Time Spent Helping Others is Never Wasted Time

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One hand helping others by extending over a globe

Have you ever thought of helping others? If you did, that’s great!

But what is your concept of “helping”? I’d like to share what I came across on Wikipedia:

“Helping behavior refers to voluntary actions intended to help others, with reward regarded or disregarded.”

You just read a simple definition that sparks a broad meaning. Everyone knows that helping is a good action.

Is it? NO, not everytime!

We are positive minded to read “helping” as a good action. But, you can even help someone just for any reason.

Helping is worthwhile, and it depends on the WHY or reason behind it.

Anyway, I’ll be using the keyword “helping” throughout this post and its implication would be, helping for good.

Are You a Helpful Person

You may already be helping others in different ways.

Many tasks involved in our lives are about helping others to get their jobs done. In return, we get rewarded too.

For example, if you are a business developer, you are helping your clients to create a successful business and in return, you get paid.

If you really love what you do, it can be more than getting paid.

If we set our perception in that way, we will hardly find someone not helping others. Mmm… Let’s talk beyond the common scenario.

Instead of helping others help themselves, how else do you manage to help others?

a girl with a note in hand with help written on it

Where Do You Stand With Regards to Helping Others

Taking voluntary actions to help others is not an easy task for everyone. We all do have different kind of lifestyles surrounded by simple to complicated obligations.

Sometimes, devoting your time, effort, money or any resource for someone else can be too much. You may have got enough other troubles to deal with.

Perhaps I can’t even imagine what you are going through and how tough your life is.

Does this thought sound familiar?

“There will always be someone to help those who need the help. May be, someone who would like to please others, who has nothing important to do in their life or who doesn’t have bigger responsibilities as we have. I’ve got enough problems for myself. Who has got time to worry about someone else’s problem?”

Did I just read your mind? Or am I close to it?

Just recall an incident when you saw that someone needed a helping hand. Were you a bystander? What did you do – just ignored and left? Or, were you the only one to help that person?

I can recall an incident that when I acted the role of a bystander. I could have helped that person. At least I could’ve gone and asked “Are you feeling alright, ma’am?”

But I didn’t. Fortunately, there were enough people to help though.

Isn’t this the place where most people stand now? A bit more self-centered and being defensive, even when they can help someone.

Where do you stand?

What Does it Take to Help

Do you really need to be rich to help someone else? Yes, of course! Unless you are rich enough, how can you give away?

When the term “rich” pops up, probably you may think of the financial aspect.

You can donate funds to charities, help build a shelter for a homeless man, spend money on poor kids who can’t afford to go to school and there’s more you can think of, as long as it’s money that you can trade.

Money is not a prerequisite for helping though. Not at all! There are so many ways you can help someone without spending a dime of yours.

How about these?

• Fixing computers of people who can’t afford it

• Rescuing and feeding an injured little birdie

• Helping an old couple cross the road and taking them to their destination

• Giving away food to poor kids

• Helping a friend who had suicidal intent

There are some happy moments I can recall in my life when I spent time helping others. I was just a teenager then and I had no money in my pockets to spend either.

Do you think you should wait for the perfect day to start helping others?

Even if you are feeling helpless, you can still be rich from your heart. Just because you haven’t got enough resources, doesn’t mean you can’t help someone.

You CAN always help someone out there who is not lucky enough to have what you have already got.

If you’re looking for an example, then how about a former drug-addict helping others to encourage and save them from being lost and hopeless? You can read about it here.

one girl helping other girl to cross stream

What’s in it for YOU

Honestly, do you think about what’s in it for you when you wanna help someone?

I don’t know how it feels when you expect something in return by helping others, but I know that you feel much better, when you didn’t have such expectations.

Researches indicate consistent helping is beneficial for your health. It also points out that if you expect something in return, it may not be helping your health too.

Until I had been invited to write this post, I hadn’t thought about exploring the benefits of helping.

When I help others, I feel the happiness it brings to me. Further, I found some interesting facts about helping behavior that was obtained from studies and researches.

