Gift Your Teens 10 Important Life Lessons for a Happier Life

What lessons learned in life would you gift to your kids? Yes, your life lessons can be valuable lessons for a happier life to your teens. Read to know more.
Parents giving kids important life lessons for a Happier Life

Have you thought of gifting your life’s greatest lessons to your kids? Believe me, your lessons learned in life can become the most valuable lessons for a happier life for your children. Of course, this is besides the material things that you should gift your kids. The important life lessons to help your kids take the right approach or path and learn the right conduct or values can go a long way. These are one of the things to learn in life that nobody else can teach your teens better than you. Read the important life lessons you can impart to your kids. ~ Ed.

 

What is the best thing that I can gift to my children?

They would be happy with material gifts like clothes, toys, or even gadgets.

Yes, nowadays children have become so busy in their own world. They’re mostly occupied with gadgets, from mobiles to drones, or involved pursuing the latest trends.

That’s all okay as it’s the age for such experimentation and fun.

But can I do something more and different?

What gift can make my kids permanently happy in life?

I think a piece of my life would do them good – I mean my life lessons learned through experience, trials and tribulations.

My lessons learned in life are my most important assets. I want my kids to be happy and I can help by teaching them the best things to learn in life.

Will my kids appreciate this gift?

Probably they will realize its importance with time later in life. I’d be happy if any of these lessons learned in life help them lead a happier life.

The Gift of Lessons Learned in Life

This post is an open letter and my gift of love to my kids as well as thousands of teens and young adults all around the world.

What prompted me to write this post is that I realized how seldom I get the time to chitchat with my children and communicate regarding the essential things about life.

Well, as a parent, do you talk to your children about life and teach them its lessons? I wonder how often you find the time or how available are your children to listen to you.

I feel, as a father, it’s my duty and responsibility to prepare my children for their journey into life, and help them make it successful by sharing my knowledge and experiences with them.

Although children have their own lives, but to be successful in life, they need a mentor, just as is the case with any other aspect of life.

I want to teach my children how to be happy in life. If they find it worthy to read, remember, and pursue the following lessons in life, I’d consider this as the greatest gift ever.

DO READ: How can I be a better parent?

“The father who does not teach his son his duties is equally guilty with the son who neglects them.” ~ Confucius

Father celebrating Fathers Day with teen son

Life Lessons for Teens

My children, these will be my lessons of life that I acquired from my parents, and enriched it with my own wisdom.

I want you to take these lessons, add your own knowledge and experience, and pass on to the next generation.

As you grow older, you’ll realize that the aim of life is to be happy.

Everything you do is ultimately to be happy in life. Whether it’s being with friends, securing good marks in school, celebrating in a party, working out in the gym, or eating the best food.

If you learn about what exactly are the ways to be happy, you’ll cultivate happiness within you and reap love and peace out of it.

Yes, that’s true. More the happiness quotient in your life, more loving and peaceful you are.

I’ve created a 10-step guide for you just for that purpose and these are the valuable lessons that I learned in my life.

The first step in bringing happiness into your life is to be happy with yourself – yes, this is the most important life lesson!

Lesson 1 – Know that you’re special

Every person in this world is different. Believe in this fact – you’re special and unique, and be happy about it. Your belief will become strong if you know the following 3B’s:

1)    Be familiar with yourself – Make an honest overall assessment. Find your strengths and weaknesses. Take help of your friends and peers if needed, or ask your parents.

2)    Build on your strengths – Every person has some specific skills or talents. You too have them. You need to discover and develop them. That will make you more special.

3)    Believe in yourself – Nothing can be achieved if you’re not confident of yourself. Always believe you’re special, and you can achieve and do what you want.

NOTE: Don’t deceive yourself or others. Have the belief that belief has power. Work on yourself – every effort is worth it. Don’t waste your time on useless activities, time is very precious.

Lesson 2 – Be a gem of a person

Be real, be honest, and always know your true value. Also, be true to yourself, and know that your Self is the truth that will guide you. Develop these 3S’s:

1)    Self-esteem – Love and value yourself. Get rid of all the complexes because you’re worth more than you think. Read this post to enhance your self-esteem.

2)    Substance – Be a person of substance, and a person of character and integrity. Be the real person by being conscientious, a person of value, who can be trusted.

3)    Smartness – Use your intelligence in your daily life. Make smarter choices, smarter decisions, and carry a positive attitude approach to all aspects of life.

NOTE: Never fake yourself. Never hate yourself. Under any circumstances, never choose to be a bad or negative person.

