer term vision that I have 🙂

    “You lose your mental balance because you lose faith in yourself and your abilities.” What an insightful observation! While I absolutely believe that we have our own unique talents and strengths, some people may always be looking for solutions outside themselves. Don’t get me wrong. I am all for coaching and mentoring, especially in network marketing. However, we have to recognise our own greatness in order to be able to take away the mental blockage first! Have faith, Be authentic. Or else, there will always be self-sabotage!!

    Viola Tam – The Business Mum

  4. Adrienne

    2013-08-26 at 3:01 am

    Hi Harleena,

    I finally made it by, sorry for my tardiness.

    When I read your header and then started reading your post the thing that came to my mind were Alzheimer’s patients. I’ve never known anyone outside of someone who had this horrible disease to ever lose their minds. My sister-in-law’s mother had Alzheimer’s and she passed away this past April. It was horrible to see this once very active woman lost inside her own body not having a clue who we were or even speaking at all.

    Back to the topic at hand, as always I love what you shared and your suggestions on how to never lose our minds. What I’ve found to work best for me is to stay in the present moment. Not let my mind wander too much and of course worry about things we have no control over.

    Now I’ll admit that I’m not being very successful this month. As you know I lost my best friend and my mind wanders a lot to him. I’m having more good days then bad but my emotions are still on a roller coaster. This too shall pass though.

    You always share so many wonderful and enlightening posts on great topics Harleena so thank you for that and for making us think.

    Hope you enjoyed your weekend.


  5. Gregory J. Urbano

    2013-08-25 at 8:33 am

    That is definitely some great advice for when we are feeling frazzled!

  6. Sherman Smith

    2013-08-25 at 6:59 am

    Hey Harleena,

    This is a deep topic and I’m pretty confused of what the mind is LOL… Since I’m also a computer tech, I got a good understand when you use the example of the mind being the software. But there are so many different opinions of what it is that I don’t think it can be defined, but you can definitely control it I believe.

    It’s like having a car. You have your destinations and in order for you to get there safely and in tact, you have to drive within the lanes and use both defensive and offensive driving. You are the mind of the car and it’s up to you on how you drive it. Also you can use other means to get to your destination as well. This is how I view the mind. It’s separate from the brain and the body, but you get to choose how to use it.

    Once again the mind is a very complex topic, but this is my understanding about it so far LOL

    Thanks for sharing!

  7. Maree Barry

    2013-08-24 at 11:58 am

    Research has shown that the heart actually sends more messages to the brain than the brain sends to the heart and profoundly influences the way we perceive and respond to the world. When under stress, the heart sends a chaotic, disordered rhythm to the brain which affects mental clarity,decision-making,emotional balance, personal effectiveness and creativity.

    The good news is that the emotional system can be developed by learning how to generate a coherent heart rhythm as research by The Institute of HeartMath has shown. IHM has developed various easy to learn tools and techniques promoting increased physiological efficiency, mental acuity and emotional stability.

  8. Trina Johnson

    2013-08-24 at 1:32 am

    The human brain is amazing — the more we learn, the more we don’t know. It’s so awesome …

  9. Bilal Malik

    2013-08-24 at 12:51 am

    Hi Harleena.

    First of all i want to appreciate your effort that you’ve discussed a great topic with us. It’s interesting to read it.

    Well, I think mind is like a knife. If we use it positively, sensibly and just for the purpose, It could be useful for us and if we use it negatively, it could be harmful for us.

    Mostly I lose my mind and i get angry whenever someone touch my personal things But I’ve a good habit that i can control my mind and aggression.
    Mostly people do a lot of things after losing mind and sometimes we have to repent after doing anything wrong. I think the best way for them is to think about the result of your action before doing it!

    One thing i also want to tell, Doctors say that : ” If you can’t control your aggression, Just close your eyes and lie on bed ”

  10. Ahsan

    2013-08-23 at 10:52 pm

    Hello Harleena,

    In everyone’s life losing control over mind happens sometime. You are right mind can be compared with brain. It is interlinked with each other. We need to increase our controlling power. To take any steps, we must think it deeply its future consequences whether it will be good or bad.

    Anyway well described article on checking our mind 🙂

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-08-23 at 11:41 pm

      Hi Ahsan,

      We all face some mental or emotional problems in our life, and sometime the situation goes out of control, making us feel that we’ve lost our mind.

      It helps if we learn to control our emotions as well as thoughts. Keeping a check as you’ve suggested would certainly help to control the mind.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and views. 🙂

  11. Darlene Lancer, LMFT

    2013-08-23 at 10:33 pm

    Most people feel like they are losing their mind when they cannot control obsessive thoughts. Often this problem is not one of the mind, but emotion – fear and anxiety. It can be helpful to actually “lose your mind and come to your senses,” by doing something sensual and soothing to the body, like swaddling yourself in a blanket, lying in the grass, walking on the beach. Another tip is to do very focused work, like balancing your checkbook. Having a good cry can release mental business, too. Listen to some evocative music, and/or seek comfort from a trusted friend or counselor.

    Darlene Lancer

    • Harleena Singh

      2013-08-23 at 11:37 pm

      Hi Darlene,

      Welcome to the blog!

      You’re absolutely right that many a times the feeling of losing the mind is due to an emotional issue or trauma, other than due to the lack of control of thoughts.

      Fear and anxiety are the causes of stress, but if they go out of bounds and are uncontrollable, give a feeling of losing the mind – that is when you need to come to your senses.

      Like stated in the comment above, the failure of common sense and the ability of make judgement too creates illusion in the mind and disorients the person.

      Your tips and suggestions are really helpful, and in fact I mentioned some of these in my recent post on seeking relief from stress. You can use your senses in various ways to calm your mind.

      And of course, you need to keep your mind engaged and you’ve suggested some good ways to do so.

      Thanks for sharing your expert advice and contributing to the post. I really appreciate it and hope to see you around. 🙂

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