In addition to increasing happiness, primary benefits of helping are –

• Reduce risk of mortality

Boost self-esteem and confidence

• Release healthy hormones to block negative emotions

• Help overcome stress and depression

• Increase the flow of good chemicals in your brain

• Boost your immune system

• Reduces the risk of heart diseases

Further, you can also gain new skills and experiences while helping others, which can be really helpful in the future. May be they can bring you whole new opportunities in your life too.

Final Thoughts

While you are helping others, you need to think about helping yourself too.

You may push yourself enough to help others, but you need to keep in mind that you can’t take care of everyone or everything. It’s not your fault!

I can relate to the feeling of being helpless to take care of everyone, but it’s not realistic at all.

If you are gonna keep worrying about what you can’t or couldn’t do for others, those who deserve and can use your help may not get sufficient help from you.

Never forget to take care of yourself first. I’m not suggesting you to be more self-centered, but to be the one who is powerful and not vulnerable. Be powerful enough to help others and yourself.

Having a healthy state of your mind and body means that you can do even more than you imagine. Believe me, it’s so true!

One of the popular claims I hear is that people who tend to help or care for others, tend to become more helpless themselves.

Unless you take care of yourself and be realistic while helping others, that statement can be true enough for you too. Hence, you might start feeling that you wasted your time by helping others.

While I was searching through the YouTube videos, I came across a simple video showing how people can help others, especially on the road.

Helping others, you can be the one ~ YouTube Video

Did you notice how many people were paying attention to the one who needed help in each incident? 🙂 Welcome to the real World!

“It’s not about what we bear in our minds, but how we turn them into actions.”

Do help! Do care! Do love! You can be the one!

Over to you

Did you ever waste your time helping others? Have you got surprising rewards after helping someone? I’d love to hear more about your thoughts and experiences about helping people. 🙂 Share in the comments.

 

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  1. Carolyn

    August 31, 2013 at 6:05 pm

    Hi Mayura,

    How wonderful to see you here at Harleena’s place! I actually read this post earlier but am only now back to comment. Your words really hit home for me as I truly believe this too. I tell my girls that if you have the opportunity to help others you should. Being in the position where you can give help is truly a blessing. Hey, we all need help sometimes, right?

    You mentioned the time when you acted the role of the bystander when you could have helped. No need to feel guilty as you also said there were others there who did help. We don’t need to help every time, but it’s best when needed.

    There is a professor at the University of Pennsylvania who has become famous for never turning down a request for help. He spends hours each day helping people. Just as your title implies, he says that helping people is never wasted time because he feels it is so rewarding. He also has a huge network of people who will respond to his requests for help on behalf of others. They help the professor because they know if they ever need help he will provide it.

    I try to live by that motto too. I feel The Wonder of Tech helps people in many ways sort out the tech in their daily lives. I try to help others who request to publish guest posts or have other needs by referring them to others if I can’t help them myself.

    You are a shining example of helping others, Mayura. You have helped me immeasurably with my blog and I know you help others too.

    Harleena is also a wonderful person who helps others without question. She has helped me even without my asking. She gave me a link to a Facebook debugger that has been a key tool in sharing my posts on Facebook.

    Thanks for sharing these words of inspiration, Mayura!

    • Mayura De Silva

      September 1, 2013 at 10:05 pm

      Hi Carolyn,

      Nice to see you here too dear 🙂

      Of course! We all need help in our lives and it’s amazing how anyone can help out another. Isn’t it? 🙂 Even a person who can’t help himself / herself.

      I’m really glad to hear you are truly believe in helping and it’s nice of you, telling your girls to help others too. When parents follow good qualities, children won’t hesitate to do ’em. Isn’t it true Carolyn? 🙂

      Thanks dear 🙂 Yeah, I wish if I could help her out. I was on my way to school. But later on I realized, we need to help ourselves and be realistic. People who help others shouldn’t be vulnerable at all, eh?

      Wow… That’s wonderful! He is being generous with his time and indeed an inspiration for anyone Carolyn 🙂 Anything is possible. Did you watch the movie Machine Gun Preacher? A true story. You will be inspired knowing how only one person can save a lot of lives with no much help of others 🙂 We all can be the one!