“Character is like a tree and reputation is like a shadow. The shadow is what we think we are; the tree is the real thing.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

Lesson 3 – Just be yourself and become better

You need to keep your identity – don’t copy anyone else’s. Love yourself for what you’re by adopting the 3D’s to be progressive.

1)    Do your own things – Don’t try to be and do what your friends do. Have the belief and determination to do your own things that you love to do.

It’s okay to be different, not just for the sake of being different, but different by virtue of quality.

2)    Discipline yourself – You’ve potential but you can only tap it if you’re disciplined. Adopt good habits, healthy routine and robust time management techniques to make the best of yourself and your time. Here are the tips for time management that might help you.

3)    Develop yourself – Always make efforts to improve and evolve. You’re good, but you can always be better. You increase your chances of success by trying your best, to be the best.

NOTE: Don’t do anything that may harm or hurt others. Respect your parents, elders, society, and the norms, if they’re just and good.

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Lesson 4 – Be wise and leverage life

At times, things don’t go the way you want them to. However, if you try, you can change the course of your life by applying the things you learned in life. Use these 3L’s in life.

1)    Learning or knowledge – You’ve read that knowledge is power, and that’s true. By applying it in life, you gain experience. Thus, you attain wisdom.

If you’re wise, you’ll always make the right choices that bring you happiness. You should read this – How to Change Your Life with Knowledge

2)    Logic or reason – Override your confused feelings with logic and validate the reasons behind your thoughts, words, or actions. It may help you in making important decisions of your life.

3)    Lessons of life – Learn from the experiences of your life and from the lives of other people. This is your shortcut to success. Read books and watch movies that teach you, and save your time learning it on your own.

NOTE: Don’t get tempted to make wrong decisions in the flow of emotions. Always stop and think before reacting. Sometimes, as time passes, your decision also changes.

Lesson 5 – Empower yourself with direction and drive

I want you to keep your head high always, wherever you go and whatever you do. Have the following 3P’s in your life to be happy:

1)    Purpose – Enjoy your life, but know that there’s a purpose why you’re here. If you know the purpose of your life, it will make things easier for you. I want you to read this post and work on the aspects mentioned in it.

2)    Passion – You know, you should be mad like a lover to do the task you love – go after the aim you want to achieve. Dream, think, and work on it day and night. Read How to Find Purpose in Life and Be Happy – follow the tips to be successful.

3)    Power – You can have power in your life if you prepare yourself, practice your skills, and have patience. This post will help you to develop your strength and power. You’ll feel more strong, confident, and capable.

NOTE: Don’t misunderstand the cliche “live life to the fullest” to mean that you can take drugs or resort to addictive habits like alcohol drinking and smoking. Remember that makes you powerless and you lose your purpose of life, which in fact is ruined.

“Train up a child in the way which he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it” ~ Proverbs 22:6

Lesson 6 – Bring maturity and gain reputation

You’re growing up, so remember that people will judge you by your behavior. You risk your reputation if you hurt others with reference to these 3R’s.

1)    Romance Never play with anyone’s heart because romance is not a game. Know the difference between infatuation, love, and lust. Be careful because such matters affect your life more than you think. Certain mistake can turn out to be very costly and cause irreparable damage.

2)    Relationships – Responsibly manage the interpersonal relationships with your friends, peers, family, or even colleagues. Be mature in your interactions, develop a good rapport, and make connections that will go a long way in the journey of life.

3)    Religion – Always respect people’s faith. Be recognized as someone who values humanity and treats others at par, irrespective of demographic differences. Follow your religion, but be sensitive enough not to hurt the sentiments of people of other religions.

NOTE: Wait for the right person and the right time to have an affair or fall into a relationship. Value yourself and your love, don’t give up or throw it away. Build real relationships, and never misuse them.

MUST READ: Why Does Love Hurt in a Relationship

Lesson 7 – Practice goodness and be human

Develop the best human qualities that distinguish you from the others. Develop your finer emotions and treat people well. Have these 3G’s in your life:

1)    Goodness – Always choose to be good, no matter what the situation or circumstances. Always be kind and compassionate, and express goodness in your thoughts, words, and actions.

2)    Generosity – There is joy in giving. Experience that and you’ll love it. Always be ready to help others and never feel that you waste time by helping others.

3)    Gratefulness – You should always be thankful to everybody and everything. The fact that you’re alive is a miracle. Never waste any opportunity to return a favor.

NOTE: Don’t expect instant results and returns. The dividends of being good and giving come late, so have patience and keep practicing goodness.

DO READ: How to be grateful every single day

Lesson 8 – Have a meaningful life and stand by your values

Your life should always have a direction, meaning, and purpose. Then you’ll be able to stand on your feet, undisturbed by external circumstances, and lead a happy life.

Inculcate the following 3Ps in your life:

1)    Philosophy – It’s your belief about life and how to live life. Make your own philosophy of life but do it wisely and keep developing it. This helps you to have a meaning in life.

2)    Principles – Make some rules for yourself that help you in become a good person. These are your morals and values that guide your life.

3)    Personality – Create a personality or persona that expresses your true innerself. Do not pretend – just be as you are. Being yourself reduces stress and makes you happier.

NOTE: You may not like rules or values, but you’ll later realize that values make you valuable. And, the real personality is without the mask.

Lesson 9 – Improve your life

Like the water in a river, your life keeps changing. You need to keep improving your life and making it better. Take help of these 3A’s in your life:

1)    Administer – Take charge and control of your life. Create a life plan and live according to that. Also, plan your career so you stay abreast and ahead of others.

2)    Accept and change – Accept your life as it is and make it the starting point of a new beginning. Go ahead and change it to what you want. Adopt a healthy lifestyle and one that brings you happiness.

3)    Analyze – Always assess and evaluate your life. Improve the standard of living, and enhance the quality of life by nurturing your mental and physical health.

NOTE: Always change for the better. If you do not, then you don’t grow. Those who change fast, benefit early. Don’t fall for the false standards of life – absolute materialism doesn’t give everlasting and real happiness.

Lesson 10 – Ultimately grow and evolve

Your aim in life should be to evolve. Compare your life with your past and become better in all aspects. When you grow up, you’ll realize that knowing and understanding your innerself make you most happy. Bring happiness into your life by these 3E’s:

1)    Education – You don’t learn everything in school or college – life is an institution that teaches you a lot. Learn from the failures in life and treat them as stepping-stones to success. Create a vision for your future and strive for perfection.

2)    Evolution – It means development, and every thought and action contributes to it. Remember that the essence of your behavior encodes in your genes, which you transfer to the next generation.

3)    Enlightenment – This is the stage when you know it all. Your spiritual self is very powerful and you can use its potential by using the power of prayers. Once you’re peaceful with yourself, happiness will envelope your life.

NOTE: Practice meditation and breathing exercises – they help you to be aware and mindful. Thus, you live in the NOW or the moment and that is the state of bliss or real happiness.

RELATED READ: How to Rise Up Every Time You Fall

Children sitting with dad on Fathers Day

Wrapping It Up

I’ll be very happy when you work through the various stages, take the progressive steps, make your life better, and bring happiness into your life.

This is the best gift that I can give you that can last life long. Treasure these valuable lessons learned in life and take it up from there.

You don’t have to memorize all the steps and points – just bookmark this post, return to it frequently. Gradually, everything mentioned will become a part of you, if you practice it.

Thanks for taking time our to read these life lessons. 🙂

“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.” ~ Mark Twain

Over to you –

What life lessons would you gift your kids? Share in the comments.

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67 comments
  1. Awesome Blog so much knowledgeable, after reading this I feel much closer to my Dad. Definitely, every father does so many compromises in our life for their children.

  2. Nice blog indeed, I live away from my family for doing job…after reading this blog I send a special gifts to my Dad. Keep posting blogs like this thanks great content, thumb ups!

  3. Fantastic post. My dad died many years ago. But I still celebrate his life by keeping his memories alive in my mind. He was an amazing dad and my best friend. He’ll never be forgotten.

  4. Namaskar, indeed a very great and a timely post vinay, loved and relate myself to it, thanks for sharing your views, apart from achedmics what is more important is sharing time and imparting life’s lessons and keeping ones cool at times, wonderful post my friend, Congrats!!!

  5. Thank you for this post. I have no many mixed emotions reading it. While I am happy to be reading this post it brings with it brings me to a place with a bit of sadness and regret.

  6. Hello Harleena,

    Father is certainly a dominating & key person in a family. He is the role model of every children. A child grows by seeing father’s activity. Father’s physical appearance makes a child afraid again makes him peace.

    On this special day, I wish my father live long & remain healthy 🙂

  7. Hi Vinay,

    Thanks for this lovely post!

    Though I’m a little late for this post, I think we can gift these things anytime we want. For me everyday is a ‘Fathers’ Day’ as I am near to him and learn more from him.