      Well, I know that it’s not just about writing helpful posts at your blog Carolyn 🙂 You take your time and buy tech stuff to review and help others to make good buying decisions. Sometimes I see how much time you spent on ’em. I admit that if it’s not your blog, I wouldn’t even know about some impressive tech stuff 🙂

      Indeed, Harleena is a wonderful personality Carolyn 🙂 You and I both know she’s setting as an example for everyone and even in small things we tend to ignore. I’m grateful that we all connected with the help of modern technology 🙂

      Thanks for coming by, and adding your thoughts on helping others along with an inspiring story Carolyn 🙂 Can inspire many others too. I really appreciate your kind words and it’s all my pleasure helping you too dear.

      Now, you have a lovely weekend too 🙂

      Cheers…

  2. Sylviane Nuccio

    August 29, 2013 at 4:05 am

    Hi Harleena and Mayura,

    Wow, that’s a great post Mayura, and I think that this theme fits you so well.

    I grew up with a very giving and helping mother, so me and my bother have always been naturals at helping others. This also taught me, however, that at times, helping the wrong people can make you feel hurt, and helping too much can actually handicap the person you’re helping.But I think that we need to help one another.

    Great post, Mayura, and great video. The couple of cars that just went around that person on the ground and left him there, was shocking. some people just have no heart. Thankfully more do.

    • Mayura De Silva

      September 1, 2013 at 8:51 pm

      Hi Sylviane,

      Nice to see you and thanks for the kind words too dear 🙂 But I’m sorry for keep you waiting for a reply.

      Sounds like you mother is a true giver and I’m glad you both have inhertied her wonderful quality Sylviane 🙂 Like you, I’m so grateful to my mother for being my inspiration too. I know you are fond of helping.

      Well, I agree that helping wrong people can make us feel hurt dear 🙂 I did too and thought it would rather better to be picky. However, after a long time, now I feel happy for helping such people eventhough I hurt that time. No regrets! Sometimes we just expect some gratefulness from the other end, eh? 🙂

      Sadly, it’s the truth sometimes dear. Another person walk across the road and come there to check if he’s alright, while people who could reach him easily ignore him and left there. What a World we are living in?

      Thanks for coming over and contributing your thoughts on helping others Sylviane 🙂

      You have a lovely weekend dear 🙂

      Cheers…

  3. Gaurav

    August 28, 2013 at 4:42 pm

    Yes, helping others is not bad and it’s also not a waste of time. it provide us a satisfaction and also help us to make healthy relations with others. and if we take an example of blogs we can also make money by helping others.

    Very nice article. i read something like this first time here. nice blog and thanks for sharing.

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 29, 2013 at 12:30 am

      Hi Gaurav,

      Glad to hear you enjoyed the post mate 🙂

      Helping others it not a bad trait, but taking it into action is what really matters. Of course! It help build healthy relations with others too 🙂

      Ah yes! When it comes to blogging, you can earn money through it too. However the intension of helping always matters mate.

      Isn’t it interesting to know that helping without expecting anything make us healthy, but expecting something in return can make it go away? 🙂 Keep helping out Gaurav.

      Thanks for coming over and taking your time to share your thoughts on helping others mate 🙂

      You have a GREAT week there!

      Cheers…

  4. Cararta

    August 28, 2013 at 8:01 am

    Ah Mayura

    Another great share and the only thing being sold is that self respect that comes with helping others, even if done just for self satisfaction.

    Interesting, in our family our youngest sister looks at “helping” with a different point of view. She thinks her two older sisters are interfering!

    So, after learning time, we have decided to wait until help is asked for…which is seldom. It would make us happy to help more, but I guess there is help and then there is help…depending on how you look at it!

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 29, 2013 at 12:06 am

      Hi Carata,

      Nice to see you over here dear 🙂 AND I’m glad you enjoyed the post too.

      Seems helping others has more benefits than what we discussed here 🙂 I’ve come to know that even watching someone helping others can bring us health benefits too. From an earlier comment. Interesting, eh?