    Thanks, it would help me in future,
    Sid

  8. Vinay, it is nice to meet you. Is there Father’s Day in India?

    I like the Practice Goodness section. I don’t think we can emphasize enough that it is important to be good through and through. Yes, we all make mistakes sometimes, but good people don’t get caught up in that but keep setting the intention to be good from now on. (it’s less about expectation and being perfect but being gentle and compassionate.

    1. Hi Jodi,

      It’s nice to communicate with you too. It’s mostly certain sections of the urban population that celebrates Father’s Day in India. Though this event is largely popularized by the media and merchants.

      Good begets good, and that’s true. I think even the good people make mistakes, but the difference is that they would accept them without hesitation, improve upon them, and never repeat. Intention is what matters most.

      I agree with that it’s just being good, that is simple, kind, loving, and if you can lower or remove your ego, all the better.

      Thanks for your comment, good thoughts. 🙂

  9. HI Vinay Kachhara & Harleena,

    No doubt Fathers has Great importance in everyone’s life.
    Most importantly you had Posted a lovely concept.
    Really Appreciated.

    regards.

  10. Hello Vinay,

    My father is quite a simple man…on Father’s day, the old man would only appreciate the greatest gifts of all: my physical presence with him. As a father (on my own part), any act that my son exhibits in memory of the day towards me will be highly appreciated. Like my old man too, I’m also quite simple!

    Do have a very great day!

    Always,
    Terungwa

    1. Hi Akaahan,

      Nice to know about your father, and he knows what the best gift is – your personal attention and time.

      Being simple is really great. Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it. Have a good day!

  11. What a very lovely post.

    Very timely as well. My father didn’t want us spending on a father’s day present for him, so what my siblings and I would do is we help our mother prepare breakfast and we serve our dad breakfast in bed. We’d give him the “Ultimate Service” for the entire day. We’d let him watch sports all day and rub his foot and get him his stuff and all those sort of things and he was very happy at the end of the day. Such simple pleasures. Advanced happy father’s day to all your dads!

    1. Hi Sarah,

      I’m happy that you like the post.

      You did one of the best things a father could expect as a gift. Thank you for doing that. You’ve all my admiration!

      Thanks for your kind wishes, have a good day yourself.

  12. Hello Harleena and Vinay,

    I going to tell you a truth that i never give a gift to my father except a big hug after reading this wonderful article i think is time to use your tips and ideas to make this day special for my Father. Thank you for sharing such a lovely article.

    1. Hi Swetta,

      That’s what your father expects and loves, a hug from you – that’s the best gift. I’m sure your father will love to see you grow and successful.

      Thanks for your comment.

  13. HI Harleena and vinay,

    You have posted very lovely concept.Father roles is very important in children’s life. Almost girls is very closed with her father rather than son.On the occasion of father day you give beautiful idea to every one.

    Thanks for sharing 🙂

    Keep It up 🙂

  14. Hi Vinay,

    So you’re the guy behind Harleena’s posts. What a great Editor and Writer you are!!! Harleena is very blessed to have you as her partner in life and partner in business.

    Anyway, it’s nice meeting you. 🙂 Reading your post is like reading a book. WOW…how did you come up with all of these elements? What a wonderful way to illustrate in developing characters and discipline upon yourself. You know I was raised by my grandparents.

    I didn’t know my biological father till I was seven. I’ve learned that my mother didn’t want to be with my father anymore but in the Philippines (where we used to live) didn’t have any divorce. And so my mother felt compelled to stay with my dad, although she actually wanted to end the marriage. Unfortunately, I was actually disowned by my real father. Thank goodness I have the love of a grandfather whom I treated like my own father as I was growing up.

    Although my dad was a professional engineer and I thought he was a real genius, when “character” is missing from a father…it a huge difference. My father didn’t think I was his child, and thought that my mother cheated on him. But my mother said to him, “Do a blood test and I can prove to you she is yours.”

    I wish I can share with you my relationship with my father. But I don’t have one.

    My grandfather have been the father for me for 16-years. He was a great father. He loved and respected my grandfather and he always take us out to lunch or dinner during payday. We went to the movies. And guess, he was like the great substitute father for me. But still, I wish I’ve known my father more or I wish we had been close.

    Anyway, Happy Father’s Day. Your children are lucky to have you to be a father. Have a great weekend.

    Angela

    1. Hi Angela,

      I’m happy that you like this post.

      On the other hand, I’m sorry for what all you had to undergo in your childhood. Glad that you had a wonderful caring and loving grandfather.

      I agree that its the values that make a person, fathers included.