      Mmm… Feels like it’s more about receiving the help 🙂 Sometimes, some people find it annoying for some reasons Carata. I think, it’s wiser not to be annoying too much and be within the limits while being prepared to offer help when that person asked for or really needs it.

      However, there are countless opportunities out there to help someone too 🙂

      Thanks for dropping by, and adding your thoughts and experiences you had on helping others Carata 🙂

      You have a nice week dear!

      Cheers…

  5. Payal Bansal

    August 27, 2013 at 11:57 pm

    Great piece

    Helping others is always fruitful, you get satisfaction. And the taste of this satisfaction is much better than anything else in this whole world.

    I hope people will get encourages after reading you post, and will definitely start helping others, even strangers 🙂

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 28, 2013 at 11:57 pm

      Hi Payal,

      Thanks for the kind words and glad you found this encouraging dear 🙂

      Indeed! Helping others bring us happiness along with satisfaction and it’s amazing how we can enjoy the health benefits by helping others too. Isn’t it? 🙂

      I agree with you on that Payal. So far, I’ve never found such a feeling by doing soemthing else. Helping others always make us feel better. Sometimes, even later on.

      If this post can encourage others to offer help, I believe my efforts are fruitful Payal 🙂 Let’s hope for that dear.

      Thanks for stopping by, and contributing your thoughts regarding helping and its benefits Payal 🙂

      You have a wonderful week there!

      Cheers…

  6. Nate Leung

    August 27, 2013 at 11:02 pm

    Harleena and Mayura,

    I’ve never viewed helping others as a waste of time. As I grew older, I started to realize that so many people need help. It doesn’t have to be business related. It can be personal growth as well. I do believe that we all need to grow. Because if we don’t grow and work on ourselves, how do we expect help others? Really enjoyed your post Mayura. I’ll see you around bud. 😉

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 28, 2013 at 11:51 pm

      Hi Nate,

      I’m really glad to hear about your attitude towards helping and thanks for the kind words too mate 🙂

      Exactly! As we get to know more about people we find out what they are missing in their lives and how we can help them. It could be even just words!

      We always need to grow Nate! While helping others, we shouldn’t be vulnerable at all. Aren’t we find inspiration when disabled people brighten up other lives? 🙂 Shouldn’t be waiting for the perfect day, but should help others when we can.

      Thanks for coming by and adding your thoughts about helping others into the discussion Nate 🙂

      Cheers…

  7. Erwin

    August 27, 2013 at 11:36 am

    It’s never too late to help others, no matter who you are and how much you can give. I’m sure everyone deserves that.

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 28, 2013 at 11:42 pm

      Hi Erwin,

      Exactly mate 🙂 It’s never too late, and it doesn’t matter who we are or what we have got. Even those people who can’t help themselves help others and brighten up others lives too.

      Let’s hope more and more people will think of helping others as they can 🙂

      Thanks for coming by and sharing your thoughts over here Erwin 🙂

      Have a nice week there mate!

      Cheers…

  8. sneha

    August 27, 2013 at 10:35 am

    Hi Mayura your post is so inspiring I feel very happy when I help someone specially poor people. Being compassionate can give you a reason to help someone and by this you can also show people you really do care for them.

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 27, 2013 at 10:16 pm

      Hi Sneha,

      Now I feel happy when readers find this post is inspiring dear 🙂 I’m glad you did too.

      If someone steals something owned by us, we really feel sorry about it. But when we give away something willingly, we find happiness after all. Isn’t it lovely how we feel about giving away? 🙂

      I’m sure you have felt the same feeling when you help others and as you mentioned, especially when you help out poor people. Caring is such a wonderful word and when you care others from your heart, you never know what could be happen. Aren’t our moms follow that? 🙂

      Thanks for dropping by and adding your thoughts into the discussion Sneha 🙂

      Now, enjoy your week too!

      Cheers…

  9. Betsy / Zen Mama

    August 27, 2013 at 10:26 am

    Harleena and Mayura,

    I have read that people watching the act of a person helping someone else can get many of the same health benefits. Looking forward to watching the video. Have you seen the one of security cameras catching people doing good?

    Really fun to catch up on your blog today!
    xoxo
    Betsy

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 27, 2013 at 10:06 pm

      Hi Betsy,

      Wow… Really? 🙂 Personally, I’ve felt some sort of wonderful feeling when I see someone helping out other. May be not everyone find it that way though.

      Once a guy helped out a doggie on the road. I was happy, and many others smiled back at him and appreciated what he did. But I overheard an old man saying “Idiot” too. You’d say “Ugh… Really?!”. But it’s true.

      I hope you will find the video as an inspiration dear 🙂 Well, I did. Talking about security cameras, most of the stuff I’ve seen on media and what seems to go viral are not those which doing good. But the best thing is doing good never stops 🙂

      Thanks for coming over, and contributing your thoughts and the fact you read Betsy 🙂

      You have a nice week dear!

      Cheers…

  10. Karen Hoyt

    August 27, 2013 at 5:20 am

    Mayrua –

    Your heart of gold really shines through with this blog. This article offers such practical ways to serve others such as helping someone across the street or giving to a food bank that feeds the poor.

    We all have countless opportunities every day. For example, when you visited my blog, it was obvious that you don’t know much about my disease. Your encouragement lifted my spirits in ways you cannot know.

    I think that is the main reason that many of us connect through blogging. We desire to lend a hand to others. My most recent guest blogger was an addict who is reaching out to help others in an area that I had no experience with. It’s all about connecting.

    Thank you so much for offering ways that are simple – and right in front of us. Thanks to Harleena for giving us all an opportunity to benefit from your wisdom.

    Karen:)

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 27, 2013 at 9:52 pm

      Hi Karen,

      I really appreciate the kind words coming from you dear 🙂

      When I stop by on yours, I didn’t know what a fighter you are! Fighting with life and in the meantime, helping others too. You are indeed a helpful personality and I really admire what you do 🙂 You are powerful!

      Yeah Karen 🙂 I didn’t wanna encourage us all to do something we can’t afford to. We can help someone everyday, even with a little contribution of our time. Like you implied, there will be countless opportunities if we pay attention 🙂

      It’s wonderful! I didn’t thought what would you feel when you read my comment, but wrote what I felt at the time. I respect you for what you do and I wish many people can follow your attitude too.

      I know dear 🙂 I’ve come to know lot of wonderful and like-minded personalities through blogging, such as you and Harleena. It’s love to hear your guest blogger is an ADDICT, ’cause it’s just not easy.

      Thanks for coming by and appending your lvoely thoughts to the post here Karen 🙂 You follow this topic really well.

      You have a wonderful week dear!

      Cheers…

  11. Olili Bob

    August 27, 2013 at 3:40 am

    Hi Muraya,

    I must say i love this post. i feel very happy and great when i help others there is no greater joy knowing you have people who believe in you and know that you can help them when you are in need and i bet you, when you are also in need, those who you have helped will surely come to your aid. Nice post.

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 27, 2013 at 9:26 pm

      Hi Bob,

      That’s really nice to hear from you and I’m glad you could relate to it mate 🙂

      You know how it feels, eh? That’s something we don’t feel by gainging, but giving away. Don’t you agree?

      I agree that there are wonderful people return the fravor or help anytime Bob 🙂 Sometimes you wouldn’t even thought about it. Wish if everyone can follow the same trait in their lives 🙂

      Thanks for coming and contributing your thoughts about being a helpful personality mate 🙂

      You have a GREAT week Bob!

      Cheers…

  12. Adrienne

    August 26, 2013 at 8:33 pm

    What a beautiful post Mayura and it’s good to see you here at Harleena’s blog. Still making my rounds as you can tell but definitely had to make it by her latest post as well.

    I can honestly say that I’ve never wasted my time helping others. It gives me pure joy to know that I’ve helped someone whether it’s from a smile, a kind gesture, nice words or some advice that they needed. It surprises me that some people don’t find joy in this.