      You had a fatherly bond with your grandfather, so you did have some level of a father-daughter relationship. And as I wrote in the post, its the love that matters more than the blood relationship.

      I guess you were destined to learn a different lesson and values of life.

      Thanks for your wishes and for sharing your touching life story. Have a good day!

    2. Correction:

      He loved and respected my grandfather = He loved and respected my grandmother

      (Should be grandmother instead. I was writing faster than I could think. Sorry.)

  15. Hi Harleena and Vinay,

    It’s a pleasure to meet you Vinay and I almost didn’t stop by and read this only because I lost my father 11 years ago and I’m not married so my celebrations ended a while back for this day. But I’m happy I did now because I had a chance to not only meet you but find out that you’re also a writer.

    As I was reading I thought my goodness, this must run in the family. What a wonderful and thought out post and how very talented you are as well.

    We were never a family that was big on gifts, that’s the way my Mom brought us up mainly because of our finances. My Dad was a salesman that worked on commission and my Mom was a secretary at an elementary school. Still to this day my Mom would rather have our time and even a phone call then any gift. My Dad was the same way.

    What a wonderful post though so I want to say thank you for sharing this with us and please do have a special and wonderful Father’s Day!

    ~Adrienne

    1. Hi Adrienne,

      I’m sorry about your father, but I’m glad that you stopped by.

      Thanks for the compliment and appreciation of my writing, though I’m still trying to make it as better what my wife writes.

      You had great and sensible parents. Personal attention and time are more valuable than any gift that money can buy.

      Thank you again for your wishes. Have a good day!

  16. Hi Vinay,

    Thanks for writing this amazing piece of content on the occasion of Father Day that is the day to revive your pledge to follow the footprints of your father by telling him how much you love him.

    This day has more meanings for those who are both son and father and are lucky enough to spend their life with their three generation family.
    The lengthy but very very important pieces of advice you mentioned in this post are actually dream of every father to their children. But the most important thing is their expression and to make them heard what you want from them in terms of education, grooming and social life.

    I think love doesn’t reach to its height unless we express it to whom it is for in our heart. Similarly if we have any expectation for somebody we must let him know.

    Thanks a lot for sharing this wonderful post that’s really the best gift on this occasion.

    1. Hi Mi Muba,

      I’m glad you understand my perspective and value the advice given in the post. I believe kids should be taught lessons about life and how they can make their life better in the real sense by achieving long-term happiness. As fathers, it’s our duty to guide the children and show them the right path.

      I agree that the love that is expressed blooms.

      Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

  17. I love that you took the time to honor Dad’s on your page. I think more emphasis is put on Mother’s day. It doesn’t take much to make my husband happy. He loves electronics and gadgets. 🙂

    I hope all the dads, dads to be, and other dad role models have a great Father’s Day.

  18. Hi Harleena,

    Ouff, I think I actually caught that post on time for once. Just can’t seem to be able to keep up this days. This post is actually a true guide for fathers. So, so much good stuff in it.

    Interestingly, according to Wikipedia Father’s Day was introduced in 1910, but at least in France this fathers’ celebration was pretty much ignored until the 1970’s. My guess is that back in the days, the father had much less relationship with his children than the mother did. The father was working and being the bread winner, but had very little one on one relationship with his children.

    I know it was the case of my grandfathers and sadly even as recent as my father. This is why when my father died when I was 5 my mom told me that I never showed any sign of missing him much, because he wasn’t SO MUCH part of my life when he was alive to start with.

    But luckily, fathers are so much more hands on today, and that’s such a good thing to see. Hopefully many fathers will be able to see this post.

    Great job! And have a great day 🙂

    1. Hi Sylviane,

      You’re right about the relationship fathers used to have with their children earlier, though the same continues to happen even in the present times for many families.

      Being an involved parent is really what makes a difference. The present generation fathers are doing a better job.

      Thanks for your comment.

  19. Hi Vinay!

    Thank you for this great guest-post! And thank you Harleena for inviting Vinay to be a guest blogger 🙂

    I love the Sigmund Freud Quote and I had to laugh at the Mark Twain one.

    When I was a little girl I was convinced that my father could do, and especially fix, anything and everything. And I still like to see him this way. And even we don’t live in the same city, we are very close. Now he is going the extra mile for his grandchildren as well.

    He is, just like me, getting older though. Sometimes it hurts to see him struggling with something that used to be easy for him. But I hope I am – and I will be – giving back to him.

    Great Post! Blessings to all fathers who are pouring their love out on their children in their own special way 🙂

    1. Hi Ilka,

      Thanks for your appreciation, and I’m really happy that you like my post.