    I have surprising rewards after helping everyone. Just knowing that I did something good is always surprising to me because we just never know right! It’s really great when they actually tell you.

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful topic with us and I loved the video. I wish everyone would be kinder and this world would be a much better place.

    ~Adrienne

    • Younes

      August 27, 2013 at 12:14 am

      The story of Raymond Sinohui: A Former Drug Addict Helping Others is awesome, me too am in the same situation I was saved by the methadone I work befor (editor of a newspaper for used drug)(point of change) but unfortunately the funding was stopped since February, I come every day to the Asociation volunteered to blow them hope that they get the methadonne but it is very complicated to us in Morocco since when I’speak with medical staff in the recovery center I feel rejected and the word of a former drug used has no value!!!

      • Mayura De Silva

        September 7, 2013 at 4:38 pm

        Hi Younes,

        I’m sorry to hear about you feeling rejected mate! But I read the hope within your words. You can!

        I do really admire what you did mate 🙂 You did help save some lives. I’m sure they were never wasted time. Funding can play a major role sometimes, but it’s really wonderful when people get together and volunteer to save lives. Else, we just have to count miserable lives.

        Ah… I read Raymond’s inspiring story and had it in mind when I write “You CAN always help someone out there who is not lucky enough to have what you have already got.” 🙂 I’m glad you mentioned that.

        I hope you will find more opportunities to help others, ’cause former drug addicts have that experience which no certified personnel possess mate 🙂 They know how it feels and can relate well to others to help them find a way out.

        I wish more lives to be brighten up by you 🙂 I know you will!

        Thanks for coming over and contributing your personal experiences along with your thoughts Younes 🙂

        You have a wonderful weekend!

        Cheers…

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 27, 2013 at 12:27 am

      Hi Adrienne,

      Nice to see you over here too dear 🙂 Aha… You are never late. I can see Harleena nodding too 😉

      Indeed, I’m honored to be here on Harleena’s online home place and to meet such lovely people with wonderful thoughts and inspiring stories 🙂 Yeah, so inspiring!

      I know, you are one of the best help that bloggers can ever count on Adrienne 🙂 Devoting your time and effort to help someone is rewarding indeed. Ha… You and I both know that some people are not online to help others but to help themselves as much as they can, eh? I doubt how they find the happiness after all 🙂

      If you could help a person who care others, you never know what surprises will be waiting for you Adrienne 🙂 People are wonderful if they possess good qualities and follow ’em consistently.

      I’m really glad to hear you loved the video dear 🙂 We all can do somenthing, even little bit of good to brighten someone’s day. I wish if people do open their hearts even further, instead of covering it up.

      Thanks for comming by and contributing your thoughts into the discussion Adrienne 🙂 I know helping is your first and best goal.

      You have a nice week Adrienne 🙂

      Cheers…

  13. Jodi

    August 26, 2013 at 5:15 pm

    I do live to help others and I sometimes feel this is underrated, like some people think we should take care of ourselves first or something. It is about giving freely and not thinking of it as a sacrafice. If we were all truly connected, giving to others is like giving to yourself. If we don’t think of it this way, we don’t feel it this way!

    • Mayura De Silva

      August 27, 2013 at 12:06 am

      Hi Jodi,

      I think you mentioned your mission of life within your comment 🙂 That’s just awesome to meet someone who live to help others. That’s BIG!

      I wish if I could call I feel it underrated too, but instead I’m seeing it underrated and probably that’s that reality Jodi. Eventhough some people could feel others’ pain, not everyone seems to feel or think like that way.

      Selfishness is there even we try to hid it from others, but if we narrow our mind and hearts only for our own advantage, that’s too bad. AND it’s happening.

      Giving never made anyone poor, eh? May be never made rich with tangible stuff either, but it’s just more than having loads of stuff around us. I think those who give may just understand that too.

      Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughtful comment on helping others Jodi 🙂 Stick into your lifetime mission!

      You have a lovely week dear!

      Cheers…






Time Spent Helping Others is Never Wasted Time

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