      You really have a great and wonderful father! Thanks for being a concerned and dutiful daughter.

      Thanks for your wishes and great thoughts.

  20. Hi Harleena,

    Fantastic post. My dad died many years ago. But I still celebrate his life by keeping his memories alive in my mind. He was an amazing dad and my best friend. He’ll never be forgotten.

    Harleena, I’ve awarded you the Very Inspiring Blogger Award. You’ve always been an inspiration to me. And this is my way of saying thank you. I hope you accept this award.

    Please pop over to my blog to find out why I think you’re such a passionate lady…

    Have a great day. 🙂

    1. Hi June,

      I’m sorry about your dad but I appreciate that you still celebrate his life.

      I’ll pass on the message to my wife and I’m sure she’ll be happy with your award.

      Thanks.

      1. Hi Vinay,

        I must apologise. I thought Harleena wrote this post. How silly of me.

        You’re an excellent writer. Together you make a wonderful team. I hope this post will excel you to greater and bigger things in your writing career.

        Have a blessed day. 🙂

        1. Hi June,

          No need to apologize. It so happens at times when we’re preoccupied with other thoughts and tasks.

          Thanks for your compliment and wishes. Hope you’re enjoying your Sunday. 🙂

  21. Vinay, wonderful take! Being the best son or daughter possible, and doing the same for your kids, is a wonderful present. Thanks!

  22. Hello,

    Father plays an important role in our life. He is the main hero when we birth. I love my mom dad so much. I am thinking to give iPad mini to my father on Fathers Day.

    ~Diana

  23. Vinay,

    Lovely post, made me think quite a bit. I have never celebrated Fathers Day.

    I hope to this year. It might be too late to get him a gift, but I am thinking of sending him one for his birthday which falls a few days after fathers day.

    It is wonderful to learn a fathers perspective. My father never pushes us to do anything. We naturally or instinctively, just knew what he was thinking.
    It is strange the bond we share with our fathers. Words need not be said, nothing needs to be said, yet everything is said.

    I thank you for such a wonderful post and wish you a Happy Fathers Day.

    1. Hi Latha,

      I’m glad my post could give you food for thought. With the birthday following up, I’m sure it’ll spice up your first Father’s Day celebrations. All the best!

      You and your father really have a special bond. It’s good to know about it.

      Thanks for your wishes, I appreciate them.

  24. Hi Vinay,
    Often the role of a father is overlooked as the accolades is always for the mother. Of course, a mother is the pillar of the family, but the stability a father gives to the family can never be ignored. Excellent posts on the expectations of a father. I was moved!

    1. Hi Mathi,

      A mother is always the greatest. As a father, I know that my family matters to me a lot and I’ve my responsibility towards my kids.

      I’m glad you liked my post. I’m honored. 🙂

  25. Hi Vinay,

    WOW, awesome awesome post and I don’t think you missed anything. Very thoughtful and well organized.

    I am a great fan of Harleena and her posts and the way she writes that really penetrates the soul especially when she writes about real life issues.

    Your post shows how a great father you are and the gifts you are asking from your kids are the best gifts a father could ask for. I am really touched by your love for your kids. I am a mother for 3 kids, all teen age now. Their father lost his father when he was 3 years old and being the oldest of his siblings, he took the role of the father when he was so young. But one can live fatherhood only once and that’s why there is a big gap between him and our children. I wish I can make him read this post. I will try. It really brought tears to my eyes.

    Thanks Vinay for a great post and I wish you a great and wonderful Father’s Day ahead!!

    Be Blessed,

    Neamat

    1. Hi Neamat,

      Thank you for the compliment and I really appreciate your thoughts and feelings.

      That’s true, my wife is a great writer. I hope I can reach that level one day. 🙂

      Yes, I love my kids and want them to have a happy, secure, and stable life while I’m alive. May be I’m too demanding, but I guess the gifts that I ask for will help them in the long-term.

      I can understand the situation in your family. I must appreciate your husband for taking up responsibility of the family at a young age. Probably he’s seasoned in fatherhood now and knows that you don’t have to always pull the strings.

      Thanks for your wishes and you be blessed too.

  26. Vinay superb post, and you have published it at the right time. Fathers Day is very near which means that this post will be useful for many. This day is very important day for kids as most of them spend entire day with their father. I learnt lot of things from this post. It made me realize somethings which I didn’t thought about before….

  27. Hi Vinay

    Welcome as this is your first post. While I am happy to be reading this post (which by the way is carefully thought through and beautifully written)it brings with it brings me to a place with a bit of sadness and regret.

    I hear all of the wonderful things you have said you would like your children to give you as a Father’s Day gift. Then brilliant lessons of life for every child.

    My sadness is not having my father alive today so that I could shower him with these gifts and to let him know that no matter what I love him. My regret is that he never taught me the seriousness of life as a child so when I grew up into adulthood and got a taste of the real world, I realized that there was something called “NO” Like really? But my father always let me have my way. He gave me everything I asked for! Hmmm..He never denied me. I was my father’s little pride and joy.

    Stuff like that I believe have affected me in my life, especially in my relationships. But I am encouraged because, while I have life, there is hope. I can teach someone else from my own experiences and pass on the lessons so that such mistakes are not made.

    1. Hi Yvonne,

      Thanks for the welcome and glad you like the post.

      I’m sorry about your father and he sure seemed to have taken well care of his little angel. He did what he thought was right – to give you the best of life because when you grow up, he knew it becomes difficult to remain happy.

      One thing is for sure that whatever happened, happened because it had to happen like that, and now it is up to you to try to understand the underlying reasons and configure your future plan of action.

      You’ve learned some aspects of life the hard way, probably to teach and help others. I’d suggest to have no regrets and be happy with where you are at this point in life. If you like what you’re doing, then you wouldn’t be doing it if things were a bit different in your past, right?

      I hope I make some sense. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences of life. Yes, there is always hope. 🙂

  28. Hi Vinay,

    Red-carpet welcome to Harleena’s Blog

    Wonderful Post. I already suggested Harleena to put one banner between the post “Interval” or “Intermission” because reading such a longer post oh dear we need some coffee break or tea break. I am big fan of Harleena now you also joined that list.

    Vinay this is just a outstanding post. If you write the same post for Yahoo Lifestyle at present you’ve earned more than 2000 US Dollars. This post really a “Father’s Day – Special Post”

    Winning Pair of Blogging
    Main Udin and Shazida
    Now Harleena and Vinay

    Have a Great Weekend

    1. Hi Kumar,

      Thanks for the warm welcome!

      I’m glad you like the posts even though they are lengthy. Next time, have your coffee ready in your hand before you start reading the posts. 😉

      Wow, that’s a big booty! You got to tell me the secret of Yahoo. Thanks for the compliment and glad you like the post.

      You too have a wonderful weekend!

  29. Hello Sir Vinay,

    I must confess this is really an excellent post, i once though Ma Harleena is one of the best writer i ever see, reading your first post i must admit, greatness runs in your genes..

    Someone once told me, Everyone can become a father, but it takes hard work to become a great Father..

    This is really a beautiful post, and now that father’s day is around the corner..

    Am glad i was here to read this, i will really love to read more post from you Sir..

    Kind Regards,
    Temilola

    1. Hello Sir Temilola!

      Hey, Harleena doesn’t carry my genes but I’ll take that compliment. 😉

      Fatherhood is real hard work, but enjoyable when your kids turn out to be cooperative and loving, which mostly depends on you.

      I’m glad you like the post. See you again soon. Have a great weekend!

  30. Thank you for this post. I have no many mixed emotions reading it. It made me look back at my own relationship with my father with all the ups and downs. It made me apreciate and love him more despite all the problems we have faced.
    I also felt a little guilty for depriving my children of their father, but then again, he wasn’t the loving and protective dad.

    1. Hi Nikky,

      It’s good that you balance yourself and can weigh the good objectively in spite of having contrasting subjective experiences. The best way to get relief is to forget and forgive, but its the toughest to make it happen too.

      I’m sure your kids will be understanding as they grow and adjust themselves to their situation, with your continued love and support. I wish you all the best.

  31. Hi Vinay,

    Harleena must Thank you for being so good and co-operative…you seem to be a gem of a person! Of all the gifts that a father deserves is the love, care and respect and I am sure a person like you can evoke that spontaneously. I agree with you – all fathers expect their children to grow up into fine, responsible individuals, be independent and happy. If they keep up with the times and yet imbibe the values of their father…what could be a better gift?

    Fathers refrain from sharing their problems, tensions and most secret thoughts with their children. This creates a gap, which may create the misunderstandings. A good father is also the one who gives the same kind of gifts he expects. If he wants his children to be open about their life, he must make an effort to widen that emotional channel, which is often closed. He has to be filled with happiness to pass that on to his children…this post is loaded with all the values that he has to pass on! Thanks for sharing every possible point.

    I wish you a Happy Fathers’ Day and also the best of the gifts for you. Have a nice day.

    1. Hi Balroop,

      Thanks for the compliment. Honestly, I’ve vested interests too – I believe this blog can reach greater heights. 🙂

      That’s true – as a father I’m very much concerned about the future of my children – their security and stability. That’s my responsibility till they’re on their own.

      I believe it’s good to communicate with your kids, yet maintain a respectable gap too. Father and kids should be friends with boundaries, as that helps in better management and coordination. But yes, the connection via the emotional channel is a must.

      I’m glad you like the post and thanks for your wishes. Have a great weekend!

  32. Hi Vinay,

    I’m lost 😉 I don’t know how to start this comment really! You know when I just knew Harleena, I used to say she was born with a keyboard in her hands. Now, looking at this very first post of yours, looks like you came with 2 keyboards. You both are wonderful writers.

    Now back to the subject…

    Though I’m a father too, I don’t expect much from my kids this year. One is 4 and the other barely 3 months. However, last year, my daughter, on the father’s day fed me. I can vividly remember when she took up the table spoon and insisted she must be the one to feed me.

    Curiously, like she knew that day, she never did it again thereafter 😉

    This post has a lot of meat and will definitely need a closer read. I have printed several of Harleena’s posts on this blog. I think this is one I have to print out. The content is great and thanks for making it a hot start with us here at aha-now.

    Will be waiting for another one from you. So, do have a wonderful week Vinay!

    1. Hi Enstine,

      Thanks for the awesome compliment! Great that you like my writing too.

      That’s so sweet of your daughter – kids learn quickly from our behavior and imitate them.

      I had this post focused more on the teens and adolescents. Wow, it’s great to know that you take printouts of the posts.

      Thanks again for the welcome and you too have a great weekend!

  33. Hello Vinay and welcome to Aha-now…
    Hmmm… i wish i still have a pop, i’d have made this season the most special one for him 🙂

    I don’t expect much from my son. Seeing him smiling is the greatest gift for me :).

    Aha-now is a large community that worth every penny of your time. Good to have you in the family sharing a wonderful tip to spice up father’s day.

    Thanks and do have a special week ahead…

    1. Hello Babanature,

      Thanks for the warm welcome, let me tell you that you’re no stranger to me.

      I’m happy that things are going great for you. You’re going the right way with your kid – a good rapport at the young age will take your relationship to great depths and heights.

      The Aha!NOW community is awesome with special people like you making great contributions. Glad you like the tips.

      You too have a great time coming weekend!

  34. Hello Harleena maam and Vinay sir,

    Yes ofcourse AhaNOW is growing and its great to hear sir is helping you.
    This post based on father’s day written on the perspective of what a father wants as gift and that too by a father is a fabulous concept. If one marks at what sir says, he would notice that whatever a father asks is indirectly for the good of his children.

    I really got emotional reading this coz I have a strict father who never opens up himself. But reading sir’s post I now reallize that my Dad too wants and expects the above gifts from us.

    He may not say it, but does he need words for asking? Absolutely no. His anger, scolds, praising us behind our back(yes I know he does, I overheard him) all are sufficient for signifying his wishes.

    I promise you and sir and to myself too that I will present him his desired gift.
    Thank you sir for this touching post. 🙂

    1. Hi Swadhin,

      I’m happy that you liked the concept and the post.

      Majority of fathers wish the good of their children, though there are cases where the father takes some actions or decisions that as per him are in the best interest of the child, however, the child thinks otherwise. In this case, either of the parties could be wrong in their assessment.

      There are people who prefer to abstain from expressing their emotions, however, they do observe how the other people react. If you keep being good, helping, and loving, truly and really, the person may change stand and open up for you.

      Nice to know that you’re motivated after reading this post. Thank you.

      P.S. I’d love it if you can call me by my name, that sounds better. 🙂

      1. Hello Sir,

        Glad I could understand what you intended in the post, and I understand that some people are reserved to themselves and don’t easily open up. May be my dad thinks that if he expresses his love then we might not be afraid of him and would divert to unwanted ways. well whatever the case may be it is sure that he intends our good. Thank you for motivating me.

        Sir, I would with earnest respect , say that it is unimaginable for me to call you by name (I know your name sounds very good :)). I am way smaller than you and I have great respect for Harleena madam and you so, if you don’t mind I may call you uncle or Sir but calling you by name is really hard.

        1. Hi Swadhin,

          I respect your thoughts and feelings. But always bear in your mind and heart that you can be great and the greatest – age doesn’t matter. 🙂

          Have a good day!

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